Cancer man left me... (Page 3)

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Posted by victoriagemini
So its my bday and crab boy posted on Facebook Happy Birthday Darling Victoria. Wtf...I feel like its so formal.No private message...no text like before he had the g/f. Should he have said happy bday anyway? He broke my heart

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How old are you?

I'm 29 he's 37

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Bitch you're and Aries no wonder you're stuck up hahaa and still he took the time to say happy birthday...damn right. Get off my topic...easy and done..bye felicia

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Posted by victoriagemini
So its my bday and crab boy posted on Facebook Happy Birthday Darling Victoria. Wtf...I feel like its so formal.No private message...no text like before he had the g/f. Should he have said happy bday anyway? He broke my heart

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Posted by xXxAliciaXxX

How old are you?

I'm 29 he's 37

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Bitch you're and Aries no wonder you're stuck up hahaa and still he took the time to say happy birthday...damn right. Get off my topic...easy and done..bye felicia

Posted by bnan2030
I have been with my cancer man for a year now. He has always been typical cancer. Retreats in his shell when mad, comes back as if nothing happened. We have a long distance relationship, although we both come to enjoy it, as we like the road trips to visit each other, and see each other quite often anyways. Everything has been going excellent recently. He tells me I make him happy, we have great convos, etc etc. Though, it has come to my attention that my cancer man is suffering some serious problems in life right now, but isnt super into opening up to me about it. He came to town this weekend, only to drop off the face of the earth. No one heard from him, including his friends, and myself. He said he wanted to see me, as per usual. Though we never got around to meeting up. He texted me a day later saying he was annoyed at how I was being rude again and impatient. (This is the first time he has ever come to town in a year and not seen me or his friends. He is a cancer and always likes to be the man of the town when he is here. He sent me a huge long text explaining how i was the bad guy ( as per usual) . I didnt even bother to respond, as I was quite pissed off. He texted me again asking why I had not replied. I ended up replying an hour later putting him in his place and letting him know I was super upset and did not deserve to be treated like that. I told him I understood he was having some personal problems, but I did not want him to treat me so rudely. Now he has barely even texted me since then. Maybe once, and usually we text all day everyday and are super cute and happy.

I dont know what to do, as I am stuck between being upset by how he treated me but also not wanting to give up as it has been a year and we have gotten through a lot when it comes to understanding eachother and getting better at communicating.

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Posted by bnan2030
I have been with my cancer man for a year now. He has always been typical cancer. Retreats in his shell when mad, comes back as if nothing happened. We have a long distance relationship, although we both come to enjoy it, as we like the road trips to visit each other, and see each other quite often anyways. Everything has been going excellent recently. He tells me I make him happy, we have great convos, etc etc. Though, it has come to my attention that my cancer man is suffering some serious problems in life right now, but isnt super into opening up to me about it. He came to town this weekend, only to drop off the face of the earth. No one heard from him, including his friends, and myself. He said he wanted to see me, as per usual. Though we never got around to meeting up. He texted me a day later saying he was annoyed at how I was being rude again and impatient. (This is the first time he has ever come to town in a year and not seen me or his friends. He is a cancer and always likes to be the man of the town when he is here. He sent me a huge long text explaining how i was the bad guy ( as per usual) . I didnt even bother to respond, as I was quite pissed off. He texted me again asking why I had not replied. I ended up replying an hour later putting him in his place and letting him know I was super upset and did not deserve to be treated like that. I told him I understood he was having some personal problems, but I did not want him to treat me so rudely. Now he has barely even texted me since then. Maybe once, and usually we text all day everyday and are super cute and happy.

I dont know what to do, as I am stuck between being upset by how he treated me but also not wanting to give up as it has been a year and we have gotten through a lot when it comes to understanding eachother and getting better at communicating.

