Confusing Cancer Man

Help. We have only been dating a short time. Havent seen him in 2 weeks.
He called me a left a message. I texted.. we chatted. I told him I missed his cute self.
He told me I could come over tonight. So I said I would bring dinner, and asked what he would like.
What is confusing to me.. is I THOUGHT that Cancer men are in touch with their feelings. When I told him I missed him. Nothing of a miss you back.
And when I do contact him.. I feel like i am bothering him.
Can anyone make some sense out of all of this.—
HELP.

Cancers in general are not always emotional. I'm not a guy but i'm a cancer and I've realized I can handle emotional situations better then most of my friends who are not cancers. Because you've been dating a short time and because of his emotional response you have described to be he is not fully comfortable with you yet give it time you'll need alot of patience with your cancer guy.

Posted by woodenmeow
Help. We have only been dating a short time. Havent seen him in 2 weeks.
He called me a left a message. I texted.. we chatted. I told him I missed his cute self.
He told me I could come over tonight. So I said I would bring dinner, and asked what he would like.
What is confusing to me.. is I THOUGHT that Cancer men are in touch with their feelings. When I told him I missed him. Nothing of a miss you back.
And when I do contact him.. I feel like i am bothering him.
Can anyone make some sense out of all of this.—
HELP.

You're going fast! Yes, we're emotional but it dosen't mean that you'll get what you wan't when you say you miss/like/love..Just try not say miss/like/love him..It's a good idea to bring him dinner, you can do that a few times but not constantly..Just enjoy the time you pass with him and let him to tell his feelings..And if he asks your idea about him, don't tell anything before you hear what he thinks about you..

This is a test...be prepared to endure them constantly.

He did follow through on us spending time together. He didn't want dinner. So we just hung out, and I ended up spending time and we fell asleep together (Nothing but kissing). I did tell him I wasn't seeing anyone else to re-assure him, and his response was I can't handle but one woman at a time anyway. Not very romantic, I made the remark to him. We snuggled up, He didn't want me to leave, I stayed til the next morning. He gave me a kiss and told me he would call me later. I haven't heard a word from him since Saturday morning.
I am really just frustrated with him.
My plan is to NOT contact him. Any insight to this..?

woodenmeow
Has he called since?
I have been dating a cancer man longer then i can even count im a pisces girl . . .. the best thing to do is let him came to you! If he is interested and really feels something then he will jump through fire for you! Maybe not straight away! But he will show interest and will deffinately want to take you out for dinner or even a movie. Dont be too available for him! If he hasnt called yet DONT you call! if you chase him he will know that he has you right where he wants you! Be mysterious! Be unpredictable! crabs like to chase! They do also get very bored very quickly if you are too accomading! So dont be! Be fabulous and happy . . show him that he isnt on your mind all the time! Us oisces can be in fantasy world alot of the time! Best you dont concentrate on him! If he calls dont answer straight away! Call him back in your own time! Theres nothing wrong with a little sweat! Lol hope it works out!

Hmm, I don't know about the tactics angelwings suggested they could back fire if your Cancer is dead serious about you, he may think you are playing games. Mines made it very clear that lack of communication will make his mind wonder, but not in a good way. So be careful. Cancer men need reassurance from what I can tell, just in very subtle ways. I think if you push they go inside their shell. So just handle him with gentle care, remember he is sensitive so never directly confront him, watch your tone when discussing your issues or he will become defensive and a brick wall will go up and he will not hear you. He will only hear your bashing him. Trust me I tried it, and when they feel attacked they only hear what they want to hear, which is a very bad thing in a disagreement.
I'm currently dating a Cancer myself, and we are fairly new just like you and your Cancer. We've only been dating for about 3 weeks now, so I know EXACTLY how you feel especially since I have that Pisces moon. (wink) lol. You are both learning one another. He didn't tell you he missed you back, because his way of solving that was to just tell you to come over. My Cancer lives in another state so when I tell him I miss him, he says it back because its not like he can just drive over to see me, understand? Now if he didn't respond at all, you??d have a little problem.

As far as feeling like your bugging him, well I'm still figuring that one out myself. I feel that way too sometimes when I contact my Cancer it sort of feels like the more he likes me, the more he tries to figure me out. When he came to visit I swear the questions about my family and past loves never ended. However I hate to discuss my ex because they are ex??s for a reason, I prefer to leave them in the past especially my last one; it brings back very hurtful ugly memories that I haven't shared with my Cancer yet, but I plan to. All I can tell you is just be yourself, if a Cancer likes you they just do, the best thing is there is no in between with them, and once you got him you got him. Be sweet, and caring. My dad is a Cancer and my mom is a Pisces I asked him what is the one thing that made him marry and choose my mom above all others, he said because she was the sweetest woman he had ever met. I'm not saying baby your Cancer, but definitely show him that sweet side, you??re doing good by offering to cook. Mines went nuts just because I offered to iron his clothes before we went for dinner. Smal

Angelwings83 & Pinklibra...

