I'm a very sensitive Cancer and I fall in love easily. How can I improve my personality?

Hi. I'm a female Cancer and I love my sign but sometimes I feel stupid. Whenever I meet a guy I get attached easily and I start to imagine that I have found my soul mate, even if I don't know the guy well. I wish I could take my time to get to know a guy before falling in love but that's not in my nature. I can fall in love very easily which is why I end up hurt. Also, if the guy doesn't talk to me for whatever reason I get so depressed to the point that I want to cry sometimes. And I start to be negative and think that nothing good will ever happen to me and that love doesn't exist. I just HATE being like this!! I'm ridiculously romantic and very sensitive. Am I the only Cancer like this?? How can I improve my personality?? I wish I could be an earth sign so I could have my feet on the ground. I like having emotions and everything but sometimes it's too much.

Easy. Just stop thinking every guy you like is your soulmate. You can hope for something to be true without lying to yourself that it is true. Still a little disappointing when you don't get what you hoped for, but not as bad as having yourself totally fooled and feeling like the world caved in around you.

I'm a cancer and I fall in love so easily too! It's definitely a problem. Lots of heartbreak because of it.

I'm trying to distance myself now when talking to guys I'm interested in. It not only benefits me personally, but I'm starting to notice that guys like girls who are a little bit of a challenge and don't throw themselves completely at them right from the beginning. So that's my newest strategy for love.

What's your Venus? Mine is Leo

I'm guessing your pretty young....

Once you meet enough douche bags it'll cure you of being too invested at the start. You just need to be disappointed a few more times.

Posted by Bricks195
Easy. Just stop thinking every guy you like is your soulmate. You can hope for something to be true without lying to yourself that it is true. Still a little disappointing when you don't get what you hoped for, but not as bad as having yourself totally fooled and feeling like the world caved in around you.

🙂 🙂 🙂 sorry, I cant help

"Easy. Just stop thinking every guy you like is your soulmate." Remember, you are on an astrology forum.... thinking and feeling is not the same for a water sign... searching for a soulmate is an essential thing......

I have a cancer moon and a venus in pisces.... I can relate to the OP.... I fall in love with flowers, with refrigators, with elevators, with anything really, instantly..... I see everything as ideal (for a moment).. than thankfully my Aqua comes along and is like: What? poker-face 🙂

I can see your Bull sun would say this, but I am amazed your Pisces moon would say the same..

OP, you cannot change, how you feel, searching for a soulmate is an ultimate goal.... the only thing you can change is your behaviour..... feel, but dont act on it...

Cancer ascendant here, and I get what you're saying. I have to tell myself that if it's not fully reciprocated, it's not meant to be.

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Posted by Bricks195
Easy. Just stop thinking every guy you like is your soulmate. You can hope for something to be true without lying to yourself that it is true. Still a little disappointing when you don't get what you hoped for, but not as bad as having yourself totally fooled and feeling like the world caved in around you.

🙂 🙂 🙂 sorry, I cant help

"Easy. Just stop thinking every guy you like is your soulmate." Remember, you are on an astrology forum.... thinking and feeling is not the same for a water sign... searching for a soulmate is an essential thing......

I have a cancer moon and a venus in pisces.... I can relate to the OP.... I fall in love with flowers, with refrigators, with elevators, with anything really, instantly..... I see everything as ideal (for a moment).. than thankfully my Aqua comes along and is like: What? poker-face 🙂

I can see your Bull sun would say this, but I am amazed your Pisces moon would say the same..

OP, you cannot change, how you feel, searching for a soulmate is an ultimate goal.... the only thing you can change is your behaviour..... feel, but dont act on it...

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For the most part, I don't let feelings determine my actions. Falling in love can be a nice idea, and it would be great if your feelings about someone were any real indication of how significant a person should be in your life, but that's not how it works. If I know that, why kid myself about it?

I fall in love with what the refrigerator has on the inside haha.

I'm also Venus in Gemini, so that might make it easier for me to keep emotion out of the equation.

You're not the only one. Many Cancers are very passionate. They have a lot of love to give, and it sucks when there is no one to give it to. I feel it can actually build up, and lead a crab to making some seriously bad decisions, especially in the teen to early adult years.

However, don't confuse true love with infatuation. Because we feel things so strongly, it is easy to get these confused. What I do is take a step back and ask myself what I know about this person. And by what you know, I mean what you know through their own disclosure and not what you know through observation and the whispers of little birds.

When two people connect, they just seem to connect. All on its own. If you're into someone, you express it, and they don't reciprocate, it is already time to move on. Trust me on that. Keeping your heart open for these connections though is the best advice I can give for finding it.

Posted by sweet_cancer
Hi. I'm a female Cancer and I love my sign but sometimes I feel stupid. Whenever I meet a guy I get attached easily and I start to imagine that I have found my soul mate, even if I don't know the guy well. I wish I could take my time to get to know a guy before falling in love but that's not in my nature. I can fall in love very easily which is why I end up hurt. Also, if the guy doesn't talk to me for whatever reason I get so depressed to the point that I want to cry sometimes. And I start to be negative and think that nothing good will ever happen to me and that love doesn't exist. I just HATE being like this!! I'm ridiculously romantic and very sensitive. Am I the only Cancer like this?? How can I improve my personality?? I wish I could be an earth sign so I could have my feet on the ground. I like having emotions and everything but sometimes it's too much.

This is sad..but not in the "You need help way"

It's just crazy that you guys do end meeting a guy that is equally if not more in love with you then he ends up being the one who gets hurt. 😢

Cancerian here, sorry, can't relate to the "clingy"ness.

Can def relate to the whole "in love with love" thing, but more so about being disappointed.

Man, i used to be like you when i was in highschool. Got over that phase when i decided to stop chasing after that fantasy of "Being in love with someone else and have happily ever after" and start loving myself first and placing myself first, love can come next. I just let life decide for me lol if i make any sense.

Well all i can say is, lets say you start dating this dude. Get to know him well first before going into deeper 🙂 Be his bestfriend. There, slowly love may come. If he doesnt reply stop jumping into conclusion or negativity and cry, crying DOES NOT HELP. Think, he has his own life, he might be busy etc. Do something fun if you feel that the thinking doesnt work. Go read, go out!

Maybe you'll get disappointed by a few but thats how you learn from it and sooner or later you'll get over it 🙂

(im not good at advice so i apologize lol)

Hi again!!! Sorry that I took long to reply. Well, my sun sign is Cancer and my rising is Leo. So I don't know if Leo also affects my personality, but I'm just too sensitive. Another thing I kind of hate about my sign is that I'm always thinking about the past. I'm always wishing I could go back to my past and I hate living my present. Yeah, it's weird but that's how I am. I love remembering my childhood memories and I get a little emotional about it🙂 But there's also some things I love about my sign too, such as taking care of my house. I loveeee cooking and eating!!! I think I will be a great mom, as I'm very family oriented and I love taking care of my family and my own house.