unstable aries women ?

Hi, I am an aries woman and my love life is so impossible ! Like most of you I get intense and passionate quickly but it always dies at some point. I never had a boyfriend for more than 5 months. I found them so boring! When I decide I'm done with a guy I don't find him attractive anymore and I dont come back.

My very good friend is a virgo and we kind of dated for a month over a year ago but suddenly after a month I felt empty and weird and stopped it..He never understood what happened and he took it hard.. he really likes me and he doesnt judge and is always there for me.
but at different moments, when I wasn't in obsessed with any man, we would have sex and cuddle again which never happens with guys I already had normally. At the moment I'm having strong feelings for him but I'm affraid to act on them because I'm scared my feelings will change again and I don't want to hurt him again and lose that friendship for good. Sometimes I feel like I am not made for love.

Would you still take a chance at dating him if you were me ?

Aww i feel you. It seems us Aries ladies struggle in the love dept for so many diff reasons. Listen to Janet jacksons song lets wait a while, I can relate to that song.

Posted by vanou
Hi, I am an aries woman and my love life is so impossible ! Like most of you I get intense and passionate quickly but it always dies at some point. I never had a boyfriend for more than 5 months. I found them so boring! When I decide I'm done with a guy I don't find him attractive anymore and I dont come back.

My very good friend is a virgo and we kind of dated for a month over a year ago but suddenly after a month I felt empty and weird and stopped it..He never understood what happened and he took it hard.. he really likes me and he doesnt judge and is always there for me.
but at different moments, when I wasn't in obsessed with any man, we would have sex and cuddle again which never happens with guys I already had normally. At the moment I'm having strong feelings for him but I'm affraid to act on them because I'm scared my feelings will change again and I don't want to hurt him again and lose that friendship for good. Sometimes I feel like I am not made for love.

Would you still take a chance at dating him if you were me ?

Also try your hardest to slow down, which is so hard for us since were so passionate.

I can be slow with him because I don't tell him when I'm in those periods of liking him a lot and he's always around when I want him to be. I just can't imagine him being with another girl, It breaks me ahaha.. At the same time I dated many guys over the years ahah.. How selfish of me.

I often imagine myself with different guys having different lives but it always come back to him until I meet a new guy who I think is awesome and get bored of him or pushed away. I like the adventure and the chasing! But ultimately it seems he would be my long term real deal. I showed him a message I sent to a friend he lost because of me saying ' I'm gonna mary him when I'm ready and stop being stupid'
He found that very cute but didnt push or try to talk about relationships. I think he realizes how I am and wait.

Virgo and Aries come from completely different universes! And if you only lasted a month when you dated initially, I don't see it getting very far past that second time round.

And from my experiences, when I've been worried about hurting someone it's because deep down, I know I will hurt them! I know after some time (not very long) I will start thinking they're lame, clingy, weak and pathetic for being into me.

Us Aries like our men to be a very delicate balance of 'I'm so into you' and 'detached and unavailable' to keep us on our toes and keep things interesting. Like... We hate it when they're love struck puppy dogs who Hang on our every word, but if they don't, we're all like 'but why the hell isn't he like that? I'm awesome!!!' and then we become the clingy needy ones who are stuck somewhere between a warrior and a two year old throwing a tantrum because they're not behaving the way we expect them to! we're a messed up bunch of girls I tell you. We want to be in control but we also secretly long for someone strong enough to take control of us... We dont like it when guys let us be in control and we think they're weak and pathetic, but then god help the guy who thinks he can control us! Hahahaha! We're so fucked up hey!

I've just given up on relationships completely. I really irritate myself when I get excited over someone and I also don't like what a bitch I become when someone likes me more than I like them. Besides... It's 2012... We don't actually need to have relationships these days. Ive been single for about four or five years now and I'm far happier and stronger by myself. I'll be happy if I can just get regular great sex from the same person and keep my emotions out of it. I just want to get dirty... But still keep it tidy! Hahaha..... Walking contradiction in need of a few delicate balancing acts!

I would date a virgo in a minute if he was stable, grounded and honest. . I like their personalities, I think anyone can sustain a relationship if they want to.

Posted by lotuslily


And from my experiences, when I've been worried about hurting someone it's because deep down, I know I will hurt them! I know after some time (not very long) I will start thinking they're lame, clingy, weak and pathetic for being into me.

Oh my god yes ! I am always like that !!! I try to think it's immaturity and I'll grow out of it as I get older. This isn't sane ahahah. It's a shame knowing someone is good for you but not trusting ourselves in long term !

Posted by bkbella86
I would date a virgo in a minute if he was stable, grounded and honest. . I like their personalities, I think anyone can sustain a relationship if they want to.

that's what I want to believe in !