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Posted by bnan2030
I have been with my cancer man for a year now. He has always been typical cancer. Retreats in his shell when mad, comes back as if nothing happened. We have a long distance relationship, although we both come to enjoy it, as we like the road trips to visit each other, and see each other quite often anyways. Everything has been going excellent recently. He tells me I make him happy, we have great convos, etc etc. Though, it has come to my attention that my cancer man is suffering some serious problems in life right now, but isnt super into opening up to me about it. He came to town this weekend, only to drop off the face of the earth. No one heard from him, including his friends, and myself. He said he wanted to see me, as per usual. Though we never got around to meeting up. He texted me a day later saying he was annoyed at how I was being rude again and impatient. (This is the first time he has ever come to town in a year and not seen me or his friends. He is a cancer and always likes to be the man of the town when he is here. He sent me a huge long text explaining how i was the bad guy ( as per usual) . I didnt even bother to respond, as I was quite pissed off. He texted me again asking why I had not replied. I ended up replying an hour later putting him in his place and letting him know I was super upset and did not deserve to be treated like that. I told him I understood he was having some personal problems, but I did not want him to treat me so rudely. Now he has barely even texted me since then. Maybe once, and usually we text all day everyday and are super cute and happy.

I dont know what to do, as I am stuck between being upset by how he treated me but also not wanting to give up as it has been a year and we have gotten through a lot when it comes to understanding eachother and getting better at communicating.

oh man

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Posted by bnan2030
I have been with my cancer man for a year now. He has always been typical cancer. Retreats in his shell when mad, comes back as if nothing happened. We have a long distance relationship, although we both come to enjoy it, as we like the road trips to visit each other, and see each other quite often anyways. Everything has been going excellent recently. He tells me I make him happy, we have great convos, etc etc. Though, it has come to my attention that my cancer man is suffering some serious problems in life right now, but isnt super into opening up to me about it. He came to town this weekend, only to drop off the face of the earth. No one heard from him, including his friends, and myself. He said he wanted to see me, as per usual. Though we never got around to meeting up. He texted me a day later saying he was annoyed at how I was being rude again and impatient. (This is the first time he has ever come to town in a year and not seen me or his friends. He is a cancer and always likes to be the man of the town when he is here. He sent me a huge long text explaining how i was the bad guy ( as per usual) . I didnt even bother to respond, as I was quite pissed off. He texted me again asking why I had not replied. I ended up replying an hour later putting him in his place and letting him know I was super upset and did not deserve to be treated like that. I told him I understood he was having some personal problems, but I did not want him to treat me so rudely. Now he has barely even texted me since then. Maybe once, and usually we text all day everyday and are super cute and happy.

I dont know what to do, as I am stuck between being upset by how he treated me but also not wanting to give up as it has been a year and we have gotten through a lot when it comes to understanding eachother and getting better at communicating.

oh man

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Posted by Arielle83
It just sounds like he's casually dating you.

6 dates and 2 months isn't enough to lock this into a relationship.

I just don't get why invited himself to meet my friends and said he wants to see me more in the future. now sent me photos of him and guy friends. To me that sends a message of he is friednzoning me.

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Posted by Gemini_love
He just is that way. You can't change him... do you like him for who he is completely? Otherwise walk away now because that old taboo of thinking you can change someone will come back to get you. Calling his actions gross is a bad sign, if you're not accepting of how he is why would you even bother?

Absolutely. I am so smitten with this guy, I don't ever want to let him go.

He is very polite, sincere with his words, soooo kind and giving, he even cooks cleans and smells like flowers (Seriously, I'm not even kidding, he always smells soo good). My mom literally said he reminds her of the song "So Fresh So Clean" by Outkast.

As I said though, he is more feminine than me! I lead us. I have to make all the decisions. And I just find him sooooo f-ing passive. He's like "I’m happy with whatever you want" "anything you decide will be amazing" "I'm not sure, what do you think?" =.= Wtf?!?

