What is necessary to keep an Aries woman in a Relationship / not making her leave immediately

Hey,

I have an aries woman now and I am wondering what needs to be done in order not to leave or keep her happy. Because she craves instant gratification and excitement. That makes me not trust her, I have the feeling that she can leave me any time any second without hesitations if the thrill is gone. She is above average hot both physically and charactically so she can have any guy everywhere. And the chances are high because I am a taurus. What is it, that makes you stay with a man? She already senses that I am getting more and suspicious and detach more and more emotionally. I need to figure this out.

Thank you for your help,

Parkourler

Above average hot!!!

Heard something like this for the first time

Things needed to be done:

Give unconditional love

Trust her

Be loyal to her

Be caring

OP if she loves you she wont be leaving you...And if she leaves you it wasnt real love in the first place!

You cannot make someone stay in love... That will be manipulation! Love cant be manipulated...Love just happens and stays forever!

Aw this makes me sad.

The best thing you can do is just being yourself.

When I was dating I encountered a lot of men who would do whatever I asked and willing to give me whatever I wanted. This terrified me and turned me off. I didn't want someone to do anything to keep me. I wanted someone with enough sense and personal autonomy to decide for themselves what was best. Especially if I lacked foresight (which Aries often do hah) I got an Aqua who took this to the most extreme 😆 😆....seriouslly...he won't do anything I suggest because he wants EVERY SINGLE DECISION to be his very own. So I should have been careful what I wished for.

So number 1: DO NOT do anything to keep her happy. That's not realistic and it will create resentment in you.

If she has never given you any reason to mistrust her, I wouldn't be suspicious of her leaving. Allow her to have freedom but speak up if something truly bothers you. I do a lot of things on my own and the Aqua will let me know when he's not fully happy about something. If it's a bar or something he doesn't like he'll say "I don't really like that place because of XYZ so I want you to be careful and safe. Have fun." He's not telling me I can't do anything (autonomy) but it makes me start to think and if I think he has a valid concern I might decide not to go and if I feel it would be disrespectful to our relationship, I definitely won't go.

People don't want to feel oppressed in a relationship but we do want someone who respects and takes the relationship seriously and cares about our well-being. So if you have some valid concerns...bring them up. Don't stay silent just to keep her happy. She will respect you a lot more and realize that you care about her.

Dont get me wrong I am not needy nor a couch potato. I just have the feeling that I need to invest if I want to hold her. I know that she is willing to leave any second as soon as she gets bored without hesitation. I dont

want to be her entertainer all the timeand I dont want to put up with that feeling of insecurity. I cant help it,

I cannot trust her. And she knows it. I need to resolve that, before it becomes a major issue. Maybe she fbmaterial not relationshipmaterial.

But a few points have already made.

- Dont be boring. check. I have many hobbies and several social circles.

- Dont be a nice guy as in do anything for her. I wont do that, I ll keep her on her toes and stand my ground.

- Give her space and her freedom.

Hmm.. be yourself 🙂

And, be straightforward, sure about what you want..

personally, I am very boring person - I am at home with "boring" people.. so, I can say that boring is not a criteria...

And yeah, I agree.. stand your ground, be assertive, tell her what you want, keep her on her toes - keep it all simple.

Posted by Parkourler

Dont get me wrong I am not needy nor a couch potato. I just have the feeling that I need to invest if I want to hold her. I know that she is willing to leave any second as soon as she gets bored without hesitation. I dont

want to be her entertainer all the timeand I dont want to put up with that feeling of insecurity. I cant help it,

I cannot trust her. And she knows it. I need to resolve that, before it becomes a major issue. Maybe she fbmaterial not relationshipmaterial.

But a few points have already made.

- Dont be boring. check. I have many hobbies and several social circles.

- Dont be a nice guy as in do anything for her. I wont do that, I ll keep her on her toes and stand my ground.

- Give her space and her freedom.

that's a possibility maybe she's not relationship material

Posted by Parkourler

Dont get me wrong I am not needy nor a couch potato. I just have the feeling that I need to invest if I want to hold her. I know that she is willing to leave any second as soon as she gets bored without hesitation. I dont

want to be her entertainer all the timeand I dont want to put up with that feeling of insecurity. I cant help it,

I cannot trust her. And she knows it. I need to resolve that, before it becomes a major issue. Maybe she fbmaterial not relationshipmaterial.

But a few points have already made.

- Dont be boring. check. I have many hobbies and several social circles.

- Dont be a nice guy as in do anything for her. I wont do that, I ll keep her on her toes and stand my ground.

- Give her space and her freedom.

Kinda sounds like you're not relationship material. You sound insecure and paranoid.

