ariessungoddess
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what do you do when a person you hate (frenemy) texts you after a long time on social network?
Posted by Arielle83like I said that person hasn't done anything bad to me but was a college friend and I know she's don't pretty bad things to some other girls I know so would that be mean if I delete her for no reason? I never thought I could be indecisive!
That's weird to have ppl u don't trust in your social network.
Kinda fake on your part.
Or are u terrified of pressing delete?
Be real and delete that fool before you become their fool.
Depends on who it is. I don't care who's done what to whom, as long as they treat me good I'll be solid with them.
If that person wronged me in the past, I'll be very brief with them. I'd pretty much ask why are they contacting me after all this time.
If that person wronged me in the past, I'll be very brief with them. I'd pretty much ask why are they contacting me after all this time.
I don't have frenemies. I'm too direct for that, so I just don't deal with people I don't like if I don't have to.
Plus, you need to have friends to have frenemies. —
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people i don't like are blocked from my social network, and i don't waste time hating on ppl, people who do should focus on their own life's, dreams, goals, i don't think people who act on their dreams ago goals time have time to hate someone, they are 2 bussy. Don't like person, block it, no need to hate them or reply to them or waste time talkin bout them
since you're just now 23, college was a year ago ... you make it sound like - "back in my college days" those days are recent, not way in the past.
Sounds to me like you're closed minded, as in you believe you are the same person you were way back in your college days, and haven't grown one single bit.
... because that's what you are assuming about her.
In your theory .. people don't grow, don't change, don't learn. You are holding her guilty due to your prejudices of what she did way back in your college days, you know, last year.
imo, she should move on to try and befriend someone else, other than you .... because you can't get past your own prejudices of her to give her a single credit of growing and maturing.
Maybe you haven't matured a single bit, and that's why you aren't capable of believing someone else can.
You should just stick with your discriminative self, and hold tightly onto your prejudices ... and let her be, so she can flourish without someone trying to hold her down.
This millennium generation are the most selfish and intolerant people I've ever encountered.
hmmm, I don't necessarily agree with P-Angel but her points bring up another perspective for sure - that would be the nice thing to do but I come from a colder world where I've been f'd over for being a good person and nice is just a face people put on when they want something from you - so I have to carefully watch my interactions ...
I understand your dilemma: in my world, people don't change so I would say block for sure - if you were not close to her in school not long ago, and didn't like her then, then why would she be reaching out - chances are she is reaching out because she's exhausted her circle of friends and is searching for new victims; just doing the social media thing and finding a familiar name to attach to; you will always wonder about any interaction with her; you will most likely never trust her since you're first impressions of her behavior were not good; etc. Detach, move on and forget about it. It's not a big deal. You were never close and you owe this person nothing.
I understand your dilemma: in my world, people don't change so I would say block for sure - if you were not close to her in school not long ago, and didn't like her then, then why would she be reaching out - chances are she is reaching out because she's exhausted her circle of friends and is searching for new victims; just doing the social media thing and finding a familiar name to attach to; you will always wonder about any interaction with her; you will most likely never trust her since you're first impressions of her behavior were not good; etc. Detach, move on and forget about it. It's not a big deal. You were never close and you owe this person nothing.
If you hate her, dont respond
Posted by tcta
hmmm, I don't necessarily agree with P-Angel but her points bring up another perspective for sure - that would be the nice thing to do but I come from a colder world where I've been f'd over for being a good person and nice is just a face people put on when they want something from you - so I have to carefully watch my interactions ...
I understand your dilemma: in my world, people don't change so I would say block for sure - if you were not close to her in school not long ago, and didn't like her then, then why would she be reaching out - chances are she is reaching out because she's exhausted her circle of friends and is searching for new victims; just doing the social media thing and finding a familiar name to attach to; you will always wonder about any interaction with her; you will most likely never trust her since you're first impressions of her behavior were not good; etc. Detach, move on and forget about it. It's not a big deal. You were never close and you owe this person nothing.
Ok this is exactly what I wanted to know. 10 points for the point blank explanation because I was wondering why I wanted to ignore her and now I know!
Posted by littlenanobyteToo late for that, she's just a vicious person with no manners and manipulative so I can't blame her for anything in particular. But I can tell she's got agenda talking to me after this long!
I would be cordial (after all she did not do anything to you), but make it clear that you aren't interested in being associated with her.