I called his behavior gross because I have never met such a soft, "rollover" type of guy. He's spineless and non-opinionated and he cries at the time. He cooks better than I do, he's more unrealistic than I am, and just no.

Overall, I do believe he would surely endure satisfaction and everlasting happiness... IF he maned up.

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Posted by Gemini_love
He just is that way. You can't change him... do you like him for who he is completely? Otherwise walk away now because that old taboo of thinking you can change someone will come back to get you. Calling his actions gross is a bad sign, if you're not accepting of how he is why would you even bother?

Absolutely. I am so smitten with this guy, I don't ever want to let him go.

He is very polite, sincere with his words, soooo kind and giving, he even cooks cleans and smells like flowers (Seriously, I'm not even kidding, he always smells soo good). My mom literally said he reminds her of the song "So Fresh So Clean" by Outkast.

As I said though, he is more feminine than me! I lead us. I have to make all the decisions. And I just find him sooooo f-ing passive. He's like "I’m happy with whatever you want" "anything you decide will be amazing" "I'm not sure, what do you think?" =.= Wtf?!?

I called his behavior gross because I have never met such a soft, "rollover" type of guy. He's spineless and non-opinionated and he cries at the time. He cooks better than I do, he's more unrealistic than I am, and just no.

Overall, I do believe he would surely endure satisfaction and everlasting happiness... IF he maned up.

My cancer "man" hasn't felt me, fatso.

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Posted by siopaowiks
I posted here way back april. I was seeing this cancer guy for a month,everything was ok then poof! Vanished! One month no communication. Then out of the blue,he liked the video I posted on fb of me playing the piano. He seldom likes my posts so I was kinda shocked he liked the video and was happy he was still alive. But then the next day when I tried looking at his fb, I saw he deleted me! Like wth?! You never talk to me for a month,like my video then suddenly you delete me?! Out of impulse I txted him-hey what's up? Then we txted for hours,then I asked why he deleted me,then he said he was getting flooded abt gorilla comments on his newsfeed so he went crazy and deleted people. Thing is, I never posted anything abt the gorilla,and why did u like my video if you're gonna delete me on fb after?? Are you asking for attention?

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Posted by siopaowiks
I posted here way back april. I was seeing this cancer guy for a month,everything was ok then poof! Vanished! One month no communication. Then out of the blue,he liked the video I posted on fb of me playing the piano. He seldom likes my posts so I was kinda shocked he liked the video and was happy he was still alive. But then the next day when I tried looking at his fb, I saw he deleted me! Like wth?! You never talk to me for a month,like my video then suddenly you delete me?! Out of impulse I txted him-hey what's up? Then we txted for hours,then I asked why he deleted me,then he said he was getting flooded abt gorilla comments on his newsfeed so he went crazy and deleted people. Thing is, I never posted anything abt the gorilla,and why did u like my video if you're gonna delete me on fb after?? Are you asking for attention?

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Posted by siopaowiks
I posted here way back april. I was seeing this cancer guy for a month,everything was ok then poof! Vanished! One month no communication. Then out of the blue,he liked the video I posted on fb of me playing the piano. He seldom likes my posts so I was kinda shocked he liked the video and was happy he was still alive. But then the next day when I tried looking at his fb, I saw he deleted me! Like wth?! You never talk to me for a month,like my video then suddenly you delete me?! Out of impulse I txted him-hey what's up? Then we txted for hours,then I asked why he deleted me,then he said he was getting flooded abt gorilla comments on his newsfeed so he went crazy and deleted people. Thing is, I never posted anything abt the gorilla,and why did u like my video if you're gonna delete me on fb after?? Are you asking for attention?

