doublesidedGem
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Help with an old Aries flame
Why is that strange?
After your brother passed away (Im sorry to hear that btw), you were probably not in a good place and the relationship suffered from it. Seems like she never stoped liking you and now that you probably had some time to sort your mind, she is coming closer to you. She is testing the waters, will not pour her heart out on the first merting.
After your brother passed away (Im sorry to hear that btw), you were probably not in a good place and the relationship suffered from it. Seems like she never stoped liking you and now that you probably had some time to sort your mind, she is coming closer to you. She is testing the waters, will not pour her heart out on the first merting.
I just think it's strange that I told her I can't be simply friends as my feelings are too much. It was her decision to block us. On the first night we met up she's asked me to go away and we've planned to meet up this public holiday.
I sill think there are feelings from her side, definitely from me. I'm not pressuring her. And have told her that I missed her, and these feelings came back. I'm in a much better place than I was. She can see that. I've said I want to rebuild our friendship first, and where possible put the past behind us and move forward.
She's going away tomorrow for work, I wanna send her a little text, nothing heavy. Or shall I just leave for her to contact me?
I sill think there are feelings from her side, definitely from me. I'm not pressuring her. And have told her that I missed her, and these feelings came back. I'm in a much better place than I was. She can see that. I've said I want to rebuild our friendship first, and where possible put the past behind us and move forward.
She's going away tomorrow for work, I wanna send her a little text, nothing heavy. Or shall I just leave for her to contact me?
Let me be a little mean here and say that if you want her to think about you, don't send her a message.
Aries, unfortunately, want what they cant have. When it is too easy we loose interest. :p
So, if you want her to be intrigued by you, I repeat, do not send her any message. 😄
this is game playing though...you were warned! Good luck!
Aries, unfortunately, want what they cant have. When it is too easy we loose interest. :p
So, if you want her to be intrigued by you, I repeat, do not send her any message. 😄
this is game playing though...you were warned! Good luck!
Sorry about your brother ... what are her other placements? She sounds like she's being friendly & really just wants to be friends.. at least for now .. could go somewhere but can't really tell
Posted by IamAriesThis
Let me be a little mean here and say that if you want her to think about you, don't send her a message.
Aries, unfortunately, want what they cant have. When it is too easy we loose interest. :p
So, if you want her to be intrigued by you, I repeat, do not send her any message. 😄
this is game playing though...you were warned! Good luck!
Thanks for the comments about my bro and in general.
She so stubborn at times lol! I don't think she's playing games. I'll admit I've pushed it a little. She's reiterated that she wants nothing more than friends, which I've accepted. I mentioned that you never know what can happen which she admitted, but also reiterated that she doesn't want anything. I mean she reached out twice, but I digress!!
She then went onto accuse me of remembering something my own way?? Which I remember it word for word and thought better of arguing it just in case lol!! She basically accused me of suggesting to go away?!?! Which wasn't what happened.
not sure how it will pan out, probably just drift apart .... ?
She so stubborn at times lol! I don't think she's playing games. I'll admit I've pushed it a little. She's reiterated that she wants nothing more than friends, which I've accepted. I mentioned that you never know what can happen which she admitted, but also reiterated that she doesn't want anything. I mean she reached out twice, but I digress!!
She then went onto accuse me of remembering something my own way?? Which I remember it word for word and thought better of arguing it just in case lol!! She basically accused me of suggesting to go away?!?! Which wasn't what happened.
not sure how it will pan out, probably just drift apart .... ?
Aww thanks!
Oh I believe her lol, I just need to respect what she says now, not press the issue either, and get on with my life which I was and will do. I won't sit and wait around, but at the same time if we can remain friends and work on things who knows? I'd love this to work but only time will tell, as an old romantic also!!
She did say that right now she needs me to be a normal friend. If I ask her again it might seem I wasn't listening before. We'll catch up soon hopefully ?
Oh I believe her lol, I just need to respect what she says now, not press the issue either, and get on with my life which I was and will do. I won't sit and wait around, but at the same time if we can remain friends and work on things who knows? I'd love this to work but only time will tell, as an old romantic also!!
She did say that right now she needs me to be a normal friend. If I ask her again it might seem I wasn't listening before. We'll catch up soon hopefully ?
So we've been in contact since the last post. Quite regularly. Initiated by herself and myself.
At times she's called a couple times over the weekend. Anyway last weekend I asked if she's free this weekend. She said not sure she'd let me know in the week. I didn't bring it up even though we spoke. Anyway today we speak and I mention it and she says what about tomorrow so I explain she says she's busy. I'm like cool.
A little later i sent a text just saying she could've told me as she didn't seem busy to make other plans.
