Cancer man left me... (Page 5)

Posted by Axperia
This thread.

Wow...

Amazed adults are amused by this sort of stuff.

Were you the same people who bullied kids at school?

I just do not get it. Your short little time on planet earth...you devote it to this?

Posted by MondayMorning

Posted by Axperia
This thread.

Wow...

Amazed adults are amused by this sort of stuff.

Were you the same people who bullied kids at school?

I just do not get it. Your short little time on planet earth...you devote it to this?

Ha ha, yes, this x 100

@Scrumptious...

Here I am posting a genuine problem on a forum looking for help - and if ou look, providing genuine help to others. i just clicked on your profile and got through your last 25 posts with my eyes burning. Not one intelligent or useful comment. Just a series of trash and silly memes like a high school kid. What a waste of your treetrunking life.

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Posted by MondayMorning
@ the crew running this thread.

I read back a lot of threads fro 3 - 6 years ago that were really interesting discussions about astrology, how it plays out in personality, real stuff, lives, things that matter and saw people exchanging ideas and support and stuff to go away and think about.

Come now.

this kind of thread is beneath the dignity of a man. Much less a gentleman.

Shape it up guys, shame on you. Really.

Posted by Scrumptious

Posted by MondayMorning

Posted by Axperia
This thread.

Wow...

Amazed adults are amused by this sort of stuff.

Were you the same people who bullied kids at school?

I just do not get it. Your short little time on planet earth...you devote it to this?

Ha ha, yes, this x 100

@Scrumptious...

Here I am posting a genuine problem on a forum looking for help - and if ou look, providing genuine help to others. i just clicked on your profile and got through your last 25 posts with my eyes burning. Not one intelligent or useful comment. Just a series of trash and silly memes like a high school kid. What a waste of your treetrunking life.

at least you saw the nipple picture

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Posted by MondayMorning

Posted by Scrumptious

Posted by MondayMorning

Posted by Axperia
This thread.

Wow...

Amazed adults are amused by this sort of stuff.

Were you the same people who bullied kids at school?

I just do not get it. Your short little time on planet earth...you devote it to this?

Ha ha, yes, this x 100

@Scrumptious...

Here I am posting a genuine problem on a forum looking for help - and if ou look, providing genuine help to others. i just clicked on your profile and got through your last 25 posts with my eyes burning. Not one intelligent or useful comment. Just a series of trash and silly memes like a high school kid. What a waste of your treetrunking life.

at least you saw the nipple picture

Jokes = a LOT funnier when they don't require stamping on other people.

You have any idea how many people have shit in their lives you know nothing about? How many people kill themselves every day in this country? Trolling aint funny.

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Posted by notsosure
Not sure who the people with the princess syndrome are, the women posting about a cancer guy or the cancers making this topic? For me what´s scary is the women posting about guys here.

Posted by PISCESHEART1972
I'm a pisces woman who fell unexpectedly for her boss this summer who is a cancer. I was attracted to him the previous summer but dismissed it because of other pressing situations.

When I returned to this seasonal job to work with him this year, I actually laughed at my previous feelings for him. Suddenly in June, cupid hit me and I was enraptured with him. We get along very well. Too well. I don't have to explain myself to him and vice versa. And this relationship had me thinking of possibilities in my life that I haven't or been too afraid to consider. But with him, I felt a full-on go, if anything did develop. I was also aware of him having a huge wall, which we discussed,but it didn't really deter me. A bit scary, which is unsual for me as I have my own walls, I"m not really deterred by folk's walls.

In July, I braced myself and did what I've done every so Haley's Comet....I shared with him that I was attracted to him and wanted to explore that with him. His response was terse..."I'll think about it". Then did the side ways, crab thing...I thought you had a boyfriend...blah blah blah. I was crushed. Really crushed. As I felt a spiritual connection with him too, and this is rare for me.

So, things are fine at work, albeit a bit awkward for me, as I'm still trying to let go of what feelings I've had for him. We still get along but the magic is gone.

Feedback?

Posted by PiscesWomen
I didn't get it, I was getting to know this cancer man for 3 months, one day we had a disscution, we were confused me, we talked about it, I apologized on my behalf, he understood and forgave. He statef lets go with the flow, keep as friends, yet he said he has standards and that I'm within his standards, the next two days we were texting fine. The 3 rd day I didn't hear from him. So I have him his space, 3 days later I text him saying I miss him. He didn't reply, than 3 days later I said I'm sorry I thought we talked about the situation and moved on yet all of sudden you went MIA on me and I called him to find out why he is ignoring me. I hardly called him because he seemed like he rather text than be on the phone. The next morning I text him saying "ok, sorry I won't bother you again" he than replied and said "I'm sorry, I just need space form this. I'm not mad or hurt, but I don't want to hurt you. Like we discussed we can proceed being friends" I didn't reply. I than went to his uncle house one day, I saw him walk out, we both smiled, hugged he said how am I, I said fine. so he left to his hosue. the next day at night I text him saying it was nice seeing you. He didn't reply. Than a week later he text me saying "where you at?" I haven't replied. Men are weird.. I dont get him.