i wonder if i should count her again since he left her a second time

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Posted by siopaowiks
I posted here way back april. I was seeing this cancer guy for a month,everything was ok then poof! Vanished! One month no communication. Then out of the blue,he liked the video I posted on fb of me playing the piano. He seldom likes my posts so I was kinda shocked he liked the video and was happy he was still alive. But then the next day when I tried looking at his fb, I saw he deleted me! Like wth?! You never talk to me for a month,like my video then suddenly you delete me?! Out of impulse I txted him-hey what's up? Then we txted for hours,then I asked why he deleted me,then he said he was getting flooded abt gorilla comments on his newsfeed so he went crazy and deleted people. Thing is, I never posted anything abt the gorilla,and why did u like my video if you're gonna delete me on fb after?? Are you asking for attention?

i wonder if i should count her again since he left her a second time

Yeah, I vote for counting it twice after reading through the thread (why you ask? Because I like watching slow motion train wrecks)

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Posted by siopaowiks
I posted here way back april. I was seeing this cancer guy for a month,everything was ok then poof! Vanished! One month no communication. Then out of the blue,he liked the video I posted on fb of me playing the piano. He seldom likes my posts so I was kinda shocked he liked the video and was happy he was still alive. But then the next day when I tried looking at his fb, I saw he deleted me! Like wth?! You never talk to me for a month,like my video then suddenly you delete me?! Out of impulse I txted him-hey what's up? Then we txted for hours,then I asked why he deleted me,then he said he was getting flooded abt gorilla comments on his newsfeed so he went crazy and deleted people. Thing is, I never posted anything abt the gorilla,and why did u like my video if you're gonna delete me on fb after?? Are you asking for attention?

i wonder if i should count her again since he left her a second time

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Posted by taupixie
I think he liked me a lot.

I think he was so afraid & so he blocked the feelings, pretended it isn't, played up the sex & put up a facade.

I think he guarded very strongly from me, to the point he would snapped at little petty thing not to his comfort.

I understand this very well coming from someone with fixed Sun and Moon of him with a lot of fixed signs in his personal planets.

Anyway, I have used up everything to tear the walls down without avail.

There wasn't enough to get to him.

Perhaps, we are truly not the most compatible for each other if all I do only pushes him further away.

I need to stop hoping and trying.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
This linked thread should bring the count to at least 50:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/are-all-cancer-men-effeminate-losers-6459142/

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Posted by taupixie
I think he liked me a lot.

I think he was so afraid & so he blocked the feelings, pretended it isn't, played up the sex & put up a facade.

I think he guarded very strongly from me, to the point he would snapped at little petty thing not to his comfort.

I understand this very well coming from someone with fixed Sun and Moon of him with a lot of fixed signs in his personal planets.

Anyway, I have used up everything to tear the walls down without avail.

There wasn't enough to get to him.

Perhaps, we are truly not the most compatible for each other if all I do only pushes him further away.

I need to stop hoping and trying.

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Posted by Poppyseeds
Been dating for a bit over 2 months and been on 7 dates. We have a lot in common intellectually and emotionally, as well as our values when it comes to relationship and sex.

We made it known that we are only dating each other, and he wants to take it slow like only see me once a week which suits my schedule. We did it after the talk and he kept telling me how amazing it is during and after. We cuddled and showered together then we went to bed. The next day he made me breakfast and walked me to the station.

I some how have a gut feeling that he wants to take it slow is due to the instability of his career, as it might take him overseas. I asked if that's the case. He was shocked that I could sense it. He said he is not taking it slow consciously due to this reason but it make sense. He also added he's been single for 18 months so he's been in "preserved mode" not sure what that really means... he said his previous relationship was intense with lots of hot and cold from his Virgo ex, they had lots of arguments during the relationship as that's the only way she communicates, and the end was an ugly fight. I asked if they are still in touch. He said not really. As she is overseas and he cut it off when it got too much, she was going through a lot and would randomly message him just to use him to listen to all of her problems.

Perhaps that is why he said to me many times that I'm really sweet and he really likes that. As I seem to be the opposite to his ex?

I told him no one really knows what's going to happen, lets just keep getting to know each other and enjoy our time together. I'm glad we both are very open to talk about stuff. I'm glad we both have a trust foundation and emotional openness that allows us to talk.