No I can tell the difference between my gutfeeling and brain f u ck. No paranoia. Why should I be nice too her, when I feel that way? I know she left guys immediately in the past for pretty funny reasons, she ends a lot of things within seconds if she doesnt like it anymore. A friendship, a clubmembership, moving to another city etc. I will sit her down and talk about it, gotta be diplomatic c though, because I am pretty sure everybody would be offended hearing that kind of concerns. Anyway I ll f u ck the s h it out of her just in case.

Posted by Parkourler

Airesnina, your guy is the real life version of Leonard Hofstadter.

No I can tell the difference between my gutfeeling and brain f u ck. No paranoia. Why should I be nice too her, when I feel that way? I know she left guys immediately in the past for pretty funny reasons, she ends a lot of things within seconds if she doesnt like it anymore. A friendship, a clubmembership, moving to another city etc. I will sit her down and talk about it, gotta be diplomatic c though, because I am pretty sure everybody would be offended hearing that kind of concerns. Anyway I ll f u ck the s h it out of her just in case.

She sounds like a Venus in Aqua...

(Or, maybe Pisces)

i get bored and if my guy stops trying and shit gets dull and boring. When my guy stops making effort, I think he is losing interest and I start to detach. When he lies. When the relationship isn't Progressing.

Posted by newlove
Above average hot!!!

Heard something like this for the first time

Yeah, this made me cold as soon as I read it.

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Posted by newlove
Above average hot!!!

Heard something like this for the first time

Yeah, this made me cold as soon as I read it.

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I have heard Hot, super hot, Friggin Hot, average looking, above average lookin

Above average hot! I actually wanna know what it means...like she is 50% hot & 50% above average!

Lol

Posted by Parkourler

Hey,

I have an aries woman now and I am wondering what needs to be done in order not to leave or keep her happy. Because she craves instant gratification and excitement. That makes me not trust her, I have the feeling that she can leave me any time any second without hesitations if the thrill is gone. She is above average hot both physically and charactically so she can have any guy everywhere. And the chances are high because I am a taurus. What is it, that makes you stay with a man? She already senses that I am getting more and suspicious and detach more and more emotionally. I need to figure this out.

Thank you for your help,

Parkourler

stop having this insecurity! this whole insecurity and camouflaged jealousy will make her run for life! get in touch with your inner self, that way you can be confident and warm and fun. and make plans with your friends every weekend, I mean plans like places, clubs, theatres with a group of people who respect and like you, that way she will feel your importance. be generous. don't plan movies or any other one on ones for a while because she can sniff out the insecurity too soon. and take up a fun hobby with her, maybe tennis or trekking or something diverse from your routines. don't be lazy and stay in or be stingy that kills the vibe.

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Posted by newlove

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Posted by newlove
Above average hot!!!

Heard something like this for the first time

Yeah, this made me cold as soon as I read it.

I have heard Hot, super hot, Friggin Hot, average looking, above average lookin

Above average hot! I actually wanna know what it means...like she is 50% hot & 50% above average!

Lol

8-8.5/10 coz passing at my school used to be 7.5 and 9 is to high to have the word average attached to it

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Wait..what? 8.5/10 is above average hot?

Did you mean it or i misinterpreted? o_O

Aries women are full of energy. If you cannot keep up with her speed, she will leave you in the dust and have no trouble doing so. Aries like challenges, fun, something to express their energy with.

why is above average hot worth thinking about`? I could ve writen any of newloves expressions same meaning.

And I am not insecure I already said she left several times important things in a heartbeat like jobs, cities, boyfriends etc.

I will not confront her, she might perceive me as needy. I ll continue to show her my true self, if she stays great if she leaves there are other women out there. I ll take the risk, lets see what happens.

You sound like she's already leaving you behind. Dude, you gotta be stronger than her. You're already behind the curve with this help me post. Better just walk away and save both of you the wasted time.

Find you a nice looking libra who will cling to you and make you feel nice and secure.

Yes now I am excited to find out if my gut feeling was right, just because you annoy me with you accusing of being insecure, I understand though you must think I am afraid to loose her. Never had that strong feeling with a woman, that she could be gone any second, although I v had impulsive nomad woman before.

I am already preparing like hell.

You sound like you wanna win something or as if this is a battle of sorts.

I'm getting the vibe you Don't even like her much. And u just wanna Win.

It's sad.

Hm your concerns tell me that you two don't click naturally.

If both of you are meant to be then everything will fall into place. Doesnt mean you wont have a rocky road from time to time. But if the chemistry between you truly fits then you'll feel safe and comfortable together.

