Cancer man left me... (Page 4)

"regulars" chime in. Might not add to the count, but worthwhile capturing the bitterness:

Posted by libraqueen
Yeah they're creepy. 



If you want them to want you pretend they can't have you and they'll chase you head on. 



*shudders*

Posted by boxcarmirnta
You won't know BC they'll lie and be full of shit and then run and hide.....you'll never see em again.

Posted by taupixie
They tell you they like you only, & once things seem rosier & going up, they disappear.

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Some of the "regulars" chime in. Might not add to the count, but worthwhile capturing the bitterness:

Posted by libraqueen
Yeah they're creepy. 



If you want them to want you pretend they can't have you and they'll chase you head on. 



*shudders*

Posted by boxcarmirnta
You won't know BC they'll lie and be full of shit and then run and hide.....you'll never see em again.

Posted by taupixie
They tell you they like you only, & once things seem rosier & going up, they disappear.

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Posted by SEXYSCORP777
It breaks my heart and kills me eveyday to live without my cancer man who left me 2 months back after a deep love affair because i really gave it off to him after his endless weeks of not being around.I tried everythng i could to get him back but he doesnt care for anything and calls my tears also drama...i know i hv made mistakes but i hv also appologized sincerly...it kills me everyday...😢

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Posted by SEXYSCORP777
It breaks my heart and kills me eveyday to live without my cancer man who left me 2 months back after a deep love affair because i really gave it off to him after his endless weeks of not being around.I tried everythng i could to get him back but he doesnt care for anything and calls my tears also drama...i know i hv made mistakes but i hv also appologized sincerly...it kills me everyday...😢

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Posted by SEXYSCORP777
It breaks my heart and kills me eveyday to live without my cancer man who left me 2 months back after a deep love affair because i really gave it off to him after his endless weeks of not being around.I tried everythng i could to get him back but he doesnt care for anything and calls my tears also drama...i know i hv made mistakes but i hv also appologized sincerly...it kills me everyday...😢

None can escape this thread....lol

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Posted by HouseCleaning
Because someone has to keep score.

Is that Tom ?❤❤❤

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Posted by Bittenbythecrab
I'm a Scorpio woman and have known this Cancer friend for more than 20 years. About 2 months ago, I met him at another friend's house. I trust him completely, so told him of my decision to separate from my husband. We got a little high that night and after everyone had gone to sleep, he kissed me. I was completely taken aback, oh, but I enjoyed it tthoroughly. I live in a different city, however, I was in his city again the next week and we got physical again. No sex, just necking. Over the past two months, we've met about 6 times. And except for the first two times, all meetings have been initiated by me. He doesn't call or text on his own. He has some excuse every time for not calling or texting. He's been demonstrative in front of our friends. I even went to his home once and reconnected with his family. The complication i think is I'm not working currently, am looking for a job. Also, my husband hasn't really moved out of my house and this my Cancer friend knows. I get hurt when he doesn't respond to my messages. He told me in the beginning to take this really slow, but I've pushed him a couple of times and he's gone off into his shell. My question to all - do you think he's into me? Should I forget him?

Posted by libralotus
I have been on and off with a cancer guy most of this year. We get together for a couple weeks and I become really invested. He eventually calls it quits and the cycle repeats. I actually feel stupid for believing that he genuinely wants to be together but he's usually so convincing. I'm not sure if this past "break up" is for good or not, but as soon as he wanted out I didn't beg to make it work for the first time. I let him leave and haven't spoken to him in almost two weeks.

Anyways, I'm not sure if this is effective or not but sometimes I wallow in the person I've been hurt by. I listen to songs that remind me of them or check their facebook occasionally. I feel like being reminded of being hurt will eventually force myself to move on instead of just trying to forget about it.

Not sure if I'm making any sense but if I am, does anyone else do this?

Posted by SuperMissMan
I hate them so much I felt a need to make a thread about it in the FUCKING astrology thread. FUCK YOU MANIPULATIVE LITTLE BITCH BOYS. GROW THE FUCK UP AND BE ME. JESUS FUCKING CHRIST. Fucking go back in your shell where you fucking came from and get TF out of my face. I HATE cancer me. Hey are the most manipulative, lying, bastardous fucking retarded, and shit excuses of her man beings. I am FINISHED dealing with cancer me . If I find out someone is a cancer me. The phone gets blocked, good fucking bye, not even an explanation.