Posted by Taurusjo9
Met a cancer man through work 3 months ago, he is my customer. We would talk on the phone once or twice a week then this gradually increased to everyday. 6 weeks ago he found me on social media and immediately we started messaging each other everyday. We both agreed we clicked and it felt right. We weeks later we agreed to meet up. He had already told me that he had been hurt previously as have I. On the day he was distant and didn't respond to messages. We hours before meeting he emailed me to say he couldn't meet me as he was too nervous, he apologised but said he was a big of a wreck whrn it came to meeting someone new etc.. I said it was fine there was no rush.

A couple of weeks later I had to visit his site and we finally met. He sent my business partner to the kitchen so he could talk to me alone for a couple of minutes, he was all smiles and we casually chatted. After I left, he messaged me to say he was no longer nervous and we have to meet outside of work soon. He also said I was beautiful and that I gave him butterflies, something he had previously said was how he knew if someone was the real deal. We chatted all afternoon then the messages suddenly stopped when he left work.

No message the following day but he messaged me the following evening just saying he was having a hard time at work. He messaged me like normal the next night but seemed distant. I then didn't get a reply or message for 4 days. I finally sent him a message saying I've taken the hint but we need to remain professional for work. He replied immediately asking why I was saying this? I told him although I appreciate he's busy I recognise the signs of being blown off and it hurts me when he ignores me. He finally replied that evening apologising and saying I'd taken it completely wrong. We chatted for a little while but I felt he was still being distant. Didn't hear from him for another 3 days then he emailed me at work saying good morning.. we chatted on the phone like we used to.

He emailed me several times and his last message said hmm your being off so ill leave you to it.. I replied saying i wasnt but never got a response. I messaged him that night and he ignored my message. Spoke to him on the phone the next day and he was normal with me again but still no messages in the evening even though he's been on social media.

I honestly can't figure out if he likes me or is just leading me on. I gave him a easy get out but he said no so why is still ignoring me? I would love some insight here because it's as if he's done a complete u turn and I can't figure out if I should just leave him alone or try to contact him.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by notsosure
Not sure who the people with the princess syndrome are, the women posting about a cancer guy or the cancers making this topic? For me what´s scary is the women posting about guys here.

No princess syndrome on behalf of the Crabs. Prior to this thread, there was a number of independent threads for at least a 6 month period where:

1. The OP was seeking validation

2. The OP and others were using the opportunity to take shots at an entire zodiac sign because of the actions of one douchebag

3. The OP was trolling

In the case of the first two instances, the OP and pilers-on demonstrated their own deficiencies of character.

I can't speak for other Crabs here, but was getting tiresome.

When this thread went up, the "traffic" of crap certainly died down some. Probably because the OP that made it onto this thread in conjunction with others starts to look silly/self-serving/obtuse/etc.

It's obvious from a couple of commenters here that they don't like it. Tough duty having a mirror in front of you.

You'll also notice its not EVERY OP that makes it here. Those are the posts that are obvious to most a genuine seeking for insight, and are treated as such.

And BTW, this thread wasn't started by a Crab.....

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by notsosure
Not sure who the people with the princess syndrome are, the women posting about a cancer guy or the cancers making this topic? For me what´s scary is the women posting about guys here.

No princess syndrome on behalf of the Crabs. Prior to this thread, there was a number of independent threads for at least a 6 month period where:

1. The OP was seeking validation

2. The OP and others were using the opportunity to take shots at an entire zodiac sign because of the actions of one douchebag

3. The OP was trolling

In the case of the first two instances, the OP and pilers-on demonstrated their own deficiencies of character.

I can't speak for other Crabs here, but was getting tiresome.

When this thread went up, the "traffic" of crap certainly died down some. Probably because the OP that made it onto this thread in conjunction with others starts to look silly/self-serving/obtuse/etc.

It's obvious from a couple of commenters here that they don't like it. Tough duty having a mirror in front of you.

You'll also notice its not EVERY OP that makes it here. Those are the posts that are obvious to most a genuine seeking for insight, and are treated as such.

And BTW, this thread wasn't started by a Crab.....

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Posted by MondayMorning

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by notsosure
Not sure who the people with the princess syndrome are, the women posting about a cancer guy or the cancers making this topic? For me what´s scary is the women posting about guys here.

No princess syndrome on behalf of the Crabs. Prior to this thread, there was a number of independent threads for at least a 6 month period where:

1. The OP was seeking validation

2. The OP and others were using the opportunity to take shots at an entire zodiac sign because of the actions of one douchebag

3. The OP was trolling

In the case of the first two instances, the OP and pilers-on demonstrated their own deficiencies of character.

