Can someone help me decode this damn Aries man?

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So, okay. This guy and I talked over Snapchat for almost a year before we even decide to hang out with each other. Once we did, I came over to his house and we got along super well. We talked for 6 hours straight, I went with him on a drive to pick up his kitten, and we came back and still talked all night. I stayed with him but I didn’t have sex with him, we just made out a bunch. A week later, he asks me to come over again and takes a day off for me to stay and spend the next day with him. All goes well, talked all night, ended up banging. A few days later, we both got off work early, so I came over for a few hours. Nothing sexual, sensual, just chatting for a few hours and then we both had somewhere to be. But after that is gets weird. He’s asked me to hang out twice since then, but bails every single time. Idk if it’s the Aries, or the cancer moon, Pisces venus or what. But it drives me nuts!! I understand the distance thing, but don’t ask me to hang out if you need space. He messages me every single day, multiple times a day. Especially if I don’t answer. I just don’t understand the flakeyness. Advice?



I’m a Gemini with an Aries venus, so like
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We do like our distance so we can contemplate life or recharge were also distant from time to time depends on the situation but if he feels your catching feelings which he doesn't have for you that scares him away. Talk is just talk for us it's like for play before the sexual incounter. He wants to keep your interest in him in a sexual manner only otherwise he would have come around we will go out of our way if it's something we want . Aries will also tell you from the beginning what they want a relationship or not if it wasn't talked about your in his back pocket only for when he wants you sexually and it will not be on your time. Don't push or question him he will run for the hills.
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Thanks guys! I appreciate it. He told me from the beggining that he really liked me. And the one time I was supposed to come over I said “I’ll be on my period, so I probably shouldn’t come over” and he’s like “why...” and I’m like “uh cause we won’t be able to do the dirty” and he’s like “I thought you knew that I wanted you for more than just sex....” and I kind of ghosted him after he said that until the next day. But after that happened is when he started acting weird. Idk, maybe I kind of started it, but I’m not looking for a relationship, just don’t leave me hanging 🙂
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What is the backstory? you broke up with somebody? did he break up with somebody recently?

going to his house every time he asks you... what is the backstory again?




The only back story there is, is us talking for a year before we actually met up in person. I was dating someone else in the beginning but we would only chat as friends so I didn’t feel the need to tell him about it. After we broke up, I was meeting up with different people, and the Aries was one of them. Maybe he was in something similar? He’s living with his grandmother at the time to save up money for a house.



Update though:

We hung out last night, he actually stuck to his word and asked me to come over. We hung out and bullshit all night. Got pizza at like 1 am. But I even stayed with him and nothing sexual happened, not even a kiss. I was really surprised honestly. But he always tells me how funny I am and all these things he wants to do with me (adventures) but who knows if they’ll happen since he’s so back and forth. He also was apparently telling his coworker about me and his coworker said “you’re dating a witch” hahaha!
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Sounds like he still likes you never ghost an Aries. Aries don't play mind games like air signs. If you like him be genuine.


Aries wrote the book on mind games. 😂🤛🏽


Isn't that the truth! Especially the male Aries. LOL





Like forreal though, they do. Let’s see how long it takes for him to try to hang with me again LOL
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Yeah kinda... but you're forgetting one thing everyone.. men women.. different mentality. Aries men don't usually cancel, you might be his backup bird.. but I'm guessing from the level of chatting you guys are doing.. then he is kinda young. As most grown up men don't chat all night when sex is there in front of them. Back to my original point.. women make decisions and cancel all the tim, cos their feelings change and feelings are a big factor when it comes to what women do, hence women are flakey and men expect this. Men make a decision and then stick with it regardless of how they feel, as a man, his word is his oath... so maybe he's young, maybe he has you as a backup, or maybe the plans were not 100% definitely.. how apologetic is he when he cancels, and reason given please?

And there are no mind games here, maybe again women have different mind games.. but if a meet-up is on the table, then the guy takes it... hmmz a maybe he's gay? Lots of chatting, not eager to have sex? .. just saying
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I’m an Aries and if I’m really into somebody I don’t really flake very much. That said, it is one of the hallmarks of my personality. If I were you I would not demand to put a label on it, but I would still be more assertive the next time he does this. Either that, or cancel on him before. You could call him out for it but I would do it gently. Usually if people stress us out We start to see them as another responsibility and run for the hills. But there’s nothing wrong with demanding respect, he owes that to you.


