Posted by lisabethur8Mentally abusive, manipulative behaviour.Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by lisabethur8Everyone is different though Lisa and has different ways of handling stuff. Some people need to share what is happening with them...maybe that is a healthier option? I don't see the OP being disrespectful to her man at all....she said she loves him.
and you are about the worse. an ONLINE nurse going to diagnose some suicider, O_O
here on dxp. via a girlfriend.
edit and all you can do is go tear me down on my relationship way of being together and taking responsibility for eachother.
I would never like the OP as a girlfriend, coming in here and revealing a most sensitivie thing like this, to strangers about suicide.
How would YOU like it if you were ever in this situation and your boyfriend or girlfriend told on you to a bunch of strangers a very sensitive subject?
you would NEVER trust her /him again.
Some women will stay with a man, even if their life depended on it...literally. Some women will allow men to verbally abuse them, call them names and spit venom at them (is that love)? They have little regard for their safety and their self esteem is shot to pieces. You hear the women that say *oh he doesn't mean it* or *when he isn't verbally or physically abusing me, he is very nice*
I can remember my Dad shouting at my mother, taking his rage out on her and after she passed, he tried it with me. I told him straight away *you don't do that to me, i am not mum*. You know what happened, we ended up having the most mutually respectful relationship until he passed. He knew he couldn't cross the line with me.
Nobody needs to stay with someone that repeatedly abuses them verbally or physically, and then refuses to work on this, because if you do, you are helping that person become the worse version of themselves and allowing yourself to be treated like rubbish
That can never end up well for anyone. Sometimes people need a push to get out of that cycle
I don't recall her saying her boyfriend is abusive. if that's the case, then leave him be.
but for her wanting space and saying she loves him and he is suicidal...something does NOT add up.
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Posted by MyStarsShinenooo...a lot of these folks who talk about suicide and are depressed NEVER mentally abuse or hurt people.Posted by lisabethur8Mentally abusive, manipulative behaviour.Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by lisabethur8Everyone is different though Lisa and has different ways of handling stuff. Some people need to share what is happening with them...maybe that is a healthier option? I don't see the OP being disrespectful to her man at all....she said she loves him.
and you are about the worse. an ONLINE nurse going to diagnose some suicider, O_O
here on dxp. via a girlfriend.
edit and all you can do is go tear me down on my relationship way of being together and taking responsibility for eachother.
I would never like the OP as a girlfriend, coming in here and revealing a most sensitivie thing like this, to strangers about suicide.
How would YOU like it if you were ever in this situation and your boyfriend or girlfriend told on you to a bunch of strangers a very sensitive subject?
you would NEVER trust her /him again.
Some women will stay with a man, even if their life depended on it...literally. Some women will allow men to verbally abuse them, call them names and spit venom at them (is that love)? They have little regard for their safety and their self esteem is shot to pieces. You hear the women that say *oh he doesn't mean it* or *when he isn't verbally or physically abusing me, he is very nice*
I can remember my Dad shouting at my mother, taking his rage out on her and after she passed, he tried it with me. I told him straight away *you don't do that to me, i am not mum*. You know what happened, we ended up having the most mutually respectful relationship until he passed. He knew he couldn't cross the line with me.
Nobody needs to stay with someone that repeatedly abuses them verbally or physically, and then refuses to work on this, because if you do, you are helping that person become the worse version of themselves and allowing yourself to be treated like rubbish
That can never end up well for anyone. Sometimes people need a push to get out of that cycle
I don't recall her saying her boyfriend is abusive. if that's the case, then leave him be.
but for her wanting space and saying she loves him and he is suicidal...something does NOT add up.
He was abused, so will most likely carry on with the pattern?
The space adds up very well. My long suffering, martyr like mother hit breaking point when my father who was suicidal and depressed for many years stayed in that state. She told him she would leave him if he didn't seek help. This is a Capricorn woman who suffered everything for love
All relationships need space......if they are to be healthy
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Posted by ScorpioTruthall i'm saying is that if I were her boyfriend or girlfriend there'd be NO way i'd trust that woman again.
You're being just a tad over dramatic Lisa. No one is tearing you down for defending the guy and being concerned about his comments about wanting to kill himself.