I can't speak for other Crabs here, but was getting tiresome.

When this thread went up, the "traffic" of crap certainly died down some. Probably because the OP that made it onto this thread in conjunction with others starts to look silly/self-serving/obtuse/etc.

It's obvious from a couple of commenters here that they don't like it. Tough duty having a mirror in front of you.

You'll also notice its not EVERY OP that makes it here. Those are the posts that are obvious to most a genuine seeking for insight, and are treated as such.

And BTW, this thread wasn't started by a Crab.....

I don't think you can say "tough duty" having a mirror in front of you if you can't also live by the same words. You think those threads are douchey and worthy of calling out - I - and others - feel the same about this thread.

It's not something I could or would do - if I felt someone's thread was deluded or crazy or that the woman did not get that the guy did not like her or whatever -I would take the 2 minutes and invest that in responding to her.

Also, it pretty much is every OP. you will notice my most recent post made it here. Read that and tell me it was not genuine and obviously looking for insight? Because it was. I have a serious relationship problem - so you guys making jjoke out of that is not cool.

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Posted by SuperMissMan
Cancer man.

You have to pursue him, and in the meantime he's an asshole because he's all self pitying and scared of getting hurt because he's a fucking bitch of a man.

So finally you pursue him, and then he seems to think he's a queen who all you do is give give give and he only gives what HE wants to give. Not what you need. All the little things all the fucking emotional things you need, nah, not worth his time since he thinks he's enough and he doesn't need to do more than he "feels" like doing at the given moment.

Oh but wait, then that drags for months and you get mad at him and he starts crying and acting like a victim so you comfort him and stop him from crying so then it's all about him. His bratty toddler self gets so used to being the centre of everything 24/7 and always being the victim that he seems to make himself believe he's perfect, and he's doing all he can (more like is willing) to do and that's that.

Finally you become fed up ad try to break up and he begs you he won't and swears to change and doesn't even try.

Oh and worst of all, every time you are hurt and explain how he's wrong and how HE hurt YOU, he somehow turns it around even if he just starts throwing Radom insults that are unrelated like he can't face the fucking truth like a fucking child, and so after days he finally agrees he was wrong only to next time say that he didn't really mean that and slways taking back what he says always saying he feels one way and this is the truth and changing it to better fit every situation because apparently last time he told me how he felt wasn't true he was just saying that and now that it can work against him in a situation "he didn't mean that" and "this" is the truth.

Oh check this, he ended up having mental issues as in psycho type issues Because he's so fucking deluded.

What the fuck is wrong with cancer men?

Fucking liars and the most SELFISH pricks I HAVE EVER met.

The one before that with the same birthday would ignore me to play video games...for WEEKS. I would be crying, and Ed be playing games because I didn't matter but dare I break up, and be the prince of my dreams along with telling me my faults wtf? They don't care about anyone's hurt but their own. The only time they will do something for someone is if it can benefit themselves or if they can feel better from it, it's all about them and their emotions they will NEVER do anything for another

Posted by Shellyd238
Just when I thought I was cancer free...

I'm not sure why he's made it his mission to destroy me. I've tried so hard to be mature and explain to him why I can't be his FWB and I'd like him to leave me alone.

I don't like the idea of ghosting, but I think I might have to with this one...

Any thoughts?

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Posted by SuperMissMan
Cancer man.

You have to pursue him, and in the meantime he's an asshole because he's all self pitying and scared of getting hurt because he's a fucking bitch of a man.

So finally you pursue him, and then he seems to think he's a queen who all you do is give give give and he only gives what HE wants to give. Not what you need. All the little things all the fucking emotional things you need, nah, not worth his time since he thinks he's enough and he doesn't need to do more than he "feels" like doing at the given moment.

Oh but wait, then that drags for months and you get mad at him and he starts crying and acting like a victim so you comfort him and stop him from crying so then it's all about him. His bratty toddler self gets so used to being the centre of everything 24/7 and always being the victim that he seems to make himself believe he's perfect, and he's doing all he can (more like is willing) to do and that's that.

Finally you become fed up ad try to break up and he begs you he won't and swears to change and doesn't even try.

Oh and worst of all, every time you are hurt and explain how he's wrong and how HE hurt YOU, he somehow turns it around even if he just starts throwing Radom insults that are unrelated like he can't face the fucking truth like a fucking child, and so after days he finally agrees he was wrong only to next time say that he didn't really mean that and slways taking back what he says always saying he feels one way and this is the truth and changing it to better fit every situation because apparently last time he told me how he felt wasn't true he was just saying that and now that it can work against him in a situation "he didn't mean that" and "this" is the truth.

Oh check this, he ended up having mental issues as in psycho type issues Because he's so fucking deluded.

What the fuck is wrong with cancer men?

Fucking liars and the most SELFISH pricks I HAVE EVER met.

