@LibraLovesHim
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What would you do?
Should I Trust His Apology or Move On
Based on his behavior and inconsistent actions, it is important to consider if his words match his actions. If he has shown disrespect and you feel hurt, it may be best to prioritize your feelings and boundaries. Trust your intuition and assess whether this relationship aligns with your values and needs before making a decision.
Me:
Sun 26°55' Libra
Moon 20°56' Capricorn
Mercury 14°28' Scorpio
Venus 04°46' Libra
Mars 25°27' Virgo
Jupiter 07°38' Aquarius
Saturn 26°48' Scorpio
Uranus 15°21' Sagittarius
Neptune 01°14' Capricorn
Pluto 04°16' Scorpio
Him:
Sun 00°52' Aries
Moon 01°19' Aries
Mercury 17°58' Aries
Venus 21°04' Aries
Mars 04°37' Taurus
Jupiter 09°06' Aquarius
Saturn 27°55' Scorpio
Uranus 17°58' Sagittarius
Neptune 03°33' Capricorn
Pluto 04°06' Scorpio
SO.MUCH.ARIES.
Yeah, lots of aries in his chart + flirts in front of you... Run.
MOOD!
Posted by Libramiss
That's a lot of aries lol. He sounds like a really immature aries. Was he sincere in his apologies?That's incredible disrespectful what he did. I would feel humiliated and hurt if a man did that infront of my friends. Honestly doesn't seem like he cares about you that much.
It seems like it, until today he is saying he feels guilty. Ive just resorted to saying I apologise I shouldt make him feel guilty because I have some sort of expectations...he said no I am right I should have expectations considering our situation. I didnt respond. At 1am hes sent a sad face. I dunno. The whole scenario is about learning about myself also. Something in me watches people-sees behaviour that I wouldnt exhibit, and im so easy to say fuck it. esp with relationships.
Maybe I have unreasonable standards. But Im also so not about to make excuses for anyone. ARGH!
If you don't want to deal with him resorting to immature BS for attention then I would back off.
Maybe I have unreasonable standards. But Im also so not about to make excuses for anyone. ARGH!
so just what if
- you give him another shot and of course you will be watching him all the time ready and waiting for him to make his next huge stupid move lol - or maybe not ? even though he sounds a bit immature and corny - if he wants something (meaning you), then maybe he will ditch his stupidness and grow up ? or maybe not ?
- to me I think it's awesome the way you both worked this out - I mean at least he was humble enough to understand that his stupid move was upsetting - sometimes it's all in how you both work through things
- if you are still learning about you, then this is good practice no ? give him a short window to see what he's really got to show you and don't get sucked in until he either proves himself to be better or takes the dive
but you don't want to have to be his mother either ...
Posted by feby
So he texted you and asked where you were...you didn't answer and then he showed up and acted like that?
Hi no sorry if I wasn't clear here. I told him where I was and he came.
Posted by tcta
Maybe I have unreasonable standards. But Im also so not about to make excuses for anyone. ARGH!
so just what if
- you give him another shot and of course you will be watching him all the time ready and waiting for him to make his next huge stupid move lol - or maybe not ? even though he sounds a bit immature and corny - if he wants something (meaning you), then maybe he will ditch his stupidness and grow up ? or maybe not ?
- to me I think it's awesome the way you both worked this out - I mean at least he was humble enough to understand that his stupid move was upsetting - sometimes it's all in how you both work through things
- if you are still learning about you, then this is good practice no ? give him a short window to see what he's really got to show you and don't get sucked in until he either proves himself to be better or takes the dive
I think you're right. A short window for sure. I've backed right off for now. Just disappointed but I guess as my friend has said everyone deserves a second chance. I will just see what pans out at least its early days and i'm not about to get all in my feelings if it doesn't work out.
I guess for now i'll take his comments for face value and see if his actions match.
Haha these fire signs boy are a work out. Always causing mischief.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Haha these fire signs boy are a work out. Always causing mischief.
Cheeky they are! I can play at that level also, but ultimately i'm not sure that it's productive in any way. Maybe i'll stick around and toy with it a little figure this one out. LOL.