Posted by SuperMissMan
Oh how FUCKING ironic I see this post right now. THEY ARE MANIPULATIVE EVIL FUCKS. Fuck them. FUCK THEM. I hate cancer men. My concerned has lied to my friends making himself a victim in our relationship, and now months after we broke up he fucking goes behind my back talks to my best fucking friend who we just started falling for each other and talking shit about me but pretending to be there for me and help me with him. FUCK HIM. What a scumbag I thought he actually fucking cared about me for a second and was actually helping me. Piece of shit

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Posted by Scrumptious
Wheres housecleaning?

You're housecleaning.....?

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Posted by AnonymousTaurus41
We were together for close to 2 years. Part of it was long distance. He was SOOO in love with me, and he grew on me. I fell for him. Just a little over a month ago, things started to fall apart. He stopped calling. Then, he'd make the usual excuses about being busy, yet telling me he wants to get back to the way things used to be with us. Only, he'd never really put much effort. Then, the distance got to him (understandably), but he still wanted to be together. I gave him every opportunity to get out if he wanted. I told him we could breakup and I wouldn't beg or call or text. He kept telling me that isn't what he wanted. Well, over 2 weeks ago, he started to ignore my calls. He allied me back one day, started this whole crap about the distance thing, he loved me, PROMISED he would call back, but didn't. So, I called him the next day, no answer or call back. I haven't called or texted him since. It's been 2 weeks. Last week (after 10 days of silence), I get a dirty text from him. I never replied. I didn't want him to think he could ignore me, but contact me when he wanted sex. 6 days now, and nothing from him since then. I'm wondering if the text was accidental? Was it meant for someone else? Is that possible when I haven't contact him in 10-14 days? Now, I'm missing him like CRAZY. I thought about contacting him, but what if there is someone else?! I need some guidance here, please ??

Posted by SuperMissMan
FUCKAND cancer men you can do MUCH better get yourself a real fucking guy, dating a cancer man is as good as becoming a lesbian. Since they're fucking women, always PMSing and they're fucking children too. You need to be their mommy not their SO

Posted by sweetsammie
Hello- I am new to the site and want to run a story by you and what to make of this union- if anything. I will make it quick..

My best friend that I've known for 14 years (she is about 25 years older than me) 10 years ago I met her son who is a cancer and he is 6 years younger than me.. when we first met he was always trying to kiss me etc but I was not into it cause he was so young to me at the time! We've stayed friends over tyhe years..and 4 years ago he met a girl and they have been together since then. They don't live in the same state as me. They broke up a year ago and he came out to visit his mom who lives 15 min from me.. so well we all hung out. Him and I got together that evening and one thing let to another.. I was so embarrassed to tell his mom but I did and she was over the moon.( she wants us to end up together) Anyway, he ended up getting back with his ex. So fast forward to 2 weeks ago he called his mom and was asking about me and if im with anyone etc. Mind you, I am incredibly close with his mom ( we talk everyday) so he does go to her to ask about me..My friend also has expressed that she wants us to end up together and she will pray that we do lol.. So last night my friend calls me to tell me that he ended the relationship for good and is coming out in 2 weeks... it didn't even take 24 hours since the break up for him to reach out to me to ask how I am doing and to tell me of this break up.

Do you smell a rebound? Or not so much due to our history and my relationship with his mother.

Posted by AlaniaB
Give it to me harsh here. What is with this person.

He pursued me, but he won't take the plunge and be in a relationship with me

He calls me sometimes 3 times a day, wants to talk to me for hours about everything. His life, family, everything and he always wants to know everything about me and help me if I am sad / worried.

He seems to be completely crazy about me, sends me gifts and movie quotes he says remind him of me and song lyrics and long pages of texts about how beautiful I am, how perfect I am, like he has me on a pedestal as this untouchable goddess or something.

