What have I done?

Posted by Aqu@Libra
So, the aqua guy I am friends with and also really like as more than friends, asked me to go for a drink with him so we can hangout. While there, we were joined by some mutual friends and it became quite lively. However, he was focusing ALL his attention on me! I felt sooo good.

Anyway, I know he likes talking to me because I make him laugh a lot and I'm quick off the mark! I can respond to him so quickly , as if I knew what he was going to say in advance and prepared a reply! He does it to me too! We bounce off each other. I'm never bored when I'm with him. Even when we just sit there in silence.

I also instinctively know when he needs space and give it to him. That's why him asking me to go out for a drink with him made me feel so good. As it's nice to know he wanted me around. Even when our friends showed up, we may as well have been alone.

So anyway, we had a great time, we got a little past tipsy lol, and went home. When I got home I text him saying I sometimes feel like kissing him! : $ He didn't respond instantly thank goodness. But, a few days later (yesterday to be precise) I was going out with some friends and he was going elsewhere with his friends. He cheekly said to me I should drink as much as possible. I laughed and knew what he was referencing, so I asked, what if I send another text? To which he said, I want you to, I liked the first one you sent...Is he giving me a sign he likes me more than friends too, or have I just made a fool of myself?

Posted by lisabethur8
maybe not insecure, but more lacks alot of confidence.

Posted by truecap
If you do text him, tell him something silly in reference to it like you kissed a fence pole and it sucked because it wasn't him. Maybe not that exactly, but something offbeat that will make him laugh.

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Posted by lisabethur8
maybe not insecure, but more lacks alot of confidence.

Wow, like attacking much? Lol.The truth is I am scared out of my mind at the thought of losing his friendship. As much as I like him (in a more than friends way) I value the friendship we've had up until now too much to risk it...I think that warrants uncertainty, or lack of confidence as you put it.

Besides, accusing me of strategizing the other day did wonders for my confidence! :-P... I'm not so hot on astrology so I haven't got our sun moon signs for you to analyze...All, I know is that if we get together, I would it to work and hope we remain as close as we are now.

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Posted by lisabethur8
maybe not insecure, but more lacks alot of confidence.

Wow, like attacking much? Lol.The truth is I am scared out of my mind at the thought of losing his friendship. As much as I like him (in a more than friends way) I value the friendship we've had up until now too much to risk it...I think that warrants uncertainty, or lack of confidence as you put it.

Besides, accusing me of strategizing the other day did wonders for my confidence! :-P... I'm not so hot on astrology so I haven't got our sun moon signs for you to analyze...All, I know is that if we get together, I would it to work and hope we remain as close as we are now.

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Posted by lisabethur8
maybe not insecure, but more lacks alot of confidence.

Wow, like attacking much? Lol.The truth is I am scared out of my mind at the thought of losing his friendship. As much as I like him (in a more than friends way) I value the friendship we've had up until now too much to risk it...I think that warrants uncertainty, or lack of confidence as you put it.

Besides, accusing me of strategizing the other day did wonders for my confidence! :-P... I'm not so hot on astrology so I haven't got our sun moon signs for you to analyze...All, I know is that if we get together, I would it to work and hope we remain as close as we are now.

It's perfectly normal to worry about losing the friendship.

Just keep building the friendship. Aquas like to be friends first and tend to take it from there. Just be aware that a lot of aquas get misunderstood. They think they're being friendly and others think they're flirting, etc. But, yeah, friends first with aqua...keep being yourself and keep making him laugh. 🙂

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Posted by Aqu@Libra
When I got home I text him saying I sometimes feel like kissing him! : $ He didn't respond instantly thank goodness. But, a few days later (yesterday to be precise) I was going out with some friends and he was going elsewhere with his friends. He cheekly said to me I should drink as much as possible. I laughed and knew what he was referencing, so I asked, what if I send another text? To which he said, I want you to, I liked the first one you sent...Is he giving me a sign he likes me more than friends too, or have I just made a fool of myself?

It sounds very playful and flirtatious right now. Nothing really to hang my hat on until he asks you out. I think it's cute/perfect what you sent him, slightly forward, but a bit mysterious cause you said "i sometimes feel..' But you gotta make sure it's natural to you. Don't start second guessing and analyzing everything you do cause that's when you inadvertently start fucking up. I know what Lisbeth is trying to say, albeit a bit strongly. Don't read into it or start questioning insignificant details. Most importantly don't get ahead of it cause there isn't anything really to go on here just yet...

I want to say if you really want him and you're not to overly invested in the outcome you can be more assertive. Not aggressive but assertive. If you guys are talking and you feel the pull, kiss him. What do you have to lose? If you're going to second yourself, don't do it. When I first starting hanging out with my aqua who I knew was attracted to me, I called him out on the moment and let him express to me how he felt...it was such a turn on I made the first move and kissed him but the key thing is I didn't question myself, if anything I acted super confident and asked he needed a moment because... my lips 😄

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Posted by lisabethur8

You ain't living right lmao....

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Posted by 9waterlion9
Lol naww you're good 🙂

Posted by lisabethur8

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Posted by lisabethur8
maybe not insecure, but more lacks alot of confidence.

Wow, like attacking much? Lol.The truth is I am scared out of my mind at the thought of losing his friendship. As much as I like him (in a more than friends way) I value the friendship we've had up until now too much to risk it...I think that warrants uncertainty, or lack of confidence as you put it.

Besides, accusing me of strategizing the other day did wonders for my confidence! :-P... I'm not so hot on astrology so I haven't got our sun moon signs for you to analyze...All, I know is that if we get together, I would it to work and hope we remain as close as we are now.

It's perfectly normal to worry about losing the friendship.

Just keep building the friendship. Aquas like to be friends first and tend to take it from there. Just be aware that a lot of aquas get misunderstood. They think they're being friendly and others think they're flirting, etc. But, yeah, friends first with aqua...keep being yourself and keep making him laugh. 🙂

again, truecap with the friendship stuff.

depends on the guy.

if a guy is not going to make a commitment and just keep her in the friend ZONE,

she's wasting her time and her energy and her love.

she's just PINING. that's the truth.

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Posted by virgoyum
What I said didn't post @AquLibra so here it is:

How old are you guys?

I don't think it matters who calls who first as long as you're not overdoing it. Again, it doesn't seem to matter because the dynamics of your friendship has yet to change. You need to ask yourself if you want to take the risk? Yes or No. If yes, own it, even on the off chance it may not work out. If you're mature enough, after some time you'll be cool again. It may have awkwardness, but again, it depends on do you want to pine or take a shot.

After you said no, and he said what he did, you could've thrown it back like what are you doing tomorrow? Cause it shows some confidence and genuine interest in being more than friends, as well lets him be a man and put in some effort to take it there.

Posted by Taurus Visionary
I think it sounds cute. Take it slow. I'm dating an Aqua right now and it's an amazing ride.

Posted by Taurus Visionary
I think it sounds cute. Take it slow. I'm dating an Aqua right now and it's an amazing ride.