Elissar18
@Elissar18
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Crabby ass moods..
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They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Posted by Elissar18
probably let them bleed out while their balls are in a blender. Might make them drink it and fuck his ass with a broom stick.
He's wondering where all this excitement went.
Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Posted by DrinkWater
Lock them in a cupbord.
Probably a safe option lol
Posted by SoftMachinePosted by Elissar18
probably let them bleed out while their balls are in a blender. Might make them drink it and fuck his ass with a broom stick.
He's wondering where all this excitement went.click to expand
😂😂 oh baby I got his excitement right here 😉
Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormalclick to expand
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
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How do you put up with it? Patience isn't a virtue I have. I get so close to dumping his ass sometimes and then I just tell myself he's on his period and bleeding from his vagina and it will pass then he'll be good again. I don't know how a guy can be the awesomest and the worst at the same time. At least it's never boring though.
Posted by DrinkWaterPosted by Elissar18Posted by DrinkWater
Lock them in a cupbord.
Probably a safe option lol
But don't let it out when the banging stops, its always a trap. Wait till after dark when its asleep.click to expand
Lol. Well he thinks I'm a gremlin after midnight so that could get dangerous for him
Posted by DrinkWaterPosted by Elissar18Posted by DrinkWaterPosted by Elissar18Posted by DrinkWater
Lock them in a cupbord.
Probably a safe option lol
But don't let it out when the banging stops, its always a trap. Wait till after dark when its asleep.
Lol. Well he thinks I'm a gremlin after midnight so that could get dangerous for him
'Gremlin after midnight' is the name of my band.click to expand
Lol good name.
Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
How do you put up with it? Patience isn't a virtue I have. I get so close to dumping his ass sometimes and then I just tell myself he's on his period and bleeding from his vagina and it will pass then he'll be good again. I don't know how a guy can be the awesomest and the worst at the same time. At least it's never boring though.click to expand
I couldn't ...after 7 yrs of arguments not just about his moody ass but about everything . I just had enough. I still love him though ..always will but he had a lot of growing up to do. But I'm not innocent either...I provoked him and was kind of a harsh bitch. I had a lot of emotional shit going on during that time...not an excuse but it's the truth.
We had distance between us that helped...so it not like we could just run across the street and see each other...that was nice tbh. But yeah, it was def not boring...never knew what Id get when we'd see each other lol.
I remember one time...idk exactly what happened but he literally stormed off like a child and slept on my couch. I tried to get him to come to bed but he wouldn't budge and even had a pouty lip...it was ridiculous. I rolled my eyes and told him to grow up and went to bed 😂. He was still pouting in the morning but grabbed me, hugged me and pulled me on the couch. Smh lol
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
How do you put up with it? Patience isn't a virtue I have. I get so close to dumping his ass sometimes and then I just tell myself he's on his period and bleeding from his vagina and it will pass then he'll be good again. I don't know how a guy can be the awesomest and the worst at the same time. At least it's never boring though.
I couldn't ...after 7 yrs of arguments not just about his moody ass but about everything . I just had enough. I still love him though ..always will but he had a lot of growing up to do. But I'm not innocent either...I provoked him and was kind of a harsh bitch. I had a lot of emotional shit going on during that time...not an excuse but it's the truth.
We had distance between us that helped...so it not like we could just run across the street and see each other...that was nice tbh. But yeah, it was def not boring...never knew what Id get when we'd see each other lol.
I remember one time...idk exactly what happened but he literally stormed off like a child and slept on my couch. I tried to get him to come to bed but he wouldn't budge and even had a pouty lip...it was ridiculous. I rolled my eyes and told him to grow up and went to bed 😂. He was still pouting in the morning but grabbed me, hugged me and pulled me on the couch. Smh lolclick to expand
Wow 7 years is a long time. I've been seeing this one less that 5 months. We never fight when we're together. It's just on the phone sometimes. One of us gets all offended and defensive then it turns into childish shit. I get over stuff fast but he has to keep bringing it up over and over again for a day or two before he gets over it. It's weird because he'll even call me while he's still angry just to be annoying. Boys are hard work.
Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
How do you put up with it? Patience isn't a virtue I have. I get so close to dumping his ass sometimes and then I just tell myself he's on his period and bleeding from his vagina and it will pass then he'll be good again. I don't know how a guy can be the awesomest and the worst at the same time. At least it's never boring though.
I couldn't ...after 7 yrs of arguments not just about his moody ass but about everything . I just had enough. I still love him though ..always will but he had a lot of growing up to do. But I'm not innocent either...I provoked him and was kind of a harsh bitch. I had a lot of emotional shit going on during that time...not an excuse but it's the truth.
We had distance between us that helped...so it not like we could just run across the street and see each other...that was nice tbh. But yeah, it was def not boring...never knew what Id get when we'd see each other lol.
I remember one time...idk exactly what happened but he literally stormed off like a child and slept on my couch. I tried to get him to come to bed but he wouldn't budge and even had a pouty lip...it was ridiculous. I rolled my eyes and told him to grow up and went to bed 😂. He was still pouting in the morning but grabbed me, hugged me and pulled me on the couch. Smh lol
Wow 7 years is a long time. I've been seeing this one less that 5 months. We never fight when we're together. It's just on the phone sometimes. One of us gets all offended and defensive then it turns into childish shit. I get over stuff fast but he has to keep bringing it up over and over again for a day or two before he gets over it. It's weird because he'll even call me while he's still angry just to be annoying. Boys are hard work.click to expand
We've know each other for about 17 yrs now (we aren't talking at the moment lol). We argued a lot...but more like an old married couple if that makes sense lol. Yeah they like to pour on the victim and the emotional manipulation when "hurt". I used to call him out on it.. I think it frustrated him more because it never worked on me. Lol.
