Aries man idealism, need for a perfect princess

Hello,
Anyone here find their Aries man's naivety with females and idealism to be extreme? My guy has put me on a pedestal that is so high I cannot breath. I do not think it is healthy or normal to treat a woman like a pretty little glass object you worship. Now before guys come on here with the mistaken cliche belief that all women want to be treated like a trophy...no, we do not and this guy has an inability to see me as human. I keep getting the feeling he wants me so much to play that role, he sort of pushing it on to me. The biggest irony is Im exactly in both personality and appearance what this mans fantasy is..and boy is it biting me in the rear. I feel like if I am not smiling, sweet, feminine, helpless, adoring, innocent all the time and allowing myself to be some kind of old fashioned, virgin fairy tale princess, then hes disappointed. He also looks at those shallow, gold digger, useless, lazy, trophy type girls and follows some on FB as though he sees them playing that role and likes that. Now, this is a good man in most other ways and id like to make this work but my frustration levels are building and the beast is now coming out..prompted by girlfriends suggesting if hes so keen on me playing the role of a perfect princess, I should do it for short periods..get what I want from him and spend the rest of my time living the way i want to including keeping my options open for a less idealistic/delusional man...anyone else seen this in their Aries man and how did you deal with it?

Dramatic much?

You sound kind of shallow and your friends' advice is crap.

Do you have wireless up there on that pedestal?

Aw, sweetie judging from your photo..you never, ever have to worry about any man feeling this way about you...now run a long bitter little uptight, sexless virgo with hair on her chin...or is virgo too stupid to notice this is a forum looking for advice....you dont get that or are just too blocked up to get what my post was about....

how are taurus men like when they're in love?...where virgo..ruled by Venus ..they want beauty, sorry dear... ......speaking of drama...thats quite the novel you wrote on your profile.....incredibly dramatic. long, whiny....

I call you shallow and you go about proving my point. Dxp is amazing.

People who come with this issue most of the time sold an image to their partners early on...which is fake. Then they fall at some point for their partners and they need to hold that image up...they cannot backtrack to honesty.

"He also looks at those shallow, gold digger, useless, lazy, trophy type girls"...you actually are like that deep down and cannot express it since you hooked him up on a different image. Kinda sad.

Everything in your post points to deception..enjoy your life without ever coming across as real.

Hmmm, a naive Aries..... Who would have ever thunk it?!?!?!?

He also seems to be quite loving, hmmmmm......

Probably has all sorts of other nasty qualities, loyal, faithful, kind, humorous if given an chance.
I just don't see why you ladies put up with this sort of nonsense!!!


Oh wait......


Perhaps this round should go to Damnata......

Posted by arietteheart2

Posted by dofacc
Hmmm, a naive Aries..... Who would have ever thunk it?!?!?!?

He also seems to be quite loving, hmmmmm......

Probably has all sorts of other nasty qualities, loyal, faithful, kind, humorous if given an chance.
I just don't see why you ladies put up with this sort of nonsense!!!


Oh wait......


Perhaps this round should go to Damnata......

He thinks I'm perfect and the sun shines from my backside. OH THE HORROR!!! Those nasty Aries men.

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hehehe! 😄

Lol

Who would want to live a double life just to please him? Come on now. I say if he can't accept or love you for who you truly are then you need to ditch him. If you feel like you have to play a role all the time, then stop playing the role and let him know how you feel. I can bet he's going to say he wasn't doing it on purpose. And if you let him know you??ve been acting around him, he's liable to question your sincerity or ability to keep it real from that point on. Although you are right Aries men do like their women to be very feminine girly girls, he also likes her to have a mind of her own, and not be afraid to stand up to him (in a lady-like way of course, which means no yelling, no cursing, and no outlandish behavior that will embarrass or belittle him), just firmly and politely tell him about himself if he starts getting selfish. If he cops an attitude well oh well. Sometimes you have to put your feelings first, because I can assure you a Aries wont hesitate to put their own happiness first. So you??d be wise to follow suit.

Also I need to add, I had a Aries tell me he does like a girly girl, but he also likes a challenge and a chase. His biggest turn off is someone trying to pretend to be something she's not, he said he can always tell when someone is faking around him and it's irritating.