He is insanely jealous. I mean, like he is so insanely jealous that if someone else asks me out -even if I say "no", he will literally not talk to me for a week and he gets insanely jealous of all my male friends even if there is zero going on.

He will not shut up about how beautiful / perfect I am and seems totally convinced every other guy feels the same (they don't) but he says they would if they knew me like he did.

He told all his friends he's madly in love with me, and he is not interested in any other girl.

And yet he will just not take the plunge and date me, or even really see me. He keeps me at arms length. If I ask him why, he tells me I am too good for him, too perfect for him and that he will disappoint me. He tells me that I make him feel vulnerable and this scares him. He says he screwed up his first marriage and loses everyone he loves and he thinks he will lose me too.

If I get mad at him, he gives me the full-blown silent treatment but always comes back, no matter how long, saying he can't forget me.

4.5 months ago his parents died suddenly, and so for that reason alone I have tolerated a lot of bullshit with him, been very supportive and patient, but I am tired, frustrated, sick of not dating ANYONE if he does not get himself together I am going to walk.

I am a Scorpio, so once I am done, i am truly done.

Can anyone explain this?

Is this the cancer man and how he behaves? or is he just a selfish idiot who is playing with me?

Posted by phEnyxBull876
My CancerDude finally left me.

Unbeknowmst to me, he snooped on me for a long time, since we began dating (maybe before, who knows). Knew that I had casually hooked up with a guy just prior to us officially dating (never states exclusive, but over time implied). I also nonchalantly spoke with guys with whom I had no attraction during the 2 years we were together (Venus Gemini). I sought attention from what I saw as harmless places when I didn't think i was getting the attention I deserved from CancerDude... Which is an ironic cycle BC he would shut me out when he snooped something new, and I sought attention when he shut me out.

I had devoted myself to him. But because I was never upfront abt the side chats I had. Or the prior dating hookup. And when he tried to confront me abt it (which for him meant saying "is there anything you want to tell me?" ... Giving the rope to hang myself on), I couldn't give straightforward answers. Which I now realize is because when I do something that I am ashamed of or want to forget, I push it out of my memory. Things that mean something to me, my memory is great... If I don't want to remember, I block it out.

So after almost 2years if me not ponying up details that I mistakenly and confusingly thought didn't matter...because all the while he would say it doesn't matter what I do or who i talk to because he knows I'm his and that I love him... And after me lashing out when pushed and pushed to admit things that i couldnt remember or absolutely didn't so, or answers questions that had to be answered in a specific way or in a certain amt of time.... He's given me the boot. If course, I feel its all my fault and I'm internalizing it. I'm emotionally stunted and immature. And I feel lost.

Side note: august last year he met a girl at a party, during a time when we were having a rough communication and apparently one of the times he "found" stuff out. It was a very bad time and really the beginning of the end. He carried on the friendship for months and didn't tell me, until she was having personal family problems and finally deemed me worthy of being involved (which I "ruined" because I questioned who she was). They would hang out, during times when he would.disappear for hours which wasn't the norm for him. And he'd lie about it. He'd been to her house, done things with her he used to so with me, and if I confronted him abt it, he flipped it on me and in a way said well this is what you did to me so its justified

Posted by tooemotional
When a Cancer man wants out of a relationship, how does he typically do it? Does he just stop talking to you? I'm a Pisces woman and my cancer man has been giving me the silent treatment for almost 3 days. He does not respond to anything. I made him angry, but what I said to him was in reaction to hurt he has caused me repeatedly. He has never apologized. instead, he is acting like I am the only one who did anything. I have apologized, even though I did not really do anything. No response. I have asked him three times via text if our relationship is over...no response. He has done this before, and ended up coming back as if nothing had happened, but this time seems different...and worse because I actually said something to hurt him. The other times, I was angry...and he got angry because I was angry and gave me the silent treatment. What do I do? Keep apologizing? Keep texting and calling...or disappear like he has and hope he comes out of his shell? I'm really afraid he won't this time. However, I feel that as adults, if the relationship is over we should at least verbalize it...I have even given him the easy way out by asking if we're done via text...he could just say yes...but he says nothing. At all. Any insight?