They are extremely hard work lol. (Boys in general not just cancer guys)
You seem to be defensive cause youd like to avoid his mood swings are you trying to cAlm him down?
As an ariesweary guy who is supposed womans shit competently i have a few tips for you:
Tease him banrer him
Do the opposite escalate the situation so much until he cannot get worked up more.
Honestly fuck him but in a way he feels if he is agggressive fuck him aggressively.
But those are strategies to handle situations.
If you are miserable for 7 years then you its toxic. Is he immature are you codependent i dont know you might have relationship issues.
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
How do you put up with it? Patience isn't a virtue I have. I get so close to dumping his ass sometimes and then I just tell myself he's on his period and bleeding from his vagina and it will pass then he'll be good again. I don't know how a guy can be the awesomest and the worst at the same time. At least it's never boring though.
I couldn't ...after 7 yrs of arguments not just about his moody ass but about everything . I just had enough. I still love him though ..always will but he had a lot of growing up to do. But I'm not innocent either...I provoked him and was kind of a harsh bitch. I had a lot of emotional shit going on during that time...not an excuse but it's the truth.
We had distance between us that helped...so it not like we could just run across the street and see each other...that was nice tbh. But yeah, it was def not boring...never knew what Id get when we'd see each other lol.
I remember one time...idk exactly what happened but he literally stormed off like a child and slept on my couch. I tried to get him to come to bed but he wouldn't budge and even had a pouty lip...it was ridiculous. I rolled my eyes and told him to grow up and went to bed 😂. He was still pouting in the morning but grabbed me, hugged me and pulled me on the couch. Smh lol
Wow 7 years is a long time. I've been seeing this one less that 5 months. We never fight when we're together. It's just on the phone sometimes. One of us gets all offended and defensive then it turns into childish shit. I get over stuff fast but he has to keep bringing it up over and over again for a day or two before he gets over it. It's weird because he'll even call me while he's still angry just to be annoying. Boys are hard work.
We've know each other for about 17 yrs now (we aren't talking at the moment lol). We argued a lot...but more like an old married couple if that makes sense lol. Yeah they like to pour on the victim and the emotional manipulation when "hurt". I used to call him out on it.. I think it frustrated him more because it never worked on me. Lol.
They are extremely hard work lol. (Boys in general not just cancer guys)
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That's a long time to know someone. What ended it?
Posted by Parkourler
You seem to be defensive cause youd like to avoid his mood swings are you trying to cAlm him down?
As an ariesweary guy who is supposed womans shit competently i have a few tips for you:
Tease him banrer him
Do the opposite escalate the situation so much until he cannot get worked up more.
Honestly fuck him but in a way he feels if he is agggressive fuck him aggressively.
But those are strategies to handle situations.
If you are miserable for 7 years then you its toxic. Is he immature are you codependent i dont know you might have relationship issues.
I try staying calm and then he calls me a silent assassin. Agressive doesn't work either because then he says he's scared of me. Cancer men have a way of making you the bad one no matter whose at fault. It's like magic. I don't know how he does it. Sometimes I admit fault and say it was my fault then he feels bad, blames himself and apologies. But then he'll bring it up again to try to remind me it was my fault. It's like arguing with a child. Thankfully we don't have too many of those moments and it's mostly good. But i need to get a handle on it or it will cause problems later when we have a serious issue to deal with
Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
How do you put up with it? Patience isn't a virtue I have. I get so close to dumping his ass sometimes and then I just tell myself he's on his period and bleeding from his vagina and it will pass then he'll be good again. I don't know how a guy can be the awesomest and the worst at the same time. At least it's never boring though.
I couldn't ...after 7 yrs of arguments not just about his moody ass but about everything . I just had enough. I still love him though ..always will but he had a lot of growing up to do. But I'm not innocent either...I provoked him and was kind of a harsh bitch. I had a lot of emotional shit going on during that time...not an excuse but it's the truth.
We had distance between us that helped...so it not like we could just run across the street and see each other...that was nice tbh. But yeah, it was def not boring...never knew what Id get when we'd see each other lol.
I remember one time...idk exactly what happened but he literally stormed off like a child and slept on my couch. I tried to get him to come to bed but he wouldn't budge and even had a pouty lip...it was ridiculous. I rolled my eyes and told him to grow up and went to bed 😂. He was still pouting in the morning but grabbed me, hugged me and pulled me on the couch. Smh lol
Wow 7 years is a long time. I've been seeing this one less that 5 months. We never fight when we're together. It's just on the phone sometimes. One of us gets all offended and defensive then it turns into childish shit. I get over stuff fast but he has to keep bringing it up over and over again for a day or two before he gets over it. It's weird because he'll even call me while he's still angry just to be annoying. Boys are hard work.
We've know each other for about 17 yrs now (we aren't talking at the moment lol). We argued a lot...but more like an old married couple if that makes sense lol. Yeah they like to pour on the victim and the emotional manipulation when "hurt". I used to call him out on it.. I think it frustrated him more because it never worked on me. Lol.
They are extremely hard work lol. (Boys in general not just cancer guys)
That's a long time to know someone. What ended it?
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Honestly idk. He was in the process of buying a house and he was stressed with that. He asked if I would stay with him when he got everything finished. I said I would but my dog. He said I could bring him...ok cool. Then weeks later he acted like it was a big deal if I brought my dog. It hurt my feelings and I stopped talking to him. Then once I was over it...tried to talk to him again but he was still dealing with his house. We just stopped talking.
