Cancerian Boyfriend Step Back

Ok here goes. Brief as possible. We met Dec 16, dated several times, text constantly, rings me and speak for hours. He was widowed ten years ago, has 2 children from this first marriage. He remarried a few years ago but she left him for another man in sept 16. She still texts him and tries to be sweet and caring in her messages.

I'm bruised and broken from an abusuve aquarian so trust was an issue but my Cancer man has renewed that.

He's introduced me to friends. Told his children about me. Told his best friend. Told his work colleagues. I'm his baby, his sweetheart, I'm his future. He wants to be with me. He wants this to be our year, our time - all him saying this. He sends the sweetest messages, he's tactile, loving, sensitive, romantic. We have discussed our feelings, want we want and how we are happy with each other.

We became intimate for the first time last weekend and he told me how beautiful the weekend was, it's all gone so perfect.

Then a few days ago he pulled the stops! He's confused, the ex is messaging a messing up his head even though she's living with another man. I'm now the one patiently waiting. I told him I'd give him space to sort his head out but just how long will he expect me to wait? It's been 4 days with no contact and I'm sticking to my promise but hey you know what, I don't wanna be mugged off! Will he be honest? Is he genuinely assessing his head or is this the Cancerian Test? I feel deeply for this man already and I know I want him, he knows this too but how do I deal with this. Please help I don't want to mess this up.

I can't answer to this. I don't want to be mistaken. What is your zodiac? What is the ex-wife's? He introduced you to his friends, he has spoken out about you. We only speak out when our heart is beating fast. I need to know your sign and maybe if you know hers

I don't know hers sadly. He is 13/7/1964 I am 23/8/65 I'm dying inside cause I miss him so much. Don't want to message and push him further.

I think you should call or text him. Say something sweet and reminiscent. I don't want to give the verdict and say he still has feelings for the ex, but maybe they are not feelings, maybe she is the one that left him. We find it very hard to move on if we are the one being left. It's a bruised ego thing, not a love thing. Create new special sweet memories. Text something about "do you remember that day when...I just heard the song that was playing and it reminded me of you" for me, as a cancer, a new love always cancels the former. Take it slow and win his heart and one day he will be the one writing here about how to better get to you. 🙂 good luck. You sound like a lovely, special person. No one deserves to be left hanging like that 😢 hug

He stepped back after you had sex for the first time?

Maybe he is scared or feels differently since this happened

Give it a week and then talk to him

He has the same July birthday as me!

The fact that he's saying his ex is messing up his head means he still has feelings for her. As a cancer, I hold onto the past for awhile too until someone worthy fills that void entirely. If I'm talking to an ex, I'm not ready to let go yet.

My guess, he told her he had sex with you and now she's jealous and trying to get him back.

Posted by pinkbird03
He has the same July birthday as me!

The fact that he's saying his ex is messing up his head means he still has feelings for her. As a cancer, I hold onto the past for awhile too until someone worthy fills that void entirely. If I'm talking to an ex, I'm not ready to let go yet.

My guess, he told her he had sex with you and now she's jealous and trying to get him back.

I dont think it is anything to do with his ex....i wouldn't be surprised if he was using her as an excuse

The timing is telling with the sex thing, i mean

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Posted by pinkbird03
He has the same July birthday as me!

The fact that he's saying his ex is messing up his head means he still has feelings for her. As a cancer, I hold onto the past for awhile too until someone worthy fills that void entirely. If I'm talking to an ex, I'm not ready to let go yet.

My guess, he told her he had sex with you and now she's jealous and trying to get him back.

I dont think it is anything to do with his ex....i wouldn't be surprised if he was using her as an excuse

The timing is telling with the sex thing, i mean

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Maybe! I'm a firm believer in communication. She should just ask him, rather than assuming or reading all of our very different perspectives and getting more confused

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by pinkbird03
He has the same July birthday as me!

The fact that he's saying his ex is messing up his head means he still has feelings for her. As a cancer, I hold onto the past for awhile too until someone worthy fills that void entirely. If I'm talking to an ex, I'm not ready to let go yet.

My guess, he told her he had sex with you and now she's jealous and trying to get him back.

I dont think it is anything to do with his ex....i wouldn't be surprised if he was using her as an excuse

The timing is telling with the sex thing, i mean

Maybe! I'm a firm believer in communication. She should just ask him, rather than assuming or reading all of our very different perspectives and getting more confused

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Yes, she needs to talk to him



Good luck Andrea x

Thanks guys (she left him for another man btw after a string of affairs and flirtatious encounters). Anyway, today I put the message out, how's your Dad is he any better? A yard of messaging came back! Included was explanation as to her texting him. She's saying it's not all over yet. I basically said that I'm not playing second fiddle to the ex wife so see ya later you know where to find me! He came straight back 'baby I'll call you later, I'm sorry your being put through this'. So we shall see. The ex cleared his bank account, took the second honeymoon to mauritus that he paid for and she flew her new bloke out to be with her! She's maintained throughout her innocence, maybe she's run out of money or things aren't so rosy with the new beau. Time will tell. But this little sweet Cancer man seems lost and confused. If I win him back this Leo Lioness will roar to protect her man xxx

Well as of this morning my beautiful little Cancer man dumped me. Taking back the ex. The woman who left him for another man. The woman who screams and shouts. The one who took the second honeymoon without the him and flew the other bloke she had an affair with out with her. The one who's "lies are poison" his words. The woman who no one likes and everyone says is fake, the woman who is jealous of his first wife who died very young of breast cancer, the woman who flies off the handle at the slightest thing.

So as for me, I gave everything. I gave him so much love that he craved and for what? To be dumped by text! After a marriage full of lies and affairs, followed by a 3 year relationship with abuse and mental torture, my Cancer baby filled my heart with so much love then crushed it. Is this what they do? Apparently according to lots of comments he'll come back. Umm think I'll give him a WIDE BIRTH!!!!

Posted by Andrea2308
Well as of this morning my beautiful little Cancer man dumped me. Taking back the ex. The woman who left him for another man. The woman who screams and shouts. The one who took the second honeymoon without the him and flew the other bloke she had an affair with out with her. The one who's "lies are poison" his words. The woman who no one likes and everyone says is fake, the woman who is jealous of his first wife who died very young of breast cancer, the woman who flies off the handle at the slightest thing.

So as for me, I gave everything. I gave him so much love that he craved and for what? To be dumped by text! After a marriage full of lies and affairs, followed by a 3 year relationship with abuse and mental torture, my Cancer baby filled my heart with so much love then crushed it. Is this what they do? Apparently according to lots of comments he'll come back. Umm think I'll give him a WIDE BIRTH!!!!

I'm sorry to hear that. Hope you move on from him and forget him very soon.