man -women only friends?

Then I have very few friends if I discount the men... I can be friends with both sexes. Sure with the men there is more a joking relationship quality to it, but there is a reason that nothing more happens. With women there is a sharing of emotions so it all good. I am also very secure and I wish my male friends good wishes with their girlfriends.

Course I am in a profession where I'm surrounded with men, so it's either bite back the idea that men and women can't be friends and be antisocial OR find a balance so I have someone to eat lunch with. My first job was in a garage at 16 and now I'm an attorney... men are just men.

@sherob

I believe they can be friends, however, i strongly believe that there is always one person in a male/female relationship that wants more than friendship ... its a human beings animalistic need for intimacy.

I don't know about that sherob because then I have lots of admirers. (My ego says woohoo!) But if I think about every guy who I talk to on a regular basis has some secret desire to possess me, I might get a big head or I might start acting like a crazy person. I'd rather be carefree.

And quite honestly men are easier to talk to about some things and women are easier to talk to about other things. Men and women just need to set up boundaries in their friendships, and respect each other.

"I have this debate all the time here living in Greece, because they are firm belivers in that "men and women can not just be friends" Opinions please......"

Only if the woman is ugly.

Yama... not true at all. Facts are facts... the most beautiful women of all are often starving for friendships. Men seem to clam up and act stupid with a knock out standing there unless she pushes him to open up. Men can get stupid and lack intelligent conversation until they recognize that 'wow she has opinions, maybe just maybe we can talk.' Then the guy lost the girl because he couldn't speak for a while, girl is involved elsewhere but it's a learning experience to be friends...

If things are easy all the time then there is a lack of growth which perpetuates the myth. But beautiful women from good families, decent morals, loves to smile, and intelligent conversation are out there.

Pole dancer... hot woman.
But you and I know that beautiful woman exist.

"Yama... not true at all. Facts are facts... "

Well, when I think of friends I think of people who can trust each other completely and harbor only the purest of intentions for one another-this is simply impossible for a straight man+good-looking woman.

straight man + good looking unavailable women... can there be friendship?

unavailable straight man (happy in love) = good lookin woman... can there be friendship.

perhaps if the equation is available straight man + good looking available woman there are more issues there but even then it can be worked out with boundaries.

And yes friends only have good intentions with each other.

+ was meant in second question as well

"unavailable straight man (happy in love) = good lookin woman... can there be friendship."

Love has absolutely nothing to do with being attracted to a woman, the same goes for availability.

"And yes friends only have good intentions with each other."

Pure != good.

For example-I wouldn't have a problem doing/saying something disgusting in front of a male/ugly woman, but I wouldn't do it in front of a good-looking woman, even if she is unavailable.

*The example is for the whole subject, not the purity thing.

OK there are boundaries, yes. Your example is a boundary. But if you can discuss things with the intelligent beautiful unavailable girl who wants to see you happy are you going to ignore a possible platonic friendship?

availability has alot to do with platonic friendship. You are less likely to fall desperately in love with a woman whose happily in love with another guy. But does his mean friendship can't be on the table?

(Yes there are women who get kicks out of breaking up couples to boost the ego, and yes there are men who want the woman so much that they can't leave her alone... but selfishness kills good intentions.)

"OK there are boundaries, yes. Your example is a boundary."

I guess we're just using different definition of the term "friendship" then.

"But if you can discuss things with the intelligent beautiful unavailable girl who wants to see you happy are you going to ignore a possible platonic friendship?"

I would talk to her, sure, but it wouldn't be a friendship. I'd try to get her into bed without even thinking about it.

"availability has alot to do with platonic friendship. You are less likely to fall desperately in love with a woman whose happily in love with another guy. But does his mean friendship can't be on the table?"

Love is not the issue, attraction is. Attraction leads to a certain artificial behaviour and creates stress.

*...By stress I mean tension.😛

ladyvie-good opinion

Yama... how old are you? It seems to me that you must be young or you work as an adult without alot of interaction with intelligent women.

Its possible..if it werent i'd be friendless...

But WBTG is right...you must be on the same page, and the line has to be clear between the both of you...

This type of friendship is not for the weak and faint hearted.

@haffo

21 Years5,000+ Posts

Man and woman cannot be friends.

"Yama... how old are you? It seems to me that you must be young or you work as an adult without alot of interaction with intelligent women."

This seems pretty tangential, care to explain?

"I would talk to her, sure, but it wouldn't be a friendship. I'd try to get her into bed without even thinking about it."

I meant no disrespect but only a guy who doesn't deal with women being men's equals says or means that. So I was giving you the benefit of being young.

"I meant no disrespect but only a guy who doesn't deal with women being men's equals says or means that."

No one is my equal.🙂

...

Scary thing is, I actually mean it.😛

I mean that too....does that make us equal...?

No, it makes you deluded.😛

i guess that means were both equally deluded 😉

...I think you are confused.😛

its an art form...😉

@Reiniba-Chan

19 Years500+ Posts

Let's see, Yama is either: a)a virgo
b)God
c)from a different dimension
d)stubborn(ignorant, liar etc.)
e)chemically imbalanced(brainwashed etc.)
or f)all of the above

or just cool in my opinion.

I'm gonna go with b.😛

"Nah. He's just annoying."

Playa hater.😛

delusions of grandeur....