I reached out this year (it's been two years) and we talked some...he tried to pretend like he didn't know who I was by my number that he knows by heart smh lol. And then tried to play it off like he couldn't remember the last time he seen me. It was cordial and some things were said that needed to be said. I reached out again to wish him a happy birthday...like I do every year. And he had his "gf" text me...we went back and forth. Found out who it was and i could not stop laughing. I'm like SMH ...I can't believe he settled...she like he settled with you. Ok...for 7 years then 😂. She is actually psychotic and stalked him years ago after he ended their fling....she would buy him booze and give him poosay....which she gave to everyone in that town. Good times. Funny thing is....he never mentioned her one time when we talked months prior. Meh...good luck to him with her. I ain't mad about it or sad...I think she may help him to grow up some more. I'll hear from him again. If not, I wish him nothing but happiness tbh.
Posted by Elissar18Posted by Parkourler
You seem to be defensive cause youd like to avoid his mood swings are you trying to cAlm him down?
As an ariesweary guy who is supposed womans shit competently i have a few tips for you:
Tease him banrer him
Do the opposite escalate the situation so much until he cannot get worked up more.
Honestly fuck him but in a way he feels if he is agggressive fuck him aggressively.
But those are strategies to handle situations.
If you are miserable for 7 years then you its toxic. Is he immature are you codependent i dont know you might have relationship issues.
I try staying calm and then he calls me a silent assassin. Agressive doesn't work either because then he says he's scared of me. Cancer men have a way of making you the bad one no matter whose at fault. It's like magic. I don't know how he does it. Sometimes I admit fault and say it was my fault then he feels bad, blames himself and apologies. But then he'll bring it up again to try to remind me it was my fault. It's like arguing with a child. Thankfully we don't have too many of those moments and it's mostly good. But i need to get a handle on it or it will cause problems later when we have a serious issue to deal withclick to expand
I know that educate yourself on handling guilttripping and manipulation. Therebare books about communication patterns out there read them. Why would you want to stay in this relationship?
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
How do you put up with it? Patience isn't a virtue I have. I get so close to dumping his ass sometimes and then I just tell myself he's on his period and bleeding from his vagina and it will pass then he'll be good again. I don't know how a guy can be the awesomest and the worst at the same time. At least it's never boring though.
I couldn't ...after 7 yrs of arguments not just about his moody ass but about everything . I just had enough. I still love him though ..always will but he had a lot of growing up to do. But I'm not innocent either...I provoked him and was kind of a harsh bitch. I had a lot of emotional shit going on during that time...not an excuse but it's the truth.
We had distance between us that helped...so it not like we could just run across the street and see each other...that was nice tbh. But yeah, it was def not boring...never knew what Id get when we'd see each other lol.
I remember one time...idk exactly what happened but he literally stormed off like a child and slept on my couch. I tried to get him to come to bed but he wouldn't budge and even had a pouty lip...it was ridiculous. I rolled my eyes and told him to grow up and went to bed 😂. He was still pouting in the morning but grabbed me, hugged me and pulled me on the couch. Smh lol
Wow 7 years is a long time. I've been seeing this one less that 5 months. We never fight when we're together. It's just on the phone sometimes. One of us gets all offended and defensive then it turns into childish shit. I get over stuff fast but he has to keep bringing it up over and over again for a day or two before he gets over it. It's weird because he'll even call me while he's still angry just to be annoying. Boys are hard work.
We've know each other for about 17 yrs now (we aren't talking at the moment lol). We argued a lot...but more like an old married couple if that makes sense lol. Yeah they like to pour on the victim and the emotional manipulation when "hurt". I used to call him out on it.. I think it frustrated him more because it never worked on me. Lol.
They are extremely hard work lol. (Boys in general not just cancer guys)
That's a long time to know someone. What ended it?
Honestly idk. He was in the process of buying a house and he was stressed with that. He asked if I would stay with him when he got everything finished. I said I would but my dog. He said I could bring him...ok cool. Then weeks later he acted like it was a big deal if I brought my dog. It hurt my feelings and I stopped talking to him. Then once I was over it...tried to talk to him again but he was still dealing with his house. We just stopped talking.
I reached out this year (it's been two years) and we talked some...he tried to pretend like he didn't know who I was by my number that he knows by heart smh lol. And then tried to play it off like he couldn't remember the last time he seen me. It was cordial and some things were said that needed to be said. I reached out again to wish him a happy birthday...like I do every year. And he had his "gf" text me...we went back and forth. Found out who it was and i could not stop laughing. I'm like SMH ...I can't believe he settled...she like he settled with you. Ok...for 7 years then 😂. She is actually psychotic and stalked him years ago after he ended their fling....she would buy him booze and give him poosay....which she gave to everyone in that town. Good times. Funny thing is....he never mentioned her one time when we talked months prior. Meh...good luck to him with her. I ain't mad about it or sad...I think she may help him to grow up some more. I'll hear from him again. If not, I wish him nothing but happiness tbh.click to expand
Wow that sounds dramaful. Shitty about the dog thing.
Posted by ParkourlerPosted by Elissar18Posted by Parkourler
You seem to be defensive cause youd like to avoid his mood swings are you trying to cAlm him down?
As an ariesweary guy who is supposed womans shit competently i have a few tips for you:
Tease him banrer him
Do the opposite escalate the situation so much until he cannot get worked up more.
Honestly fuck him but in a way he feels if he is agggressive fuck him aggressively.
But those are strategies to handle situations.
If you are miserable for 7 years then you its toxic. Is he immature are you codependent i dont know you might have relationship issues.