"I have learned to embrace my —getting bored?? type of thing. I usually just slow down and embrace the person I am with. Most of the time, I need time to myself because Aries are passionate and loving people that give 110% in their relationships."

I agree with this. I don't believe Aries women are unstable, just enthusiastically, energetically, passionate.....like a kid with a new shiney toy 🙂 Or in my case......a whoopie cushion! I like the whole keep me guessing thing for a while, but if it's not going anywhere except into "Gamesville"......I'm out.

Posted by bkbella86
I would date a virgo in a minute if he was stable, grounded and honest. . I like their personalities, I think anyone can sustain a relationship if they want to.

I can't do it! I freak out and literally start hyperventilating if I think something is headed toward a relationship. That's why I like the Leo I am up to no good with. I don't feel like saying it all again but I posted the story in the Aries girl Taurus guy thread earlier today (if you absolutely have to know, it's in there... Haha) ... It's the only way to get me to not freak out and wind up in some form of trusting intimate partnership with a male! Day by day, one step at a time and staying in the now. Not talking or even thinking about the future. And having total freedom and openness and honesty!

You're just not ready for a commitment and that's totally fine. I feel ya, 'cuz I'm Aries sun and moon. The moon got me hot and cold over people but the Pisces in Venus said, stay awhile , it might be worth it. Anyway, it's a push/pull, constantly wondering if I'm insane whenever I got into a relationship. Sometimes I'd stay too long because I was over compensating, thinking I was being too hasty in dumping the jerk (which I wasn't). Still, I think once you mature a bit and see the value of a sustained relationship, you'll be willing to do what it takes to make it work and us Aries are freaking incredible on keeping a relationship alive. The spirit never dies, it's just a tweak in your perception of what you want infused with a bit of reality combined with meeting the right person that makes it work.

Hey, I'd rather be this way than fall for the first loser that came along. 😛 Know thyself first! When young, make mistakes and experience life to the fullest so you'll never feel like you're ever settling for someone.

+1 mistery!

Posted by Mistery
You're just not ready for a commitment and that's totally fine. I feel ya, 'cuz I'm Aries sun and moon. The moon got me hot and cold over people but the Pisces in Venus said, stay awhile , it might be worth it. Anyway, it's a push/pull, constantly wondering if I'm insane whenever I got into a relationship. Sometimes I'd stay too long because I was over compensating, thinking I was being too hasty in dumping the jerk (which I wasn't). Still, I think once you mature a bit and see the value of a sustained relationship, you'll be willing to do what it takes to make it work and us Aries are freaking incredible on keeping a relationship alive. The spirit never dies, it's just a tweak in your perception of what you want infused with a bit of reality combined with meeting the right person that makes it work.

Hey, I'd rather be this way than fall for the first loser that came along. 😛 Know thyself first! When young, make mistakes and experience life to the fullest so you'll never feel like you're ever settling for someone.

I think it's that, I really hope so. After seeing my friends a few times times during the last 2 weeks and having fun I woke up this morning empty again ahahah

"Hi, I am an aries woman and my love life is so impossible ! Like most of you I get intense and passionate quickly but it always dies at some point. I never had a boyfriend for more than 5 months. I found them so boring! When I decide I'm done with a guy I don't find him attractive anymore and I dont come back."

Been there, done that. I would date a guy for a month and I'd be bored...! The worst part was I ususally broke up with them when they really began to become serious...because for me, things were good being unserious and fooling around. There's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with getting bored. You are an aries woman. You need to find a guy that makes you forget your name just by being around him!! You want vuma! You want excitement, you crave new experiences, you wana feel an attraction that knocks your socks off. The downside is that the kind of connection you crave can only last a for a wee bit...and then you begin noticing someone's faults, someone's weaknesses, and you are gone!

What does this mean for you?? You are simply not ready for the whole relationship thing...
wait. how old ru?lol

Virgo guy is a dear friend of yours...and he's your comfort zone...that's why you always go back to him...but you are not ready for what he wants you to be ready for....an actual relationship. And I believe you need to hold back...go out there, date, have open relationships if you want, but there will be a point where you'll realise that home is worth so much more than all these flighty connections that occur with other guys. You need to experience it all for yourself aries, to grow...and see that, just because your heart isn't booming like crazy for someone after dating them for 5 months does not mean you walk away...you want something strong, a person who will stand by you no matter what...until then, you are not ready. You've gotta be honest with yourself about what you want at the moment. And you've gotta be honest with virgo too.