The one before that with the same birthday would ignore me to play video games...for WEEKS. I would be crying, and Ed be playing games because I didn't matter but dare I break up, and be the prince of my dreams along with telling me my faults wtf? They don't care about anyone's hurt but their own. The only time they will do something for someone is if it can benefit themselves or if they can feel better from it, it's all about them and their emotions they will NEVER do anything for another

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Posted by aj123
What do you think of a crab male (cancer sun, aqua moon, leo venus, taurus mars) cancelling a meet-up (which I initiated and he agreed to about a week ago) to attend a family get together (where a lot of his distant relatives which he doesn't get to see often would be - he says) - he still gave a week's notice and was apologetic.

Known him for 6 months - first time he's even cancelled on a meet-up.

What do you think about this? Nothing to worry about or signs something might not be right?

Just curious.

Thanks

Posted by RiddleMeThis
So my ex has been doing the crab dance with me and Im so tired of it. He will text me and then when I reply ( coool and casual) he doesnt reply. Then two days later he will text me again and Ill reply and get a response from him and then when I text back again I get no reply and then two days later the cycle repeats. Whats the deal with this why is he doing this?

Not to mention Ive caught him driving by my place three times this week by pure coincidence.

Posted by ASackOfMeatDecayingAndOnBorrowedTime
I really like you HouseCleaning

Posted by Nofun101
Virgo woman here. My boyfriend found out that I was talking garbadge about his little "quirks" to my friends and as a result he's clearly heartbroken and won't talk to me. But now he's basically "staking" me through social media & talking crap and I'm sick it. All I know is that I lost his trust and I don't know how to get it back. I'm too afraid to be brutally honest with him because he's unpredictable. I can NEVER read him and it makes me severely uneasy. He says to "just say what you want me change about myself" but I always lie & tell him he does not need to. He's a sweetheart and is really helpful, but I just don't feel anything. His kindess just doesn't effect me, in fact, it is a bit annoying since I prefer to be independant. He hasn't physically abused me ever or yelled at me, but he is clingy. Sure we got into arguments about certain things like morality & polotics but it didn't really damage anything. He's just so intimidating and I'm not sure how to get rid of this pathetic "beta male." as most people call people like him. What do I do?

Posted by Shanmack
I'm a 34 year old Libra lady who was seeing a older cancer male for a few months now. Everything with him was amazing. About two months in when he dropped mE off at work he told me I cannot be with anybody else but him. I only smiled but he was serious. I really started to like him and was falling in love but one day we were talking about work and I spoke to him about my future plans of wanting to break away from the company I was working and go off on my own in business. He was very harsh and UN supportive and I was shocked to see that side of him. I told him I didn't want to see him again because I really man would be supportive so I told him off. I didn't hear from him again and in a few days I called him up to apologize but he was the one kinda sorta apologizing. After that he calls me all the time and would hit me with a million texts a day and if Im at work and didn't answer on time he would call office phone leaving alot of messages for me.

In April I was on facebook and was telling my family about him. My aunt being all excited asked if he was on facebook because she wants to see him and eventually meet him(we are a close family) and to my horror he is married. I had to tell her no he doesn't have a profile and moved on to a different topic. I text him about it and he told me that he is separated from his wife and going through a divorce with a child involved and it's messy because his wife wants half the company and wants to take away his son. I understood completely well but it was too much for me. I stopped talking to him. He calls and texts and I just didn't want him in my life because I've gone through this type of situation already. Eventually I called my family and got on a plane. I just wanted space and not deal with it because he didn't understand that I had a right to choose if I wanted to be with him. I did however call him when I went overseas. We talk everyday and he assures me that his divorce will be finalized come this month August but he wants me to come home. We have had many ups and downs especially with his wife calling me while Im overseas which of course he has an explanation for.

Posted by Shanmack
I'm now home at his request and he just stopped talking to me a day after I came home. I got angry and told him how I felt because I could have started over a new life where I was and moved on. I told him I didn't appreciate it because it's a huge sacrifice to come home and start over and I did it because I love him. It's been weeks and I haven't heard from him. I text him apologizing and told him what my expectations were of him because he was the one who wanted another chance after so many troubles on his behalf. I love him and his son very much and though I haven't met him he always tells me about him and sometimes he talks about visiting his mom which I encourage him to do without delay because they haven't seen each other since a few years. Im left hanging. Now what? He won't talk to me.

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Posted by Nofun101
Virgo woman here. My boyfriend found out that I was talking garbadge about his little "quirks" to my friends and as a result he's clearly heartbroken and won't talk to me. But now he's basically "staking" me through social media & talking crap and I'm sick it. All I know is that I lost his trust and I don't know how to get it back. I'm too afraid to be brutally honest with him because he's unpredictable. I can NEVER read him and it makes me severely uneasy. He says to "just say what you want me change about myself" but I always lie & tell him he does not need to. He's a sweetheart and is really helpful, but I just don't feel anything. His kindess just doesn't effect me, in fact, it is a bit annoying since I prefer to be independant. He hasn't physically abused me ever or yelled at me, but he is clingy. Sure we got into arguments about certain things like morality & polotics but it didn't really damage anything. He's just so intimidating and I'm not sure how to get rid of this pathetic "beta male." as most people call people like him. What do I do?