What's concerning to everyone is the fact that you are blaming the OP. You keep tap dancing around that fact and if I'm "diagnosing" what exactly are you doing? If I'm diagnosing then so are you, based off the very little bit of information that OP has shared. You may have lost someone to suicide and that's why you're reacting this way and if so, I am sorry for your loss. But you're misplacing the blame on OP. I'm not going to argue about this with you all day so this will be my last time commenting. If you can't see why blaming her is illogical then I don't know what to tell you.
Posted by ScorpioTruthdid you see the diagnose online for suiciders? I thought you would see that since you are a nurse yourself and know suiciders.Posted by lisabethur8There is such a thing as emotional abuse as well. Threatening to kill yourself if someone leaves is emotional abuse.
unless the OP said that her boyfriend is beating her up and abusing her and has abused animals, there is a psychological mental disorder in him, then yes I can see it leading up to it. but you are basing this on someone who has abandonment issues. not someone who went to prison that killed someone.
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Posted by lisabethur8Telling someone *I will kill myself if you leave me* is pretty abusivePosted by MyStarsShinenooo...a lot of these folks who talk about suicide and are depressed NEVER mentally abuse or hurt people.Posted by lisabethur8Mentally abusive, manipulative behaviour.Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by lisabethur8Everyone is different though Lisa and has different ways of handling stuff. Some people need to share what is happening with them...maybe that is a healthier option? I don't see the OP being disrespectful to her man at all....she said she loves him.
and you are about the worse. an ONLINE nurse going to diagnose some suicider, O_O
here on dxp. via a girlfriend.
edit and all you can do is go tear me down on my relationship way of being together and taking responsibility for eachother.
I would never like the OP as a girlfriend, coming in here and revealing a most sensitivie thing like this, to strangers about suicide.
How would YOU like it if you were ever in this situation and your boyfriend or girlfriend told on you to a bunch of strangers a very sensitive subject?
you would NEVER trust her /him again.
Some women will stay with a man, even if their life depended on it...literally. Some women will allow men to verbally abuse them, call them names and spit venom at them (is that love)? They have little regard for their safety and their self esteem is shot to pieces. You hear the women that say *oh he doesn't mean it* or *when he isn't verbally or physically abusing me, he is very nice*
I can remember my Dad shouting at my mother, taking his rage out on her and after she passed, he tried it with me. I told him straight away *you don't do that to me, i am not mum*. You know what happened, we ended up having the most mutually respectful relationship until he passed. He knew he couldn't cross the line with me.
Nobody needs to stay with someone that repeatedly abuses them verbally or physically, and then refuses to work on this, because if you do, you are helping that person become the worse version of themselves and allowing yourself to be treated like rubbish
That can never end up well for anyone. Sometimes people need a push to get out of that cycle
I don't recall her saying her boyfriend is abusive. if that's the case, then leave him be.
but for her wanting space and saying she loves him and he is suicidal...something does NOT add up.
He was abused, so will most likely carry on with the pattern?
The space adds up very well. My long suffering, martyr like mother hit breaking point when my father who was suicidal and depressed for many years stayed in that state. She told him she would leave him if he didn't seek help. This is a Capricorn woman who suffered everything for love
All relationships need space......if they are to be healthy
they don't gaslight. They put their inner turmoil into themselves hurting themselves instead of others.
it is the type that hurts others that people should be careful of...
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Posted by aquanibyou're very cold.
The moment the suicide threat became a tool of coercion instead of a cry for help is when you got your first cue to leave.
Posted by I_am_youuh no I don't agree.Posted by lisabethur8It is a very good example lisa.Posted by I_am_youno that's not a good example, the man who killed his children because he killed his wife and went to prison....
Lisa your pov may be a little different because so far, your personal experience has never made you feel such a way before. That's a good thing but you can't put that burden on op without walking in her shoes.
Depression has many forms that can come with other negative thoughts and behaviors. The brain is altered. You remember the post about the husband killing his 4 children infront of his wife? She should have stayed away right?
Professional help is for the person with psychological issues, it is a separate issue from the relationship with op.
It's a sensitive situation and what you say can affect op in a negative way, pushing her to stay when it's unhealthy for her. Give her strength. Don't rip her apart.
that is NOT a good man. Why would this woman bring this man into her home, fornicate with him, expose her current children with him, and then make new ones? only to have him snap one day and kill again?
There is a mental imbalance. Now to what extreme, we can only assess that based on situation and always, we have to consider our own health and safety.
"he'll kill himself if i leave"
That's not a red flag to you?
