AquariusJan25
@AquariusJan25
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Posted by ImpulsvAt this point the weight that was on my shoulders a long with the dark cloud that was over my head before I got the message is gone. I feel like I can move on at this point...but after her saying that she'll be spending her birthday in New York again now, I would feel bad not attempting to try and setup a meet-up between myself and her.
If u don't will u feel regret of not trying?
Posted by LemonLimeBefore the "wanted/possibly want" part she also said "We could have been SO good"
i'm not a cancer but i'm a female so perhaps i can help.....it sounds like she's a bit confused. Perhaps she wants to see you to see if anything has changed. She probably shouldn't have said the "how can I be friends with someone I wanted/possibly want?!" part to you as it could create a false hope that something will happen.
I say, go see her but go with the expectation that it may just end up as friendship.
Posted by StarChild63This is how half the relationship has been, torturous 😢
Maybe I don't get it. If she wants you and you want her why not? Call her up and make plans. Why are both of you torturing yourself.
Posted by StarChild63No she didn't write that, it's a poem from a lady named Lang Leav
Whoa no! She is madly in love with you. She's writing you poetry that's a big deal for a cancer! Are you blind? What's the problem why can't you have each other? She's pretty much begging for you to say something before she walks away. Don't think just cuz she's in love with you she won't walk away. My cancer friend has a dark love side too and your cancer reminds me of her. For a cancer female to write poetry and say those things is wild and it's even worse cuz your blind an you love her back but you won't grab her hand while she's really trying to grab yours.
Posted by LemonLimeThis is what I'm saying :\ and I messaged her back saying something close to that "I think you're holding back because you feel like you may hurt my feelings, please take that plunge and let those words out." I also see where you're coming from with the String a long thing cause I as I mentioned she told me "save your heart for me one day."
that sounds awfully dramatic....I mean, a poem? She 'cant find the words'? It's not that hard to say what you want and I think she's maybe trying to string you along and keep you as a backup plan in case other relationships don't work out.click to expand
Posted by LemonLimeDamn, after her birthday should I end things there? (say goodbye and all that?)
you can't read too much into songs that people post on social media or however you found out she was listening to it. About 4 days after our break up, my ex posted a song about saying goodbye and being crushed. He sure didn't act like he cared about me though. See? It could be a song just came on a playlist or radio and they just happened to listen to it.
AnYWAY.....she sounds really confused and is playing games with you. IF she wanted you, nothing would stop her. She would be so sure and find every word to tell you how she feels. I'd just ignore her and try to move on. I know it sucks and it's hard, but it's not worth putting yourself through all this pain over someone who can't be straight with you.


Posted by StarChild63She sent me a text back saying "I swore you were my forever, I had my heart completely set on that."
Cancers can want you more then anything but will walk if things aren't moving or the situation isn't secure and logical. A cancer woman sending poems don't sound like strong along AT ALL. I think she thinks she met you halfway. Yea cancers are the most misunderstood of the zodiac and looking at my friend if say the oddest and peculiar. But I do think this madness mixed in with Aquarius oddness makes a really great bond and understanding most can't even imagine. Look. You need to stop thinking and catch her before she's gone for good. One day we can be probably means one day you will give her a chance. She probably is waiting on you to say something specific or say something towards the situation. Just tell her the 3 words an see what happens.