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Posted by NoirAmaterasu
It's been two weeks since my cancer man of 2.5 years broke up with me. It had been over a year since we've been through that. Buy it happened again. This time it was do to my recent clinginess and never giving him space to breathe. He finally had enough one day during a little argument and he snapped. Normally in the past I'd plead with him and whatnot (heard cancer signs like to be needed) but this time, I went silent. After one week he txted me a simple "hey". I didn't respond to it. I've been keeping myself extremely busy, going out, changing myself for the better, and getting my priorities straight. I do love him immensely and we have many great memories together and a strong bond. Naturally after almost 3 years together. I've read so many different opinions and ideas on this subject but I have a few questions. So since cancer actually doesn't like someone being needy with them and they like their space to di whatever, am I doing the right thing by not talking to him? I'd love more than anything to talk to him and tell him I've realized my mistakes but I also don't want it to go wrong before I can even finish working on myself. Do they let go easily? And once they've retreated, is there a way to lure them back out and seek you? I wish I could know/understand what's going on in his head.

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Posted by HouseCleaning
Because someone has to keep score.

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Posted by Scrumptious
cancer board goes quiet again

Posted by firefis1996
hes 24. Im 20.

his venus is also in cancer lol.

This cancer man I've been sexually friends with for a couple years has started to "date/see" another girl in the last couple months. Yet at the same time when him and her 'became' a thing, he was still talking to me and staring at me etc. I also noticed the past 6 months he was getting shy around me etc.

This girls a leo. I'm a pisces. Me and this man click really really well in person. Yet He knows i've always had other guy friends around (we're not exclusive). Lately his behaviour has been really strange towards me.

While I was in Europe (ahem, he was already seeing this other girl) he was messaging me teasing etc, asking how my trip was.

Now when I just got back about a month ago, he doesn't even acknowledge my presence (walks right past me). Yet the other day he came into my work and was full on flirting with me.

Why is this cancer man acting happy one minute then rude the next?

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Posted by Scrumptious
cancer board goes quiet again

I'm sure there will be another sock puppet, errrrr, user to "sign up today" that will express their distaste for this thread.

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Posted by libraolga
well this is gonna be a long story but I hope I can get some insight. I'll be really grateful for you guys. So, I've known this guy for more than a year. we met through some common friends, with whom I went to a party at his place. during party's days he took me with him to his other place and when he went to get grocery he asked me to join him. we communicated well and I didnt feel anything more than just "friends" from his side but a friend told he seems to like me and I ignored it. we spent a whole year friends on facebook but never talked and never met again. the last 2 months we chatted occasionally and he told me that he likes me. since I was recently hurt in a relationship and I found him very direct about his feelings (how come you like someone, through fb, and you dont know a lot abt him), I wasnt responsive. anyway, I live in a different city. so he told me if I visit the capital we should me. I did visit the capital several times, but he never made clear plans for meeting up. I had to ask him out couple of times for coffee. one time, after the coffee, I drove him to his place and he asked me to go up. we talked for a while. then he had a phone call. while he was on the phone, he kissed me on my cheek. after the phone, he told that he's gona be direct and honest. he likes me a lot, he feels comfortable around me and he wants to have a relationship with me, and it's up to me now to decide. I asked him what I'm supposed to do and he told to kiss him. I hesitated but then I did (I started to like him that's why). then, I told him that he needs to be aware of our differences, that I live in another city and that I've never had sex. he was shocked. he asked me why and I said I want serious relationship and wont have sex till I get married (I'm not even convinced with what I said, I want a true and meaningful relationship that's when Ill have sex). he told me that this is the last thing he thought we'll be different about and he said that he cant have a relationship with no sex involved. he can wait for a while but he's not sure he can handle that for years till we can marry and that for him sex is the supreme part when 2 people love. he was so sad and disappointed (me too). we parted and he sent me a text with a heart after . I thought it over and decided to fix it. so the next day called him and asked to meet. we met. he didnt let me speak, he told he felt like he losr someone really close, that he decided to look for schools abroad. I told him not to (he jumped and kissed me), and I told him, that I freaked out yesterday and just wanted to make it hard bc I was hurt before. he started complaing abt our differences. I asked him to give us a chance and see how it'll evolves. he accepted and said he's with me.. we made out (we both enjoyed it a lot).