You dont see manipulation here? Do you think that woman who lost her 4 children wasnt manipulated? Some people play emotional blackmail to get what they want. You cant help them unless they want to.
You have to think twice. If that person threatens to himself if you leave, what else can he threaten you next if you stay?
Pov lisa.
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Posted by lisabethur8Posted by aquanibyou're very cold.
The moment the suicide threat became a tool of coercion instead of a cry for help is when you got your first cue to leave.
this person supposedly loves the guy.
are you serious—
you would just leave someone like that?
you have not loved someone very dearly have you?
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Posted by ScorpioTruthPosted by lisabethur8Okay so your love would die slowly. Never trust her again. That's coping.Posted by ScorpioTruthall i'm saying is that if I were her boyfriend or girlfriend there'd be NO way i'd trust that woman again.
You're being just a tad over dramatic Lisa. No one is tearing you down for defending the guy and being concerned about his comments about wanting to kill himself.
What's concerning to everyone is the fact that you are blaming the OP. You keep tap dancing around that fact and if I'm "diagnosing" what exactly are you doing? If I'm diagnosing then so are you, based off the very little bit of information that OP has shared. You may have lost someone to suicide and that's why you're reacting this way and if so, I am sorry for your loss. But you're misplacing the blame on OP. I'm not going to argue about this with you all day so this will be my last time commenting. If you can't see why blaming her is illogical then I don't know what to tell you.
revealing something like this and then having people put him down for his depression.
I don't know what type of person he is, but if I were him, my love for her would die slowly and I wouldn't look at her the same way again, because my veil was lifted, and I would see that I can't even trust her with even the most sensitive subjects,
not to mention on TOP of that, she wants a "break"..
if anything, the love will die out soon enough. trust is important in any relationship and I could not trust that person the same way.
you have to feel secure and happy with someone, that means trusting all your fears and abandonment issues.
But don't kill yourself because of it and don't threaten someone that if they leave, you will kill yourself. You're missing the point entirely.
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Interesting, that air sun and scorp moon can be challenging
He needs to seek professional help.
Seriously, emotionally blackmailing some one is not good.
My ex aqua tried the same technique with me when he our relationship was over and tried to emotionally blackmail by saying "if you leave me I will commit suicide"... My response was "we are 6 floors up (we lived in a flat at the time) go ahead and jump"...
You are not responsible for his emotional needs. He needs to see a counsellor. My ex gem was bipolar. He had a scorp moon. Yours is probably bipolar too.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by lisabethur8Posted by aquanibyou're very cold.
The moment the suicide threat became a tool of coercion instead of a cry for help is when you got your first cue to leave.
this person supposedly loves the guy.
are you serious—
you would just leave someone like that?
you have not loved someone very dearly have you?
what kind of people do you interact with anyway. the ones who never have problems? 😕
The guy that threatened suicide to me Lisa was an Aqua....(Scorp moon)
I had been with him for years...he gambled, drank too much, did some drugs, and other stuff that i wont talk about. The suicide threat came when i was leaving after many attempts to make things work. Even the woman at the Relate counseling service told me if i was to stay i may end up totally dragged down. His issues were serious and he refused to get help
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Posted by ScorpioTruthPosted by lisabethur8Saying "I'm going to kill myself" is different from "I'm going to kill myself IF you leave me". I'm pretty sure numerous people have already pointed that out, but since you're not hearing what you want to hear you are going to keep posting your google search results.Posted by ScorpioTruthdid you see the diagnose online for suiciders? I thought you would see that since you are a nurse yourself and know suiciders.Posted by lisabethur8There is such a thing as emotional abuse as well. Threatening to kill yourself if someone leaves is emotional abuse.
unless the OP said that her boyfriend is beating her up and abusing her and has abused animals, there is a psychological mental disorder in him, then yes I can see it leading up to it. but you are basing this on someone who has abandonment issues. not someone who went to prison that killed someone.
it even says they voice out their suicide thoughts.
Bye Lisa. Lol heading to work.
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100the guy the OP is with, has a Gemini moon. he's a double Gemini.
He needs to seek professional help.
Seriously, emotionally blackmailing some one is not good.
My ex aqua tried the same technique with me when he our relationship was over and tried to emotionally blackmail by saying "if you leave me I will commit suicide"... My response was "we are 6 floors up (we lived in a flat at the time) go ahead and jump"...
You are not responsible for his emotional needs. He needs to see a counsellor. My ex gem was bipolar. He had a scorp moon. Yours is probably bipolar too.
