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The strength to stay calm
Astrological Signs That Help You Stay Calm Under Pressure
Your ability to stay calm during emergencies is influenced by your zodiac sign and planetary positions. Signs like Cancer and Scorpio often possess natural resilience, while planetary placements such as Mercury in Taurus can promote steadiness in stressful situations. Understanding your astrology chart can reveal your strengths in maintaining composure when faced with challenges.
I think it might be the merc and moon
Gemini merc has me all over the place
Scorpio moon want to strike the fuxk back!
Lmao
it's more like slow motion in movies. everything slowed down and i was looking at myself as a 3rd party. detached while praying that no one gets hurt
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.
During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
Well unless there is some sort of spider involved I can be as cool as a cucumber in most emergency situations.
If something sets of my anger it's a bit different.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
this is true for my scorp too
before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise
he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
this is true for my scorp too
before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise
he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
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What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?
Posted by Dreamyboy
I'm very calm in rough situations. My chart is in my pic. I don't live in a safe city, but I've been robbed at gunpoint 3 times while working at food industries, been shot at in several drive by shootings, and have been pretty calm during crisis scenarios as in witnessing a bullet wound to a friend or family member. My initial reaction is how I can help. I've been exposed to this garbage young so it's not really a shock to me. I am also an owner of two California legal "assault" rifles, a 12 gauge shotgun, and 5 pistols of various calibers.
Bloody hell - where on earth do you live, in California ?
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
this is true for my scorp too
before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise
he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?
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i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
this is true for my scorp too
before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise
he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?
i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me
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iCloud9, I am confused as to how my way of dealing with emergencies is in any way similar to your Stinger, because my emotions go into shut down mode during moments of crisis. Whereas, he seems to express them during said moments.
Posted by Dreamyboy
I'm very calm in rough situations. My chart is in my pic. I don't live in a safe city, but I've been robbed at gunpoint 3 times while working at food industries, been shot at in several drive by shootings, and have been pretty calm during crisis scenarios as in witnessing a bullet wound to a friend or family member. My initial reaction is how I can help. I've been exposed to this garbage young so it's not really a shock to me. I am also an owner of two California legal "assault" rifles, a 12 gauge shotgun, and 5 pistols of various calibers.Bloody hell - where on earth do you live, in California ?
Stockton, California. Top 10 highest crime in USA.
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Would you by any chance, have any thoughts of moving away from that city ?
You do not have to answer that, if you feel that is a breach of your privacy.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
this is true for my scorp too
before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise
he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?
i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me
iCloud9, I am confused as to how my way of dealing with emergencies is in any way similar to your Stinger, because my emotions go into shut down mode during moments of crisis. Whereas, he seems to express them during said moments.
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he didn't think that was a crisis. he took it as an irritation. you said you would get annoyed over simple matters. i don't get annoyed much over simple matters
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
this is true for my scorp too
before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise
he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?
i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me
iCloud9, I am confused as to how my way of dealing with emergencies is in any way similar to your Stinger, because my emotions go into shut down mode during moments of crisis. Whereas, he seems to express them during said moments.
he didn't think that was a crisis. he took it as an irritation. you said you would get annoyed over simple matters. i don't get annoyed much over simple matters
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I see.
We do not get annoyed over every simple matter (we are not quite so sensitive, we are rather specific) but situations which carry quite a bit of drama / laziness / ignorance.
If something happens, I can stay calm and do what needs to be done. Moon conjuct saturn.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
this is true for my scorp too
before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise
he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?
i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me
iCloud9, I am confused as to how my way of dealing with emergencies is in any way similar to your Stinger, because my emotions go into shut down mode during moments of crisis. Whereas, he seems to express them during said moments.
he didn't think that was a crisis. he took it as an irritation. you said you would get annoyed over simple matters. i don't get annoyed much over simple matters
I see.