I guess sex has more impact on woman as it makes me feel more vulnerable now... he hasn't made solid plan to see me, he only said I will meet his house mate when he is back from holiday. he also said I have to show him that photo next time. he kissed me passionately at the station before he left, I told him he should go as he was running late. haven't heard from him since.

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its gone

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/are-all-cancer-men-effeminate-losers-6459142/

Either good or to bad that this evidence with all those nasty ones showing their true color are gone.

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Posted by thankyounote
Hi everyone! First message (fingers crossed I do this right...), I made an account just because I am VERY much so lost & in need of some understanding of Cancers - or Cancer men in particular.

For starters, I'm a Leo woman & I've known this guy for years - we shared the same circle of friends in secondary school & even went to college at the same place. I've had a very prolonged crush on him about 80% of the time I've known him, but I never told anyone about it except one girlfriend of mine because I was very much so the "ugly duckling" of our friends and had already convinced myself that it was pointless to try and make something out of nothing. This was about the time a mutual girlfriend had learned that I had a crush on him and decided to "pursue" him (I can't say she really pursued him as she allowed him to hang out with her, she would go to him to cry on his shoulder, he would drop everything to be with her). We were all friends, so we would all hang out, etc. I never made a big issue of it and I kind of licked my wounds in private.

About two years ago, we really started talking/semi-flirting (I think it was more on my part than his); this mutual girlfriend of ours had basically let things go with him (she told my best friend he was just someone to make her feel good when she needed it). We didn't really hang out or see one another, we would just text, send each other stupid messages, stuff like that. He invited me to a graduation party and I DID go, but I spent the majority of the time just sitting there awkwardly until it was time for me to leave - and that was the most we spoke. I decided to have a party a few months ago and I invited him to it. I WAS casually seeing someone at this time but I wound up kissing him for a lot of the night and didn't know what to do afterward. I figured it would be best to clear away my attachments before I led him on - I did tell him I was seeing someone & that I wanted us to be friends before anything else. He agreed... months of silence.

A few weeks ago we started talking again and we hung out again, but this time it was just us. We talked a lot about future plans & goals, and I even drunkenly confessed that I'd had a crush on him for years but had never plucked up the courage to say it sooner. When he asked why, I flat out said that I was sure he had a fling with our mutual girlfriend, but he promptly denied that either of them were a thing. Either way, I told him I liked him - a lot. We did hook up (but no sex), and I stayed the night. We've been texting on/off since then, but one day he'll tell me about his past, his childhood, his parents, etc. and then he'll completely disappear.

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He has casually brought up the mutual girlfriend's name since then in our last conversation and when I responded that we didn't talk anymore, he just disappeared once again.

Am I wasting my time? Or is this normal for a Cancer? I can provide additional details for clarification... please help!

Posted by rabidtalker
everything sounds normal

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Posted by snowcrab
Cancers do that. They retreat into their shell to take stock of things, to evaluate and decide where their heart is. It can be 2 days (although this is too short), 5 days, 10 days, 2 weeks: to them, it really doesn't seem that long at all. If they care, they always come back and you know you've touched them where it counts... But be prepared, they may retreat again as soon as they feel threatened by some things unforeseen.

If Cancer Man leaves and you did nothing wrong to upset him, let him be. He will come back. If you want him, just wait it out and pick up where you left. They hate reproaches, even when deserved.

If Cancer Man leaves and it is because you did something to upset him, don't hesitate to apologize and own up to your wrongs (forget about mentionning his, he will 100% do his own thinking and thread in his own guilt, thank you very much!). Apologize and be sincere about your feelings for him. Then give him time to think about all this, It may take some time. If he comes back, you will need to hear about how you hurt him and let him vent. Listen well and ask him how you could make things ok again between the two of you. He will tell you. Then don't repeat the same mistake. That is not to say don't do any mistakes, just don't repeat the same one you apologized for, because if you do, the apology you made will be seen as insincere, his trust will be broken and it will be goodbye forever.