I try staying calm and then he calls me a silent assassin. Agressive doesn't work either because then he says he's scared of me. Cancer men have a way of making you the bad one no matter whose at fault. It's like magic. I don't know how he does it. Sometimes I admit fault and say it was my fault then he feels bad, blames himself and apologies. But then he'll bring it up again to try to remind me it was my fault. It's like arguing with a child. Thankfully we don't have too many of those moments and it's mostly good. But i need to get a handle on it or it will cause problems later when we have a serious issue to deal with
I know that educate yourself on handling guilttripping and manipulation. Therebare books about communication patterns out there read them. Why would you want to stay in this relationship?
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He's awesome 90% of the time. We talk for hours and laugh lots and love each other's company. We can be our weird selves and I think that's rare. Most people are afraid of saying the wrong thing or acring the wrong way and looking like an idiot but we be idiots on purpose. I don't think any relationship is perfect all the time but I want it to be the best it can be. We piss eachother off sometimes but we always work it out even if it means arguing. Arguing is still communication. There's only a serious problem when you can't fight it out and start doing the silent treatment and ignoring but we don't do that to each other.
Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormal
Ha...mine would say the same thing. I'm always in a good mood...🙄🙄. I know he liked space majority of the time but I'm sure there were times where he wished I didn't...but I just couldn't handle the sulking. It gets old after a while...like I get it...I have my moods too but nothing like a cancer man lol.
Nope, not abnormal... he's just a cancer man lol.
How do you put up with it? Patience isn't a virtue I have. I get so close to dumping his ass sometimes and then I just tell myself he's on his period and bleeding from his vagina and it will pass then he'll be good again. I don't know how a guy can be the awesomest and the worst at the same time. At least it's never boring though.
I couldn't ...after 7 yrs of arguments not just about his moody ass but about everything . I just had enough. I still love him though ..always will but he had a lot of growing up to do. But I'm not innocent either...I provoked him and was kind of a harsh bitch. I had a lot of emotional shit going on during that time...not an excuse but it's the truth.
We had distance between us that helped...so it not like we could just run across the street and see each other...that was nice tbh. But yeah, it was def not boring...never knew what Id get when we'd see each other lol.
I remember one time...idk exactly what happened but he literally stormed off like a child and slept on my couch. I tried to get him to come to bed but he wouldn't budge and even had a pouty lip...it was ridiculous. I rolled my eyes and told him to grow up and went to bed 😂. He was still pouting in the morning but grabbed me, hugged me and pulled me on the couch. Smh lol
Wow 7 years is a long time. I've been seeing this one less that 5 months. We never fight when we're together. It's just on the phone sometimes. One of us gets all offended and defensive then it turns into childish shit. I get over stuff fast but he has to keep bringing it up over and over again for a day or two before he gets over it. It's weird because he'll even call me while he's still angry just to be annoying. Boys are hard work.
We've know each other for about 17 yrs now (we aren't talking at the moment lol). We argued a lot...but more like an old married couple if that makes sense lol. Yeah they like to pour on the victim and the emotional manipulation when "hurt". I used to call him out on it.. I think it frustrated him more because it never worked on me. Lol.
They are extremely hard work lol. (Boys in general not just cancer guys)
That's a long time to know someone. What ended it?
Honestly idk. He was in the process of buying a house and he was stressed with that. He asked if I would stay with him when he got everything finished. I said I would but my dog. He said I could bring him...ok cool. Then weeks later he acted like it was a big deal if I brought my dog. It hurt my feelings and I stopped talking to him. Then once I was over it...tried to talk to him again but he was still dealing with his house. We just stopped talking.
I reached out this year (it's been two years) and we talked some...he tried to pretend like he didn't know who I was by my number that he knows by heart smh lol. And then tried to play it off like he couldn't remember the last time he seen me. It was cordial and some things were said that needed to be said. I reached out again to wish him a happy birthday...like I do every year. And he had his "gf" text me...we went back and forth. Found out who it was and i could not stop laughing. I'm like SMH ...I can't believe he settled...she like he settled with you. Ok...for 7 years then 😂. She is actually psychotic and stalked him years ago after he ended their fling....she would buy him booze and give him poosay....which she gave to everyone in that town. Good times. Funny thing is....he never mentioned her one time when we talked months prior. Meh...good luck to him with her. I ain't mad about it or sad...I think she may help him to grow up some more. I'll hear from him again. If not, I wish him nothing but happiness tbh.
Wow that sounds dramaful. Shitty about the dog thing.click to expand
You know us leo moons love the drama lol. Naw. ...it lasted for a couple hours and done. Yeah it was...in my head it felt more about an excuse of him not wanting me to stay with him than really about the dog...when to him...it was about the dog. He was worried he'd scratch his floors and stuff...even though hes very well behaved. It is what it is lol.
Posted by Elissar18Posted by ParkourlerPosted by Elissar18Posted by Parkourler
You seem to be defensive cause youd like to avoid his mood swings are you trying to cAlm him down?
As an ariesweary guy who is supposed womans shit competently i have a few tips for you:
Tease him banrer him
Do the opposite escalate the situation so much until he cannot get worked up more.
Honestly fuck him but in a way he feels if he is agggressive fuck him aggressively.
But those are strategies to handle situations.
If you are miserable for 7 years then you its toxic. Is he immature are you codependent i dont know you might have relationship issues.
I try staying calm and then he calls me a silent assassin. Agressive doesn't work either because then he says he's scared of me. Cancer men have a way of making you the bad one no matter whose at fault. It's like magic. I don't know how he does it. Sometimes I admit fault and say it was my fault then he feels bad, blames himself and apologies. But then he'll bring it up again to try to remind me it was my fault. It's like arguing with a child. Thankfully we don't have too many of those moments and it's mostly good. But i need to get a handle on it or it will cause problems later when we have a serious issue to deal with
I know that educate yourself on handling guilttripping and manipulation. Therebare books about communication patterns out there read them. Why would you want to stay in this relationship?