We do not get annoyed over every simple matter (we are not quite so sensitive, we are rather specific) but situations which carry quite a bit of drama / laziness / ignorance.
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i know now. it did take a while for me to be able to trust that about him and i was expressive about it lol. everyone is different and i actually find the difference fascinating
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
this is true for my scorp too
before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise
he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?
i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me
iCloud9, I am confused as to how my way of dealing with emergencies is in any way similar to your Stinger, because my emotions go into shut down mode during moments of crisis. Whereas, he seems to express them during said moments.
he didn't think that was a crisis. he took it as an irritation. you said you would get annoyed over simple matters. i don't get annoyed much over simple matters
I see.
We do not get annoyed over every simple matter (we are not quite so sensitive, we are rather specific) but situations which carry quite a bit of drama / laziness / ignorance.
i know now. it did take a while for me to be able to trust that about him and i was expressive about it lol. everyone is different and i actually find the difference fascinating
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Why do you find it hard to trust him about it prior to that conversation ?
Sometimes people mistake our annoyance and our at times unashamed way of expressing our opinions, as one and the same.
Also - what sign are you iCloud9 ?
Why do you find it hard to trust him about it prior to that conversation ?
did (past tense. i DO NOT find it hard to trust hubby lol). because i'm INFJ i guess (don't trust easily). Also, i was used to non emotional people before him lol
Sometimes people mistake our annoyance and our at times unashamed way of expressing our opinions, as one and the same.
i think the unashamed way of expressing emotions is what i find so irresistible about him lol. there are 2 sides to every coin i guess lol
Also - what sign are you iCloud9 ?
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a sign you may have a bias against so it's not important here 😉 lol
i'm pretty much calm. though only in the surface.
what i feel inside depends on the situation i faced.
Posted by Cancan26
During an emergency or just a shitty situationDo you have this strength? If so what placement do you attribute it to? My first instinct during an emergency or shitty situation is to fight back or panic there is no in between
People with mars-uranus aspects, supposedly people are calm/comfortable in these situations and can even seek them out. Or, I suppose the situation can seek you out if you have it.
Why do you find it hard to trust him about it prior to that conversation ?
did (past tense. i DO NOT find it hard to trust hubby lol). i'm a INFJ i guess (don't trust easily). Also, i was used to non emotional people before him lol
Sometimes people mistake our annoyance and our at times unashamed way of expressing our opinions, as one and the same.
i think the unashamed way of expressing emotions is what i find so irresistible about him lol. there are 2 sides to every coin i guess lol
Also - what sign are you iCloud9 ?
a sign you may have a bias against so it's not important here 😉 lol
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A Goat, you are. 😈
No, I do not have a bias against Goats at all. 😆
Why do you find it hard to trust him about it prior to that conversation ?
did (past tense. i DO NOT find it hard to trust hubby lol). i'm a INFJ i guess (don't trust easily). Also, i was used to non emotional people before him lol
Sometimes people mistake our annoyance and our at times unashamed way of expressing our opinions, as one and the same.
i think the unashamed way of expressing emotions is what i find so irresistible about him lol. there are 2 sides to every coin i guess lol
Also - what sign are you iCloud9 ?
a sign you may have a bias against so it's not important here 😉 lol
A Goat, you are. 😈
No, I do not have a bias against Goats at all. 😆
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well, i don't trust easily so 😆 lol
Why do you find it hard to trust him about it prior to that conversation ?
did (past tense. i DO NOT find it hard to trust hubby lol). i'm a INFJ i guess (don't trust easily). Also, i was used to non emotional people before him lol
Sometimes people mistake our annoyance and our at times unashamed way of expressing our opinions, as one and the same.
i think the unashamed way of expressing emotions is what i find so irresistible about him lol. there are 2 sides to every coin i guess lol
Also - what sign are you iCloud9 ?
a sign you may have a bias against so it's not important here 😉 lol
A Goat, you are. 😈
No, I do not have a bias against Goats at all. 😆
well, i don't trust easily so 😆 lol
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That is quite alright, you have no reason to have to trust me right away anyways. 😈
I'm calm af.
