Need To Let Loose Of This Aqua Man !?

I learned to really like and care about this Aqua guy I been talking too for the past 3 months. We been talking off an on ever since. Mostly because he can't make up his mind about anything. He goes out his way to try to make me jealous. He clams he over his ex girlfriend but he mentions her quite a few times. Sometimes when we will be hanging out he will tell me "amy just texted me and told me there is a party tonight, but im not going to go because I hate her". he will do things like that just to make me mad. we never actually dated but he tells me he is in love with me and wants to be with me, and tells me he misses me all the time. then today, while im sick with the flu, he calls me up drunk, with girls in the background, then hangs up the phone in my ear. when he did that i really had just about enough. so i texted him and told him "thanks for hanging up on me" of course he calls me back like 9 times but i didn't answer because i really didn't want to talk to him. then i told him i think it would be better off that we didn't talk anymore. i was trying to end things nicely but of course he fliped out and texted me saying that i was annoying and he didn't want to talk to me anymore. i can never be mean so all i said was fine. then he texted me about 5 min's later asking who is this ? like he deleted my number. then he texted me again saying all this rude messed up stuff. then after 20 mins hes going to text me back saying that it was his friends who texted me all that, not really him ? and he expects me to believe that !? lol yeah right.

I know he is going to text me back tomorrow most likely. What should I say ? Should I tell him off, or be nice ? It seems like everytime I try to be nice and end things maturely he says hurtful things to me on purpose because he knows no matter what I won't talk bad about him or be mean to him, like some kind of push over. What should I do ?

How?s about grow up asshole??

I mean that?s what you should say to him, lol!!!

Sounds like he is draining your energy and you are becoming sick because of it....are you enjoying this experience? If not, cut off ALL contact - delete the number and figure out why you are still in this unhealthy situation. If so, continue on with the saga.

It may be time for you to consider taking ownership of your life. One thing I know forsure....you will make the necessary changes when and only when you and only you are ready.

(((((Hugs)))))

clinging is the key word here...we all make mistakes...

but damn McKit's hot!

"I ask because I see a lot of Cancer women in these types of one-way abusive relationships(both on DXP and off)."

I too have many Cancer pals both male and female and they too have been in very unhealthy relationships - their issue is with being able to "let go" it is very difficult for them. They are willing to take the abuse because the alternative scares the crab legs outta them.

*not all of them but seems to be hardwired into the canerian make up.

*cancerian

I agree Z...McKit is a beautiful woman.

''scares the crab legs outta them''

hehe - one recent episode of spongebob I saw, his boss out-grew his shell...so funny...I'm sorry....please do carry on...

well i pretty much cut him off and told him i didn't want to speak to him anymore. he got pissed off and kept texting me, but i just ignored him.

"their issue is with being able to "let go" it is very difficult for them. They are willing to take the abuse because the alternative scares the crab legs outta them."

i been single for almost 2 years now, and thats because i don't want to get into a bad relationship. aqua guy that i have been talking about, he and i have never dated because of the fact i refuse to date him because i don't trust him. yes i still did like him, and i told myself if he really show me that he really does want a relationship and he wants to make it work, maybe i would actually say yes to being in a relationship. but he has done nothing to prove to me that he's going to change so its over now. I was willing to be with someone like that I would have actually dated him, but i never did.

All i know is that its just another lessoned learned. I have no problem being single and enjoying my life.

Thank you unusualcancer!

He is abusive and can't possibly mean it when he says he's in love with you because unless his retarded he knows that behavour ain't going to win you over. I'd take the rude stuff he texted you with a pinch of salt - you wounded his ego when you refused to take his calls and therefore lashed out at you (they hate being ignored and I know better than to ingore my Aqua boyfriends calls when we've had words - it aggravates the situation even more - in the same breath he will never ignore mine no matter how angry he is) but still he sounds immature, demanding and just plain right messed up. So should he contact you again just spell it out nicely for him...tell him you're not into abusive relationships and that you mis-judged him.

Oh and I looked at your pics...you are a gorgeous girl - you really don't need this sh1t.

I wish everyone would put their pics on - I have these mental images of what everything looks like....in fact wait I'm starting a new thread...

yeah people should put their pics up !

Had mine up, took it down, —— UP DOWN UP DOWN much like life.....LOL!🙂