Do you think she cares or is even bothered?

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Hey, it’s been a while since posted on here but need some thoughts.

I broke up with my girlfriend last week. I sort of knew she was seeing other guys but didn’t think about it too much, and she got me to sleep with her friend one time, like I didn’t want to, she just got me really drunk and her friend started on me. I had suspicions that she was out of town seeing her ex, she’d told me she was visiting her sister.

I went out that week and met her housemate, not one of her friends, just her housemate. She told me yes she was with her ex and there were other guys too.

Her housemate told me that she was laughing at me behind my back, and this was the worst thing, I lent her money to go see her sister.. anyway. I wasn’t bothered about other guys, but laughing at me was ten times worse.

I broke up with her and it was bad and she messaged a lot asking for her stuff, which I ignored.

She told her housemate we’d broken up and when asked if she would miss me, she thought about it and then replied that she would miss the money. I don’t know if she would just say this to make herself feel better, she is that type.

After four days of getting her messages, I called her to say I would get her stuff to her. She then accused me on the phone of telling people she was a prostitute, which was ridiculous, I never did that, we argued. She said she had gone to see her ex but just to talk and she didn’t have sex. But I knew she had from her housemate. Anyway on the phone I first said that’s all i wanted to know, but then I got angry and asked why she went, for drugs or sex? And she got angry and said never to contact her again, she hung up and blocked me. Her housemate then told me that she was doing cocaine when I called and that she did it for the next 24 hrs at least after that.

Then this week she messaged asking for her stuff and I replied, I said this weekend meet to exchange stuff.

The thing is.. i have all the post breakup feelings.. like do you ever wonder if the other person ever really cared? Or are they hurt? Or what... are these just childish thoughts? I want to ask her for a drink, or something, I don’t know.. like just to know how she feels, but why I guess?

I know I had to break up, i couldn’t just carry on being taken advantage of. And she had no future, she’s completely useless and has no career or anything, and maybe I wouldn’t have had a future with her anyway, maybe she wasn’t right for me. But I do miss her, and sometimes I think what’s the point in the future, I should just be happy with who I’m with now? But now it’s over I guess. Do you ever wonder how the other person feels? And I know people say you should think about 5 years from now and ask if you want to be with the person, but what’s wrong with just saying you’re happy with the person now?
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Yeah I know.. it’s kinda why I started asking why she went. Ask her housemate said he was a dealer or something but he had no money and no teeth from the drugs he’d done, and he is 20 years older and beats her but... I asked this on the night I broke up with her, she said she moved away from her ex cos he beat her.. the housemate said the same.. that kinda freaked me out (obviously)
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Continue to remember the negative things to get your through and stop focusing on anything that was positive which was a small amount toward the end anyway - the beginning was good I am hearing but people have to work hard to make things last and grow together and move forward - that's you, not her. Find someone else that wants to have something and isn't afraid to work hard to get it (like you).
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No she doesn’t care. She hasn’t cared in awhile.

I know this because she was badmouthing and laughing at your expense. If she cared about you and,to a greater extent, cared about the relationship she wouldn’t throw you under the bus.

Drug addicts make pretty shitty partners. Don’t feel like this is a reflection of you. This is a reflection of her addiction.

Your not gonna get an apology until her sponsor has her make an apology tour post rehab.
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Posted by AriesJo

I know, I’ll find someone better I guess.. not sure I see it now. You know when you think someone should apologise lol? It just wasn’t that bad at the start, I think she just started doing more drugs and started asking for money from me and then other guys and it got out of hand.


Who knows what she did in exchange for that money.

Get tested ASAP.
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You're wondering about the wrong thing(s).

You stated in your OWN words, that you KNEW she was seeing other guys BUT DIDN'T care 🤷 Why begin to care about anything concerning her now? 🤔 It just doesn't make sense NOR would caring be beneficial to you.

Leave this messy-mess alone, for YOUR OWN sake. I'm not sure if you have self-esteem issues or if you thought she'd choose you over the rest if you played it cool. But all in all, it seems to me like you played yourself dealing with her intimately on ANY level.
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Posted by Dreamyboy

Bro I hope you are feeling better.

Women are interesting creatures and she’s trying to guilt trip the shit out of and it’s working. The mental game of blocking ignoring you too.

Regardless though, no, she does not miss you. She checked out emotionally a long time ago it seems to me. I hope you didn’t actually meet her up to return her things yet.

I say leave it on her door without seeing her at all. You don’t need closure my guy. You’ll give her the satisfaction of seeing you being mentally broken. Good riddance to her and her shit. Now you have a beautiful opportunity to either find a woman that appreciates you, or enjoy the single life hint hint

All these post break up feelings you are feeling are absolutely normal. It goes away and it evolves you immediately after. You’ll grow out of this and become a new man and learn to see bullshit more easier every time.

ariesjo is a female I believe
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Bro I hope you are feeling better.

Women are interesting creatures and she’s trying to guilt trip the shit out of and it’s working. The mental game of blocking ignoring you too.

Regardless though, no, she does not miss you. She checked out emotionally a long time ago it seems to me. I hope you didn’t actually meet her up to return her things yet.

I say leave it on her door without seeing her at all. You don’t need closure my guy. You’ll give her the satisfaction of seeing you being mentally broken. Good riddance to her and her shit. Now you have a beautiful opportunity to either find a woman that appreciates you, or enjoy the single life hint hint

All these post break up feelings you are feeling are absolutely normal. It goes away and it evolves you immediately after. You’ll grow out of this and become a new man and learn to see bullshit more easier every time.

ariesjo is a female I believe


Oooohh... shit. Lol thanks😂
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lol it's cool, just goes to show you woman pull the same shit on other women too 😂
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Posted by Dreamyboy

Posted by Librasetting777

Posted by Dreamyboy

Posted by Librasetting777

Posted by Dreamyboy

Bro I hope you are feeling better.

Women are interesting creatures and she’s trying to guilt trip the shit out of and it’s working. The mental game of blocking ignoring you too.

Regardless though, no, she does not miss you. She checked out emotionally a long time ago it seems to me. I hope you didn’t actually meet her up to return her things yet.

I say leave it on her door without seeing her at all. You don’t need closure my guy. You’ll give her the satisfaction of seeing you being mentally broken. Good riddance to her and her shit. Now you have a beautiful opportunity to either find a woman that appreciates you, or enjoy the single life hint hint

All these post break up feelings you are feeling are absolutely normal. It goes away and it evolves you immediately after. You’ll grow out of this and become a new man and learn to see bullshit more easier every time.

ariesjo is a female I believe


Oooohh... shit. Lol thanks😂

lol it's cool, just goes to show you woman pull the same shit on other women too 😂


Dam I know 😂 Id assume women would be more better and preventing this shit too
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To round up all the misogyny and morons in one thread here, go do something else. Men behave exactly the same and often. I’m sure some of you have - even if unconsciously - done similar shit regarding mind games, taking advantage, etc.

OP, good riddance of the person. Don’t let trainwrecks stop at your station for any longer other than to realize that they’re a trainwreck.