But that has more to do with being trained in first aid and being exposed to situations during my 12 year stint as a lifeguard.
Posted by LadyNeptune
I'm calm af.But that has more to do with being trained in first aid and being exposed to situations during my 12 year stint as a lifeguard.
oh so you a lifeguard aye. I wonder if you can save my life if I'm about to drown.
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I can. But would I...? Lol
Wow. You guys are really impressive. I have been in dangerous situations but I recognized that I have act poorly in them
I might be able to be reasoned with if I feel like someone else is depending on me
Posted by Cancan26
Wow. You guys are really impressive. I have been in dangerous situations but I recognized that I have act poorly in themI might be able to be reasoned with if I feel like someone else is depending on me
Have you ever been in any really tough situations? Severe trauma? Near-death experience? Almost lost a child or did? Have you ever worked with people who needed you to be calm because they were mentally unstable and might punch you in the face or try to commit suicide at any moment? Have you ever been in a war zone?
I'm not saying everyone here has experienced those things, but I'm noticing that the people who stay calm are mostly older posters. Once you've experience real trauma, the other stuff gets much easier to handle.
Edit: Jeez, that made it sound like I wish trauma on you. I don't. It's just, with life, we all unfortunately, get a little.
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I have been robbed at gun point I fought the robber and ended up getting hurt.. Which I should thank my lucky stars I wasnt shot
I have been in car accident where the car was crushed on one side and I had to help a child out of the crush side.. Lots of screaming and crying on my end..
Posted by Cancan26
Wow. You guys are really impressive. I have been in dangerous situations but I recognized that I have act poorly in themI might be able to be reasoned with if I feel like someone else is depending on me
Have you ever been in any really tough situations? Severe trauma? Near-death experience? Almost lost a child or did? Have you ever worked with people who needed you to be calm because they were mentally unstable and might punch you in the face or try to commit suicide at any moment? Have you ever been in a war zone?
I'm not saying everyone here has experienced those things, but I'm noticing that the people who stay calm are mostly older posters. Once you've experience real trauma, the other stuff gets much easier to handle.
Edit: Jeez, that made it sound like I wish trauma on you. I don't. It's just, with life, we all unfortunately, get a little.
I have been robbed at gun point I fought the robber and ended up getting hurt.. Which I should think my lucky stars I wasnt shot
I have been in car accident where the car was crushed on one side and I had to help a child out of the crush side.. Lots of screaming and crying on my end..
I'm so sorry you went through those things! You reacted absolutely appropriately in both situations, especially the robbery. Good for you!
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Thank you. Even though I didn't act the best in those situations I did the best I could at the time. I hope the strength to be calm comes as I get older.
Posted by MaxPower
Cancan, did you have what you consider overly emotional reactions before those traumatic events you described? Trauma can work the other way too. It can really fuck you up. And then it has to be dealt with. What a mess human minds can be. :/
I don't know why I reacted the way I did.. Especially over the robbery.. I have always said I would never risk my life or something as stupid as money or possessions...
Posted by tiziani
Yeah those situations are tough, no bueno.When it comes to trauma, I've read that there's a re-thought on how we deal with it and that it is much better to let our body do the natural thing - shake, cry, scream. It's just the physical way of processing it. Whereas if you stay isolated or someone holds you down in one place to stop you shaking, it's thought maybe this can keep the trauma inside over years for longer than need be.
Its weird that you say that in both of those situations i remember that my fingers tips and my tongue went numb, and I was shaking so hard when emergency officals arrived on the scene of the robbery.
Calmest person in the room, always. I think its because my moon is in the 12th.
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During an emergency or just a shitty situation
Do you have this strength? If so what placement do you attribute it to? My first instinct during an emergency or shitty situation is to fight back or panic there is no in between