If you really want to, you can tell her "the way you acted towards xxx and your actions in this xxx situation were concerning to me and I think that we should not be friends, because I have a hard time trusting you after that."
Oh, I didn't realize that the premise of this thread was so you could validate your hatred.
My bad ......
You came to the right place, people in here relish in encouraging people to hate.
Just look at your responses here ..... you are encouraged to be inconsiderate and intolerant and to embrace your hatred.
Guess I should have read a little deeper into your intent. Oh well .. enjoy this feeling you so badly want to own.
Posted by P-AngelIrony.
This millennium generation are the most selfish and intolerant people I've ever encountered.
I don't have "enemies" or I wouldn't use the word enemies, I have people that wish they had my experiences (ha) or dislike me, and idc if they're on my social media or not, my page is public for the most part so if you don't delete yourself you'll see alot of my moments that won't do anything but make you mad each time. I don't delete/block ppl bc ppl don't easily get to me, I have unfollowed ppl bc their posts were too excessive or (only w/ 2 ppl) I had to unfollow them bc we were dating and I already think about them enough. There's one girl that gave me a weird vibe but we worked on a few projects together (entertainment indus.) I just went on her page less but she's still on there
I would just ignore the person. I've had FB issues with people from my past and I wish I had ignored them. Not outright delete or anything. Just ignore. It sends a message.
Posted by ariessungoddessI see what the others are saying but some people you can't delete, like if they are in the same work building as you or something where they can still cause lots of mayhem if they want.
ignore or reply and act normal. I'm in a deilemma!
note: assume this person hasn't done anything that bad personally but you know is capable of real weird shit and that's really one person you can't stand but someone you went to college with.
This is a good middle ground, dont open the message, ignore.
Posted by Season
I would just ignore the person. I've had FB issues with people from my past and I wish I had ignored them. Not outright delete or anything. Just ignore. It sends a message.click to expand
Posted by ShadowcatIs it not likely?Posted by P-Angel^^^^^^
This millennium generation are the most selfish and intolerant people I've ever encountered.
That seems unlikelyclick to expand
I see it pretty clearly. Even here in the Southern US. Young men won't even hold the door open for a lady or family anymore. If I didn't do that as a kid my mom would've smacked me upside the head and made me apologize. It's called RESPECT and this younger generation simply have none.
Posted by SssupesPosted by ShadowcatIs it not likely?Posted by P-Angel^^^^^^
This millennium generation are the most selfish and intolerant people I've ever encountered.
That seems unlikely
I see it pretty clearly. Even here in the Southern US. Young men won't even hold the door open for a lady or family anymore. If I didn't do that as a kid my mom would've smacked me upside the head and made me apologize. It's called RESPECT and this younger generation simply have none.
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I see what you mean but maybe today people have better things to do with their time and maybe even know better than to be someone's door mat or give away respect for free! it's just not an insecure generation we are just aware.
Yes, the better things you have to do is to think about yourself.
So, being considerate to the people around you and holding the door open for them is being a doormat.
wow
It's not surprising that this is your excuse .... we've already seen that you made this thread just to honor your hatred for someone.
this generation is the ruination of the civilized world .....
Posted by Sssupes
It's called RESPECT and this younger generation simply have none.
It's very disturbing. I feel sorry for their children, and grandchildren, tbh
A baby requires respect for free .. and they are simply intolerant to anyone except themselves.
We may think the world, at large, is suffering for their atrocious self-centeredness ... but, really, it's the offspring that's going to suffer because they are at their mercy, and cannot walk away with disgust.
Posted by P-AngelThat's why we mature and decide what's right based upon our own values. The real issue here is that this country is getting very liberal and the sense of entitlement is getting out of hand.Posted by Sssupes
It's called RESPECT and this younger generation simply have none.
It's very disturbing. I feel sorry for their children, and grandchildren, tbh
A baby requires respect for free .. and they are simply intolerant to anyone except themselves.
We may think the world, at large, is suffering for their atrocious self-centeredness ... but, really, it's the offspring that's going to suffer because they are at their mercy, and cannot walk away with disgust.
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Posted by ShadowcatI'm just gonna leave this alone. You millennial folks tend to get really defensive when you're talked about (like now)Posted by SssupesPosted by ShadowcatIs it not likely?Posted by P-Angel^^^^^^
This millennium generation are the most selfish and intolerant people I've ever encountered.