She then kicked off. Demanded I apologise then told me she realised I was the monster she thought, I'm obsessive, we aren't proper friends and why would I drop my plans for some who treated me so appallingly. I said I didn't ask in the week because you said you'd let me know, but didn't and if I did she say I was being eager, which she fucking did.... Can't ducking win. I told her she reached out to me for a friendship so I can't be that bad, I remember everything about her, likes, dislikes, stories, family situation. Basically told her I'm not fighting to have her as a friend she knows how I feel and I'm sorry how things ended, and I didn't act accordingly but was grieving.
I said she's a free woman she can't do what she wants, if she wants to stay in touch fine, if not fuck it. It's my birthday in Sunday and did want to spend it with her but win some lose some.
At times she's called a couple times over the weekend. Anyway last weekend I asked if she's free this weekend. She said not sure she'd let me know in the week. I didn't bring it up even though we spoke. Anyway today we speak and I mention it and she says what about tomorrow so I explain she says she's busy. I'm like cool.
A little later i sent a text just saying she could've told me as she didn't seem busy to make other plans.
She then kicked off. Demanded I apologise then told me she realised I was the monster she thought, I'm obsessive, we aren't proper friends and why would I drop my plans for some who treated me so appallingly. I said I didn't ask in the week because you said you'd let me know, but didn't and if I did she say I was being eager, which she fucking did.... Can't ducking win. I told her she reached out to me for a friendship so I can't be that bad, I remember everything about her, likes, dislikes, stories, family situation. Basically told her I'm not fighting to have her as a friend she knows how I feel and I'm sorry how things ended, and I didn't act accordingly but was grieving.
I said she's a free woman she can't do what she wants, if she wants to stay in touch fine, if not fuck it. It's my birthday in Sunday and did want to spend it with her but win some lose some.
Posted by IamAriesi disagree. i think he should let her know about his feelings since they had been together before. if it was a first time thing maybe. but thats not the case here. talk to her.
Let me be a little mean here and say that if you want her to think about you, don't send her a message.
Aries, unfortunately, want what they cant have. When it is too easy we loose interest. :p
So, if you want her to be intrigued by you, I repeat, do not send her any message. 😄
this is game playing though...you were warned! Good luck!
So we've spoken and she's really hung up on this issue. She insists it's my fault that I never reminded her, but accepts my position in not wanting to "pester" her. During the call last night she never said she'd forgot or the other plans had come through. From my perspective I thought she'd gone ahead and made plans disregarding mine. This is where the communication broke down. If she said she forgot I wouldn't have sent the message. She then starts sprouting anyone with logic would figured that if someone said remind me that meant they forgot. Huh?!?! Anyway I said look I accept you may have forgot fair enough she's been busy, but she wanted an apology for me turning this into something ...
As for telling her how I feel she knows. We didn't speak for about 6 months but prior to that I made it clear I'd struggle to be friends. I have her no indication that changed as I kept my distance. I thought I moved on and we see each other and feelings come back. Whilst grieving I put a lot on her and that's why we split ... in a way I feel I owe it to her and myself to show that I moved on and sorry for that. But she thinks that she let me in her life truth is the other way round. Anyway she said she genuinely isn't attracted to me and I should close any door that anything can happen. I thinks it's up to me to remove her as she doesn't want anything but I do and it's not fair on either of us ...
As for telling her how I feel she knows. We didn't speak for about 6 months but prior to that I made it clear I'd struggle to be friends. I have her no indication that changed as I kept my distance. I thought I moved on and we see each other and feelings come back. Whilst grieving I put a lot on her and that's why we split ... in a way I feel I owe it to her and myself to show that I moved on and sorry for that. But she thinks that she let me in her life truth is the other way round. Anyway she said she genuinely isn't attracted to me and I should close any door that anything can happen. I thinks it's up to me to remove her as she doesn't want anything but I do and it's not fair on either of us ...
Posted by toxiccottonI know right, the thing is I haven't openly told her I want her back. I do, or would like to be back with her. But haven't said the reason we're friends is to try and get back. She thinks that's the case. It isn't. But I just have to move on, if something changes then we'll see but yeah I need to move on and find someone else.Posted by doublesidedGemThat sucks, man. Really, it does. But if she really doesn't want you, I guess there's nothing you can do. You'll find someone else!
So we've spoken and she's really hung up on this issue. She insists it's my fault that I never reminded her, but accepts my position in not wanting to "pester" her. During the call last night she never said she'd forgot or the other plans had come through. From my perspective I thought she'd gone ahead and made plans disregarding mine. This is where the communication broke down. If she said she forgot I wouldn't have sent the message. She then starts sprouting anyone with logic would figured that if someone said remind me that meant they forgot. Huh?!?! Anyway I said look I accept you may have forgot fair enough she's been busy, but she wanted an apology for me turning this into something ...