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I’m an Aries and if I’m really into somebody I don’t really flake very much. That said, it is one of the hallmarks of my personality. If I were you I would not demand to put a label on it, but I would still be more assertive the next time he does this. Either that, or cancel on him before. You could call him out for it but I would do it gently. Usually if people stress us out We start to see them as another responsibility and run for the hills. But there’s nothing wrong with demanding respect, he owes that to you.


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Your bag of nails still haven’t arrived yet...moron...
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Yeah kinda... but you're forgetting one thing everyone.. men women.. different mentality. Aries men don't usually cancel, you might be his backup bird.. but I'm guessing from the level of chatting you guys are doing.. then he is kinda young. As most grown up men don't chat all night when sex is there in front of them. Back to my original point.. women make decisions and cancel all the tim, cos their feelings change and feelings are a big factor when it comes to what women do, hence women are flakey and men expect this. Men make a decision and then stick with it regardless of how they feel, as a man, his word is his oath... so maybe he's young, maybe he has you as a backup, or maybe the plans were not 100% definitely.. how apologetic is he when he cancels, and reason given please?

And there are no mind games here, maybe again women have different mind games.. but if a meet-up is on the table, then the guy takes it... hmmz a maybe he's gay? Lots of chatting, not eager to have sex? .. just saying




Okay SO, he kind of vomited me a bunch of messages last night, where we got to talk about feelings, he told me that I make him feel things and that he likes spending time with me and doesn’t feel the need to have sex with me. I told him I felt like he would blow me off on purpose and he said that he would never do that to me (which I don’t believe) I think he got pissed off at me for being bitchy and was trying to get back at me. And like previously mentioned, i this the pisces venus/cancer moon makes him a flake. I was also trying to give him the benefit of the doubt since mercury and mars were both in retrograde putting EVERYONE in a funk. But now he seems to be talking potential relationship stuff? Told me that he’s willing to settle down with me, and he doesn’t wanna run around anymore. Is this because I stayed and we didn’t have sex? Hahahaha
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Another update:

Okay SO, he kind of vomited me a bunch of messages last night, where we got to talk about feelings, he told me that I make him feel things and that he likes spending time with me and doesn’t feel the need to have sex with me. I told him I felt like he would blow me off on purpose and he said that he would never do that to me (which I don’t believe) I think he got pissed off at me for being bitchy and was trying to get back at me. And like previously mentioned, i this the pisces venus/cancer moon makes him a flake. I was also trying to give him the benefit of the doubt since mercury and mars were both in retrograde putting EVERYONE in a funk. But now he seems to be talking potential relationship stuff? Told me that he’s willing to settle down with me, and he doesn’t wanna run around anymore. Is this because I stayed and we didn’t have sex? Hahahaha
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I’m an Aries and if I’m really into somebody I don’t really flake very much. That said, it is one of the hallmarks of my personality. If I were you I would not demand to put a label on it, but I would still be more assertive the next time he does this. Either that, or cancel on him before. You could call him out for it but I would do it gently. Usually if people stress us out We start to see them as another responsibility and run for the hills. But there’s nothing wrong with demanding respect, he owes that to you.


Can we have this in sonnet form?


Can we have your messages to start making sense to anyone except just you?

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You seem to forgot little one, that Aries is a FIRE sign. What does that mean? Duh! They move FAST! I have been reading all along from the beginning to the end (not much work today for me as the LTC (P) is on leave until Saturday (8 Sep 18); so I am looking busy at my end by taking a peek at DXP (rare for me!). With that said, I feel you don't keep much to yourself. What do I mean by this? Well, from the beginning when you were menstruating you told him you were on your period and couldn't do the deed. Next time, when you're on your period and making out with a man "just go with the flow". Men normally sexually touch a woman downstairs and start taking off her clothes. This is when you can inform him you're on your period...100% of the time men don't care (yeah, your dude sounds young). Okay, with that said, he told you he's not interested in just sex with you. You haven't informed us how "good or bad" your first sexual encounter was. Which tells me you don't care otherwise either. Pretty strange as Aries men are FIRE (so is their hunger for sex with a woman); I should know. My dad was Aries and my mom informed me how my dad was always after my mom from the get go, got married, and was VERY sexually active with my mom. You called him "flakey" since you keep mentioning his moon, Venus, and retrograde. Uh, does that necessarily mean with the Retrograde that changes a man from being a sexual beast to a lamb? No, I don't think so. What you have found is a man that has met a woman and is ready for a commitment (boyfriend/girlfriend); AKA exclusive. Lucky you. Yet you're confused to the max. You're use to a man dropping his fruit of the looms in a heartbeat, but this one is different. Aries......March or April? My dad was an April Aries.