Posted by libraolga
I told him, that he should be honest with me and not to hurt me, even if his honesty will cause me pain he should do it. he said why I think he's gonna hurt me and that he'll never do, then I left

Posted by libraolga
he was really happy and he seemed genuine. the next day, he didnt call. so I called around midday. he was sleeping. we talked a little, then we hang up. he didnt ask me to meet. late afternoon, I texted him and told him that Im leaving the city and going home by tomorrow and that he should tell me if he wants to see me before I hit the road. he didnt respond to my text. I thought maybe something was going on and I wanted to check him out. Also, I read on this site, that maybe the crab is testing with this disappearing act so I called him once several hours after the text. but he didnt pick up (I called around midnight, I know he stays up late). so now I dont know what I did. shouldnt I stay away from him? I feel rejected? I kinda regret letting down my gards :/ should I call him again before I leave or is this the end of the story? thank you for the comments in advance. I really need enlightnment. by the way he's 2 years younger than me.

Posted by Lovely20
he sends me snapchats everyday bout random things, we have short convos through snapchats it's not bad but um he won't message/text/call me and talk?

Posted by Mschaniam
My cancer boyfriend blocked my number and blocked me on snapchat so I have no way of contacting him. I just got into college and he wants me to not go to events and just stay at my dorm and talk to him. Yesterday I only talked to him once because I was packing to go back to school as soon as I got there my friends invited me to go lunch and I went. I told him I was going and he got mad and didn't respond to my calls or texts. When he finally answered the phone he didn't want to talk and hung up on me and told me to go have fun. I called him all day still no answer then finally at like 11 something he answered my call saying he is with a friend and for me to text him. When I texted him he wasn't responding how he usually does. That's the last time I spoken to him. He blocked me on everything and I don't know what to do.

Posted by Dede11530
Help!!! I need help with my cancer please someone

I've been talking to a cancer for about a year . I'm a sag now eve thing was great until one day he went through my phone and saw messages he did not like but in my head and to my knowledge we both establish that we were talking but he as well had messages in his phone but not as much as mine. We both agreed to be friends after because I won him over after he told me he needed space. Since then he has been dating other guys but he still makes me first priority. We stopped having sex when we broke up but one day I was over his place and just so happen looked in his drawer and found that condoms were missing I found out he has been having sex with one person. Now I confronted him very calmly and jokingly about it but he flipped out at me and felt like I did respected him. On top of that the next day I manage to find out one of the guys he was on a date with on social media and he found out because he has told the person about me and my which I was surprised he did if that was supposedly a date. After that I apologies and he tells me heed need space for 2 weeks and I should get myself together in that time also. What do I do ? Do I give him space ? Do I try to win him over like I did last time? Why did he give me an aproximate time like that? Does it mean he still care ? I'm full of questions I'm also thinking we wants me to really open up my feelings to him that's why he been acting this way. Please help !

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Posted by Dede11530
Help!!! I need help with my cancer please someone

I've been talking to a cancer for about a year . I'm a sag now eve thing was great until one day he went through my phone and saw messages he did not like but in my head and to my knowledge we both establish that we were talking but he as well had messages in his phone but not as much as mine. We both agreed to be friends after because I won him over after he told me he needed space. Since then he has been dating other guys but he still makes me first priority. We stopped having sex when we broke up but one day I was over his place and just so happen looked in his drawer and found that condoms were missing I found out he has been having sex with one person. Now I confronted him very calmly and jokingly about it but he flipped out at me and felt like I did respected him. On top of that the next day I manage to find out one of the guys he was on a date with on social media and he found out because he has told the person about me and my which I was surprised he did if that was supposedly a date. After that I apologies and he tells me heed need space for 2 weeks and I should get myself together in that time also. What do I do ? Do I give him space ? Do I try to win him over like I did last time? Why did he give me an aproximate time like that? Does it mean he still care ? I'm full of questions I'm also thinking we wants me to really open up my feelings to him that's why he been acting this way. Please help !

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Posted by focusedonleo
Any help or insight will be greatly appreciated. We will call him John and I am Nancy. I met John over the summer while on the travels, we interacted briefly online but he always miunderstood me and unfollowed me on certain apps, out of the blue he added me to IG. We never spoke or anything. Come summer 2016 I l was going to be in NY and had no intentions on messaging him but that little voice in the back of my head kept telling me to, so I did, he messaged me back and we made plans to meet the next day. We meet the following day and he was a complete gentleman, we had a great time and parted way....before parting he gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek. I summed the entire thing up as friends finally meeting and understanding each other outside of our online personas. Anyways, I was thrown off when he asked to see me again. Of course I agreed and our second "date" (his words not mine) was what left me on cloud 9. Our entire flow was just beautiful, I allowed him to lead, I felt completely protected by his side, he was showing me places throughout the city, he was a gentleman, the conversations were amazing, In my head I was like "this is the guy ive been waiting for" (do.not.judge) long story short we ended up meeting twice more on my last day in NY. I came back home and communication with him felt...weird as if we both didn't know what to say or how to say it. He kept asking me how I felt about meeting him and I keep saying that in my soul I feel as if we met for a reason. Although we are complete opposites I noticed how we balance each other out....he brings a cool protective nature that allows me to be the dainty, leo woman. I am confident and allow him to feel a sense of confidence too. There is so much to list but I honestly feel like we both fell hard for each other. BUT...there is always a but....after doing my fair share of twitter stalking I realized that he was still in communication with his ex.....he said that he was dating but a)never mentioned an ex b) said that they were more than dating when I confronted him. Nowwww here is where it gets tricky....I told him how hurt i was and that i didn't believe a word he said while we were on our "dates" he insisted that he never lied about his feelings and that he was completely thrown off by falling for me like he did, said he wasnt expecting that at all. Mind you we NEVER got sexual so me feeling this mad goes to show how electric our energies were...he apologized non stop and I ended up ceasing communication but I could not get him out of my head.