As for telling her how I feel she knows. We didn't speak for about 6 months but prior to that I made it clear I'd struggle to be friends. I have her no indication that changed as I kept my distance. I thought I moved on and we see each other and feelings come back. Whilst grieving I put a lot on her and that's why we split ... in a way I feel I owe it to her and myself to show that I moved on and sorry for that. But she thinks that she let me in her life truth is the other way round. Anyway she said she genuinely isn't attracted to me and I should close any door that anything can happen. I thinks it's up to me to remove her as she doesn't want anything but I do and it's not fair on either of us ...
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Gawd she's relentless. I've never understood how she can roll things so easily off the tongue. She's blind to the fact that she accepts my position and still says I'm wrong and made no points. This woman actually believes she's does nothing Tonadd to a situation and that I created it.
She tells me she's uncomfortable with memes, yet doesn't stop or pull away when we hug her close or run my fingers through her hair. She told me she wants to go on holiday, when I mentioned it she accused me of lying and saying that I mentioned it! I've sent her some holiday screen shots of some good deals, she then says this morning sending her these without her saying yes is weird. I said you asked me and if you don't want go say no and I won't send them. Do you think she replied to it, no of course not. She wants to tcall the shots and because I call her and blatantly honest I don't think she likes it. But I think she does. Weird but I fucking like her so much, which is annoying.
She tells me she's uncomfortable with memes, yet doesn't stop or pull away when we hug her close or run my fingers through her hair. She told me she wants to go on holiday, when I mentioned it she accused me of lying and saying that I mentioned it! I've sent her some holiday screen shots of some good deals, she then says this morning sending her these without her saying yes is weird. I said you asked me and if you don't want go say no and I won't send them. Do you think she replied to it, no of course not. She wants to tcall the shots and because I call her and blatantly honest I don't think she likes it. But I think she does. Weird but I fucking like her so much, which is annoying.
Posted by toxiccottonShe'll reason to a point, then still tell me I'm in the wrong whilst acknowledging things she could've done. I liked her up on shit which got her angrier. You're totally right though, I don't expect her to come back without her seeing that I've moved on the grieving. I'm trying to keep things so light at times, I guess that's where her need to gain control comes back as she feels this should be in her terms!Posted by doublesidedGemSounds like she has aries mercury (I do too). It's a bytch sometimes. We don't listen to reason.
Gawd she's relentless. I've never understood how she can roll things so easily off the tongue. She's blind to the fact that she accepts my position and still says I'm wrong and made no points. This woman actually believes she's does nothing Tonadd to a situation and that I created it.
She tells me she's uncomfortable with memes, yet doesn't stop or pull away when we hug her close or run my fingers through her hair. She told me she wants to go on holiday, when I mentioned it she accused me of lying and saying that I mentioned it! I've sent her some holiday screen shots of some good deals, she then says this morning sending her these without her saying yes is weird. I said you asked me and if you don't want go say no and I won't send them. Do you think she replied to it, no of course not. She wants to tcall the shots and because I call her and blatantly honest I don't think she likes it. But I think she does. Weird but I fucking like her so much, which is annoying.
I don't know why she's throwing such a fit, when she could easily choose to cut all contact with you, if that's what she wants. Maybe she's desperately trying to re-establish some control, because you were the one in control in your relationship back when you were grieving. I think she likes you around, but how can she go back to someone who hurt her. Gotta have some self respect, after all, right?
Your relationship sounds very dysfunctional at the time, and I think the reason she is being so melodramatic is because she wants to feel like she's the one in control this time. And yes, we like when people are honest with us and call us on our crap. I'm sure she respects you for that.
I honestly think the only thing that could fix this is if you tell her you still have feelings for her. But tell her when she's calm... Right now she doesn't know what you want, right? So she doesn't want to get in too deep
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She knows I my feelings for her, which I haven't brought up randomely unless she's mentioned. But she's adamant nothing will happen. But like yourself I think if she isn't remotely interested even staying friends as she put this morning, cut me off. I've given her no indication my feelings towards lessened. She still wants to be friends but nothing more ... Crazy.
Actually I think you're spot on regarding gaining control. She's been spiteful with her words thinking that will shut me down. She's backed right off and said we shouldn't be in contact with that I say fine take care. She doesn't block me or completely cut me off like before I think because she knows I'll carry on.
So she'll message me when she's ready to meet and talk like before outside of dating! I'm starting to read her I just can't act on the reading of her just yet. As much as we clash at times we do have a great friendship.
So she'll message me when she's ready to meet and talk like before outside of dating! I'm starting to read her I just can't act on the reading of her just yet. As much as we clash at times we do have a great friendship.
She hasn't even wished me happy birthday - not the end of the world, but still ?