Being a Cancer Woman, dating a Cancer Man (currently retreated in his shell), with many great Cancer friends, I can tell you that the cat-and-mouse game is not our thing. People do perceive retreating in our shell as playing cat-and-mouse, but it is not. It is just self-preservation.

Be soft and gentle to them, caring, but don't mother or baby them, stand firmly on your own two feet. They do like a stable woman with strength and character! They don't care for being lavished with gifts or for women who walk on their knees. They much prefer little gestures of kindness, which are never lost on them, they do notice even the smallest of things.

I love being a Cancer woman and I love Cancer men! The passion and intensity is inebriating! But it is a sword that cuts both ways...

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Posted by snowcrab
Oh! If you are with a Cancer, be strong, gentle and caring, but also do let them know that you need them. Cancers love to be needed.

I have dated a crab guy just recently, i call it quit and told him i would go on with my life as he was confusing me all the time. I deleted him in watsapp and could not see my DP there. But when i check, am still in his watsapp and havent deleted me yet.Do you think he will talk to me soon? As im still in his contact.

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Posted by HouseCleaning
its gone

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/are-all-cancer-men-effeminate-losers-6459142/

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its gone

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/are-all-cancer-men-effeminate-losers-6459142/

I figured the sock puppet would get deleted after the person behind it didn't quite get the reaction they wanted.
But it did attract some of the usual suspects who were on that topic like flies on poop.

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Posted by Gracezee
I just initiated a broke up with a cancer guy 2 weeks ago. We dated for a few months 5 years ago but due to his concerns about his young kids he resigned and went back to his home country to live with his kids ( he was divorced). It was 12 hrs flight away he didn’t think a LDR was realistic and we peacefully disconnected. Three years ago he visited here on business trip he contacted me again we met for lunch and he asked me for dinner the 2nd day. But he just disappeared on 2nd day 3pm onwards till 9pm without any explaination and uncontactable. I was pissed off. After 9pm he sent me text and called me I didn’t reply any more. So I totally cut him off from my life. January this year he contacted me again. He apologised sincerely and insisted to invited me for a dinner to make up for it. I said no need and he didn’t owe me anything. But he bought ticket and came… he did quite a few things and tried to convince me to build a relationship together. He said it would be possible if we want and be flexible. So we went on from there. In April he came again and we went on a few days trip together. The 3 months we communicated well he would initiate messages, checking on my feeling. When I expressed some feeling he would respond and explain. Almost everyday we communicated in text messages. The trip in end April was all great till the last day because of the finance. Eventually we both reflected and agreed to continue to get to know and understand each other better. Then we tried to look ahead for next meet up but it turned out he had a very busy schedule all to August. During the discussion we tried to talk but he couldn’t talked to each other in an appropriate timing so we kept missing on each other I was upset on it. Eventually we continued from there. But for the past 2 to 3 weeks before we broke up he became distant and often ignored my text messages for 3 to 5 days till I initiated message again when he finally replied he always say something sweet and apologised for poor communication or busy working, with kids, backache etc. I was upset he didn’t even send me a happy birthday message despite he knows my birthday and even Skype had popped up. I was upset that he would say he promised to call then when he didn’t make it he would not say anything before or after. It was like nothing happened he didn’t promise anything. He said there was no change in mind and feelings from him(right before I broke up he called me after almost 2 weeks, so we caught up by updating each other and families. I asked him if he has changed he said no. But after a while the connection went bad so we didn’t manage to talk more). I told him by text that it was my birthday. And I said I wished to hear he said it. I asked him to call me back but he said he would call the following day. In the end I told him I felt the ignorance, lacking of support and respect. I said