Posted by aquanibbut you are allowed to read me whenever you feel like it.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by aquanibyou're very cold.
The moment the suicide threat became a tool of coercion instead of a cry for help is when you got your first cue to leave.
this person supposedly loves the guy.
are you serious—
you would just leave someone like that?
you have not loved someone very dearly have you?
what kind of people do you interact with anyway. the ones who never have problems? 😕
Lol woman. Just lol....
Dont quote me back, i dont wish to talk to you.
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Posted by I_am_youPosted by lisabethur8You dont have to.Posted by I_am_youuh no I don't agree.Posted by lisabethur8It is a very good example lisa.Posted by I_am_youno that's not a good example, the man who killed his children because he killed his wife and went to prison....
Lisa your pov may be a little different because so far, your personal experience has never made you feel such a way before. That's a good thing but you can't put that burden on op without walking in her shoes.
Depression has many forms that can come with other negative thoughts and behaviors. The brain is altered. You remember the post about the husband killing his 4 children infront of his wife? She should have stayed away right?
Professional help is for the person with psychological issues, it is a separate issue from the relationship with op.
It's a sensitive situation and what you say can affect op in a negative way, pushing her to stay when it's unhealthy for her. Give her strength. Don't rip her apart.
that is NOT a good man. Why would this woman bring this man into her home, fornicate with him, expose her current children with him, and then make new ones? only to have him snap one day and kill again?
There is a mental imbalance. Now to what extreme, we can only assess that based on situation and always, we have to consider our own health and safety.
"he'll kill himself if i leave"
That's not a red flag to you?
You dont see manipulation here? Do you think that woman who lost her 4 children wasnt manipulated? Some people play emotional blackmail to get what they want. You cant help them unless they want to.
You have to think twice. If that person threatens to himself if you leave, what else can he threaten you next if you stay?
Pov lisa.
she didn't pick him out of death row or something like that. I don't think so...
Thats just one extreme example where things can snowball out of control.
Precautions and cutting risks minimizes that kind of aftermath.
Im sure you understand what im saying.
Have a good day.
I understand you. Afterall, im aqua dominant. ✌
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Posted by aquanibsorry to hear that.Posted by lisabethur8Go back to the kitchen and celebrity horoscopes.
but you are allowed to read me whenever you feel like it.
you don't have to talk back to me.
you just don't like what I have to say, cause I am shocked that you would say that.
what if that happened to one of your family members or people you love?
It happened to me. Best friend. Suicide. 4 years ago. Still feel the same.
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Posted by ScorpioTruthyeah I know...Posted by lisabethur8She's a big girl. She can make her own decisions. Unlike you, I won't judge her if she stays or if she goes. But what I WILL tell her is its not her responsibility, she is not the cause or the cure for his illness. As I said before, he doesn't need her. He needs a psychologist. She is just a crutch.Posted by ScorpioTruthPosted by lisabethur8Okay so your love would die slowly. Never trust her again. That's coping.Posted by ScorpioTruthall i'm saying is that if I were her boyfriend or girlfriend there'd be NO way i'd trust that woman again.
You're being just a tad over dramatic Lisa. No one is tearing you down for defending the guy and being concerned about his comments about wanting to kill himself.
What's concerning to everyone is the fact that you are blaming the OP. You keep tap dancing around that fact and if I'm "diagnosing" what exactly are you doing? If I'm diagnosing then so are you, based off the very little bit of information that OP has shared. You may have lost someone to suicide and that's why you're reacting this way and if so, I am sorry for your loss. But you're misplacing the blame on OP. I'm not going to argue about this with you all day so this will be my last time commenting. If you can't see why blaming her is illogical then I don't know what to tell you.
revealing something like this and then having people put him down for his depression.
I don't know what type of person he is, but if I were him, my love for her would die slowly and I wouldn't look at her the same way again, because my veil was lifted, and I would see that I can't even trust her with even the most sensitive subjects,
not to mention on TOP of that, she wants a "break"..
if anything, the love will die out soon enough. trust is important in any relationship and I could not trust that person the same way.
you have to feel secure and happy with someone, that means trusting all your fears and abandonment issues.
But don't kill yourself because of it and don't threaten someone that if they leave, you will kill yourself. You're missing the point entirely.
ok, so what is she supposed to do?
you all seem to know the answers.