He's awesome 90% of the time. We talk for hours and laugh lots and love each other's company. We can be our weird selves and I think that's rare. Most people are afraid of saying the wrong thing or acring the wrong way and looking like an idiot but we be idiots on purpose. I don't think any relationship is perfect all the time but I want it to be the best it can be. We piss eachother off sometimes but we always work it out even if it means arguing. Arguing is still communication. There's only a serious problem when you can't fight it out and start doing the silent treatment and ignoring but we don't do that to each other.click to expand
Do you actually believe you are a silent assasin? You are buying into his shit and thats why you freeze. I dont change my advice break his spell and mess with him.
Water people are so good at asserting their frame when they are emotional.
Mess sith him in a playful way and see what happens.
Like rachel at 3:32
Posted by MissKrabs
if he is 90% awesome, what the hell do you want! we can be cranky and moody, me for instance over some trivial shit usually, for instance today i woke up pissed cause i felt tired for the third day in a row lol.
That 10% is frustrating. I just want to know how to overcome and deal with it. I understand that everybody has moves and gets cranky it's just the duration and intensity of the cranky moodiness that gets to me. What do you need from a partner and how can they fix it when you get into one of those moods?
Posted by Parkourler
Like rachel at 3:32
That's hilarious. And would work for the minute but he always goes back to whatever he's angry about and brings it up again. He can't just move forward that easily. He calls me all sorts of stuff and I play into it and try to have a laugh about it but it bothers me when he keeps coming back to the same thing
Posted by Elissar18Posted by Parkourler
Like rachel at 3:32
That's hilarious. And would work for the minute but he always goes back to whatever he's angry about and brings it up again. He can't just move forward that easily. He calls me all sorts of stuff and I play into it and try to have a laugh about it but it bothers me when he keeps coming back to the same thingclick to expand
Imma play armchairpsychologist: there is an underlying need so in that case you gotta be validating and open to bring it to the surface. I bring subjects up constantly when i feel wronged and need vindication.
Posted by ParkourlerPosted by Elissar18Posted by Parkourler
Like rachel at 3:32
That's hilarious. And would work for the minute but he always goes back to whatever he's angry about and brings it up again. He can't just move forward that easily. He calls me all sorts of stuff and I play into it and try to have a laugh about it but it bothers me when he keeps coming back to the same thing
Imma play armchairpsychologist: there is an underlying need so in that case you gotta be validating and open to bring it to the surface. I bring subjects up constantly when i feel wronged and need vindication.click to expand
Ok I'll try validating more. He said i don't compliment him enough so I think he needs words of affirmation. I suck at sweet nothings. I'm more of an actions person and like helping and doing things for people rather than sugar coating and ass kissing. Words are less important to me and actions speak louder. I should probably be more mindful that not everyone works the same way as has the same needs as I do. Thank you for your insight it was helpful.
Posted by Elissar18
Is there some secret to keeping crabs happy? Not.. reallyyyyyy
Or some trick to snap them out of shitty moods? It depends on what got us there
My crab is awesome most of the time. He's funny, sweet and charming and he makes me smile. But when he's got his crabby pants on, he's annoying as fuck and frustrates the shit out of me.
So... is there anyway to fix or prevent the shitty moods? I'm not sure what triggers them because it usually throws me off guard and is rather unexpected. Any insight into how to handle them or what causes cancer mood farts, would be much appreciated.
time,food or venting helps me when I'm in a bad mood.
But sometimes we aren't in a bad mood at all. We just want to be alone because we enjoy our own company.
If you are not the cause of it.. then I'd point it out and try to make him laugh. Say something cute like :awww you're on your period again?" then pinch his cheeks.. something cute and corny will snap me out of it. SOMETIMES
Posted by GC07
You’re always making negative threads about him.
IMO, you should just break up.
Are you sure you're not confusing me for someone else?
Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18
Is there some secret to keeping crabs happy? Not.. reallyyyyyy
Or some trick to snap them out of shitty moods? It depends on what got us there
My crab is awesome most of the time. He's funny, sweet and charming and he makes me smile. But when he's got his crabby pants on, he's annoying as fuck and frustrates the shit out of me.
So... is there anyway to fix or prevent the shitty moods? I'm not sure what triggers them because it usually throws me off guard and is rather unexpected. Any insight into how to handle them or what causes cancer mood farts, would be much appreciated.
time,food or venting helps me when I'm in a bad mood.
But sometimes we aren't in a bad mood at all. We just want to be alone because we enjoy our own company.
If you are not the cause of it.. then I'd point it out and try to make him laugh. Say something cute like :awww you're on your period again?" then pinch his cheeks.. something cute and corny will snap me out of it. SOMETIMES
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Lol pinching his cheeks will probably score me a mother comparison. I'm trying to avoid anymore of those 😂
When I’m in a mood .. I want to be left the fuck alone. It’s pretty simple.
Posted by Elissar18
Is there some secret to keeping crabs happy? Or some trick to snap them out of shitty moods?
My crab is awesome most of the time. He's funny, sweet and charming and he makes me smile. But when he's got his crabby pants on, he's annoying as fuck and frustrates the shit out of me.
So... is there anyway to fix or prevent the shitty moods? I'm not sure what triggers them because it usually throws me off guard and is rather unexpected. Any insight into how to handle them or what causes cancer mood farts, would be much appreciated.
Gosh, We're not perfect you know. We can't get any credit, better off having solo time.