Posted by focusedonleo
He reached out to me a few days ago, apologizing again and we had a discussion....he said "i dont think that you love me" "i love you" I was completely THROWN off but I said that I feel in love with the guy I met for those 4 days......he basically said that he loves me AND his ex (y'all....) and that he sees a future with the both of us (eye roll) my question is WTH do I do? I KNOW we met for a reason (that is another story) the situation with

Posted by focusedonleo
his ex is that they got back together as of recently but they have a history together. So i told him that i am not going to sit and anticipate that "he picks me" and this is when he said "im not crazy, i love you. I know I do" BUT he's never in communication with me. He claims that he is dealing with the same emotions as I am and that I should be gentle with him because he wasn't expecting ANY of this. He said I made him feel things he's never felt before and all he wants to do is tell me how much he loves me and how i make him feel blah blah blah. This is just confusing to me....could the intensity of our meeting have scared him off? why say you love me? I am so confused by his actions, i just need any sort of interaction/discussion if only to get this off of my chest. Since day 1 I have not been able to get him out of my mind. It may sound crazy, i dont know how this soulmate thing works but I felt as if John was the one for me and then the ex gf thing threw me off...only for him to admit to loving me. Do cancer men stay with their exes because they don't think they deserve more?

He's gone silent on me...I think him and the ex are going through it but why tell me something so deep and then go back to falling silent?

HELP!

Posted by sagglady71
I am a typical Sag, he is a typical Cancer. I upset him a few times and was able to apologize and all was fine.
This time unfortunately he wants to breathe he says. Wants time. I gave a week with no communication and when we talked
he said he still needs more time. Wants to analyze and think about things. He did say that absolutely he will text to let me know he is thinking of me but I am nervous he was just saying that.
I am thinking of giving him a good month and then calling for drinks and keeping it light. Any clues?

Posted by PEITHO
Cancer men seem to be really emotional they will talk to women about their relationship problems. They will flirt with women even if they are married.

Posted by martatatat
Hello,

I have been with my cancer man for four months now. We met pretty much one year ago,dated for two months but broke up because of not having enough time for each other (he broke up). After few months with no speaking at all he messaged me all of a sudden and since then we started dating each other. Things got really serious quick,we were spending so much time with each other and straight away I fell for him. When we first me I knew immediately that he is my soulmate and I don't want anyone else in my life. We fell in love with each other and things started getting really crap around us. I got pregnant with him,we made the decision to get an abortion,he lost his job,had to move out from London,then got a job here again but also got back his terrible migraine where he's not able to do anything apart work. So we can't see each other as much as we want to and today he broke up with me because of it. I know he loves me,he said that if he could guarantee me that we will see each other at least once a week he would jump into it with open arms. But we can't. And I don't know what to do. It breaks me to think that we'll never be together again because I love him to bits and I don't want anyone else. I'm a cancer myself therefore I think he might be a bit dramatic about things and I don't want to give up. But I don't want to push him away at the same time. Any advice? Oh I have to mention that he's always been a bit withdrawn because he didn't want me to get hurt

Posted by anonymous95
I have a cancer guy friend who was feeling a little bit depressed lately. He wanted to go for a vacation at the beach to be alone for a few days but his parents surprised him & they tagged along to spend the vacation with him. It got him pretty upset as he said he wanted to spend some quality "alone" time with no family or friends.

We used to text everyday, the first thing he does when he wakes up in the morning literally was text me, we call at least twice everyday and he texts me whenever he has a work break and before he goes to bed. Everything was fine until last week when that vacation issue happened. The texting decreased markedly, but we still called everyday. He would call to check up on me, even though he wasn't answering his friends that much, he told me i'm the only person he's treating good these days.

His vacation ended last saturday and was back to his normal daily cycle on sunday. I expected everything to go back to normal (the daily texting, the caring,...etc.) but it didn't, though he still did call to check up on me once or twice in the day.

