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Understanding Aries Behavior When They Offer Help
Aries individuals often offer help enthusiastically but may not follow through due to their impulsive nature. They can forget or prioritize new ideas over commitments. Clarify expectations kindly and decide whether to accept or decline offers to avoid last-minute surprises and maintain harmony.
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Of course she always asks “do you need anything?” before she comes over too and I always say no because that’s my personality
But this is like she straight up tells me “hey I’m gonna make dinner tonight if that’s ok” and then she doesn’t. 4 separate times now. 😅 it’s almost comical but also kind of awkward
Do you ask her about it?
Like walk in and say..
"I'm starving. What'd you make/pick up?"
I’d be like, “are we having the emporer’s favorite foods again.”
Invisible food just like his clothes
You gotta joke with these rams so they don’t get butthurt
She’s been working remotely so this is the second time this year she’s come for 2 weeks at a time...maybe I’m just noticing things about her because this is the most time we’ve spent together. But I’m starting to feel it’s intentional at this point.
Another thing.
My husband gives her a car to drive so she doesn’t have to rent one and has the freedom to go where she wants... and she stays with their dad so she doesn’t have hotel costs.
She comes to my house every afternoon/evening to see the girls and I cook or order dinner every effing night. Offers to do dinner, but doesn’t. Offers to pick up stuff, but doesn’t. Comes for my daughter’s (her only niece) birthday empty-handed. (She’s spoiled enough, but STILL! I would never)
Then she asks my husband to drop her off at the airport so she doesn’t have to Uber and she leaves his car for him with an empty tank. Like can’t even fill the tank back up where she got it!
I’m like dis bish wild 😂
I think by the third time I would have been like "um, yeah, remember how you said that and didn't?" lmao
Ya know
You’d think I would
Idk what my problem is. I just hate making anyone feel bad. But WTF over
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Do you ask her about it?
Like walk in and say..
"I'm starving. What'd you make/pick up?"
Finally last night was the first time I acknowledged that she didn’t make anything - and I mean I was super delicate about like the huge poon that I am - and she goes “oh yeah, so I didn’t make it by the store, but tomorrow ...”
I just smiled and nodded but I was like NAW
This is tew fucking much
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Do you ask her about it?
Like walk in and say..
"I'm starving. What'd you make/pick up?"
Finally last night was the first time I acknowledged that she didn’t make anything - and I mean I was super delicate about like the huge poon that I am - and she goes “oh yeah, so I didn’t make it by the store, but tomorrow ...”
I just smiled and nodded but I was like NAW
This is tew fucking much
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Why are you such a wuss irl?
She’s been working remotely so this is the second time this year she’s come for 2 weeks at a time...maybe I’m just noticing things about her because this is the most time we’ve spent together. But I’m starting to feel it’s intentional at this point.
Another thing.
My husband gives her a car to drive so she doesn’t have to rent one and has the freedom to go where she wants... and she stays with their dad so she doesn’t have hotel costs.
She comes to my house every afternoon/evening to see the girls and I cook or order dinner every effing night. Offers to do dinner, but doesn’t. Offers to pick up stuff, but doesn’t. Comes for my daughter’s (her only niece) birthday empty-handed. (She’s spoiled enough, but STILL! I would never)
Then she asks my husband to drop her off at the airport so she doesn’t have to Uber and she leaves his car for him with an empty tank. Like can’t even fill the tank back up where she got it!
I’m like dis bish wild 😂
Okay that is weird af. Is she a spoiled daddy’s girl by chance? The youngest?
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Highly dysfunctional family - don’t even know where to start. Not really spoiled, but the whole family is made up of highly selfish individuals and the kids are just a product of that I think.
She’s the oldest.
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Do you ask her about it?
Like walk in and say..
"I'm starving. What'd you make/pick up?"
Finally last night was the first time I acknowledged that she didn’t make anything - and I mean I was super delicate about like the huge poon that I am - and she goes “oh yeah, so I didn’t make it by the store, but tomorrow ...”
