exs and dating

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by lovely77 on Thursday, December 3, 2015 and has 15 replies.

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@lovely77
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If your in a relationship is it ok to allow your ex to sleep on couch if they needed a place to stay, and give them financial help. And telling ur current partner your ex will always be in the picture no matter who they date. And they still get in feelings if their ex is sad they try to make them happy and have been stressing over them because the ex had been going through issues. Is this ok? They said because they r good friends. I said this and my partner got mad? When do you draw the line between exs if they r just a friend?

Would y be comfortable if the ex tried to kiss u but your being friendly cordial u dont want lose them as a friend

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@Greentea
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Posted by lovely77
If your in a relationship is it ok to allow your ex to sleep on couch if they needed a place to stay, and give them financial help. And telling ur current partner your ex will always be in the picture no matter who they date. And they still get in feelings if their ex is sad they try to make them happy and have been stressing over them because the ex had been going through issues. Is this ok? They said because they r good friends. I said this and my partner got mad? When do you draw the line between exs if they r just a friend?

Would y be comfortable if the ex tried to kiss u but your being friendly cordial u dont want lose them as a friend

If you're doing this, you're just being a thoughtless bitch to your new guy.

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@Greentea
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Let me ask you this OP...would you be ok with this arrangement if the tables were turned. If you say yes, you're lying through your teeth.

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@lovely77
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Yes if i was truly only friends didnt want them. I would hope an ex help me as i help them. But dont cross that line if u do then thats when we arent friends anymore respect me etc @greentea

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@Greentea
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Posted by lovely77
Yes if i was truly only friends didnt want them. I would hope an ex help me as i help them. But dont cross that line if u do then thats when we arent friends anymore respect me etc @greentea

There are limits with an ex that you shouldn't cross, especially if you're in a new relationship. I don't think staying with you although on your couch is a great idea. New guy will have doubts, and that is the relationship that you should be nurturing.. not the ex. You can be supportive in other ways if you're just friends with the ex. Respect should belong to the one your with.

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@Montgomery
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Oh no... it would NOT be okay with me.

This is absurd.

Is it a troll post ? lol

You want respect from the ex but you're this disrespectful

to your current commitment?

LoL nooo

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@lovely77
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U secretly already know @luckylibra979 i made a post same situation a while back about ex. I actually reversed the scenario they are a libra. Exs r ok it gets weird when i feel friend boundaries are being crossed

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@Teena
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I wouldn't be okay with this if I were that guy.
You both trying to help him together sounds like a better idea.