That seems unlikely
I see it pretty clearly. Even here in the Southern US. Young men won't even hold the door open for a lady or family anymore. If I didn't do that as a kid my mom would've smacked me upside the head and made me apologize. It's called RESPECT and this younger generation simply have none.
It's not.
Lol I'm extremely suspicious of that being a good measurement of self centered nature. But if you want to use that as an example, I live in the north and guys have opened up the door for me plenty of times. I've opened the door for men before too, a lot. However, since this example's validity is in question, we still don't get prove that we're not "selfish".click to expand
Posted by ShadowcatIt actually is. That's what y'all don't even understand anymorePosted by SssupesPosted by ShadowcatI'm just gonna leave this alone. You millennial folks tend to get really defensive when you're talked about (like now)Posted by SssupesPosted by ShadowcatIs it not likely?Posted by P-Angel^^^^^^
This millennium generation are the most selfish and intolerant people I've ever encountered.
That seems unlikely
I see it pretty clearly. Even here in the Southern US. Young men won't even hold the door open for a lady or family anymore. If I didn't do that as a kid my mom would've smacked me upside the head and made me apologize. It's called RESPECT and this younger generation simply have none.
It's not.
Lol I'm extremely suspicious of that being a good measurement of self centered nature. But if you want to use that as an example, I live in the north and guys have opened up the door for me plenty of times. I've opened the door for men before too, a lot. However, since this example's validity is in question, we still don't get prove that we're not "selfish".
I'm actually not being defensive, I just don't agree with you. You posted a cultural value, and while I understand why it's important to you, it's just not a strong measurement of selfishness.click to expand
@Arielle83
Please stop making assumptions.
My post was nothing more than stating that I attract older women and I was asking for opinions as to why it might be happening. I don't date younger women. They don't have the same goals as I do and quite frankly, y'all fucking suck ass in bed. Selfish as hell.
The holding the door open is common courtesy and respect. This is something I found to be severely lacking with my brief stay in Australia. I held a door open for a lady while there and she found it so courteous she offered to cook me dinner.
Im not dissing her thoughts or opinions. She's saying mine aren't valid and I'm simply saying that she will never see my point
Take your judgemental bitter thoughts elsewhere
Please stop making assumptions.
My post was nothing more than stating that I attract older women and I was asking for opinions as to why it might be happening. I don't date younger women. They don't have the same goals as I do and quite frankly, y'all fucking suck ass in bed. Selfish as hell.
The holding the door open is common courtesy and respect. This is something I found to be severely lacking with my brief stay in Australia. I held a door open for a lady while there and she found it so courteous she offered to cook me dinner.
Im not dissing her thoughts or opinions. She's saying mine aren't valid and I'm simply saying that she will never see my point
Take your judgemental bitter thoughts elsewhere
It is not worth the hate... face them... see what they ask but don't stay talking to them if you don't want to... that is my suggestion.
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Well first thing to do is no longer have frenemies. If she's harmless say hi then keep on going. If she's a bunny boiler delete and block. You don't owe her an explanation. You weren't very close before anyway.
Posted by Arielle83It's not marginal. I'm expressing the.cuturalshift here in the southern US and nowhere else. I'm not talking about anywhere else in the world.. it would help if y'all actually read what I wrote and quit trying to imply it elsewherePosted by SssupesHolding the door can also be seen as cultural.
@Arielle83
Please stop making assumptions.
My post was nothing more than stating that I attract older women and I was asking for opinions as to why it might be happening. I don't date younger women. They don't have the same goals as I do and quite frankly, y'all fucking suck ass in bed. Selfish as hell.
The holding the door open is common courtesy and respect. This is something I found to be severely lacking with my brief stay in Australia. I held a door open for a lady while there and she found it so courteous she offered to cook me dinner.
Im not dissing her thoughts or opinions. She's saying mine aren't valid and I'm simply saying that she will never see my point
Take your judgemental bitter thoughts elsewhere
Which is why it has so many parameters.
Australian women are expectant of praise and all that because a lot of them believe they are prizes.
The men here don't mind because it is what they are used to.
In canada everyone holds the door so I found it rude once I got to Aussie land.
However I don't think it is solely a symbol of selfishness, but maybe of time and stress and that we are all I'm a rush to go somewhere.