I just smiled and nodded but I was like NAW
This is tew fucking much
Why are you such a wuss irl?
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Right?! Pathetic
It’s a learned behavior for me because I used to be pretty combative and I had to learn to shut my mouth a lot and choose my battles
Certain situations I’ll still pop off- I’m not above it. But for me I have a problem expressing myself in a constructive way so I usually just blow up and burn bridges or I don’t say anything at all. Either really reactive or really controlled/composed. No in between
Next time she offers send her a group text with your hubby and say "thanks so much for offering to cook tonight. I got x, y, and z in the fridge you can make. Or we would love to have ___________ tonight as well".
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Do you ask her about it?
Like walk in and say..
"I'm starving. What'd you make/pick up?"
Finally last night was the first time I acknowledged that she didn’t make anything - and I mean I was super delicate about like the huge poon that I am - and she goes “oh yeah, so I didn’t make it by the store, but tomorrow ...”
I just smiled and nodded but I was like NAW
This is tew fucking much
Why are you such a wuss irl?
Right?! Pathetic
It’s a learned behavior for me because I used to be pretty combative and I had to learn to shut my mouth a lot and choose my battles
Certain situations I’ll still pop off- I’m not above it. But for me I have a problem expressing myself in a constructive way so I usually just blow up and burn bridges or I don’t say anything at all. Either really reactive or really controlled/composed. No in between
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I totally relate. Where’s your Mars?
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Do you ask her about it?
Like walk in and say..
"I'm starving. What'd you make/pick up?"
Finally last night was the first time I acknowledged that she didn’t make anything - and I mean I was super delicate about like the huge poon that I am - and she goes “oh yeah, so I didn’t make it by the store, but tomorrow ...”
I just smiled and nodded but I was like NAW
This is tew fucking much
Why are you such a wuss irl?
Right?! Pathetic
It’s a learned behavior for me because I used to be pretty combative and I had to learn to shut my mouth a lot and choose my battles
Certain situations I’ll still pop off- I’m not above it. But for me I have a problem expressing myself in a constructive way so I usually just blow up and burn bridges or I don’t say anything at all. Either really reactive or really controlled/composed. No in between
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Riiiiiight
just say no and plan on fixing it yourself or getting pick up and stop asking her or responding to her cause even if she does she don't
this isn't an aries thing it's a personality flaw or some other stupid shit
Next time she offers send her a group text with your hubby and say "thanks so much for offering to cook tonight. I got x, y, and z in the fridge you can make. Or we would love to have ___________ tonight as well".
This is a great idea. Just adding him to the text with...."Hey honey, your weirdo sister is going to cook tonight......do you have any suggestions for her?"
Then let him handle it when he walks in and sees nothing.
😅🤣😂
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Yeah but maybe leave out the weirdo bit haha
Next time she offers send her a group text with your hubby and say "thanks so much for offering to cook tonight. I got x, y, and z in the fridge you can make. Or we would love to have ___________ tonight as well".
This is a great idea. Just adding him to the text with...."Hey honey, your weirdo sister is going to cook tonight......do you have any suggestions for her?"
Then let him handle it when he walks in and sees nothing.
😅🤣😂
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I agree ! I’ll try that if she brings it up again but I’m just going to move forward with my own plans in the meantime
I actually didn’t say anything to him about it until last night and made him swear not to say anything because he will call her out, not in a nice way, and totally embarrass me. Scorpio moons have no couth, seriously 😅
His response: “yeah, that’s my fuckin family man, you already know this”
Next time she offers send her a group text with your hubby and say "thanks so much for offering to cook tonight. I got x, y, and z in the fridge you can make. Or we would love to have ___________ tonight as well".
This is a great idea. Just adding him to the text with...."Hey honey, your weirdo sister is going to cook tonight......do you have any suggestions for her?"
Then let him handle it when he walks in and sees nothing.
😅🤣😂
This is best. Letting the family member handle their own family is much easier than getting involved.