Posted by Gracezee
...After that, I felt good and in peace for a few days but meanwhile I was still quite concerned about his backache and eyesight as he mentioned during the phone call. I wanted to urge him to find time for treatment (he is running his own newly set up company very busy and stressful). I also felt bad that my feeling is one thing but he insisted he hasn’t changed and I still said I thought he had changed and just cut it off. He didn’t reply anything after i sent all those broke up messages. I have never in my life treating anyone like this, he is the first one I did the turnaround twice… I reflected in the past 2 weeks I did my reflection and felt I was not patient enough and I had no understanding of many possible reasons behind his behaviour I only thought he ignored me lost interest and not respected me. … I regretted that I didn’t give it a bit more time. I felt he was determined when he came back into my life this round. He told me I was the person he always felt like coming home could be himself and he felt safe to let into his private life. .. during these past 2 weeks I had a few time wanted to send him messages to urge him to find time to take care of his problem but I hesitated . I wrote message telling him my feelings but I didn’t send out. My girlfriends and guy friends told me not to send anything. I read online “how to get your ex back when regretted broke up”, it mostly says to wait for at least one month. I feel like to send him father’s day message and thank him for his fatherly care to my daughter so far. But it is been only 2 and a half weeks. Not one month. His birthday is in July. I am still thinking getting him birthday gift. I regretted the broke up but also realised it was good to let us both reflect on this relationship after 5 months. But I really hope we could overcome this and move forward to continue work against all the challenges. I really wish we could adjust ourselves to build further as I really care about him… so my question is, despite it’s not yet one month after broke up, should I still send him father’s day message? Would it help? In what way it could be a more appropriate message? Thank you very much for reading my sharing and questions. Would appreciate very much if you could advice on it

Posted by Gracezee
Dear Arielle, thanks for taking time to write down your feelings. I appreciate your straightness. But it gives me a shocking surprise thar my sharing gave you such an impression... you are the first one of all says so. Did I appear like that? I only felt I might end up give him impression that I was so emotional. But he and even I still deep down believe we both are never into playing games. I am 44, he is 54. We both are very caring persons and never would like to hurt anyone.

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Posted by Gracezee
Dear Arielle, thanks for taking time to write down your feelings. I appreciate your straightness. But it gives me a shocking surprise thar my sharing gave you such an impression... you are the first one of all says so. Did I appear like that? I only felt I might end up give him impression that I was so emotional. But he and even I still deep down believe we both are never into playing games. I am 44, he is 54. We both are very caring persons and never would like to hurt anyone.

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Posted by Arielle83

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
With an addendum....

Posted by Gracezee
Dear Arielle, thanks for taking time to write down your feelings. I appreciate your straightness. But it gives me a shocking surprise thar my sharing gave you such an impression... you are the first one of all says so. Did I appear like that? I only felt I might end up give him impression that I was so emotional. But he and even I still deep down believe we both are never into playing games. I am 44, he is 54. We both are very caring persons and never would like to hurt anyone.

I can't respond to all that whining and why won't he text me before 9pm to care about her situation.

Wha wha wha

It's like u pushed and he left. Duh!

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Posted by cappygirl11
I mean I just questioned my bf of 5 years once about where he really was and asked y is he avoiding me. He went crazy. First didn't speak to me for a week. Then told me now he really is avoiding me. Refused to see me. I had an accident he still refused to see me..... today he tells me if I wad broken enough not to have sex he would reconsider our relationship. ... and I'm thinking....wtf...have u been wasting my life.

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Posted by taupixie
I think he liked me a lot.

I think he was so afraid & so he blocked the feelings, pretended it isn't, played up the sex & put up a facade.

I think he guarded very strongly from me, to the point he would snapped at little petty thing not to his comfort.

I understand this very well coming from someone with fixed Sun and Moon of him with a lot of fixed signs in his personal planets.

Anyway, I have used up everything to tear the walls down without avail.

There wasn't enough to get to him.