I've held the door open for women in their 50s and they say nothing.
Also some ppl don't lead by example, but by how they've experienced.
You can't call someone "bitter" for seeing fault in your marginalized argument.
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This person did nothing to you but you hate that person. Regardless of any situation you just simply hate that person. I dont know why you carried that hatred for so long. Come on. Chill. Just respond.
I have a friend who was my room mate too.
She is a virgo. She talks really annoying like she is the most beautiful lady in the world. Everytime we sat down together we always talked
Life and shared problems..but everytime she goes proud of herself I always reacted and all those people around us dont like her too. For so many reason I left the condo where we lived.
I didnt speak with her for a year. She kept liking my fb page pics..I ignored her. I somehow find myself I withdrew and go silent when pissed off. Until she get married and lived far away. She still contacting me. So I gave way and spoke with her. She told me she is the biggest fan of me during those time on how I approached things in life. We lived in a one unit condo with 2 virgos. 1 libra. And me Scorpio. Funny thing is that I realized we scorpio dont like a person who brags all the time. We dont tolerate arrogance. We dont like being intimidated. Be fair enough and will give you the same too.
I have a friend who was my room mate too.
She is a virgo. She talks really annoying like she is the most beautiful lady in the world. Everytime we sat down together we always talked
Life and shared problems..but everytime she goes proud of herself I always reacted and all those people around us dont like her too. For so many reason I left the condo where we lived.
I didnt speak with her for a year. She kept liking my fb page pics..I ignored her. I somehow find myself I withdrew and go silent when pissed off. Until she get married and lived far away. She still contacting me. So I gave way and spoke with her. She told me she is the biggest fan of me during those time on how I approached things in life. We lived in a one unit condo with 2 virgos. 1 libra. And me Scorpio. Funny thing is that I realized we scorpio dont like a person who brags all the time. We dont tolerate arrogance. We dont like being intimidated. Be fair enough and will give you the same too.
Op, I suggest to speak that person.
Who knows this time around that person changed.
Who knows this time around that person changed.
Posted by Arielle83If you actually read what people write instead of looking for an opportunity to try and start shit this wouldn't have even been a discussion for you to engage in.Posted by SssupesWell you said "millenials" which implies a generation of ppl. How was I to know you were navel gazing as well?Posted by Arielle83It's not marginal. I'm expressing the.cuturalshift here in the southern US and nowhere else. I'm not talking about anywhere else in the world.. it would help if y'all actually read what I wrote and quit trying to imply it elsewherePosted by SssupesHolding the door can also be seen as cultural.
@Arielle83
Please stop making assumptions.
My post was nothing more than stating that I attract older women and I was asking for opinions as to why it might be happening. I don't date younger women. They don't have the same goals as I do and quite frankly, y'all fucking suck ass in bed. Selfish as hell.
The holding the door open is common courtesy and respect. This is something I found to be severely lacking with my brief stay in Australia. I held a door open for a lady while there and she found it so courteous she offered to cook me dinner.
Im not dissing her thoughts or opinions. She's saying mine aren't valid and I'm simply saying that she will never see my point
Take your judgemental bitter thoughts elsewhere
Which is why it has so many parameters.
Australian women are expectant of praise and all that because a lot of them believe they are prizes.
The men here don't mind because it is what they are used to.
In canada everyone holds the door so I found it rude once I got to Aussie land.
However I don't think it is solely a symbol of selfishness, but maybe of time and stress and that we are all I'm a rush to go somewhere.
I've held the door open for women in their 50s and they say nothing.
Also some ppl don't lead by example, but by how they've experienced.
You can't call someone "bitter" for seeing fault in your marginalized argument.
Either way you and an odetonoone are the only two single men on here that hate on millenials, but systematically objectify the females of that generation as well.
Maybe you're just "bitter" about getting old.
Okay, since your posts have no importance, I'll ignore since that's what you want.click to expand
Posted by ariessungoddess
like I said that person hasn't done anything bad to me but was a college friend and I know she's don't pretty bad things to some other girls I know so would that be mean if I delete her for no reason? I never thought I could be indecisive!
I'm confused as to why this is even a dilemma. The word "friend" gets thrown around far too much. If she isn't someone you plan to talk to, confide in, or interact in anyway why do you have to explain or justify deleting her? You sound like you're a people pleaser and care far too much about how people (that you appear not to like) think about you.
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