AAAARRRRRR Aquarius ahead! (Page 2)

Hotgal I was 22 and he was 27. He couldn't controll me so his next resort was to try and punk me by hitting me and making me coward down to him. I think thats why most aqua men I know go for younger women because they deem them as easier to be impressionable than someone closer to their ages, and some I know opt for older women thinking that its a priviledge for the younger man to be interested in the older woman another form of control, trying to make you feel they are the best that you can get.

Yeah they like to control relationships for fear of being hurt. As Cancers we try to control relationships too, for the very same reason but at least if we do get hurt we know how to feel and process it. When and if they get hurt (usually by their first love) they never love the same and they don't wanna feel that pain again so they do the best things for them to not feel it again which is try an get the upper hand in the relationship.

I can see where you both are coming from! It's very useful 🙂
IF... I'd have sex with him, I don't think I'd have THE NEED to cling to him.
Never had that need before... So why now. I'm too down to earth for that =D
I'm just wondering, does an aqua get curious when you don't cling to him afterwards?
Also I never ask for his attention, HE constantly tries to distract ME!!

So true! What made you end things with your aqua? If you don't mind me asking.

Poor poor aquas =:+
hehe

Cancimini I was directing the attention part to the Libra and Gemini question you asked, I wasn't talking about you with the aqua I've already said what I had to say to you about that. Yes I haven't gotton attached just because of sex with a guy before I think thats the Gemini in us. The aqua won't really get curious he'd be like yes someone who acts the way I do because he won't cling and when he ups and disappears he'll be happy that when he does talk to you again you won't be acting as if you'll are in a serious relationship because you'll had sex.

Grrrrr he should've been a freakin' SCORPIO or pisces!!! =D
but noooooooooooo 😉

No you're serious lol. Don't waste your time on this aqua thinking things will be different with you. Lets not for get I have the same makeup as you lol. So I know what you're really feeling behind those words of yours. Just be his friend without sex. Its not going to feel good with once he has sex he doesn't contact you for days, weeks, months. At that time he will be in control and theirs no way to change it. Wether you cling or don't cling it won't matter to him because after all he's just after the sexual aspect thats it and there's no way a woman can continue to have a sexual relationship with a man and not become emotionally involved some how. I can't stand scorpio's and pisces are like a brother to me.

OH NO! You got me there 😛 hehe
You're so right.. friends without sex is very important. But try to explain that to a man!!! =D
Nevertheless.. I could see myself falling in love with him (I admit), but I don't know the guy well enough and that's a "turn-off". I need to know who's in front of me, no fakin

And fakin is all you will get from the aqua. They don't know how to display realness and I don't think they really want too. The fact that they are detached is something they continue to use to their advantage so don't even do it. He doesn't want to be just friends with you but he doesn't want a relationship with you either. What kind of relationship is that? friends with benifits? Cancimini you deserve better!

*repeats to herself*

Cancimini... you deserve better! 🙂

CL - Complex situation but no major differences between us (Nothing that couldn't be worked out.) Put simply, he has children (that have a mother). It was just the best thing for me to do given the circumstances.

To much baby mama drama, things he needs to fix that I have no control over.

cancimini - My advice for you is to just live your life, have fun and make good choices for yourself. Define clearly on with this man or any man for that matter, what you want and expect out of a relationship/friendship and stick to it (the hardest part).

This is a message board and we are here to discuss our experiences whether good or bad, BUT, remember that people are individuals and no one person is the same as the next. Also things like life experiences, upbringing and cultural differences are the things that make people who they are not their zodiac sign.

After you have done your sun sign assessment remember the most important aspect of this man is just that, he is a man, a person, human being first and then he is an Aqua. Concentrate more on getting to know the person not the sign.

I do feel that your makeup is of your zodiac sign, thats why they exist and it starts at birth. I do feel that life experiences, upbringing, and cultural differences play apart in how true to your zodiac sign you are.

😢 An Aqua broke my heart recently. I loved him so much, I still do. He said he loved me, he said he wanted to marry me, wanted me to be the mother of his children. We were making plans to live a wonderful and fulfilling life together. Then all of a sudden, things changed. He started becoming more distant emotionally. He wouldn't call me or return my calls. He basically fell off the face of the earth for two weeks. Then comes back with this epiphany..."I need to get my life together". He said he was incapable of being the man that I deserve. He said I deserve someone who can give me everything I want and he can't do that. He said that he never wanted me to think that I don't love him. He even cried. So, me I tried so hard to hold on and I'm still trying. I guess it's because I love him so and I just don't understand it. So recently basically just started avoiding me all together. He won't answer my calls, he'll return text messages though. I guess it's just something about the phone, funny thing is he still says he loves me. However, I don't think he does, I don't think he knows what he's feeling when it comes to me. I get so jealous and so mad when it comes to him and he'll say really mean stuff to me and hurt my feelings like " Has the fact that we AREN'T together sunk in?". His moods are so volatile. One minute he's callin me babe tellin me he loves me the next he's bein an ass. I don't know it just hurts. Then, the other day he said he knows he's been acting EXTRA harsh and cold toward me, but it's for my own good. WTF is that. I swear Aquas piss me off. Even through all of this I can't get him off of my mind. I can't stop telling him how I feel, and for the love of God I just can't seem to let it go. I HATE IT.

U-oooooooooh, he's been trying to analyse me.. and he's right on every.. single.. time!!!
Scary sh*t! I feel quite naked when he does that! It's just too dangerous when they start doing that, right? Hmmm..
He's very sweet though, patient.. not pushy...

I doubt it was guilt, they have a habit of dropping off the face of the earth, they don't need a reason to do it.

"But I realize that expressing feelings/emotions do not come easily for him, but when he does express them he means it."

