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How do you understand cancers??
Posted by YellowSubmarineSo I don't over text him, if I text and he doesn't respond I wait!? Is that a good idea? I think there has been a few times where I do text back if he doesn't but like I said it usually if I left him with a dead answer back, which is rare. So is that good not to over text him and bug him? Honestly I'm very understanding and patient but sometimes it leaves me with anxiety and emptiness it my stomach like I'm head over heels for this guy. And I hate feeling this way!
If he cares, he'll be back - just don't push him.
In fact, the more space you give him, the greater the chances he'll be back.
Like Don said, they need to feel they are in control - let him have that.
moods that cause fear. i know fro two yea long relatiomships with cncers. thy get scared of being hurt or looking stupid or nervous or bothered
unless they are mean to you and tell u off, its not peronal. let it pass and stay by his side ad he will appreciate and trust yoy deeply. believe me . i know its painfully difficult
unless they are mean to you and tell u off, its not peronal. let it pass and stay by his side ad he will appreciate and trust yoy deeply. believe me . i know its painfully difficult
From the likes of it, he sounds like a typical man whom is preoccupied with work. If he still takes the time out to write to you, take that as a good sign.
Crabapples have their constant moods, be supportive by letting him know you are there for him should he need it and listen when he wishes to share. A place of serene calmness and safety for them to be able to return to is of utmost importance to them. Once they trust you implicitly, you will feel them around you all the time.
Reach out to him every day in a steady manner so you remain a centre of comfort to him, perhaps with something you noticed or discovered in which you think he would enjoy too or merely an uplifting statement. If he responds, fair and well, if not, go on with your day. The Crabgent will come around in time, and you will not mistake it when he does because he will cling on!
Crabapples have their constant moods, be supportive by letting him know you are there for him should he need it and listen when he wishes to share. A place of serene calmness and safety for them to be able to return to is of utmost importance to them. Once they trust you implicitly, you will feel them around you all the time.
Reach out to him every day in a steady manner so you remain a centre of comfort to him, perhaps with something you noticed or discovered in which you think he would enjoy too or merely an uplifting statement. If he responds, fair and well, if not, go on with your day. The Crabgent will come around in time, and you will not mistake it when he does because he will cling on!
Posted by LemonLimeHaha trust me that's one thing I know about him is he isn't seeing anyone else, I've done my investigating
is no one else thinking that he's seeing someone else—
He's very old fashion, he does work a lot a lot, and he does text me a lot. He's a big goofball and a bit nerdy (he is a scientist)
He's very religious (catholic)
He does lack in the street smarts side, he wouldn't be able to be seeing someone else without it be obvious.
Like I said he's very busy with work, but when we hang out he doesn't get any messages unless it's from his family ... He always makes a joke cause my phone does go off a lot and he's like you're phone never stops buzzing... And I don't answer it when he's around for consideration
Posted by YellowSubmarineHe is a sun cancer, a Sagittarius moon, and Leo Venus
What's his moon and venus sign?
I'm Scorpio sun, and Sagittarius moon and Venus.
Posted by LemonLime2 months, we are also gay and he's not out to many people so that's why I know he wouldn't cheat cause he wouldn't wanna put himself
how long have you known him
We're both not stereotypical gays, like I said were both old fashion, like to stay at home, religious etc.
I'm 25 he's 24
Posted by LemonLimeWe go to the movies and dinner
When you guys see each other, what do you do?
Dude...so hear you..take these folks advice..it takes FOREVER...you have to be patient strong and totally selfless a lot.........mine has been back and forth and all over..i dont pressure him. They hate pressure.they also hTe letting you down. Mine just professed his love to me while drunk and then went and hid in his shell....You have to be patient and strong and WAIT.
Patience! 2 months and you've seen each other about 8 times? That's not a lot of dating. I like how your charts are so nicely compatible, though. Hot and SIZZLING connection! I think he's a little shell shocked by the intensity and is trying to play cool and calm. Don't worry, if he's a good guy and not some creep, once you gain his trust AND he's processed the intensity of his feelings, you'll have your socks blown off, and good luck getting rid of him.