Be yourself. The End.

The HORROR!!!! 😄

*covers eyes* :o

I have never known Aries men to be idealistic. They tend to prefer and respect brutal truth over false pretense. They are the kind of men who adore you because you shamelessly fart, burp, and tell dirty jokes than the damsel-in-distress, woe-is-me princess kind. Aries men love blunt honesty/truth so I have NO idea what you mean by that he has unrealistic ideals. They are tender, loving, and giving in relationships and usually put up with A LOT of crap and flaws from their lovers, more so than most other signs.

The biggest fault of any Aries guy I've ever met is their big heart.

You sound really immature and young. Only someone childish would complain about being loved and adored. This complaint could only ever come from someone who is ungrateful, lacks maturity, and most importantly, was never too interested in the first place. You just need to stop giving the appearance that you want him the way he wants you; this is the root of your annoyance. It's you, not him. Just drop the act and let him go because you're wasting his and your time.

Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
I have never known Aries men to be idealistic. They tend to prefer and respect brutal truth over false pretense. They are the kind of men who adore you because you shamelessly fart, burp, and tell dirty jokes than the damsel-in-distress, woe-is-me princess kind. Aries men love blunt honesty/truth so I have NO idea what you mean by that he has unrealistic ideals. They are tender, loving, and giving in relationships and usually put up with A LOT of crap and flaws from their lovers, more so than most other signs.

The biggest fault of any Aries guy I've ever met is their big heart.

You sound really immature and young. Only someone childish would complain about being loved and adored. This complaint could only ever come from someone who is ungrateful, lacks maturity, and most importantly, was never too interested in the first place. You just need to stop giving the appearance that you want him the way he wants you; this is the root of your annoyance. It's you, not him. Just drop the act and let him go because you're wasting his and your time.

What kind of Aries men do you run into you? lol. The ones i've met always openly admit they like a smart,well dressed, and good mannered girl. She shouldn't be too prissy and uptight because he does like to joke, and he needs a woman that can keep up, and he's blunt so she cant be too sensitive either, but he certainly doesn't want a woman that will openly fart or burp loudly and rudely that not lady like and it's gross. i mean if you pass gas you pass gas, but i wouldn't say an Aries men would enjoy it.lol. At least not in my opinion. Bottom line he most respects people who are not afraid to be themselves, a smart independent woman with a mind of her own can go a long way with him. If she's comfortable in the skin she's in and not afraid of the woman she has become he finds it very sexy because it's rare. If she's smart, she can probably teach him a few things which will keep him from getting bored, another plus.

Posted by pinklibra
Although you are right Aries men do like their women to be very feminine girly girls, he also likes her to have a mind of her own, and not be afraid to stand up to him (in a lady-like way of course, which means no yelling, no cursing, and no outlandish behavior that will embarrass or belittle him), just firmly and politely tell him about himself if he starts getting selfish. If he cops an attitude well oh well. Sometimes you have to put your feelings first, because I can assure you a Aries wont hesitate to put their own happiness first. So you??d be wise to follow suit.

Bingo!!!!

Sometimes you just gotta' remind me of the rules. "Heel" won't work, but "Listen here bud....!!!" will.

Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9


The biggest fault of any Aries guy I've ever met is their big heart.

I know, I know, just one of the many crosses I have to bear *sigh*

Why use him? Just because you can? I'd be side eyeing you for Even repeating your friends bad advice.

I'm not saying to fart on your first date, obviously. You should always be well-kept and well-mannered in public, what sign wouldn't expect that anyway? However, you can most certainly be off-beat behind closed doors when you're in a relationship with Aries men. I have never seen nor heard of one who shy away from a little "vulgarity" in their relationship; in actuality, many seem to find this humor uncanny and hilarious to them because they all have a pretty easy-going sense of humor. Aries men, if anything, love a good laugh no matter how ridiculous the subject may be.

Now, if you display ANY vulgarity to a Virgo, even if you've been with them for 10 years, you won't hear the end of it...

OMG!!! This is an almost identical thread to the one you posted back in October 2013.

Is this the same Aries guy putting you on this pedestal or are you just unlucky?

If it's the same guy and you have put up with it for this long what the fuck are you asking advice for ??