-YES!!! this is how aqua men operate. he won't say something unless he truly means it.

"once a Cancer has loved Aqua, nothing would compare for the Aqua."

-i agree...we give them the type of love they are not used to, and they will crave it when it is gone. but that just may be my biased opinion, considering i am a cancer dating an aqua!!!

"So the fact that they don't show any emotion or very little is the big conflict that would exist between Cancer and Aqua. But inside they have a lot in common...it's the outside that is opposite"

-UC...i agree with what you are saying here. i think that cancer and aqua are very different, but also very similar. at least that is how it is with me and my bf. we have very different opinions and different ways of expressing them and communicating, but our heads work very similarly and we are very much alike on the inside.

oh, and cancerbutterfly...i feel for you! i completely understand how you are feeling because i once was in a very similar situation with my aqua bf. hang in there... if he truly wants you in his life, he will return. but, you must change your ways and be very firm with him if he does come back.

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"once a Cancer has loved Aqua, nothing would compare for the Aqua."

-i agree...we give them the type of love they are not used to, and they will crave it when it is gone. but that just may be my biased opinion, considering i am a cancer dating an aqua!!!

--> "my" aqua can't stop saying: "what are you DOING to me——" 🙂 😛 =:+

"what are you DOING to me——"

Yeah you are under his skin now

I don't know what it is with us cancers.. When I hear about the other women he was in a relationship with, they seem so boring and superficial. And then there is ... me (so it seems)! I amuse him, I make him laugh, dream and I somehow activate his protective skills 🙂 Lovely 🙂

I'm glad to see things are going well for you but take things slow. Your emotions are already on the surface.

Yes, I double that.

Take it slow and be level-minded. Be giddy/mushy here on the boards but put your poker face on with him.

You will lure him in more since they lose interest when you lose your mystery.

"Yes, I double that."

Meant to say "second that"

I know 🙂 I don't feel like speeding things up though.. I really do like him, but for now I find it very amusing to see how my actions influence him 🙂 he's a grateful victim 😉 But I need to be careful, I'm aware of that! Before you know it, he's gone and I'm left with nothing!

...supposing that I want something from him... eventually. Wich is a possibility since they are very charming/captivating...

So I can assume that you think you're playing with them, while actually they're playing with you 🙂 (am I right?)

ANTI!!! 🙂

gotto go honey!! Hear, see, **** you later 😉 😛

Just be careful!

"my aqua can't stop saying: "what are you DOING to me——"

LOL!!! my aqua always tells me that i am driving him crazy because he thinks about me all the time... i love it!

Ha this is funny cos i am Cancer female dating Aqua male and he has said to me many times he is addicted to me. I think us female crabs really know how to keep those Aqua males on their toes lol !!! I think it is because we are so unpredictable and they love that !!!

As long as you stay unpredictable then everything will be fine. Don't lose the mystery.

I dont try to be unpredictable, thats the way i am. Cancer Sun, Pisces moon...i wax and wane...i think he finds it hard sometimes but hey he sticks around lol !!!

"I think it is because we are so unpredictable and they love that !!!"

-i don't know if it is that we cancers are unpredictable...or that we are just extrmemely moody and at times a little crazy 😉

Oh god... I slept with aqua-man!

and he...
- still calls..
- still wants to "see" 😛 me...
- sends overly cute messages!!
- and he STILL wants me to come with him to that matinee-stuff....... with his brother and sister-in-law and PARENTS!!
- told his mother he's in love
- told me !!!his friends!!! really like me (lol, how very typical =D )

Well good for you! No one is routing for you to fail with this guy, if thats what you think. I'm happily in love and only wish the best for anyone who's looking for what I already have! Everyone has shared their experiences with you and how things ended with their aqua but the decision still and always will remain on you. Its still very early on and I would like to think that people who have dealt with an aqua over a long period of time would know how they are verses a person who's just begining their relationship with one. Like I said I wish the best but if and when he starts acting the way he's been described be sure you come back and tell us!!!

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Never again will I date a cancer guy.

both my parents and my older sister are aquas - my mom and older sister are extrememly mentally and emotionally abusive to everyone around them - mom's been married a couple times, and I personally witnessed my sister verbally and physically abuse her boyfriend....dad's also mentally and emotionally abusive and I woke up a couple times as a kid to find dishes smashed all over the kitchen and knives stuck in walls and furniture like they had been thrown - and on one occasion saw him literally drag my step mother out of the house by her hair and lock her out in a t-shirt and panties..... I'm not saying all aquas are as bad as the ones in my family - but I'd keep a sharp eye out just in case.... oh and by the way my dad's been married to the most recent wife just over a year and has already been cheating on her for months....at least.....I've known quite a few other very vicious and abusive, cheating aquas in my life....though to exactly what extent I don't know since those ones are not family members.
I know a couple seemingly nice aquas that are covertly mentally and emotionally abusive too......

BUT - cansir's mom is an aqua and he says she's wonderful....so maybe all the good aquas are in Texas? ;0)

Nope I wouldn't say.

that. The aqua's I know live in Texas and they are EXACTLY like you described!

okay - so maybe cansir just got lucky with his mom

hmmm, i am a cancer dating an aqua male...and yes, we have been through A LOT together BUT, he is an amazing person. nothing like what is described on this board. we are very different but also very much alike on the inside.
SO, i believe there is hope for a cancer and an aqua!!! it just takes a lot of work 🙂

Well what I've seen from "my" aqua is nothing but good..
It's a strange personality. He's patient, calm, easy-going but firm at times (in a way that he's decisive), caring and cuddly (AN AQUA?? CUDDLY??), I as a cancer(/gemini) am much less cuddly than he is.. Everything seems to come easy and very natural with this water bearer-person 🙂