Posted by Elissar18Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18
Is there some secret to keeping crabs happy? Not.. reallyyyyyy
Or some trick to snap them out of shitty moods? It depends on what got us there
My crab is awesome most of the time. He's funny, sweet and charming and he makes me smile. But when he's got his crabby pants on, he's annoying as fuck and frustrates the shit out of me.
So... is there anyway to fix or prevent the shitty moods? I'm not sure what triggers them because it usually throws me off guard and is rather unexpected. Any insight into how to handle them or what causes cancer mood farts, would be much appreciated.
time,food or venting helps me when I'm in a bad mood.
But sometimes we aren't in a bad mood at all. We just want to be alone because we enjoy our own company.
If you are not the cause of it.. then I'd point it out and try to make him laugh. Say something cute like :awww you're on your period again?" then pinch his cheeks.. something cute and corny will snap me out of it. SOMETIMES
Lol pinching his cheeks will probably score me a mother comparison. I'm trying to avoid anymore of those 😂click to expand
meanwhile I'd be his momma all day 😂😂
Posted by haunt
When I’m in a mood .. I want to be left the fuck alone. It’s pretty simple.
We talk to each other everyday even when we're mad. It's nice to have someone that's still there for the worst of you and not just when things are good. You're supposed to be there through whatever the other person is going through. If you're lucky you'll find someone who you go to, to lift you up when you're down and someone who cares enough to try.
Posted by whateverthemoonsaysPosted by Elissar18
Is there some secret to keeping crabs happy? Or some trick to snap them out of shitty moods?
My crab is awesome most of the time. He's funny, sweet and charming and he makes me smile. But when he's got his crabby pants on, he's annoying as fuck and frustrates the shit out of me.
So... is there anyway to fix or prevent the shitty moods? I'm not sure what triggers them because it usually throws me off guard and is rather unexpected. Any insight into how to handle them or what causes cancer mood farts, would be much appreciated.
Gosh, We're not perfect you know. We can't get any credit, better off having solo time.click to expand
No one is perfect but isn't it better to try to make the bad bits better than to contribute towards making them worse?
Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18
Is there some secret to keeping crabs happy? Not.. reallyyyyyy
Or some trick to snap them out of shitty moods? It depends on what got us there
My crab is awesome most of the time. He's funny, sweet and charming and he makes me smile. But when he's got his crabby pants on, he's annoying as fuck and frustrates the shit out of me.
So... is there anyway to fix or prevent the shitty moods? I'm not sure what triggers them because it usually throws me off guard and is rather unexpected. Any insight into how to handle them or what causes cancer mood farts, would be much appreciated.
time,food or venting helps me when I'm in a bad mood.
But sometimes we aren't in a bad mood at all. We just want to be alone because we enjoy our own company.
If you are not the cause of it.. then I'd point it out and try to make him laugh. Say something cute like :awww you're on your period again?" then pinch his cheeks.. something cute and corny will snap me out of it. SOMETIMES
Lol pinching his cheeks will probably score me a mother comparison. I'm trying to avoid anymore of those 😂
meanwhile I'd be his momma all day 😂😂click to expand
His mother passed away and he always makes comparisons. It's kind of sweet and melts my heart strings a little. He says stuff like.. my mum used to say that, my mum would have like that etc. One time he pissed me off by comparing my spaghetti though 🤨😂
Posted by Elissar18Posted by ParkourlerPosted by Elissar18Posted by Parkourler
Like rachel at 3:32
That's hilarious. And would work for the minute but he always goes back to whatever he's angry about and brings it up again. He can't just move forward that easily. He calls me all sorts of stuff and I play into it and try to have a laugh about it but it bothers me when he keeps coming back to the same thing
Imma play armchairpsychologist: there is an underlying need so in that case you gotta be validating and open to bring it to the surface. I bring subjects up constantly when i feel wronged and need vindication.
Ok I'll try validating more. He said i don't compliment him enough so I think he needs words of affirmation. I suck at sweet nothings. I'm more of an actions person and like helping and doing things for people rather than sugar coating and ass kissing. Words are less important to me and actions speak louder. I should probably be more mindful that not everyone works the same way as has the same needs as I do. Thank you for your insight it was helpful.click to expand
You are welcome i hear you i am a taurus cancer need love.
That reminds me of this.
Posted by Elissar18Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18
Is there some secret to keeping crabs happy? Not.. reallyyyyyy
Or some trick to snap them out of shitty moods? It depends on what got us there
My crab is awesome most of the time. He's funny, sweet and charming and he makes me smile. But when he's got his crabby pants on, he's annoying as fuck and frustrates the shit out of me.
So... is there anyway to fix or prevent the shitty moods? I'm not sure what triggers them because it usually throws me off guard and is rather unexpected. Any insight into how to handle them or what causes cancer mood farts, would be much appreciated.
time,food or venting helps me when I'm in a bad mood.
But sometimes we aren't in a bad mood at all. We just want to be alone because we enjoy our own company.
If you are not the cause of it.. then I'd point it out and try to make him laugh. Say something cute like :awww you're on your period again?" then pinch his cheeks.. something cute and corny will snap me out of it. SOMETIMES
Lol pinching his cheeks will probably score me a mother comparison. I'm trying to avoid anymore of those 😂
meanwhile I'd be his momma all day 😂😂
His mother passed away and he always makes comparisons. It's kind of sweet and melts my heart strings a little. He says stuff like.. my mum used to say that, my mum would have like that etc. One time he pissed me off by comparing my spaghetti though 🤨😂click to expand
Lol gurl that is cuteee! If a man tells you that your cooking reminds him of his mother's then that's basically a marriage proposal 😅
Don't let his crabbiness push you away.. we can't help it and we like testing ppl who are trying to get close.