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Like I said, I don’t want or need her to take care of dinner...I actually have a really hard time letting people do anything for me...but I’ve had whole house installs for 2 weeks straight now, so I was actually ok with letting someone else worry about dinner for once.
I just don’t quite understand why she offers but doesn’t follow through. I seriously don’t get it.
Is this like when you ask someone “how are you?” conversationally, not actually wanting an answer because you think it’s the polite thing to do?
I don’t think she feels guilty at all. Like it doesn’t even cross her mind
The more I talk about it and say it out loud I think she’s really rude
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
The more I talk about it and say it out loud I think she’s really rude
I'd make you dinner.
The more I talk about it and say it out loud I think she’s really rude
I'd make you dinner.
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😘
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
I mean is it a hill you want to die on? Can you ask him never to let her stay over again until that behavior is fixed?
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No, she is only here a few more days...I’ll be over it in a week or so. I’m just amping myself up by acknowledging it at the moment 😅
She did this shit last time! Well, she only offered to pick up dinner once last time actually, but all the other behaviors were the same. I never said anything, but when he complained to me that she left his car with the gas light on we agreed we weren’t going to do this again. He did call her out on that, to which she said “sorry, I ran out of time” and this time around he initially told her he wouldn’t have a car for her but he caved and she promised she’d put gas in it this time.
Obviously we’re not that hard up that we need her to fill up our tanks, but for fucks sake, it’s just common courtesy if you’re driving someone’s car around for 2 weeks you’d think you’d put gas back in it before returning it. Bet her cheap ass would if it were a rental to avoid their surcharges
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
I mean is it a hill you want to die on? Can you ask him never to let her stay over again until that behavior is fixed?
No, she is only here a few more days...I’ll be over it in a week or so. I’m just amping myself up by acknowledging it at the moment 😅
She did this shit last time! Well, she only offered to pick up dinner once last time actually, but all the other behaviors were the same. I never said anything, but when he complained to me that she left his car with the gas light on we agreed we weren’t going to do this again. He did call her out on that, to which she said “sorry, I ran out of time” and this time around he initially told her he wouldn’t have a car for her but he caved and she promised she’d put gas in it this time.
Obviously we’re not that hard up that we need her to fill up our tanks, but for fucks sake, it’s just common courtesy if you’re driving someone’s car around for 2 weeks you’d think you’d put gas back in it before returning it. Bet her cheap ass would if it were a rental to avoid their surcharges
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Early onset dementia maybe?
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
I mean is it a hill you want to die on? Can you ask him never to let her stay over again until that behavior is fixed?
No, she is only here a few more days...I’ll be over it in a week or so. I’m just amping myself up by acknowledging it at the moment 😅
She did this shit last time! Well, she only offered to pick up dinner once last time actually, but all the other behaviors were the same. I never said anything, but when he complained to me that she left his car with the gas light on we agreed we weren’t going to do this again. He did call her out on that, to which she said “sorry, I ran out of time” and this time around he initially told her he wouldn’t have a car for her but he caved and she promised she’d put gas in it this time.
Obviously we’re not that hard up that we need her to fill up our tanks, but for fucks sake, it’s just common courtesy if you’re driving someone’s car around for 2 weeks you’d think you’d put gas back in it before returning it. Bet her cheap ass would if it were a rental to avoid their surcharges
Early onset dementia maybe?
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She’s just rude I’ve decided.
Wasn’t raised right 🤷🏼♀️
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
I mean is it a hill you want to die on? Can you ask him never to let her stay over again until that behavior is fixed?
No, she is only here a few more days...I’ll be over it in a week or so. I’m just amping myself up by acknowledging it at the moment 😅
She did this shit last time! Well, she only offered to pick up dinner once last time actually, but all the other behaviors were the same. I never said anything, but when he complained to me that she left his car with the gas light on we agreed we weren’t going to do this again. He did call her out on that, to which she said “sorry, I ran out of time” and this time around he initially told her he wouldn’t have a car for her but he caved and she promised she’d put gas in it this time.