How much more attention do you want from this man? He likes what he sees. Kinda sorta informing you the moral of the story: 1) don't think too much 2) don't always tell a man you're on your period (none of their business); AKA you talk too much, too.

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Love,

Eva
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Posted by Arieschick92

I’m an Aries and if I’m really into somebody I don’t really flake very much. That said, it is one of the hallmarks of my personality. If I were you I would not demand to put a label on it, but I would still be more assertive the next time he does this. Either that, or cancel on him before. You could call him out for it but I would do it gently. Usually if people stress us out We start to see them as another responsibility and run for the hills. But there’s nothing wrong with demanding respect, he owes that to you.


Can we have this in sonnet form?


Can we have your messages to start making sense to anyone except just you?

And if you want sonnet - write fucking sonnet or you expect someone else do it for you?


You seem to forgot little one, that Aries is a FIRE sign. What does that mean? Duh! They move FAST! I have been reading all along from the beginning to the end (not much work today for me as the LTC (P) is on leave until Saturday (8 Sep 18); so I am looking busy at my end by taking a peek at DXP (rare for me!). With that said, I feel you don't keep much to yourself. What do I mean by this? Well, from the beginning when you were menstruating you told him you were on your period and couldn't do the deed. Next time, when you're on your period and making out with a man "just go with the flow". Men normally sexually touch a woman downstairs and start taking off her clothes. This is when you can inform him you're on your period...100% of the time men don't care (yeah, your dude sounds young). Okay, with that said, he told you he's not interested in just sex with you. You haven't informed us how "good or bad" your first sexual encounter was. Which tells me you don't care otherwise either. Pretty strange as Aries men are FIRE (so is their hunger for sex with a woman); I should know. My dad was Aries and my mom informed me how my dad was always after my mom from the get go, got married, and was VERY sexually active with my mom. You called him "flakey" since you keep mentioning his moon, Venus, and retrograde. Uh, does that necessarily mean with the Retrograde that changes a man from being a sexual beast to a lamb? No, I don't think so. What you have found is a man that has met a woman and is ready for a commitment (boyfriend/girlfriend); AKA exclusive. Lucky you. Yet you're confused to the max. You're use to a man dropping his fruit of the looms in a heartbeat, but this one is different. Aries......March or April? My dad was an April Aries.

How much more attention do you want from this man? He likes what he sees. Kinda sorta informing you the moral of the story: 1) don't think too much 2) don't always tell a man you're on your period (none of their business); AKA you talk too much, too.

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Love,

Eva
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I DO TALK A LOT, but I’m a Gemini! I’m mercury dominant as well, so sverything just flies outta my mouth (or my fingers). Anyway, we had sex the second time we hung out and it was B O M B. We had sex for 2 hours straight until 4 am, but I had to go to bed because I worked in 3 hours. And the next morning we had a quickie. We also hung out for a few hours after that, just during the day. Didn’t do anything sexual, just chatted. And after that was when he started to be flakey. Like he was tired one night that we were supposed to hang out and tells me this AS I’m getting ready to go over. So I was a little peeved and said “well if you didn’t want me to come over you just could have said so since I asked you multiple times if you wanted me to come another day” and he told me that he didn’t want me to think he’s ignoring me. Anyway, I didn’t message him back and that’s when he posted a status about me throwing major shade. But anyway, we hung out this passed weekend, had a good time, I stayed the night but we didn’t even kiss or anything. So Sunday night is when he spilled the beans about liking me. Here’s my thing though, when we hung out this passed weekend, all we did was talk about how we have sex all the time with other people. And even when he was telling me how much he likes me he’s like “girls ask me to hang out all the tjme but I only wanna hang out with you” like ok dude I get it. He also told me that he’s cheated on a lot of girls he’s been with. So of course, when he told me he likes me and stuff I’m like “you’re a playa playa” and he’s like “I know but I don’t want to be anymore”
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Posted by Arieschick92

