Hanging out with my Cancer ex...hmmm?

Cancer ex requested me on Instagram today. Messaged me at 7:45 am via text asking how I was doing, and if I was free Saturday to hangout. We had no contact at all for almost 3 weeks. I just naturally said yes. He said this is purely friendship and nothing more. I said "Of course".

I dont know what to expect. Should I cancel! lol

I can't really advise on such things because when things are over for me, they are OVER. No messages, no instagram or stalking her facebook, no "friendly" get togethers. If she still has some of my crap, she can keep it or throw it away.

I'll advise anyway. Associating yourself with exes keeps the complexity and drama of a relationship intact while not actually being in a relationship with them. I'm sure your sanity is worth more than that?

Tell him if he feels like contacting you in a year, he is free to do so. It's the nice way to say fvck off.

See what happens! Live life!

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Posted by Ellygant
Sounds like code for 'I want to have sex and possibly be in a relationship with you again but I'm scared shitless so I'm just going to ask you to be friends instead.'

But dats just my 2¢.

This^. Likewise, he probably realized that A) you weren't going to chase him and B) you were actually a benefit to his life. Problem is, he's a user and a self saboteur. He'll probably say something like, "You're the best thing that's ever happened to me," and "I want to be better" which may even be true. It REALLY means though that no one else will put up with his garbage.

IF you can just be friends with this man and not have any lingering emotions about him, then there's no problem meeting up with him. Otherwise, I'd say take a rain check until you've thoroughly moved on and found another guy. If he truly wants to be friends, he'll be fine with you having other men around.

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Posted by Ellygant
Sounds like code for 'I want to have sex and possibly be in a relationship with you again but I'm scared shitless so I'm just going to ask you to be friends instead.'

But dats just my 2¢.

This^. Likewise, he probably realized that A) you weren't going to chase him and B) you were actually a benefit to his life. Problem is, he's a user and a self saboteur. He'll probably say something like, "You're the best thing that's ever happened to me," and "I want to be better" which may even be true. It REALLY means though that no one else will put up with his garbage.

IF you can just be friends with this man and not have any lingering emotions about him, then there's no problem meeting up with him. Otherwise, I'd say take a rain check until you've thoroughly moved on and found another guy. If he truly wants to be friends, he'll be fine with you having other men around.

stop getting in the way of crab people finding love

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He already got in his own way.

He's been acting as though nothing went wrong. Texting me all day, everyday. Flirting. Telling me he is so excited for Saturday. Sending me pics of his daughter. Inquiring about my dating life. It's literally like he thinks nothing happened. haha Bless his crab heart.

Oh, I don't still want him. I'm very skeptical of him. I feel like I can't trust him, but at the same time do want to hangout. Idk my deal.