Posted by SensitiveBlues
I've seen one of ya'll in Action, well he's a cusp...June 22 or 23rd

but man he was good, such a fuking little liar.

Posted by Poppyseeds
We are dating exclusively and the last I saw him he told me he fell into a depression due to instability of work, and he INSISTED we have to keep moving forward, I asked him if he is sure as it sounded like he wants to stop seeing each other. He remeasured me that's not the case.

His ACTION didn't back it up as I haven's seen him for 3 weeks, the last text from him was early last week, he sounded very sincere that you can't help but feel bad for him. I responded to let him know I sympathize his situation and that he can make it up to me later. He hasn't responded until now and it's been a week, I know he is alive as he has been active on social media.

When dating a cancer guy don't listen to his words, his words are always sincere look at his action. Below is the text that had me fooled last week.

"Hey. It's me that should apologise to you for being totally off the radar.

This project has been a huge thing that has taken over my life since I saw you last. The days are very long and it took me most of last week to adjust to the stress of it all. I'm enjoying it but i feel a lot of pressure to do a good job, and when I finish I just want to go home and sleep to try and refuel my spirit for the next day. I'm in a pattern of self preservation.

None of that is an excuse for not staying in decent contact with you, but maybe it partly explains it. I'm so preoccupied with trying to do a good job and to forge a stable life for myself in my profession that it's hard for me to think about other things: friends, family and love too. It's not my wish to be so single-minded, it's just that mentally and physically I can't seem to juggle it all.

People always say "we do what we want to do" but it's actually difficult for me to know how I could have managed this better. I feel like I'm just getting by. It's not who I want to be in the long term but I don't really know how else I could be doing things without stuffing up the job!

Agh. I'm sorry. I don't know how to bring you into my rollercoaster without it just adding to my nerves about juggling things. It's too overwhelming for me to consider when I'm in this state.

I don't want this message to be definitive about anything because that would SUCK. I just don't know how to make things any better for the next 3 weeks while this is still going on. x"

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Posted by Poppyseeds
We are dating exclusively and the last I saw him he told me he fell into a depression due to instability of work, and he INSISTED we have to keep moving forward, I asked him if he is sure as it sounded like he wants to stop seeing each other. He remeasured me that's not the case.

His ACTION didn't back it up as I haven's seen him for 3 weeks, the last text from him was early last week, he sounded very sincere that you can't help but feel bad for him. I responded to let him know I sympathize his situation and that he can make it up to me later. He hasn't responded until now and it's been a week, I know he is alive as he has been active on social media.

When dating a cancer guy don't listen to his words, his words are always sincere look at his action. Below is the text that had me fooled last week.

"Hey. It's me that should apologise to you for being totally off the radar.

This project has been a huge thing that has taken over my life since I saw you last. The days are very long and it took me most of last week to adjust to the stress of it all. I'm enjoying it but i feel a lot of pressure to do a good job, and when I finish I just want to go home and sleep to try and refuel my spirit for the next day. I'm in a pattern of self preservation.

None of that is an excuse for not staying in decent contact with you, but maybe it partly explains it. I'm so preoccupied with trying to do a good job and to forge a stable life for myself in my profession that it's hard for me to think about other things: friends, family and love too. It's not my wish to be so single-minded, it's just that mentally and physically I can't seem to juggle it all.

People always say "we do what we want to do" but it's actually difficult for me to know how I could have managed this better. I feel like I'm just getting by. It's not who I want to be in the long term but I don't really know how else I could be doing things without stuffing up the job!

Agh. I'm sorry. I don't know how to bring you into my rollercoaster without it just adding to my nerves about juggling things. It's too overwhelming for me to consider when I'm in this state.

I don't want this message to be definitive about anything because that would SUCK. I just don't know how to make things any better for the next 3 weeks while this is still going on. x"

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Posted by Poppyseeds
We are dating exclusively and the last I saw him he told me he fell into a depression due to instability of work, and he INSISTED we have to keep moving forward, I asked him if he is sure as it sounded like he wants to stop seeing each other. He remeasured me that's not the case.