Thank you so much for your input. I havent heard from him since last Friday. For the first couple of weeks he was contacting me everyday and being very attentive. I feel like I have given him all the re-assurance I can. He knows I am interested in him. Not trying to be like a child but HE is the one who said that he would call me. I don't think I should reach out to him. Astrological signs or not.. If a man is interested he will call. At least that is what I feel.
The longest we went before without talking was 3 days. This is a new record,and not a good record.
He flew to San Jose today.. I think to go fishing. Maybe a few days of relaxing will make him feel better.
I don't want to play games with him, but also I don't want to chase him.
I am really on the fence about it all. Maybe I told him too much by saying that I wasn't seeing anyone one. Did that freak him out? I was telling him that to re-assure him. He said he wasn't either and didn't want to think of me with anyone else. So I am confused as to why I haven't heard from him.
This behavior triggers something in me Because I had a taurus man do a push and pull on me. I can't take going through that again.

pinklibra and woodenmeow
I can totally agree with you as far as handeling crabs with gentlness and to be sensitive with them! and yes deffinately the more you you Nag the more you totally dont get noticed and they completely shut you out! But i am talking from my experience of 10 years with a crab! the more you give the more they want! As a woman or i should say a pisces woman who does wear her heart on her sleeve seriously cant be so Mooshe and over the top straight away!Thats our down fall! being a libra im sure you are different but He is a man after all! When a woman gives a man herself emotionally even he whatever star sign he is will run for the exit door! So i do agree with you in what you have said but i believe woodenmeow has shown him that he is interested and she has expressed probably too much to him already!
If your crab has gone away for the weekend or a few nights ill probably bet he will call when he gets back! Crabs need to be with mates and deffinately need to do boy things!
Theres nothing wrong with cooking or doing little things for him but my best advice is to gradually do it! Cancer men look for a woman who reminds them of there mother! but who is there partner not mother!
Anyway i think MEN in general are so very difficult . . . . So its always a nerver ending Game! Lol even if we say we dont want it to be!
I hope everything works out for you both Everyone deserves to be happy! just be ready for a wild ride with Crabs! There the most amazing beautiful person but can be quite the opposite!
woodenmeow
dont play the game and if you dont want to chase then simple let it go! what will be will be!

Angelwings83-

Thanks. Maybe some time away from the regular grind will help him. I just wanted him to feel secure with me, but it's possible I did too much to quick. A man is man.. hopefully he will come around. I have given him enough reinforcement. What he does with that is up to him.

Nothing from him this weekend. And I am gettting a little antzy to contact him. And really scratching my head wondering why this cancer guy that we both enjoyed each other's company.. Has not contacted me.
I really don't want to chase him.
Any insight on this...?

@woodenmeow you just have to be patient, if you truly care stick around text him let him know your on his mind keep it sweet in simple. when you two finally do see each other let him know how you feel. and just be consistant. Its tru they do not like to rush into relationships

hes on your mind lol sorry

@ Sweet07.

Thanks. I am on the fence as to what to do. I will wait a little longer and see if maybe he contacts me. I think I have done more than enough in letting him know where I stand and being honest with him.
He said he would call me. He hasn't kept his word.

Finally... I heard from my cancer man yesterday. So Happy. He started with a text. "Hey Stranger".
I did respond and then he called me. I was pleasantly surprised. He has been waiting for me to contact him. I reminded him, that he was the one that said he would call me. He didn't remember, but he seemed hurt that I hadn't contacted him. I said maybe we need a better system of communication. He said its all part of getting to know each other. I guess.
He did a fishing trip and said I could have been dead in a ditch and you wouldn't have known. So that is why I think he was hurt?
I think this time made him miss me a little. So maybe it was a good thing.
He also told me his pet name for me. It was cute. We said our good nights and that we would talk soon.
I texted him this morning, and told him I was glad to hear from him yesterday. That I like hearing his voice.
We will see how it goes now. I feel a little better.

With all the past guys that were so cold and emotionless. Him being a more forthcoming is a breath of fresh air to me. I am good with that. I still think he is not being 100% forthcoming, but that will come in time. I am excited to see what the future holds with my Cancer.
He even gave me a Pet Name. I am giddy like a school-girl today.