Posted by Ktayl117She's too subliminal, and all I ever wanted was answers from her..
Truthfully, I am a Cancer girl and I wouldn't say something like that unless I meant it. Too me she is saying she wants to see you for her Birthday and she still has feelings but she wants you to work for it too.
Posted by Starry22While I'm not wrapped around her little finger anymore 🙂 I left her a voicemail pretty much saying I would have done the world for her, I feel like I'm Mr. Right and The One, wish her luck finding her Prince Charming. Told her I felt disrespected sometimes especially where it's like she pretty much ran when I tried to talk about something. Ended the voicemail by saying "in the end all I wanted was answers, I'm not going to say goodbye, but what I am goin
RUN! RUN! She is playing you like a fiddle!
She just wants to make sure that you are still wrapped around her little finger!
My friend does that too - comes back just for the entertainment because he knows that I will empathize with him.
Irrespective of the star sign, she waited for you to open up to your feelings, when ahe realized she had you EXACTLY where she wanted you.
Move on and have fun, she will be back if things are meant to be.click to expand
Posted by CuriousramI feel like the picture of the poem was a subliminal way of telling me something, still trying to figure out what exactly but yea..that's just her though she's a real bookworm. They're a handful too haha.Posted by AquariusJan25Oh gawd this makes me never want to date a cancer. Poetry?? LOL smh i would die of embarrassment
Just another quick update.. cliffnotes
- She texts me back saying "I don't know what to say"
- I send her another text telling her to let it all out
- Text me back saying "the words can't come to me, it's not you, it's just me..I can only hope one day I can type simple words to you, and not have tears form in my eyes."
- Told me she loves me always, and to save my heart for her one day.
Then she sends me a picture of a poem, it reads:
A Stranger
There is a love i reminisce,
like a seed
I've never sown.
Of lips that I am yet to kiss,
and eyes not met my own.
Hands that wrap around my wrists,
and arms
that feel like home.
I wonder how it is I miss
these things
I've never known.
I'm lost 😢 ... I'm ready to just peace out of life.click to expand

Posted by CappedoffHaha, that's the plan now, as much as it hurts for me to just finally cut the string it was well needed, and typing it out on this forum was also therapeutic..it may take a while for me to heal but I will..
Dude, I'm sorry but yeah lots of disrespect and drama there. I'd let that Virgin Princess ride out on the pony she expects her prince to come in on. Wow, just wow!
Posted by Starry22LMAO the one week-one month ignore phase was funny to me too when I thought about too 🙂 it had to be said though, I'm just tired of it..she can tweet, instagram, answer to other people, be on facebook..but my messages have to marinate in an inbox until she's ready...fuck that.
Your one week off one month on statement made me laugh. I face the same every single time with my friend and i could no longer be bothered to feel bad about it!
I understand exactly what you mean by the fact that you would take another chance with her in a heaetbeat and i do hope that one fine day you get the opportunity. But until then she will need to fund someone elae to handle her dramatic mooda



Posted by MissGemmiI hope some of this comes true 🙂
I know it hurts, but you really need to give it time and go your own way. Trust me, these kinds off fall outs won't go un noticed by a cancer. I've noticed they will pull off bad things to get all the dirt out. Once they've done that and realise it's dirt they can live with they will come back around. Remain calm.
Her cool response was only a fa?ade for her true feelings, me thinks. It's kind of an ego thing. The Cancer I know once had some disagreements with her ex boyfriend through text. He said somme nice and sweet things to her closing up the conversation but she responded very very cold. She showed me the texts. In the mean time, behind close Doors it was all tears and depression because she truly cares about him but acted like she didn't care.
You need to keep your composure. That's why Cancers like those to whom it comes naturally. Im a very patient and calm person but maybe a bit to dry for my cancer. I myself am ready to let go, but now she wants to keep me in her life. I m keeping it superficial now. She's Welcome any time, but I no longer wish for a deeper connection unless she works hard for it. I ve already given too much for free of my emotions. You should let her work for you too. This is not sign related, just giving yourself some self worth without acting nasty.
Posted by boxcarmirntaI've always told this girl how I felt about her 😢 flat out a few times I straight up said "I'm in love with you."
Totally sorry this is happening to you..cancers are tough..one question tho, did you ever straight up tell her exactly how you feel about her? They like a sure thing..sounds like she was indirectly saying what she wanted but didn't wanna come off being the only one with feelings invested....maybe I'm wrong..but it did kinda sound like she wanted you to meet her half way..but didn't say it outright.. So did you?click to expand

Posted by boxcarmirntaThanks and yea I know same thing my brother said, just say "Happy 21st, Enjoy your day today." and move a long from there.
😢 yea the bday thing is a prob for a lot of us right now it seems....if you do say something dont expect anything back, just say it and let it go..