His ACTION didn't back it up as I haven's seen him for 3 weeks, the last text from him was early last week, he sounded very sincere that you can't help but feel bad for him. I responded to let him know I sympathize his situation and that he can make it up to me later. He hasn't responded until now and it's been a week, I know he is alive as he has been active on social media.

When dating a cancer guy don't listen to his words, his words are always sincere look at his action. Below is the text that had me fooled last week.

"Hey. It's me that should apologise to you for being totally off the radar.

This project has been a huge thing that has taken over my life since I saw you last. The days are very long and it took me most of last week to adjust to the stress of it all. I'm enjoying it but i feel a lot of pressure to do a good job, and when I finish I just want to go home and sleep to try and refuel my spirit for the next day. I'm in a pattern of self preservation.

None of that is an excuse for not staying in decent contact with you, but maybe it partly explains it. I'm so preoccupied with trying to do a good job and to forge a stable life for myself in my profession that it's hard for me to think about other things: friends, family and love too. It's not my wish to be so single-minded, it's just that mentally and physically I can't seem to juggle it all.

People always say "we do what we want to do" but it's actually difficult for me to know how I could have managed this better. I feel like I'm just getting by. It's not who I want to be in the long term but I don't really know how else I could be doing things without stuffing up the job!

Agh. I'm sorry. I don't know how to bring you into my rollercoaster without it just adding to my nerves about juggling things. It's too overwhelming for me to consider when I'm in this state.

I don't want this message to be definitive about anything because that would SUCK. I just don't know how to make things any better for the next 3 weeks while this is still going on. x"

You've never contribute to any of my posts and you are just quote this post for your amusement. don't you think this really is quite a dick move?

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Posted by Poppyseeds
@canceronthecusp go kill yourself

Posted by ni1992
Hello i'm a leo female and he is a cancer male we are both architects and thats how we've known eachothers .. We kept talking for a while texts and phone amd we both are liking eachothers a lot and we both made ot obvious to each others and because we both were busy we didnt really go out till after 3 weeks or so .. And during that dinnerthe first thing he said was you're beautiful. And the kept saying he is enjoying his time and he hadnt go out with someone and enjoying his time like he was doing with me .. But after that date he never texted me or talked to me or anything .. I tried to say hi once and ask him about what he was doing he said in doing fine and i have a meeting in another city ghat was 1 hr far from here .. And that was it. I felt like he completely lost interest i dont know is it that he doesnt like me or he saw something from he he dislikes i cant really know and i refuse to ask him i dont wanna show that im so into him u know ... But i wanna know what is this i mean i really really like him !.

Posted by LilacPurple2016
Hi all,

Just need a bit of advice.

Cancer guy is a journalist, and has the opportunity to review establishments in the leisure industry (I have been on one with him). He visited a place several weeks ago, but did not tell me (which is fine, seeing as we're not official). I saw his review, and he refers to the person he took in his review as dining partner / dinner guest. I didn't think anything more of it, and carried on with my day to day life.

I responded to a text he sent several days ago, and I mentioned in passing ''Hope you and your guest had a lovely time''. Since that message I haven't heard a word! He's been on social media, but he's completely blanked me!

Was my message harsh? Blunt? I was being sincere / genuine in my message to him, literally nothing untoward in it whatsoever. I'm a bit confused as to what to do / think / say now? I was also on the brink of telling him how I felt and etc.

Thoughts?

Posted by Axperia
This thread.

Wow...

Amazed adults are amused by this sort of stuff.

Were you the same people who bullied kids at school?

I just do not get it. Your short little time on planet earth...you devote it to this?

Posted by Axperia
Rubbish. Don't turn it around. If you want to defend your position that a thread like this is funny and a good use of your time then at least own that shit.

You find mocking other people who are asking for help and making a public show of them fun.

Okay...go for it.

I can't say I understand, but I'd respect you more for just admitting it.

Some people get amusement from putting other people down. I remember it at school well.

Don't try and psycho babble the people who don't agree and call you out on it.

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Posted by JBG
Why did he break up with you?