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Posted by aquanib??Posted by lisabethur8LMAO, kitchen utensils learned how to spin words. Aint technology grand!
sorry to hear that.
I would never want my best friend to die.
😄
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Posted by Bricks195wow, and you have a fishy moon ?
Leave and let the chips fall where they may.
Posted by MyStarsShineThanks.Posted by GoooberAaaaahh right....thought as muchPosted by MyStarsShineMost certainly.
Was he abused?
Then he wont be able for a relationship which is healthy until he makes strides towards getting help. You can encourage him and support him on this, but you must also be mindful of your own mental health too as you could also become very drained by his stuff.......which isn't yours. I have been there more than once with men....gave it my best, but in the end each one of them chose not to move forward, so i had to
Good luck with this
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Posted by bumboklattNo. Lol.Posted by GoooberIs his name Phillip?
*sigh*
I'm not sure if he's serious or just being manipulative. He confuses the hell out of me. He didn't kill himself that night (I calmed him down) but I'm still scared for him. I love him so much but he's way too clingy. What do you guys think based upon his placements?
Sun 17°42' Gemini
Moon 10°48' Gemini
Mercury 7°48' Cancer
Venus 22°15' Cancer
Mars 11°45' Taurus
Jupiter 5°35' Я Scorpio
Saturn 12°14' Pisces
Uranus 25°45' Я Capricorn
Neptune 22°51' Я Capricorn
Pluto 26°06' Я Scorpio
Chiron 4°10' Virgo
Ceres 17°22' Gemini
Pallas 28°23' Aries
Juno 17°03' Я Libra
Vesta 26°00' Taurus
Node 23°47' Я Scorpio
Lilith 6°22' Taurus
Fortune 18°52' Leo
AS 25°46' Leo
MC 21°43' Taurus
Sun House 10
Moon House 10
Mercury House 11
Venus House 11
Mars House 9
Jupiter House 3
Saturn House 7
Uranus House 5
Neptune House 5
Pluto House 4
Chiron House 1
Ceres House 10
Pallas House 9
Juno House 2
Vesta House 10
Node House 4
Lilith House 9
Fortune House 12
Uranus Conjunction Neptune Orb 2°53'
Sun Conjunction Moon Orb 6°53'
Mars Conjunction MC Orb 9°58'
Venus Opposite Neptune Orb 0°36'
Venus Opposite Uranus Orb 3°30'
Pluto Opposite MC Orb 4°22'
Mars Opposite Jupiter Orb 6°10'
Pluto Square AS Orb 0°20'
Moon Square Saturn Orb 1°25'
Sun Square Saturn Orb 5°27'
Neptune Trine MC Orb 1°08'
Mercury Trine Jupiter Orb 2°13'
Venus Trine Pluto Orb 3°51'
Uranus Trine MC Orb 4°02'
Mercury Trine Saturn Orb 4°25'
Jupiter Trine Saturn Orb 6°39'
Uranus Sextile Pluto Orb 0°20'
Mars Sextile Saturn Orb 0°28'
Venus Sextile MC Orb 0°31'
Neptune Sextile Pluto Orb 3°14'
Mercury Sextile Mars Orb 3°57'
Uranus Inconjunction AS Orb 0°00'
Mercury SemiSquare MC Orb 1°04'
Saturn SemiSquare Uranus Orb 1°28'
Moon SesquiQuadrate Uranus Orb 0°02'
Moon BiQuintile Jupiter Orb 0°46'
Sun BiQuintile Neptune Orb 0°50'
Moon SemiSextile Mars Orb 0°57'
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Posted by ScorpioTruth
Since you like to do google searches, check out codependency and what that entails.
That's the word of the day.
Posted by lisabethur8He has bipolar manic depression.
unless the OP said that her boyfriend is beating her up and abusing her and has abused animals, there is a psychological mental disorder in him, then yes I can see it leading up to it. but you are basing this on someone who has abandonment issues. not someone who went to prison that killed someone.
Posted by Goooberif you know that, then why are you asking for space?Posted by lisabethur8He has bipolar manic depression.
unless the OP said that her boyfriend is beating her up and abusing her and has abused animals, there is a psychological mental disorder in him, then yes I can see it leading up to it. but you are basing this on someone who has abandonment issues. not someone who went to prison that killed someone.