Perhaps, we are truly not the most compatible for each other if all I do only pushes him further away.

I need to stop hoping and trying.

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Posted by SEXYSCORP70
Hi Everyone, I was dating a cancer man since the last 5 months.I am a scorpio woman he was crazy about me. Initially in the starting everything was very good but then he started becoming distant and i was very suspicious so things turned , before he used to call me all the time then i started calling him all the time.This made him get irritated still he was very nice to me.There were days he would adore me then there were days when he would get mad at me but would always come back.About one and a half months before, we had to meet each other he called me to his place.but was not telling me the plan properly and i was constantly calling him when he was with his mom.I got irritated and angry and said alot of hurtful things to him.he blocked me from evrywhr after that and said he can never talk to someone like me.i tried apologising the next day but he just wasn’t ready to talk to me at all and would constantly not pick up my phone and ignore me all the time and also block me.After a few days i told his frnd to make him talk to me i was so helpless,he called me up then and started screaming at me that why are u embarrising me in front of my friends and you bloody idiot and what not i didn’t say a word and still kept on apologizing n saying i love him.He didn’t bother at all.in this middle ,he also made his frnd msg me that he is seeing someone else so that i don’t call him.After a few days i again tried to reach him but he had blocked me so i called him from an unkown no and said if u don’t talk to me or unblock me i will call up your mom.He called me and said what kind of a person you are and alot of shit like i have no interest in you.I thought i will be frnds with you but now i will not you are disgusting and what not but also said that he is not seeing anyone he told his frnd to tell me that purposely.Screamed and kept down the phone.After a few days i again called him up crying and apologizing and asking for one last chance and that i really love him and i will change for him and he again screamed and me and said that i am a blackmailer i was calling up his mom( which i never did i jus said it in anger cs iwas so helpless he blocked me from his phone), Also said that i am not of his level i am a dirty person he hates me his frnds hate me they all know what a bitchi am , i have no self respect, i come from a bad upbringing or family cs i keep on calling him.I kept on crying apologizing fr not hvng control on my lang when i am angry and he didn’t bother n said i am not a nice person and he doesn’t want to be with anyone like me and kept down the phone.I asked him to meet he said it is another one of my drama and refused n shouted on me.I am so helpless after that i didn’t do anything , its been two weeks he didn’t bother also abt me i am still blocked also.he alwys had issues with the words i used when i was angry but i have caug

Posted by mangomania
I'm a taurus woman. I went out with my cancer man for six months. He went through a break up 6 months prior to meeting me. Meeting him felt as though we knew each other very long.Our relationship was similar to yours in that we were alwaya together. We went out. We would spend days at one anothers apts. It was growing fast. We had strong feelings.I would often say If you feel like we ate going to fast and you want to fall back let me know. He told me not to worry about him. He could take care of himself. Not to mention he went MIA once. Came back after 3 days.

He was also mean sometimes for no reason. He would rarely say anything nice. Then one day he went MIA. Have not heard from him. No excuse nothing.I was heartbroken and disappointed. You need to let him go and give him space. It will drive u crazy.You have to see that you deserve better.

Posted by libralotus
I've been seeing my ex again and it's been going great. Well, I thought. He "left" town to go visit a friend but told me he lied because things got complicated and he needed time. He told me he still wanted to be with me, loved me and it was just timing. The told me he wanted a week to figure things out and then we could start over. I just feel really hurt by this and I feel like it's extremely selfish of him. He won't tell me what things he needed to figure out. What do I do? I don't know if I'm overreacting or if I should just walk away with dignity.

Posted by Darling
Do they ever feel guilt or remorse for hurting those who show them the most love?

Do they notice how much effort a person puts into trying to make the happy?

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Talking never works!

They lie too damn much!!!

Is leaving the only way to show them they hurt you?

Or

Are you considered a joke in their eyes because you choose to stick around n take all their crap?

Seriously

Do they ever notice how drained you get?