Obviously we’re not that hard up that we need her to fill up our tanks, but for fucks sake, it’s just common courtesy if you’re driving someone’s car around for 2 weeks you’d think you’d put gas back in it before returning it. Bet her cheap ass would if it were a rental to avoid their surcharges
Early onset dementia maybe?
She’s just rude I’ve decided.
Wasn’t raised right 🤷🏼♀️
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Does she drink?
and if she asks again, just say "ya know, don't even bother asking anymore cause you don't anyway and that puts me in a twank so I'd rather just take care of it then"
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
I mean is it a hill you want to die on? Can you ask him never to let her stay over again until that behavior is fixed?
No, she is only here a few more days...I’ll be over it in a week or so. I’m just amping myself up by acknowledging it at the moment 😅
She did this shit last time! Well, she only offered to pick up dinner once last time actually, but all the other behaviors were the same. I never said anything, but when he complained to me that she left his car with the gas light on we agreed we weren’t going to do this again. He did call her out on that, to which she said “sorry, I ran out of time” and this time around he initially told her he wouldn’t have a car for her but he caved and she promised she’d put gas in it this time.
Obviously we’re not that hard up that we need her to fill up our tanks, but for fucks sake, it’s just common courtesy if you’re driving someone’s car around for 2 weeks you’d think you’d put gas back in it before returning it. Bet her cheap ass would if it were a rental to avoid their surcharges
Early onset dementia maybe?
She’s just rude I’ve decided.
Wasn’t raised right 🤷🏼♀️
Does she drink?
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Yes Beringer red moscato and fruit punch apparently
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
I mean is it a hill you want to die on? Can you ask him never to let her stay over again until that behavior is fixed?
No, she is only here a few more days...I’ll be over it in a week or so. I’m just amping myself up by acknowledging it at the moment 😅
She did this shit last time! Well, she only offered to pick up dinner once last time actually, but all the other behaviors were the same. I never said anything, but when he complained to me that she left his car with the gas light on we agreed we weren’t going to do this again. He did call her out on that, to which she said “sorry, I ran out of time” and this time around he initially told her he wouldn’t have a car for her but he caved and she promised she’d put gas in it this time.
Obviously we’re not that hard up that we need her to fill up our tanks, but for fucks sake, it’s just common courtesy if you’re driving someone’s car around for 2 weeks you’d think you’d put gas back in it before returning it. Bet her cheap ass would if it were a rental to avoid their surcharges
Early onset dementia maybe?
She’s just rude I’ve decided.
Wasn’t raised right 🤷🏼♀️
Does she drink?
Yes Beringer red moscato and fruit punch apparently
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And again, saying this out loud like this is also really saying it all isn’t it? 😅
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
I mean is it a hill you want to die on? Can you ask him never to let her stay over again until that behavior is fixed?
No, she is only here a few more days...I’ll be over it in a week or so. I’m just amping myself up by acknowledging it at the moment 😅
She did this shit last time! Well, she only offered to pick up dinner once last time actually, but all the other behaviors were the same. I never said anything, but when he complained to me that she left his car with the gas light on we agreed we weren’t going to do this again. He did call her out on that, to which she said “sorry, I ran out of time” and this time around he initially told her he wouldn’t have a car for her but he caved and she promised she’d put gas in it this time.
Obviously we’re not that hard up that we need her to fill up our tanks, but for fucks sake, it’s just common courtesy if you’re driving someone’s car around for 2 weeks you’d think you’d put gas back in it before returning it. Bet her cheap ass would if it were a rental to avoid their surcharges
Early onset dementia maybe?
She’s just rude I’ve decided.
Wasn’t raised right 🤷🏼♀️
Does she drink?
Yes Beringer red moscato and fruit punch apparently
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A lot?
She’s been working remotely so this is the second time this year she’s come for 2 weeks at a time...maybe I’m just noticing things about her because this is the most time we’ve spent together. But I’m starting to feel it’s intentional at this point.
Another thing.
My husband gives her a car to drive so she doesn’t have to rent one and has the freedom to go where she wants... and she stays with their dad so she doesn’t have hotel costs.