He has a very different life style than me. He has tons of friends and goes out all the time and wanted me to go out with him all the time even though he would never pressure me but it was there underneath. I'm was always studying for my MBA plus working and when i had free time i wanted to watch a movie or sleep.

Plus he's got some emotional issues. I think he always felt that he's not good enough for me. Actually also he's very negative and seems to think that all realtioships fail eventually. Does that make sense?

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I like this one:

Posted by jadedpearl
Cancer man keeps sending me penis pictures, i have ignored them so far. i'm thinking of telling him i don't appreciate him reaching out to me only when he is horny. i am not looking for a fwb. what should i say? i know you have to choose your words carefully with these crabs! i want more with him but clearly he just wants sex. HELP!

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Posted by siopaowiks
Posted months ago about a gemini guy. Scratched that thought and moved on. Met this Cancer guy whom I thought can be different from all the other guys. First date was super good,then he just followed up for another date. Kept messaging me said he was thinking about me,he likes me blah blah and I wasn't buying it coz we just met. Then third date he invited me to his house and cooked for me and ofcourse we had sex afterwards. Then everything changed. He slowly pulled away,not too clingy or sweet in txting anymore and its only been a month. Well I kinda expected something else like he'll be more clingy like in the beginning,coz I thought he was different. Hard part was when he was txting me,I would reply in words! But when I txt him like chessy stuff,then he would reply with an emoticon. Like a smiley or a winky eye!! Like wth cancer!!!! You are soooooo fast in the beginning, I tried to catch up as a fast paced leo and then boom! You slow down,like wth just happened. Why Cancer?!? Just tell me what u want then I'll get on with my life!! Instead of playing mind games,cat mouse shit ugh 😢

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
And yet another..

Posted by siopaowiks
@victoriagemini I feel you dear. My Cancer was exactly like how you described yours. He was so eager,persistent,cooked for me,he was sooo into me. Then after a month of seeing eachother and having sex I thought he was the one. Coz let's face it,they are such good actors,fooling us that they like us and sh*t then when we have adjusted and liked them then they disappear like nothing happened. W.t.f is wrong with these guys

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Posted by victoriagemini
Some of you people are just plain rude and inconsiderate. You don't know what happened with that lady in the month. I know couples who fell in love within a week ONLY got engaged in 3 months and are still togethrt. Everyone is different. We shouldn't judge. I never been with a Cancer man although I keep attracting them and only one of them caught my eye only to find out he wants sex or fwb. Yes I was dissapointrd. No I don't hate him. I'm beginning to think maybe I'm the problem and im too old traditional for this era in dating. But with the amount of posts on the crab men here I would think they are a big problem with not knowing what they want, or they love to romance a lot of women

Posted by victoriagemini
Bloody hell.......I found out he lost interest in me and found a new girl but she's 38 like him which surprised me. This crab man used to date younger women like myself. Which makes the whole looking for a mother thing true. No offense 38 is not old I'm just surprised. Yes I'm dissapoited because texting me I miss you which most likely was a lie and now he has a new girl that's a lot older than me. So my question is do crab men end up with older women?

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Posted by DMVFangirl
Aww this is sad and yes kinda funny. I think the theme is that the women are getting talked out of their panties too soon by words of sweet nothings from a cancer guys mouth.

If you have sex before an emotional connection is established-you are put into a no girlfriend zone. You are good for fun times and that's it.

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BIH please

Facts: cancers are so incredible that we melt the clothes off of ppl & they regret it bc we didn't even have to say/do anything.

Blame your lack of self esteem & intelligence

Posted by CreatingChaos505
cancer woman left me once. she was all ice queen about it too.

they can be frigid for sure.