Posted by IamAriesNah man. You gotta stay in the crosshairs. Aries are all about what's right in front of them. If he disappeared, she's not thinking of him.
Let me be a little mean here and say that if you want her to think about you, don't send her a message.
Aries, unfortunately, want what they cant have. When it is too easy we loose interest. :p
So, if you want her to be intrigued by you, I repeat, do not send her any message. 😄
this is game playing though...you were warned! Good luck!
My advice (if you want her back) is to keep it casual and no flirting via text whatsoever. Shoot her a msg every few days
It sounds like you're spot on. We've spoken since and she's so melodramatic that she's asked me not to contact her. She knows my feelings and has figured out that I'd like to get back with her at some point. She's adamant it won't happen and has said she genuinely doesn't find me attractive... and to close any door and we will only remain friends. Kick to the ego for a while but I'm ok looking so whatever. I've said you never know wha happens in time and she agreed. But right now she knows what she wants.
She said that it's clear I need time to get over her, even though I said this ages ago! She could easily block me as she did before. I never seeked her friendship or conversation when we wasn't talking.
She said that it's clear I need time to get over her, even though I said this ages ago! She could easily block me as she did before. I never seeked her friendship or conversation when we wasn't talking.
Posted by doublesidedGemText her. Make her happy.
I just think it's strange that I told her I can't be simply friends as my feelings are too much. It was her decision to block us. On the first night we met up she's asked me to go away and we've planned to meet up this public holiday.
I sill think there are feelings from her side, definitely from me. I'm not pressuring her. And have told her that I missed her, and these feelings came back. I'm in a much better place than I was. She can see that. I've said I want to rebuild our friendship first, and where possible put the past behind us and move forward.
She's going away tomorrow for work, I wanna send her a little text, nothing heavy. Or shall I just leave for her to contact me?
Posted by GemitatiIt's not as simple as that sadly. I know she'd like to be friends, even given what she said. She clearly wants it on her term and not mine hence her bringing up me needing to time to get over her before we can really establish a friendship. I don't need more friends if we didn't meet as friends. I've never stayed friends with an ex, she knows this, I told her and never gave an indication before this last month otherwise. I even told her the night after we first met that feelings had come back. But agreed to try and respect her and see it as nothing else.Posted by doublesidedGemText her. Make her happy.
I just think it's strange that I told her I can't be simply friends as my feelings are too much. It was her decision to block us. On the first night we met up she's asked me to go away and we've planned to meet up this public holiday.
I sill think there are feelings from her side, definitely from me. I'm not pressuring her. And have told her that I missed her, and these feelings came back. I'm in a much better place than I was. She can see that. I've said I want to rebuild our friendship first, and where possible put the past behind us and move forward.
She's going away tomorrow for work, I wanna send her a little text, nothing heavy. Or shall I just leave for her to contact me?
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I'd love nothing more than that but whether that happens is another story and ultimately not down to what I just want ?
Soooooo! Long story short I met another Aries lady, my age and amazing! We’ve got it off like a house on fire and things are going so well.
This Aries that this post was originally about has come on the scene ten fold. I’ve told her I’ve met someone else and that we’re dating. I told her I spent New Years with her. Not out of spite or to get one over. She just keeps messaging me and asking about things I’m doing or done.
It’s so funny. I’m going to ask this new lady I’ve met to be my girlfriend. We’re already exclusive and I know she is waiting for me to ask as she’s dropped hints ☺️!
Happy 2018 everyone 😁
This Aries that this post was originally about has come on the scene ten fold. I’ve told her I’ve met someone else and that we’re dating. I told her I spent New Years with her. Not out of spite or to get one over. She just keeps messaging me and asking about things I’m doing or done.
It’s so funny. I’m going to ask this new lady I’ve met to be my girlfriend. We’re already exclusive and I know she is waiting for me to ask as she’s dropped hints ☺️!
Happy 2018 everyone 😁
So happy for you!!
/>Posted by ImpulsvDude.. you are 7months late.Posted by IamAries
Let me be a little mean here and say that if you want her to think about you, don't send her a message.
Aries, unfortunately, want what they cant have. When it is too easy we loose interest. :p
So, if you want her to be intrigued by you, I repeat, do not send her any message. 😄
this is game playing though...you were warned! Good luck!
LIKE HIS brother just died
He doesn’t have time to play fucked up games
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I was in a year long rship when tragedy hit my family. My brother passed suddenly, unexpectedly. Hit me and effected us really hard. This happened 6 months in. 5 months later and we split.
She wanted to remain friends but I struggled because of I felt for her. We enfeebled up by talking. A public accident happened in my town and she checked to see if I was ok. I replied, we exchanged texts. She then messaged saying I left books at hers, I told her to give them charity wished her well. We wished each other happy Christmas and New Years. I wished her happy birthday.
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