I completly agree with you leila! This is kind of what it is right now, an open relationship. He knows how I am and he says he can handle it. I am not ready to commit yet but he is very dear to me. I just wish he was more outgoing and loud ahaha.
Yesterday I had a little crisis on facebook chat about this last girl he dated, I am stil ashamed of it hahaa.. But he said he liked it and it shows I like him. I am mad at this idea of him getting with another girl but I am not able to be with him ahaha... I will eventually be ready I guess.

You dont know how lucky you are of having someone like the Virgo, incredibly patient and capable not to think of himself the whole time (unlike yourself)people like him are rare these days, cherish him and respect him for who he is, instead of selfishly wishing he became more like yourself (loud and outgoing)

I understand the stage in life you're going through, you're probably young, wild, blah blah, not judging you for that, in fact I always encourage people to make the most of it!

But you should keep in mind that Aries women dont necessarily get more serious about love as time passes, and even you having your wild years right now are no guarantee for maturity afterwards. My mother is an Aries (divorced from my aqua dad like 9 years ago) and she was pretty wild when young, the problem is that although she was always a great mother, she wasnt faithful to my dad and would act in this sense like a 15-year old when she was around 45.

Thanks 🙂 Im doing great, working/studying hard but also partying and having fun just as hard 😄, you too?

Yeah, no worries..I never said all Aries women were like that, just trying to give a different perspective 🙂

Hmmm remembering back that far. I do recall breaking a few hearts but I also had my heart broken. Two guys died on me in accidents. Early days in the relationship but they were taken from me before i had time to fall out of love. Now that was hard. Anyway you will settle with one eventually cos you will know when it is right. I was married for 15 years, had the family etc. He was Leo, very strong man but inthe end I left because i didnt want to live my life his way. It worked fine while having kids cos he was a great provider and i was to busy to be bothered making to many big decisions so just let him do it but ofcourse kids grew i got myself back and needed my independance again. Havnt looked back.

Posted by NZaries
Hmmm remembering back that far. I do recall breaking a few hearts but I also had my heart broken. Two guys died on me in accidents. Early days in the relationship but they were taken from me before i had time to fall out of love. Now that was hard. Anyway you will settle with one eventually cos you will know when it is right. I was married for 15 years, had the family etc. He was Leo, very strong man but inthe end I left because i didnt want to live my life his way. It worked fine while having kids cos he was a great provider and i was to busy to be bothered making to many big decisions so just let him do it but ofcourse kids grew i got myself back and needed my independance again. Havnt looked back.

Leos are great dads hey? Very good providers and will go to the ends of the planet to provide for their kids. MY dad's a Leo... but!!! I don't know how my mother puts up with him because as a man -- he would drive me nuts!!! IT is his way or the highway and she's kinda treated like a house hold employee by him!

I get along with Leos very easily but I can see how Aries and Leo as partners would clash a lot in a romantic partnership -- especially Aries woman and Leo man! Although both forgive very easily and don't hold grudges... my dad and I do have noisy disputes when we don't see eye to eye on something! Don't even want to imagine what it would be like to have to live with a Leo husband for the rest of my days!

Posted by lotuslily
Virgo and Aries come from completely different universes! And if you only lasted a month when you dated initially, I don't see it getting very far past that second time round.

And from my experiences, when I've been worried about hurting someone it's because deep down, I know I will hurt them! I know after some time (not very long) I will start thinking they're lame, clingy, weak and pathetic for being into me.

Us Aries like our men to be a very delicate balance of 'I'm so into you' and 'detached and unavailable' to keep us on our toes and keep things interesting. Like... We hate it when they're love struck puppy dogs who Hang on our every word, but if they don't, we're all like 'but why the hell isn't he like that? I'm awesome!!!' and then we become the clingy needy ones who are stuck somewhere between a warrior and a two year old throwing a tantrum because they're not behaving the way we expect them to! we're a messed up bunch of girls I tell you. We want to be in control but we also secretly long for someone strong enough to take control of us... We dont like it when guys let us be in control and we think they're weak and pathetic, but then god help the guy who thinks he can control us! Hahahaha! We're so fucked up hey!

I've just given up on relationships completely. I really irritate myself when I get excited over someone and I also don't like what a bitch I become when someone likes me more than I like them. Besides... It's 2012... We don't actually need to have relationships these days. Ive been single for about four or five years now and I'm far happier and stronger by myself. I'll be happy if I can just get regular great sex from the same person and keep my emotions out of it. I just want to get dirty... But still keep it tidy! Hahaha..... Walking contradiction in need of a few delicate balancing acts!

I must say I completely agree with you!! I am exactly like that!
Once I'm in a relationship..I began to feel suffocated!! I haven't found that balance YET...still trying lol but man, the way you're talking..we're like twins!! hehe