Posted by NoirAmaterasu
Where to start... I want to understand something about cancer men and would like any insight or advice possible. I've been with a cancer man for 2.5 years. We've made a strong bond with each other and have become very close. During the first year we broke up a handful of times. Always his idea. The reasons for the breakup have always been due to the fact that I angered /hurt his feelings. He has had the tendency to bottle these things up until he can't contain it anymore, then he says he wants to break up. Everytime this has happened, I've always pleaded, cried, and tried to talk to him. He'd stay firm and refuse to budge his decision and he'd sound so adamant about it. Then after around 1 1/2-2 weeks we talk it out, he'd tell me he does love me/wants to be together. During that time we work at the issues, talk about why arguments and whatnot happened. We'd fix the problems and be happy again. We didn't break up for over a year. This past Sunday, it happened again. I was surprised and yet not. Because I was doing things that angered him and made him upset. Nothing like lying or cheating, to clarify. I love this cancer man with my whole heart, the thought of losing him for good almost kills me. I feel like I know him very well at this point, but I'm still learning. I know for a fact he is insecure, sensitive, and immature at times. The fact that he's not the best at communicating when there's some issues or something needs to change, makes it difficult to say the least. This time around I've acted different during the break up. I did plead and try to talk it out during the initial break up, but like always..no budge. He wont hear it. This time, I'm giving him space. I haven't contacted him since that day. Based on what I've read, is the best advice to do with a cancer when they're upset. My question is... Do a lot of cancer men do this kind of thing? I know he loves me and cares deeply about me. Nearly 3 great years together where the good times undoubtedly outweigh the bad/negative. What is the best thing I could do right now? Everytime this happens, I'm scared I've really lost him. I do wish I could send the long email to him explaining my realizations of wrong on my part, my genuine apologies, and me not even asking to give me another chance (I left that part out so no pressure) I don't know how to handle this situation in the best way aside from what I'm currently doing. Any input, advice, etc is greatly appreciated. For the record, I'm a Virgo. He is a cancer with Venus in cancer as well. Surely they don't let someone go who they've loved for years..?

Posted by MondayMorning
So a brief look around the forums tells me I am not alone in my Crabby confusion. Hopefully, someone can lend me some advice. To complicate things, this is a long distance relationship.

My Cancer man is pretty wonderful. Kind, sensitive, so funny, smart beyond belief but also...CRABBY!

So at first, we just clicked and the messages and calls were all day every day, he could not get enough of me and I felt "wow" about how charming and confident he was. He told me he really liked me, saw me as being potentially the woman he wanted to be with for life, and I felt the same.

Then all of sudden he changed. He started creating space / push and pull / disappearing for days and then coming back like nothing was up and being surprised that I was not happy. Being very jealous, possessive, negative, insecure and not speaking to me for weeks if I did the slightest thing to challenge him. Literally almost like he was trying deliberately to kill the relationship.

So...I moved on. I assumed he was a jerk and had fooled me and went and got on with my life.

A month later he calls me up and he tells me he is really sorry, that he was scared, that the fact that he liked me so much scared him and that he pushed me away because he thought I would leave him or hurt him and that despite trying to forget me he has not been able to do that and that he thinks maybe I am the one girl he can't live without.

So we sort things out and it's all great for two weeks. Then more of the distant behavior. And this cycle repeats kinda constantly for the past 4 months where he seems to get really close to me and then take a few days away and he can often completely ignore me.

Now I know he likes me, because the stuff he does for me is so sweet and loving and he considers me in his major life decisions and shows in so many ways how he feels - yet he keeps me at a distance also too and we are not quite a "couple" yet.

I have tried to be patient, as much as I can, but each time he ignores I feel not wanted / rejected /hurt /confused and have told him this but he continues to do it. In general terms it is getting better but on a daily basis there is no consistency in terms of whether he will be speaking to me or not.

I have asked him if this is what I can expect from a "full relationship" with him, and he says no, he says once he is in he is in but that he just does not leap in and he is cautious and afraid i will leave him.



Can anyone advise if my waiting might pay off?

Can anyone advise if there is anything that I can do to stop him from pushing me away like this?

I feel like he is in danger of losing me, and I know for a fact that if he does we will both be very sad, but he keeps doing this.

Posted by britneybabe26
The crab Man I dated...were good..friendly even thou he chose another girl over me but I understand and I have no hard feelings. I still like the man. Yesterday I commented on a photo he took on vacation and he texted me immediately and said missssss you. He does have a g/f and the girl doesn't know me of course. I texted him miss you too and that I'm happy for him. So in what way he misses me??