Posted by ParkourlerPosted by Elissar18Posted by ParkourlerPosted by Elissar18Posted by Parkourler
Like rachel at 3:32
That's hilarious. And would work for the minute but he always goes back to whatever he's angry about and brings it up again. He can't just move forward that easily. He calls me all sorts of stuff and I play into it and try to have a laugh about it but it bothers me when he keeps coming back to the same thing
Imma play armchairpsychologist: there is an underlying need so in that case you gotta be validating and open to bring it to the surface. I bring subjects up constantly when i feel wronged and need vindication.
Ok I'll try validating more. He said i don't compliment him enough so I think he needs words of affirmation. I suck at sweet nothings. I'm more of an actions person and like helping and doing things for people rather than sugar coating and ass kissing. Words are less important to me and actions speak louder. I should probably be more mindful that not everyone works the same way as has the same needs as I do. Thank you for your insight it was helpful.
You are welcome i hear you i am a taurus cancer need love.
That reminds me of this.click to expand
Lmao 😂😂😂 I need to get a parenting book!!
Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18Posted by YodiPosted by Elissar18
Is there some secret to keeping crabs happy? Not.. reallyyyyyy
Or some trick to snap them out of shitty moods? It depends on what got us there
My crab is awesome most of the time. He's funny, sweet and charming and he makes me smile. But when he's got his crabby pants on, he's annoying as fuck and frustrates the shit out of me.
So... is there anyway to fix or prevent the shitty moods? I'm not sure what triggers them because it usually throws me off guard and is rather unexpected. Any insight into how to handle them or what causes cancer mood farts, would be much appreciated.
time,food or venting helps me when I'm in a bad mood.
But sometimes we aren't in a bad mood at all. We just want to be alone because we enjoy our own company.
If you are not the cause of it.. then I'd point it out and try to make him laugh. Say something cute like :awww you're on your period again?" then pinch his cheeks.. something cute and corny will snap me out of it. SOMETIMES
Lol pinching his cheeks will probably score me a mother comparison. I'm trying to avoid anymore of those 😂
meanwhile I'd be his momma all day 😂😂
His mother passed away and he always makes comparisons. It's kind of sweet and melts my heart strings a little. He says stuff like.. my mum used to say that, my mum would have like that etc. One time he pissed me off by comparing my spaghetti though 🤨😂
Lol gurl that is cuteee! If a man tells you that your cooking reminds him of his mother's then that's basically a marriage proposal 😅
Don't let his crabbiness push you away.. we can't help it and we like testing ppl who are trying to get close.click to expand
No it was bad. He said my sauce was too thick. His mum used to make it more watery. Maybe we're not destined to be together 😂😂😂 nah he's a good boy mostly. He likes that I cook
Join the club. My Cancer lady gets in these moods then full on breaks up with me, for 2 years now. We had a good year run without all that but she hit rock bottom again and here we are. I just leave her alone and see if she comes back basically. It's not fun but she is the best when she's not going insane.
I reached out this year (it's been two years) and we talked some...he tried to pretend like he didn't know who I was by my number that he knows by heart smh lol. And then tried to play it off like he couldn't remember the last time he seen me. It was cordial and some things were said that needed to be said. I reached out again to wish him a happy birthday...like I do every year. And he had his "gf" text me...we went back and forth. Found out who it was and i could not stop laughing. I'm like SMH ...I can't believe he settled...she like he settled with you. Ok...for 7 years then 😂. She is actually psychotic and stalked him years ago after he ended their fling....she would buy him booze and give him poosay....which she gave to everyone in that town. Good times. Funny thing is....he never mentioned her one time when we talked months prior. Meh...good luck to him with her. I ain't mad about it or sad...I think she may help him to grow up some more. I'll hear from him again. If not, I wish him nothing but happiness tbh.
Betcha she's Taurus and fat, too!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: Why do I say this? Because she (would HAVE to be Taurus) would have to be patient enough to DEAL with his "Moody" ass! I'd say good riddance and lucky you!
Betcha she's Taurus and fat, too!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: Why do I say this? Because she (would HAVE to be Taurus) would have to be patient enough to DEAL with his "Moody" ass! I'd say good riddance and lucky you!
Posted by Elissar18Posted by LostinmyMind11
They can be triggered by anything tbh. I just usually gave him space and eventually he'd come around...or I'd crack a couple jokes or just get pissed off lol.
Just depends on what kind of bad mood he is in...like how deep he is in one I guess I should say. Lol
Today I Said he sounds like he's in a good mood then he said he's always in a good mood. I avoided calling bullshit and setting off that landmine but it's like he's on his period sometimes. Space makes him get all sulky and annoying because he thinks I'm avoiding him so that doesn't work on my needy man bitch. I think he's abnormalclick to expand
100% normal for a crab lol
Posted by EvatheDiva52
I reached out this year (it's been two years) and we talked some...he tried to pretend like he didn't know who I was by my number that he knows by heart smh lol. And then tried to play it off like he couldn't remember the last time he seen me. It was cordial and some things were said that needed to be said. I reached out again to wish him a happy birthday...like I do every year. And he had his "gf" text me...we went back and forth. Found out who it was and i could not stop laughing. I'm like SMH ...I can't believe he settled...she like he settled with you. Ok...for 7 years then 😂. She is actually psychotic and stalked him years ago after he ended their fling....she would buy him booze and give him poosay....which she gave to everyone in that town. Good times. Funny thing is....he never mentioned her one time when we talked months prior. Meh...good luck to him with her. I ain't mad about it or sad...I think she may help him to grow up some more. I'll hear from him again. If not, I wish him nothing but happiness tbh.
Betcha she's Taurus and fat, too!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: Why do I say this? Because she (would HAVE to be Taurus) would have to be patient enough to DEAL with his "Moody" ass! I'd say good riddance and lucky you!