He has that habit of meeting his guy friends everyday before going back home from work, no matter how tired he was! It was a must for him. Last Monday, after his work he called to check up on me said he was meeting a female friend concerning a work issue and then he'll go home. I asked him whether he'd meet up with his friends as he always does but he said no. I asked is it because u haven't slept from the day before or is it because u don't want to meet anyone? he said both.

He then texted me goodnight when he returned home & that was it. I haven't heard from him since. It's the first time to happen since i've known him. It's been a month now since we started texting & calling. He lives in another city about 3 hrs away by car. We met once.

I texted him twice yesterday through whatsapp & sms, once in the morning & once at night but with no reply. I called him today once and he didn't reply or call me back. He checks his social media only once a day and stays offline for like 15hrs in a row! This just isn't like him.

He used to be so caring, friendly & romantic. What's wrong with him? and what should I do?

Posted by MondayMorning
Hey

I am dating a very crabby crab. He was totally fine when we first met, but as soon as he started to fall in love he got pretty defensive and began to push / pull and test. We're trapped in a cycle that's damaging us.

The cycle is that if we get too close, he withdraws for a while, and when he does that it makes me sad / hurt, so I ask him what's going on and he responds in such a way that makes me angry. For example he will suddenly not call me for 4 or 5 days when he usually calls me every day. So I will then send a message saying "is everything okay?" and he will say "yes I am just busy with work" and I will reply saying "well people make time for what is important to them, so it worries me that you're saying you don't have 30 seconds a day for me" and then he will kick off, lash out, snap at me and be quite rude and then instead of resolving it, he just cuts me off dead. Sometimes for days, sometimes for weeks.

He does eventually talk to me, he does eventually apologise and say he regrets it and he explains that he's trying to distance himself for control and that he hates that I make him feel so vulnerable, but I find it is pretty much always me who is being the "bigger person", while he kind of acts like a toddler in a tantrum and that makes me feel devalued and exhausted.

To give a bit of background, he has been through a really tough year. Bereavement recently, a lot of upheaval in his personal life and so he is not functioning at full capacity emotionally and is extremely defensive, but I have been incredibly supportive and there for him and changed / sacrificed a lot to show him how deeply I care and want to be with him - so I guess sometimes I feel like he could perhaps respect my feelings also by perhaps committing 30 seconds a day to call or text me if he knows this is important to me or even just understanding or accepting that when he disappears I find it hurtful and giving me reassurance instead of snapping at me.

I am not a perfect person, I am a Scorpio, but I have given a lot of love to this guy and when someone goes cold, it can fire me off emotionally and giving someone space is obviously not my best quality but I do try really hard to do that. But I find it hard not to feel when he drifts off that it does not mean he doesn't like me anymore, which he says is 100% not the case.

Can I maybe get some advice on this? Is the simple solution for me to accept his withdrawals without reacting? or is that me being a doormat and giving up my own needs for his? I have honestly lost perspective and I want to be with him and have good boundaries but it is very difficult. He is so stubborn I almost feel he tries to test me and push my boundaries to prove that I will leave.

Posted by MondayMorning
I feel pretty strongly that he does this all out of fear and he is trying to push me away deliberately and I don't know how to break the cycle and whether I need to be tougher or softer. I am obviously getting it wrong!

Posted by Nexus
I met this Cancer guy about a year and a half ago on a dating website. He came on there saying that he only wanted to be 'friends'. Me being naive in the dating world thought nothing of it when he asked me to be his friend.

Things got weird when he started asking me questions like "what would you do if I kissed you?" and "can we cuddle when we meet?" I can't remember what I was thinking at the time, but I remember that I was a little intrigued regarding his intentions. 'Friends' indeed. Unfortunately, curiosity got the better of me.

When we first met, he made it clear that he wanted to be intimate with me, and he did not want me to date other men. I let his shallow compliments get the best of me (I have self-esteem issues), yet I made it clear that I was uncomfortable with having sex with him right away. We have never had sex.

I had never had a guy act so... 'lustful' towards me before that and although I hate to admit it, I 'liked' it. It made me feel so desired, so I bought into it. The next day when I met him however, he dropped a bomb on me saying that we couldn't be together because he was engaged (I don't know what's happening there now).

In order to ease my feelings he offered to set me up with his friend... long story short, I made it so I couldn't see him again, which ticked him off at the time. I deleted my online dating profile, only to set it up a few months later. He contacts me again and keeps begging me to text him.

He also asks me to come over to his place for a party so he can distract his friends from his ex (apparently he let go of the engagement, his ex is another girl), and I question why he doesn't just invite her over alone to spend time with him.

I get him to delete my number and we don't talk again.

Anyway, it is quite obvious to me that he didn't give two squirts of piss about me; only what he could get out of me. Are Cancer men known to be users? Can anyone psychoanalyse this guy?