I’m an Aries and if I’m really into somebody I don’t really flake very much. That said, it is one of the hallmarks of my personality. If I were you I would not demand to put a label on it, but I would still be more assertive the next time he does this. Either that, or cancel on him before. You could call him out for it but I would do it gently. Usually if people stress us out We start to see them as another responsibility and run for the hills. But there’s nothing wrong with demanding respect, he owes that to you.


Can we have this in sonnet form?


Can we have your messages to start making sense to anyone except just you?

And if you want sonnet - write fucking sonnet or you expect someone else do it for you?


You seem to forgot little one, that Aries is a FIRE sign. What does that mean? Duh! They move FAST! I have been reading all along from the beginning to the end (not much work today for me as the LTC (P) is on leave until Saturday (8 Sep 18); so I am looking busy at my end by taking a peek at DXP (rare for me!). With that said, I feel you don't keep much to yourself. What do I mean by this? Well, from the beginning when you were menstruating you told him you were on your period and couldn't do the deed. Next time, when you're on your period and making out with a man "just go with the flow". Men normally sexually touch a woman downstairs and start taking off her clothes. This is when you can inform him you're on your period...100% of the time men don't care (yeah, your dude sounds young). Okay, with that said, he told you he's not interested in just sex with you. You haven't informed us how "good or bad" your first sexual encounter was. Which tells me you don't care otherwise either. Pretty strange as Aries men are FIRE (so is their hunger for sex with a woman); I should know. My dad was Aries and my mom informed me how my dad was always after my mom from the get go, got married, and was VERY sexually active with my mom. You called him "flakey" since you keep mentioning his moon, Venus, and retrograde. Uh, does that necessarily mean with the Retrograde that changes a man from being a sexual beast to a lamb? No, I don't think so. What you have found is a man that has met a woman and is ready for a commitment (boyfriend/girlfriend); AKA exclusive. Lucky you. Yet you're confused to the max. You're use to a man dropping his fruit of the looms in a heartbeat, but this one is different. Aries......March or April? My dad was an April Aries.

How much more attention do you want from this man? He likes what he sees. Kinda sorta informing you the moral of the story: 1) don't think too much 2) don't always tell a man you're on your period (none of their business); AKA you talk too much, too.

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🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva




I DO TALK A LOT, but I’m a Gemini! I’m mercury dominant as well, so sverything just flies outta my mouth (or my fingers). Anyway, we had sex the second time we hung out and it was B O M B. We had sex for 2 hours straight until 4 am, but I had to go to bed because I worked in 3 hours. And the next morning we had a quickie. We also hung out for a few hours after that, just during the day. Didn’t do anything sexual, just chatted. And after that was when he started to be flakey. Like he was tired one night that we were supposed to hang out and tells me this AS I’m getting ready to go over. So I was a little peeved and said “well if you didn’t want me to come over you just could have said so since I asked you multiple times if you wanted me to come another day” and he told me that he didn’t want me to think he’s ignoring me. Anyway, I didn’t message him back and that’s when he posted a status about me throwing major shade. But anyway, we hung out this passed weekend, had a good time, I stayed the night but we didn’t even kiss or anything. So Sunday night is when he spilled the beans about liking me. Here’s my thing though, when we hung out this passed weekend, all we did was talk about how we have sex all the time with other people. And even when he was telling me how much he likes me he’s like “girls ask me to hang out all the tjme but I only wanna hang out with you” like ok dude I get it. He also told me that he’s cheated on a lot of girls he’s been with. So of course, when he told me he likes me and stuff I’m like “you’re a playa playa” and he’s like “I know but I don’t want to be anymore”
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The phrase is THIS PAST weekend (not PASSED weekend)....hook, line, and sinker!!