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Posted by lisabethur8I don't know much about this illness.Posted by Goooberif you know that, then why are you asking for space?Posted by lisabethur8He has bipolar manic depression.
unless the OP said that her boyfriend is beating her up and abusing her and has abused animals, there is a psychological mental disorder in him, then yes I can see it leading up to it. but you are basing this on someone who has abandonment issues. not someone who went to prison that killed someone.
that definitely triggered him in some way.
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Posted by GoooberPosted by lisabethur8I don't know much about this illness.Posted by Goooberif you know that, then why are you asking for space?Posted by lisabethur8He has bipolar manic depression.
unless the OP said that her boyfriend is beating her up and abusing her and has abused animals, there is a psychological mental disorder in him, then yes I can see it leading up to it. but you are basing this on someone who has abandonment issues. not someone who went to prison that killed someone.
that definitely triggered him in some way.
these individuals would most definitely commit suicide.
When I asked him if he'd be ok, he said "how weak do you think I am"?
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Posted by lisabethur8Okay. Thanks.Posted by GoooberPosted by lisabethur8I don't know much about this illness.Posted by Goooberif you know that, then why are you asking for space?Posted by lisabethur8He has bipolar manic depression.
unless the OP said that her boyfriend is beating her up and abusing her and has abused animals, there is a psychological mental disorder in him, then yes I can see it leading up to it. but you are basing this on someone who has abandonment issues. not someone who went to prison that killed someone.
that definitely triggered him in some way.
these individuals would most definitely commit suicide.
When I asked him if he'd be ok, he said "how weak do you think I am"?
But we're still in contact so yeah...
if your beloved has manic bipolar depression, look it up and/or ask a professional.
even the sites suggest that you should NOT leave them alone.
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Posted by ScorpioTruthi'm not manipulating anything.Posted by lisabethur8I do have empathy, I have empathy for the OP who is unfairly being blamed for his suicidal ideations.Posted by ScorpioTruth
Since you like to do google searches, check out codependency and what that entails.
That's the word of the day.
are you sure you have water dominant??
cause my god, the things you say.
and also you are a NURSE??
I have nurses in my family and they are no way like you, talking the way you do, with lack of empathy, calling suiciders like they are the plague.
and co-dependency too.
it's just being caring, that's all.
Just because I think that HE is the one responsible for his own life doesn't mean I lack empathy. It just means I'm realistic.
Quit trying to twist my words and manipulate what I'm saying. You're really reaching now.
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Posted by TaurusGirlRasif this topic was a joke after all.
Tell him to do it! I'm not falling for your emotional rants. I'll care but don't suck me in! Ur gonna kills yourself n front of me fuck up my life!!! Dxck that guy he's an axxhole
Posted by sakuraflowersPosted by lisabethur8Perhaps.Posted by sakuraflowersit probably triggered when she said she wanted space.Posted by lisabethur8Lisa, a close Cap friend of mine took his life because of depression...and because of that, depression has always been a topic that hits close to home. He had depression for many years prior. But the one thing he would NEVER do is something like to tell a girl that he likes to date him or he will kill himself. While battling depression, he had 2 relationships. He told me ... that he wanted his girlfriend could live the life she wants. Nevermind suicide threats, I don't think either of his ex knew that he had depression at all.Posted by Ram416Posted by lisabethur8This might be an alien concept to you but there IS such a thing as being in a relationship AND having your own personal space. There are couples who are not clingy with each other and have their own activities going on.Posted by GoooberPosted by lisabethur8Nope. I'm very into him. I'm just mature and selfless enough not to stay in a relationship where I'm not giving my all. People don't deserve that.Posted by Goooberif you want a break you are not into him.Posted by FknNerdThat's the crazy part, I wasn't even leaving because of him nor was I leaving for good. I wanted a break to work on myself. Just didn't have the energy to invest in a relationship and I'm an all or nothing type of person.
Why are you leaving him? What did he do?
then EXPLAIN why he is threatening suicide??
only selfish peeps want to leave when there is nothing that you are going to leave from,
unless he has brutally physically abused you, or threatened to kill you,
I don't see any reason why you need to leave for breaks.
A break/time - out happens when one partner gets too clingy and encroaches into the other's personal space. It can become very emotionally overwhelming for the other person.
??
did you forget that the guy is wanting suicide??
or did that FLY over your head cause wanting space is so much more important.
I'm not even sure if the guy in question has depression or just plain manipulative. If he has depression, he needs to seek help, because even if she stayed, it doesn't solve the root problem, which is the depression itself. Even if she stayed, she cannot be around him every waking second of her life to ensure he doesn't kill himself. She needs to take care of herself too.