She comes to my house every afternoon/evening to see the girls and I cook or order dinner every effing night. Offers to do dinner, but doesn’t. Offers to pick up stuff, but doesn’t. Comes for my daughter’s (her only niece) birthday empty-handed. (She’s spoiled enough, but STILL! I would never)
Then she asks my husband to drop her off at the airport so she doesn’t have to Uber and she leaves his car for him with an empty tank. Like can’t even fill the tank back up where she got it!
I’m like dis bish wild 😂
Just be thankful it’s two weeks out of the year
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Two weeks too long.
Its the equivalent of running into someone you know and exchanging the whole "lets hang out" "yes we absolutely must, soon!" even though you both have no intention of doing that.
I’m getting annoyed
Now I’m like I don’t want to cook dinner for this bish again, but she’s there so I kind of have to. I wasn’t raised like that
I mean is it a hill you want to die on? Can you ask him never to let her stay over again until that behavior is fixed?
No, she is only here a few more days...I’ll be over it in a week or so. I’m just amping myself up by acknowledging it at the moment 😅
She did this shit last time! Well, she only offered to pick up dinner once last time actually, but all the other behaviors were the same. I never said anything, but when he complained to me that she left his car with the gas light on we agreed we weren’t going to do this again. He did call her out on that, to which she said “sorry, I ran out of time” and this time around he initially told her he wouldn’t have a car for her but he caved and she promised she’d put gas in it this time.
Obviously we’re not that hard up that we need her to fill up our tanks, but for fucks sake, it’s just common courtesy if you’re driving someone’s car around for 2 weeks you’d think you’d put gas back in it before returning it. Bet her cheap ass would if it were a rental to avoid their surcharges
Early onset dementia maybe?
She’s just rude I’ve decided.
Wasn’t raised right 🤷🏼♀️
Does she drink?
Yes Beringer red moscato and fruit punch apparently
A lot?
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Idk what’s considered a lot
2-3 glasses a night I think
I didn’t grow up drinking with meals, etc so idk what’s considered normal by most
yo bribri hit us with her chart so we can read this ho to filth
Lmao k hold on
I gotchu
Don’t know her birth time
yo bribri hit us with her chart so we can read this ho to filth
Lmao k hold on
I gotchu
Don’t know her birth time
im half tempted to say this sounds like a realllllly badly aspected libra placement 😬
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Brace yourself
This is like a bad bad train wreck
Maybe all that Aries is basically just like a bad aspected Libra
Taurus Mars people also 😒
Not easy for me
She really doesn’t seem like a Taurus Mars though honestly she just comes across VERY Aries
All talk, no action.
My Aries sister in law is here visiting.
...
You re a Sag, you're nothing compared to an Aries.
Just be thankful you breathe the same air she does
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Lmao true
How could I make such a pleb mistake
GUESS WHAT
IM MAKING CHILI
Unbelievable 🤣
She’s been working remotely so this is the second time this year she’s come for 2 weeks at a time...maybe I’m just noticing things about her because this is the most time we’ve spent together. But I’m starting to feel it’s intentional at this point.
Another thing.
My husband gives her a car to drive so she doesn’t have to rent one and has the freedom to go where she wants... and she stays with their dad so she doesn’t have hotel costs.
She comes to my house every afternoon/evening to see the girls and I cook or order dinner every effing night. Offers to do dinner, but doesn’t. Offers to pick up stuff, but doesn’t. Comes for my daughter’s (her only niece) birthday empty-handed. (She’s spoiled enough, but STILL! I would never)
Then she asks my husband to drop her off at the airport so she doesn’t have to Uber and she leaves his car for him with an empty tank. Like can’t even fill the tank back up where she got it!
I’m like dis bish wild 😂
Sounds like she’s comfortable being spoiled by her family and doesn’t see anything wrong with what she’s doing because it’s just accepted amongst family.
I don’t know if it’s intentional, you’d be able to sense that yourself so you may be right.