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🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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I’m an Aries and if I’m really into somebody I don’t really flake very much. That said, it is one of the hallmarks of my personality. If I were you I would not demand to put a label on it, but I would still be more assertive the next time he does this. Either that, or cancel on him before. You could call him out for it but I would do it gently. Usually if people stress us out We start to see them as another responsibility and run for the hills. But there’s nothing wrong with demanding respect, he owes that to you.


Can we have this in sonnet form?


Can we have your messages to start making sense to anyone except just you?

And if you want sonnet - write fucking sonnet or you expect someone else do it for you?


You seem to forgot little one, that Aries is a FIRE sign. What does that mean? Duh! They move FAST! I have been reading all along from the beginning to the end (not much work today for me as the LTC (P) is on leave until Saturday (8 Sep 18); so I am looking busy at my end by taking a peek at DXP (rare for me!). With that said, I feel you don't keep much to yourself. What do I mean by this? Well, from the beginning when you were menstruating you told him you were on your period and couldn't do the deed. Next time, when you're on your period and making out with a man "just go with the flow". Men normally sexually touch a woman downstairs and start taking off her clothes. This is when you can inform him you're on your period...100% of the time men don't care (yeah, your dude sounds young). Okay, with that said, he told you he's not interested in just sex with you. You haven't informed us how "good or bad" your first sexual encounter was. Which tells me you don't care otherwise either. Pretty strange as Aries men are FIRE (so is their hunger for sex with a woman); I should know. My dad was Aries and my mom informed me how my dad was always after my mom from the get go, got married, and was VERY sexually active with my mom. You called him "flakey" since you keep mentioning his moon, Venus, and retrograde. Uh, does that necessarily mean with the Retrograde that changes a man from being a sexual beast to a lamb? No, I don't think so. What you have found is a man that has met a woman and is ready for a commitment (boyfriend/girlfriend); AKA exclusive. Lucky you. Yet you're confused to the max. You're use to a man dropping his fruit of the looms in a heartbeat, but this one is different. Aries......March or April? My dad was an April Aries.

How much more attention do you want from this man? He likes what he sees. Kinda sorta informing you the moral of the story: 1) don't think too much 2) don't always tell a man you're on your period (none of their business); AKA you talk too much, too.

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🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva




I DO TALK A LOT, but I’m a Gemini! I’m mercury dominant as well, so sverything just flies outta my mouth (or my fingers). Anyway, we had sex the second time we hung out and it was B O M B. We had sex for 2 hours straight until 4 am, but I had to go to bed because I worked in 3 hours. And the next morning we had a quickie. We also hung out for a few hours after that, just during the day. Didn’t do anything sexual, just chatted. And after that was when he started to be flakey. Like he was tired one night that we were supposed to hang out and tells me this AS I’m getting ready to go over. So I was a little peeved and said “well if you didn’t want me to come over you just could have said so since I asked you multiple times if you wanted me to come another day” and he told me that he didn’t want me to think he’s ignoring me. Anyway, I didn’t message him back and that’s when he posted a status about me throwing major shade. But anyway, we hung out this passed weekend, had a good time, I stayed the night but we didn’t even kiss or anything. So Sunday night is when he spilled the beans about liking me. Here’s my thing though, when we hung out this passed weekend, all we did was talk about how we have sex all the time with other people. And even when he was telling me how much he likes me he’s like “girls ask me to hang out all the tjme but I only wanna hang out with you” like ok dude I get it. He also told me that he’s cheated on a lot of girls he’s been with. So of course, when he told me he likes me and stuff I’m like “you’re a playa playa” and he’s like “I know but I don’t want to be anymore”


The phrase is THIS PAST weekend (not PASSED weekend)....hook, line, and sinker!!

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Love,

Eva
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Thanks guys! I appreciate it. He told me from the beggining that he really liked me. And the one time I was supposed to come over I said “I’ll be on my period, so I probably shouldn’t come over” and he’s like “why...” and I’m like “uh cause we won’t be able to do the dirty” and he’s like “I thought you knew that I wanted you for more than just sex....” and I kind of ghosted him after he said that until the next day. But after that happened is when he started acting weird. Idk, maybe I kind of started it, but I’m not looking for a relationship, just don’t leave me hanging 🙂

Lol I do that too. Keeping things vague. We Gemini like it that way. Hahaha I can’t stop laughing to this.