(Capricorn+Cancer) to stay or not to stay.

I am a capricorn female and he is a cancer man. We met when we were younger. We went to summer camps together every summer and we began to like eachother as we got older but we also started to walk towards different crowds. At least I thought he liked me because he would always stare at me across the room.

My problem is I don't really know if he likes me. I never have. I have in the past told him that I liked him and he would just disappear... I don't get it because he treats me so sweet and then he goes and disappears and doesn't talk to me as often. I mean sometimes it feels like he likes me but wont say it!

I recently even told him I don't like that he disappears... but I kept things light and fluffy after that ans moved forward. Also in the same conversation he had asked me "why do you like me so much?" And I went all goofy. Not the best move, haha. But I just said it would be hard to explain but I know I for aure like him.

Me and him have kind of always had a thing where we would make out and he would come to my family gatherings but that was it. Til this year... me and him met after I messaged him an old picture of us at camp. We met up and kept hanging out for a few weeks and we actually hit it off. He kissed me and told me je missed me... after we hooked up and he asked me "are you my gf?" And I said... wait for it lol "idk up to you" he was still consistant even after my horendous response for a few weeks. But then he started to reply less and talk less.

Then my ex came back into my life and we got back together (that's another story lol). He's always been in and out of my life (my cancer man). Then he came back (my cancer man). I blew him off though because I was again with my ex.

But recently me and my cancer man seen eachother. I stayed at his house and hung out with him and his family.

Another weird note: his mother is my old high school teacher.

This time it was different because we drank together and we had alot of fun. I ended up staying at his house from Friday til noon at Sunday. He had even asked me AGAIN "are we a thing?" But then he awnsered himself sarcastically "oh wait, it's up to me." Hahaha. I laughed. We also shared a passionate night of sex haha ?

But he's always treated me like his gf in front of his family and his school friends. Like putting his arms around my shoulders. He always kisses me goodbye.

For the most part I want to know if I should pursue my relationship with him and stop acting so hasty.

I have been head over heels for him for years. Idk if he just wants to have casual sex or have a relationship. I really like him idk if it's worth it.

It sounds like he might want you to be a bit more assertive. He's asking you to be his girlfriend you need to have a straight answers, otherwise he's going to shut off.

Capricorn and cancer is a hard match cause we are opposites

Meaning it's

exciting

Frustrating

Fun

Boring

Brings out the very best and the very worst

From what I have seen personally from this match up from. The female perspective

Cappie ladies can't get. The consistency and assertiveness she craves from. A cancer man

And

Cancer ladies can't get the affection and attention she requires. From. A cappie guy



That being said any pairing can work....just take more work, understanding, compromise and love than others

..other factors in your chart might lead a helping hand...

Posted by Arielle83
Why would you go to your ex if you like cancer guy so much?

Honestly it was very hard to not to get back with my ex. He was a very abusive and controlling partner. It's another story that i'm really done with in my life.

You aren't making his life easier. Cancers love clear waters. We might love mystery and a good chase, but we run away from the dark corners. If he asked you if you were his gf, even if casually, I would bet that he wants you. He knows you too well to simply be playing the crab "I love to be in love" dance. If you want him you need to be clear with words and actions, be more assertive with what you want from him.

LTR?

Posted by carrazeda
You aren't making his life easier. Cancers love clear waters. We might love mystery and a good chase, but we run away from the dark corners. If he asked you if you were his gf, even if casually, I would bet that he wants you. He knows you too well to simply be playing the crab "I love to be in love" dance. If you want him you need to be clear with words and actions, be more assertive with what you want from him.

I have read about cancer man being okay with hook up. And because me and him sometimes hook up I feel like that might be all he wants... we have a lot of chemistry and past behind us. He also made a comment that I always ask him to hang out and I feel like I should wait for him... but I want to ask him to hang out this Friday.

What are your thoughts?

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Posted by carrazeda
You aren't making his life easier. Cancers love clear waters. We might love mystery and a good chase, but we run away from the dark corners. If he asked you if you were his gf, even if casually, I would bet that he wants you. He knows you too well to simply be playing the crab "I love to be in love" dance. If you want him you need to be clear with words and actions, be more assertive with what you want from him.

I have read about cancer man being okay with hook up. And because me and him sometimes hook up I feel like that might be all he wants... we have a lot of chemistry and past behind us. He also made a comment that I always ask him to hang out and I feel like I should wait for him... but I want to ask him to hang out this Friday.

What are your thoughts?

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Aren't you making this too much about what he wants? What do you want? Cancer don't like wishy washy, be clear to yourself and to him about what you want. It's ok if you need time to think but go straight to the point with him if it's a relationship that you want.

Posted by carrazeda

Posted by cappygirl5586

Posted by carrazeda
You aren't making his life easier. Cancers love clear waters. We might love mystery and a good chase, but we run away from the dark corners. If he asked you if you were his gf, even if casually, I would bet that he wants you. He knows you too well to simply be playing the crab "I love to be in love" dance. If you want him you need to be clear with words and actions, be more assertive with what you want from him.

I have read about cancer man being okay with hook up. And because me and him sometimes hook up I feel like that might be all he wants... we have a lot of chemistry and past behind us. He also made a comment that I always ask him to hang out and I feel like I should wait for him... but I want to ask him to hang out this Friday.

What are your thoughts?

Aren't you making this too much about what he wants? What do you want? Cancer don't like wishy washy, be clear to yourself and to him about what you want. It's ok if you need time to think but go straight to the point with him if it's a relationship that you want.

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I am just very shy and he is too.