Creative approach

Any advice on a creative yet sincere way to make peace/apologize to a cancer?

We had a bad fallout. Although I'm still disappointed and upset, I cherished the person he is and don't want to be shelled out his life. He's like my best friend. I reached out to say sorry even though he is the cause for the fallout. I just wanted to be the bigger person and move forward from the issue. He is now ignoring me.

Did he spent money on you in a significant way at any point?

let him come to you, might be a while so distract yourself or do something else in the meantime.

awww I hope everything works out for you , you seem so sweet....

I had a falling out with my scorpio friend (it was actually pretty mild) anywho I was mad at first but that meltaway pretty quickly and I missed my friend I was sad but I didn't reach out ..pride issues and such -_- she reached out to me and I was SO GLAD ....I say reach out to them ...I bet they will be glad they did 😄

Posted by HighTide
Did he spent money on you in a significant way at any point?

Lol yes we dated for two years

@rab thank u! I will take this advice

@cancan aww thank you!!! I try to give good and positive energy as much as I can.

I unfortunately did reach out to him and he is ignoring me at the moment -_- so I'll give him alllll the space needed

Posted by Honeybunniie

He's like my best friend.

I reached out to say sorry even though he is the cause for the fallout. I just wanted to be the bigger person and move forward from the issue. He is now ignoring me.

Did you tell him the former, and in the second bolded part, did that filter into your reaching out?

Honestly, I don't think their perception is the

same as yours, or mine, for that matter.

I had a Cancer in my life that was a petulant,

self righteous brat much of the time, but the

rest of the time, he was a stellar individual.

I wanted to mend it, and that was that.

Wrote a letter, threw no stones, and basically

said 'idk how you put up with it.'

He's never going to change and if I wanted to

set it right, I had to accept that-- not something

I do very often (If ever) but in this case, it was

worth it.

It worked... no regrets.

Posted by Honeybunniie
@rab thank u! I will take this advice

@cancan aww thank you!!! I try to give good and positive energy as much as I can.

I unfortunately did reach out to him and he is ignoring me at the moment -_- so I'll give him alllll the space needed

Great. Wait no longer than a month, imo.

If it's his fault don't do anything. This is what condones crappy crab behavior, and let's them think they can get away with it.

I catch myself doing this all the time: During/after an emotional outburst, all logic is gone and fault is mistakenly assigned to the other person. After the smoke clears, I realize it is actually my own fault. I then sulk for days. I don't want or expect the person to apologize. I just want them to initiate contact to validate that they even care, and then I will apologize immediately.

Difference between myself and this guy is that you have already reached out to him, and he decided to stay in his shell. So eff him, and leave him there. In the meantime, go out and have fun. The less you think about him, the more he will think about you. This is the cancer way!

Cancers are most emotionally assertive of the water signs. We LOOVE projecting

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Honeybunniie

He's like my best friend.

I reached out to say sorry even though he is the cause for the fallout. I just wanted to be the bigger person and move forward from the issue. He is now ignoring me.

Did you tell him the former, and in the second bolded part, did that filter into your reaching out?

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No. I think I was trying to explain why I felt the way I did and that I was sorry if I made him feel bad but I mean what I said.

Posted by Crabra
If it's his fault don't do anything. This is what condones crappy crab behavior, and let's them think they can get away with it.

I catch myself doing this all the time: During/after an emotional outburst, all logic is gone and fault is mistakenly assigned to the other person. After the smoke clears, I realize it is actually my own fault. I then sulk for days. I don't want or expect the person to apologize. I just want them to initiate contact to validate that they even care, and then I will apologize immediately.

Difference between myself and this guy is that you have already reached out to him, and he decided to stay in his shell. So eff him, and leave him there. In the meantime, go out and have fun. The less you think about him, the more he will think about you. This is the cancer way!

Thank u! I hate when a person I love is upset with me. It bothers me a lot. Thank you for showing clarity. At this point I haven't reach out to him or etc. it hurts so much but I guess I will live

Give him space. You've already reached out once, and he's not ready to come out of the shell. We can be some of the most stubborn people when we are in our moods and/or we feel someone wronged us. Even if the spat was completely our own doing.

Do you know his placements?

Posted by Honeybunniie
Any advice on a creative yet sincere way to make peace/apologize to a cancer?

We had a bad fallout. Although I'm still disappointed and upset, I cherished the person he is and don't want to be shelled out his life. He's like my best friend. I reached out to say sorry even though he is the cause for the fallout. I just wanted to be the bigger person and move forward from the issue. He is now ignoring me.

No no no...if he's ignoring you, leave him/her alone.

Posted by bamacrab87
Give him space. You've already reached out once, and he's not ready to come out of the shell. We can be some of the most stubborn people when we are in our moods and/or we feel someone wronged us. Even if the spat was completely our own doing.

Do you know his placements?

Sun Cancer

Moon Taurus

Mercury Leo

Venus Leo

Mars Capricorn

Jupiter Pisces

Saturn Sagittarius

Uranus Sagittarius

Neptune Capricorn

Pluto Scorpio

True Node Aries

as a cancer man i see the best thing to so in order not to lose him is to show that u are so waek and u need him to continue to live !