IMO
it will trigger a feeling of unwantedness. I don't blame the indiivudal either.
maybe the OP should get someone less emotional and who wants more space and freedom.
If it's only triggered when the other party wants to leave him or wants to space, it probably has more to do with him than it has to do with her. Might also be why he's clingy, something that I don't think Gem Suns are known for.
Posted by Gooober
@xXxQueenliciaXxX No, I'm not back, just desperate. I'm going to stay by his side. He apologized and said it wouldn't happen again. Even if we don't stay together as a couple, I'm going to always be in his life regardless. Thanks.
@Lunabee Yes, I love him. But it scares me. I'm going to stay with him regardless. I just want to know if he's serious.
@Tiziani Ikr :/click to expand
Posted by sakuraflowersOP said he has depression.Posted by lisabethur8Depression isn't sign or placement specific, so I never ruled out the possibility of him having depression. But based on his actions, I'm less inclined to believe it.Posted by sakuraflowersPosted by lisabethur8Perhaps.Posted by sakuraflowersit probably triggered when she said she wanted space.Posted by lisabethur8Lisa, a close Cap friend of mine took his life because of depression...and because of that, depression has always been a topic that hits close to home. He had depression for many years prior. But the one thing he would NEVER do is something like to tell a girl that he likes to date him or he will kill himself. While battling depression, he had 2 relationships. He told me ... that he wanted his girlfriend could live the life she wants. Nevermind suicide threats, I don't think either of his ex knew that he had depression at all.Posted by Ram416Posted by lisabethur8This might be an alien concept to you but there IS such a thing as being in a relationship AND having your own personal space. There are couples who are not clingy with each other and have their own activities going on.Posted by GoooberPosted by lisabethur8Nope. I'm very into him. I'm just mature and selfless enough not to stay in a relationship where I'm not giving my all. People don't deserve that.Posted by Goooberif you want a break you are not into him.Posted by FknNerdThat's the crazy part, I wasn't even leaving because of him nor was I leaving for good. I wanted a break to work on myself. Just didn't have the energy to invest in a relationship and I'm an all or nothing type of person.
Why are you leaving him? What did he do?
then EXPLAIN why he is threatening suicide??
only selfish peeps want to leave when there is nothing that you are going to leave from,
unless he has brutally physically abused you, or threatened to kill you,
I don't see any reason why you need to leave for breaks.
A break/time - out happens when one partner gets too clingy and encroaches into the other's personal space. It can become very emotionally overwhelming for the other person.
??
did you forget that the guy is wanting suicide??
or did that FLY over your head cause wanting space is so much more important.
I'm not even sure if the guy in question has depression or just plain manipulative. If he has depression, he needs to seek help, because even if she stayed, it doesn't solve the root problem, which is the depression itself. Even if she stayed, she cannot be around him every waking second of her life to ensure he doesn't kill himself. She needs to take care of herself too.
IMO
it will trigger a feeling of unwantedness. I don't blame the indiivudal either.
maybe the OP should get someone less emotional and who wants more space and freedom.
If it's only triggered when the other party wants to leave him or wants to space, it probably has more to do with him than it has to do with her. Might also be why he's clingy, something that I don't think Gem Suns are known for.
I re-looked at his chart, and he's got cancer venus Taurus mars, trine/sextile Jupiter and lots of Capricorn planets.
but even without astrology,
he's still got bipolar depression.
go and google it, they have a lot of topics on it.Posted by Gooober
@xXxQueenliciaXxX No, I'm not back, just desperate. I'm going to stay by his side. He apologized and said it wouldn't happen again. Even if we don't stay together as a couple, I'm going to always be in his life regardless. Thanks.
@Lunabee Yes, I love him. But it scares me. I'm going to stay with him regardless. I just want to know if he's serious.
@Tiziani Ikr :/
it's good that you stayed with him,but he still needs help, I hope he gets it.
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Posted by lisabethur8Have you ever lived with or been close to someone with bipolar manic depression or even BPD?Posted by TaurusGirlRasif this topic was a joke after all.
Tell him to do it! I'm not falling for your emotional rants. I'll care but don't suck me in! Ur gonna kills yourself n front of me fuck up my life!!! Dxck that guy he's an axxhole
then I got too serious. -_-click to expand
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