The thing is my cap hubby had similar concerns in the beginning. Because I told him that I left dates/guys within minutes when I felt that I'm wasting my precious time. But with him I never had a single moment where I felt like wasting my time. Why? Because he reassured me that he's in for the real deal from the moment we started dating.

Consistency is key.

I wouldn't let the stereotypical impulsivity and desire for instant gratification of Aries throw you awry. The loyalty and devotion of this sign is fierce, but you must trust them. I know trust is earned, but think about if she is doing anything to make you distrust her, or are you just being insecure?

If you want to keep your Aries woman, constant fear of her abandonment will likely send her packing as I am pretty sure not many of them want to deal with that. It's really important you keep this in check. It's understandable if she's a knockout, but also a bit discriminatory. Thinking she will leave you for the next thrill because she's so infectiously attractive is pretty much the same as saying that she must be a bimbo because she is so hot.

Let her actions define her demeanor, not her looks. I think this will help greatly if you would like to go the distance with an Aries woman.

Posted by Crabra
I wouldn't let the stereotypical impulsivity and desire for instant gratification of Aries throw you awry. The loyalty and devotion of this sign is fierce, but you must trust them. I know trust is earned, but think about if she is doing anything to make you distrust her, or are you just being insecure?

If you want to keep your Aries woman, constant fear of her abandonment will likely send her packing as I am pretty sure not many of them want to deal with that. It's really important you keep this in check. It's understandable if she's a knockout, but also a bit discriminatory. Thinking she will leave you for the next thrill because she's so infectiously attractive is pretty much the same as saying that she must be a bimbo because she is so hot.

Let her actions define her demeanor, not her looks. I think this will help greatly if you would like to go the distance with an Aries woman.

Finally somebody who understands me. I reflected really hard whether its insecurity or not, now I am very sure thats my gut feeling I get from her actions and her attitude. I wasnt aware that "above average hot" has a slight discriminatory tone, I wasnt aware of that, thank you for explaining. Now I understand why everybody is picking on this. Discrimination and superstition was never my intention.

Like I said, Lets see what happens, she will stay or not. That s her choice. Dont want to force her to stay.

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Posted by Crabra
I wouldn't let the stereotypical impulsivity and desire for instant gratification of Aries throw you awry. The loyalty and devotion of this sign is fierce, but you must trust them. I know trust is earned, but think about if she is doing anything to make you distrust her, or are you just being insecure?

If you want to keep your Aries woman, constant fear of her abandonment will likely send her packing as I am pretty sure not many of them want to deal with that. It's really important you keep this in check. It's understandable if she's a knockout, but also a bit discriminatory. Thinking she will leave you for the next thrill because she's so infectiously attractive is pretty much the same as saying that she must be a bimbo because she is so hot.

Let her actions define her demeanor, not her looks. I think this will help greatly if you would like to go the distance with an Aries woman.

Finally somebody who understands me. I reflected really hard whether its insecurity or not, now I am very sure thats my gut feeling I get from her actions and her attitude. I wasnt aware that "above average hot" has a slight discriminatory tone, I wasnt aware of that, thank you for explaining. Now I understand why everybody is picking on this. Discrimination and superstition was never my intention.

Like I said, Lets see what happens, she will stay or not. That s her choice. Dont want to force her to stay.

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Discriminatory, and also slightly prejudice too. A lot of people think really attractive women have it easy, but these two things they deal with is arguably just as much, if not more than everyone else. This doesn't mean to not listen to your gut, or throw red flags into the wind, but just try to recognize behavioral patterns that no one would find acceptable, not just you.

But you are right that you cannot force someone to stay, and even if you could, would you really want that? All you can do is charm her panties off, make her laugh, and make her feel beautiful to you. If she bales after that, there are plenty of other women out there who will appreciate that.

I only mentioned it, because I think that s a reason to put in more effort, because you dont see people like her everyday and I thought because she has ore choices she might leave even faster. I think thats a misunderstanding. Above average hot, was a bad choice of words thats all She is loyal we`re getting closer everytime we meet, but she expects me not to be boring and lazy, thats clear .Anyway, don`t bother posting guys and gals I have my answers and know what to do.Thank you all for you honest feedback.

Attention! That will keep us! Once we start feeling like we are not number one and ignored.... we are totally different women! We need attention and we will be the best spouse ever... no attention and we start thinking and tripping! Gl

as an aries, i do admit to having a short attention span and getting bored quickly. but what i resent most is when i get questioned about my loyalty or when i see insecurity. the more someone tries to get me to prove my feelings to them, the more stubborn i will be about detaching. you are right she can leave you anytime but so can anyone. the more you think about it, the more you'll make it worse on yourself so it's less about doing things to keep her and more about trusting that you guys are together now for a reason and focusing on that.