I think she doesn’t get called out on what she does tho, so maybe do it openly and without seeming harsh so it’s not turned around on you. Instead come home and don’t start dinner and when someone asks....just let them know that she said at 1:00 pm that she was making that nights dinner and direct them to her. Once she drops the ball and hasn’t prepared or anything and it’s known.....then you step in and figure it out and make sure you openly say to her “this hasn’t been the first time...if it’s too much pressure for you, I’d rather you not offer to make dinner so I can plan our night better”.
This way you’re making an example and setting a boundary.
“Mmmm Air, my favorite “
I’d text back:
That’ll be awesome if you could but if you don’t organise anything let me know so I can get it sorted.
She’s your sis in law, you should be able to talk to her directly, if any offence is taken too bad, you both deal with it and move on. You married her brother not her!
“Mmmm Air, my favorite “
🤣
She’s been working remotely so this is the second time this year she’s come for 2 weeks at a time...maybe I’m just noticing things about her because this is the most time we’ve spent together. But I’m starting to feel it’s intentional at this point.
Another thing.
My husband gives her a car to drive so she doesn’t have to rent one and has the freedom to go where she wants... and she stays with their dad so she doesn’t have hotel costs.
She comes to my house every afternoon/evening to see the girls and I cook or order dinner every effing night. Offers to do dinner, but doesn’t. Offers to pick up stuff, but doesn’t. Comes for my daughter’s (her only niece) birthday empty-handed. (She’s spoiled enough, but STILL! I would never)
Then she asks my husband to drop her off at the airport so she doesn’t have to Uber and she leaves his car for him with an empty tank. Like can’t even fill the tank back up where she got it!
I’m like dis bish wild 😂
Sounds like she’s comfortable being spoiled by her family and doesn’t see anything wrong with what she’s doing because it’s just accepted amongst family.
I don’t know if it’s intentional, you’d be able to sense that yourself so you may be right.
I think she doesn’t get called out on what she does tho, so maybe do it openly and without seeming harsh so it’s not turned around on you. Instead come home and don’t start dinner and when someone asks....just let them know that she said at 1:00 pm that she was making that nights dinner and direct them to her. Once she drops the ball and hasn’t prepared or anything and it’s known.....then you step in and figure it out and make sure you openly say to her “this hasn’t been the first time...if it’s too much pressure for you, I’d rather you not offer to make dinner so I can plan our night better”.
This way you’re making an example and setting a boundary.
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Thank you 🙏🏻
What’s odd to me is she really isn’t spoiled. Their whole family is actually kind of icky and tacky about money and “favors”
Like their dad will order pizza while she’s here visiting and ask her for money...
And same with their mom. She’ll make a big meal and invite everyone to eat and then be like “you gonna give me some money for groceries?”
So idk if she just noticed I’m not like that so she’s taking advantage of it or what
Well my husband called her out while we were eating the chili
It was mad awkward 😅
He’s been ragging on her all night
i can't get along with my own aries SIL
but that's coz when i give her stuff or let her borrow stuff,
she tends to give them away to other people like some re-gift
who does that?
anyway, i'd probably just be genuinely curious and ask her:
"why you always offer dinner but no dinner ever shows up?"
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My Aries sister in law is here visiting.
We only see her once a year, so I’m not getting wound up over anything she says or does...and besides we do get along fine honestly... just trying to understand this behavior.
Anyway...on four separate occasions now she has texted me midday and asked if I’d like her to take care of dinner. I’m like that would be awesome! Then I get home and she’s there but hasn’t picked anything up, hasn’t made or ordered anything and acts as if she never offered. Like doesn’t even acknowledge that she didn’t follow through with her offer.
So, I just figure it out and don’t say anything cause I don’t want to make anyone feel bad.
I certainly don’t expect her to take care of our dinner, and I’m happy to have her, it’s just when she offers I don’t plan anything and then I’m scrambling last minute to figure it out after I worked all day.
At this point should I just say no thanks when she offers and make my own plans? I don’t want to seem rude...