Prob worth adding that he's told me his last 2 relationships ended because the girls cheated on them- and he gave them everything but it obv wasnt enough. So I dunno what he's thinking. Maybe he needs alot of validation-i'm not great at giving this. I feel corny. LOL. I should work on this part of me and warm up a little. Not necessarily for him, I mean in general. I think its a fault of mine.
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Prob worth adding that he's told me his last 2 relationships ended because the girls cheated on them- and he gave them everything but it obv wasnt enough. So I dunno what he's thinking. Maybe he needs alot of validation-i'm not great at giving this. I feel corny. LOL. I should work on this part of me and warm up a little. Not necessarily for him, I mean in general. I think its a fault of mine.
not
who determines what is "great" - you are you and stick to that until you know you, then if you don't like some parts of you, change those ... I'm not one to constantly compliment/validate either but my new friend is Scorpio and my previous Libra was like that but not as much as this one is - omg it just sounds so phony - f'ng relax and just chill and be yourself lol - if they don't like me the way I am tough sh it !
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Prob worth adding that he's told me his last 2 relationships ended because the girls cheated on them- and he gave them everything but it obv wasnt enough. So I dunno what he's thinking. Maybe he needs alot of validation-i'm not great at giving this. I feel corny. LOL. I should work on this part of me and warm up a little. Not necessarily for him, I mean in general. I think its a fault of mine.
Well alot of guys get cheated on too so how to valid your the good hearted person they should have in their life.
He sounds like an idiot
Watch his actions
Ignore his bullshit words
I think he sounds pretty immature... and as Aries can be some what childlike... and he has all of that Aries in his chart... it's likely this is how he is.... Implusive... selfish... immature... and if he is insecure as it sounds he may be he will do things like that for attention often. It may be that his impluse drove him to do it... but still doesnt excuse his behavior.
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Prob worth adding that he's told me his last 2 relationships ended because the girls cheated on them- and he gave them everything but it obv wasnt enough. So I dunno what he's thinking. Maybe he needs alot of validation-i'm not great at giving this. I feel corny. LOL. I should work on this part of me and warm up a little. Not necessarily for him, I mean in general. I think its a fault of mine.
I once had a friend who was dating an Aries and he would cheat on her often with women who would give him a lot of validation. She was very beautiful and I think it intimidated him (she was actually also a libra) so i believe the root of his cheating was a way of proving he was desirable ... and of course it kept her in this constant state of wondering what was wrong with her that he couldnt be happy with just her... which broke her self esteem and prevented her from seeing that she deserved better and i guess made him feel like the man... i say all this to say that i think for aries validation is important if they are insecure
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Prob worth adding that he's told me his last 2 relationships ended because the girls cheated on them- and he gave them everything but it obv wasnt enough. So I dunno what he's thinking. Maybe he needs alot of validation-i'm not great at giving this. I feel corny. LOL. I should work on this part of me and warm up a little. Not necessarily for him, I mean in general. I think its a fault of mine.I once had a friend who was dating an Aries and he would cheat on her often with women who would give him a lot of validation. She was very beautiful and I think it intimidated him (she was actually also a libra) so i believe the root of his cheating was a way of proving he was desirable ... and of course it kept her in this constant state of wondering what was wrong with her that he couldnt be happy with just her... which broke her self esteem and prevented her from seeing that she deserved better and i guess made him feel like the man... i say all this to say that i think for aries validation is important if they are insecure
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This sounds awful and excatly what I want to avoid 😢
Posted by LibraLovesHim
My friend says give him a chance, I dunno if I should just cut my losses now and leave it behind-like i've seen what he is now or is that being harsh? I kind of feel like I dont want to regret not leaving as soon as ive seen the signs. What would you do?He's 31, and i'm 31 on Thursday.
Is he into threesomes
Posted by LibraLovesHim
He texts everyday, i don't always respond right away as i'm busy but when i'm free i get back to him.The mofo starts flirting blatantly in front of my eyes!! I was like FTW! With his eyes his body language FULL ON! She was sat on a stool and he was so close to her at one point his leg was near enough between hers! All the while glancing over at me
He was gauging your interest since he's been going hard and your playing hard to get, stingy with the communication. He wanted to see if you'd get jealous...if you cared enough.