Posted by MissGemmiI agree full circle with everything you said 🙂
If you don't say it you'll regret it!
I almost feel sorry for you that you ' ve met her in such a young age. Cancers at this age are some what more mature in a certain sense, can't explain, maybe because they start to realize tha t there are all these emotions they can't control. They will start experimenting with these New found emotions on others to learn from it. To gather themselves and to see the effects. She will learn from you, from the next and so on and will finally meet someone when all emotions are in control and she's ready to settle down.
I just came back from a night with my cancer. She's all over the place. Unfortunately she tells me Everything even the things I don't want to hear, while she knows Im trying to get over my feelings. Sometimes I feel she does it on purpose to see me hurt as Im slowly trying to disconnect emotionally, keeping it friendly, but she still manages to cut my wounds open. She wants to see me frequently, but it's something I rather not to. I want to keep it platonic. She's not used to me being that way.
If you ' re not able to cut the cords with these young unevolved Cancers they will drive you completely nuts and emotionally exhausted. Taking all the fun out of meeting someone else. Cuz you'll fear it will be just as draining, they ll manage to leave you empty.

Posted by kissmygritsHer being the douche right? 🙂
This thread gave me douche chills. Ugh. I'm avoiding any replies.
Posted by FinbuffThank you for the reply
Aqua I am helping a Taurus lady through a relationship with a Cancer guy, and she's dealing with the same thing.
He has her all tied up in knots with the up/down emotion.
I see an immature woman here that's afraid of the ending. It's probably too intense for her.
Contact her only if you are ready for emotional upheaval, because you won't resist her if you see her!
I'd be carefull if I were you.
To quote her Def Leppard - Love Bites.

Posted by MissGemmiIm so surprised to read you saying this... Im jealous... I waited and waited and waited and never ever turn back... and I've kept my composure... but inside... thats another story if I've ever acted up on all my impulses.. I would probably being in a much more worst emotional situation... but yeah cancer need cut and dry that treat them like crap because they are so afraid or their deep emotions that go ballistic to protect them thinking (and not caring) the rest of us don't have them.
I know it hurts, but you really need to give it time and go your own way. Trust me, these kinds off fall outs won't go un noticed by a cancer. I've noticed they will pull off bad things to get all the dirt out. Once they've done that and realise it's dirt they can live with they will come back around. Remain calm.
Her cool response was only a fa?ade for her true feelings, me thinks. It's kind of an ego thing. The Cancer I know once had some disagreements with her ex boyfriend through text. He said somme nice and sweet things to her closing up the conversation but she responded very very cold. She showed me the texts. In the mean time, behind close Doors it was all tears and depression because she truly cares about him but acted like she didn't care.
You need to keep your composure. That's why Cancers like those to whom it comes naturally. Im a very patient and calm person but maybe a bit to dry for my cancer. I myself am ready to let go, but now she wants to keep me in her life. I m keeping it superficial now. She's Welcome any time, but I no longer wish for a deeper connection unless she works hard for it. I ve already given too much for free of my emotions. You should let her work for you too. This is not sign related, just giving yourself some self worth without acting nasty.

Posted by CappedoffI can't help but crack up at some of the responses I read on here, this might be the funniest lol haha.
She seems like a douchecanoe in the major(est) way...
.. .... But if you really really want to wish her happy birthday by all means do it. Just expect that to change her into a mature woman. She'll still be the immature Virgin Princess she was before.


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Fast forward to today..
I see a message from her being typed on snapchat.. not going to bore you all with the message but at the end of a few messages, she said she would still be coming up to my state for her Birthday and she said "I would like you to be my friend, but how can I be friends with someone I wanted/possibly want?!"
Upon reading that last part I broke down..
I'm a confused soul right now.. Do I call her for her birthday only while she's in the same exact state as me? or try and meet-up her?
Am I reading too much into that "wanted/possibly want" part too much or is there still a chance for this broken Aquarius?.. 😢
Real life friends are telling me there is still hope and If I really love her (which I do) to meet-up and telling me I can get her back and that she still wants me..what do you guys think?