She's a overweight Libra I do believe lol
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by EvatheDiva52
I reached out this year (it's been two years) and we talked some...he tried to pretend like he didn't know who I was by my number that he knows by heart smh lol. And then tried to play it off like he couldn't remember the last time he seen me. It was cordial and some things were said that needed to be said. I reached out again to wish him a happy birthday...like I do every year. And he had his "gf" text me...we went back and forth. Found out who it was and i could not stop laughing. I'm like SMH ...I can't believe he settled...she like he settled with you. Ok...for 7 years then 😂. She is actually psychotic and stalked him years ago after he ended their fling....she would buy him booze and give him poosay....which she gave to everyone in that town. Good times. Funny thing is....he never mentioned her one time when we talked months prior. Meh...good luck to him with her. I ain't mad about it or sad...I think she may help him to grow up some more. I'll hear from him again. If not, I wish him nothing but happiness tbh.
Betcha she's Taurus and fat, too!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: Why do I say this? Because she (would HAVE to be Taurus) would have to be patient enough to DEAL with his "Moody" ass! I'd say good riddance and lucky you!
She's a overweight Libra I do believe lolclick to expand
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
What triggers? Can be something you forgot about but they remember so well, anything..cancer moods are like moon phases changing and changing 🙂
Stay cool headed.
Stay cool headed.
Can somebody tell me how cancers usually work?
Posted by AneemA11
Can somebody tell me how cancers usually work?
I don't have any Cancer friends. Only one I really know is the one I'm seeing so I don't know much about them in general. Just my one so I can only speak from that interaction. What part of how they work did you want to know?
Posted by vivi4656
Hi!! I hope I can help : )! I am a cancer woman with my moon in the first house! My scorpio fiance cannot even handle me at times! He tells his friends that I am the kind of woman you need to be ready for because I can be just a complicated one at time! hahahah! We're best friends and he wouldn't have it any other way! hahah! That's what he tells me anyways! Anyways, when I get moody, it's usually because my feelings are hurt! I put up a defense mechanism and wall and run away from my problems! A lot of times, it is because I do not understand my emotions! Cancers are very intuitive and feel emotions on a deep level! At times, we do not really understand our wave of emotions when they first hit us and we need time to analyze everything! During that time, we usually run away from our problems (like a turtle ducking into their shell and running away) or we become defensive and passive aggressive. We do not like feeling hurt. The cancer is ruled by the crab! Cancers need security in a relationship to feel okay. A crab has a shell on it's body for their own security. A hermit crab carries their home on their back and when they feel in danger, they duck for cover. Anyways, cancers will run away when they feel their sense of security has vanished (even if we are not rationally thinking). We run until we can find security again! It's almost like a defense mechanism in a way! A mature cancer will maybe run but will come back and work it out with you or stay and work it out! I think we are ruled so much by our feelings that we become selfish and only "feel" what is hurting us. We also do not like confrontation, so we may not even tell you what is wrong. My scorpio boyfriend had to talk to me about this because I would run away and break up with him every time he would say something about another woman that would make me feel insecure. Anyways, we're working on it and I know I will get better with time. Our relationship is ABSOLUTELY amazing... it's just something I need to work on! Anyways, I hope that gives you a better perspective on what goes on inside our minds. My boyfriend is AMAZING at deescalating the issue! He usually just tries to rationalize with me and he tells me how he feels. He never calls me crazy or anything like that! He sits down with me and tells me how much he loves me and how he does not want anyone else in the world. He makes me feel loved and I slowly start to poke my hermit crab head out of my shell. We just don't want to be judged for our sensitive nature. We want to be listened to and understood. But I am also the kind of cancer who cannot go long with space. When i run away, I usually come back in an hour ready to talk. Hee hee! I'm the kind of cancer who feels guilty for running off! Anyways, a relationship is a two way partnership! Your partner needs to be willing to speak with you! I dated a cancer man once and OH MY GOODNESS... they are soooo hard to understand. I don't know if It's because I mostly have air in my chart or if it's because men and women act differently! I'm not quite sure! But, I would just try and understand him! Show him how you feel with hugs, and kisses, and words! He probably just feels insecure. If he wants space, then I would give him space ❤️! If it's meant to be, it will be... but he needs to be willing to put in the work as well and make an effort in communicating his feelings to you so you know what needs to be done to fix this situation! I really wish you all the best of luck because I want the both of you to be happy
Thank you for the insight. Your man sounds very patient and understanding with you. I think I'm a handful at times too. I don't do the breaking up thing though. I hold it in when I feel like running and it usually passes once I've cooled my head. I guess all relationships get frustrating at times but you just have to ride the waves. My Cancer is pretty good at communicating his feelings. I think I'm the one with the issue in the area sometimes. I try to avoid conflict too (I have cancer mars), his mars is in Aries and although I have more fire than him, he gets more heated than I do. The other day he called me in a great mood. Then something happened inbetween because he called me later that day in a horrible mood, angry at his friends and the world. Then he called me a few hours later happy again. Dealing with the bad mood bits is hard. I never know the right thing to say and if I say nothing and just listen he wants to know why I'm not saying anything then I say something that usually pisses him off lol. I'm glad the moods aren't often but it's really hard to stay positive and calm and not get dragged down in it or say something I'll regret when they hit.
Posted by Arielle83
Having someone question our moods or feelings and insist we are not in a good mood will make us moody, because who the fuvk are u to dictate? We don’t like being criticized or told what our feelings are. It’s patronizing. We get annoyed when ppl think they know us more than we know ourselves
I know. It's like adding fuel to an already burning fire. I hate people doing that to me too.
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