Also I'll point out that you two aren't in a monogamous committed relationship. Without a contract between you two he's free to flirt with, touch and fuck anyone else he chooses.
go with your gut. you're a smart woman so generally what it looks like is how it is. people generally let inhibitions go while drinking so this is actually great that you see him like this now not later down the line. you'll have to ask yourself: can I be with someone so flirtatious. there are people out there that are just general flirts but would never let it go further than harmless flirting and go home to ONE woman ever. if that's not the type of relationship you are comfortable with, I'd say he's probably not a good fit. so much Aries as someone said. a lot of me me look at me! I love Aries but the arrogance and selfishness some have can be very offputting. I think I did read that Aries Venus is generally faithful however. just needs attention.
Posted by LibraLovesHim
He texts everyday, i don't always respond right away as i'm busy but when i'm free i get back to him.The mofo starts flirting blatantly in front of my eyes!! I was like FTW! With his eyes his body language FULL ON! She was sat on a stool and he was so close to her at one point his leg was near enough between hers! All the while glancing over at me
He was gauging your interest since he's been going hard and your playing hard to get, stingy with the communication. He wanted to see if you'd get jealous...if you cared enough.
Also I'll point out that you two aren't in a monogamous committed relationship. Without a contract between you two he's free to flirt with, touch and fuck anyone else he chooses.
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No shit!
Posted by LibraLovesHim
He texts everyday, i don't always respond right away as i'm busy but when i'm free i get back to him.The mofo starts flirting blatantly in front of my eyes!! I was like FTW! With his eyes his body language FULL ON! She was sat on a stool and he was so close to her at one point his leg was near enough between hers! All the while glancing over at me
He was gauging your interest since he's been going hard and your playing hard to get, stingy with the communication. He wanted to see if you'd get jealous...if you cared enough.
Also I'll point out that you two aren't in a monogamous committed relationship. Without a contract between you two he's free to flirt with, touch and fuck anyone else he chooses.
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Here's me over here thinking I own the guy n everythin LOL
Posted by LibraLovesHim
My friend says give him a chance, I dunno if I should just cut my losses now and leave it behind-like i've seen what he is now or is that being harsh? I kind of feel like I dont want to regret not leaving as soon as ive seen the signs. What would you do?He's 31, and i'm 31 on Thursday.
Is he into threesomes
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Hmmmm havent asked...may suggest right enough...may aswell put all the cards on the table eh.
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So been seeing this Aries (21st March) past few weeks, yes we have been physical. He texts everyday, i don't always respond right away as i'm busy but when i'm free i get back to him.
So yesterday he messages me asking where I am and shows up, pretty wasted, he says hi to everyone at the table and excuses one girl to come give me a kiss and hi AND THEN! The mofo starts flirting blatantly in front of my eyes!! I was like FTW! With his eyes his body language FULL ON! She was sat on a stool and he was so close to her at one point his leg was near enough between hers! All the while glancing over at me (I gave him no notice whatsoever but inside I was seething) Like he literally disturbed the beast inside of me.
So we all go home and this ass messages me as if nothing went down. I said to him I felt disrespected and I had expected more of him. He denied and just kept saying he has 0% interest in her whatsoever and i've to trust him (BUT YOUR ACTIONS SAY OTHERWISE IM SCREAMING INSIDE) What is this lil twat playing at.
I'm so not ready to go there again after a rollercoaster ride with a very jealous, insecure Cappy.
In the end he said, he saw how it must have looked, he is sorry-i'm his girl (total cheese) and it wont happen again. My Q is, is this just all talk? And what the hell is he playing at?
My friend says give him a chance, I dunno if I should just cut my losses now and leave it behind-like i've seen what he is now or is that being harsh? I kind of feel like I dont want to regret not leaving as soon as ive seen the signs. What would you do?
He's 31, and i'm 31 on Thursday.