Posted by boxcarmirntaLiterally every time he gets drunk he confesses his love to me and calls me like 3 or 4 times.
Dude...so hear you..take these folks advice..it takes FOREVER...you have to be patient strong and totally selfless a lot.........mine has been back and forth and all over..i dont pressure him. They hate pressure.they also hTe letting you down. Mine just professed his love to me while drunk and then went and hid in his shell....You have to be patient and strong and WAIT.
He's just scared and insecure he's worth the wait and I'm no rush into jumping into a relationship
Posted by LemonLimeLiterally he's very busy, he's a biochemist that works at a medical lab.
he's known him for 2 months and hardly sees him (maybe like once a week)....and is wondering why the guy is hot and cold. If someone is into you, they make time to see you no matter how busy they are. It's not a zodiac thing either. If this guy was REALLY into the OP, he would see him more than once a week.
OR, the situation is super casual and OP is just way more into the guy than he is. Thus, OP should be cautious and not read so much into a 2 month casual dating situation.
I think he wants to see me more but he's scared to get attached. He is a crab and a true cancer.
Come on he's already told me he loves me. But like I said we had A miscommunication where he thought I was going to leave him and he got distant but we worked it out and he's working on it better, and he's going to try and communicate.
I fell for him on the first date and yes I'm head over heels for him, he is too. He's just scared to let me in. And I realize that now we just talked about it an hour ago. Like I said he told me he loves me already which I wanna be believe but take with precaution. the few times he's been drunk he texts me and calls me and confesses his love. I just need to learn to have patience cause he is worth the wait, I'm not going anywhere and I'm not in no hurry to rush into a relationship
Thank you all for your advice I realize it takes a while for a cancer to open up, and he's a true Cancer
It's funny he doesn't believe in astrology like I do, but he thinks it's cute that I read up on him and we talked it out again and he even made a reference to himself "Don't let that scare you away!!!" " It's a cancer characteristic hahah"
So what I realize is he's taking his time to open up to me and he's trying. I did mention to him that he needs to communicate better. Cause of his mood swings which he had being stress from work.
But I know to be patient and wait for him, I plan on not going anywhere and I think I can handle his emotional rollercoaster. Because he's worth the wait and I'm not in no rush to be in a relationship until he's ready. And I won't pressure him or push him. I understand a cancer better now thank you all!
It's funny he doesn't believe in astrology like I do, but he thinks it's cute that I read up on him and we talked it out again and he even made a reference to himself "Don't let that scare you away!!!" " It's a cancer characteristic hahah"
So what I realize is he's taking his time to open up to me and he's trying. I did mention to him that he needs to communicate better. Cause of his mood swings which he had being stress from work.
But I know to be patient and wait for him, I plan on not going anywhere and I think I can handle his emotional rollercoaster. Because he's worth the wait and I'm not in no rush to be in a relationship until he's ready. And I won't pressure him or push him. I understand a cancer better now thank you all!
IMHO you have the following things going on here aside from the cancer personality issues... One he has a demanding job, two he's a homosexual man in a religion /environment which isn't friendly to homosexuality... So I would ask has he come out? So. IMHO just these two can make having a relationship quite tough, but as his typical cancer personality traits in yes no wonder it's frustrating.
Eight dates in two months doesn't seem to me as not interested as he does have a demanding job plus he is communicating with you. He seems like he's confused within himself and does want to be with you but I'm thinking Catholic guilt getting to him. I understand this lol as I'm Catholic too. I agree don't rush into the relationship.. Just let it ride out. Time is in your side here. Time tells all. It's only two months take your time to get to know each other more. I wish you the best... Keep us updated
Eight dates in two months doesn't seem to me as not interested as he does have a demanding job plus he is communicating with you. He seems like he's confused within himself and does want to be with you but I'm thinking Catholic guilt getting to him. I understand this lol as I'm Catholic too. I agree don't rush into the relationship.. Just let it ride out. Time is in your side here. Time tells all. It's only two months take your time to get to know each other more. I wish you the best... Keep us updated
@Lilyblossom, Lol! Your bro sounds like me during younger years, and I'm female. Not chased by boys though.
@ScorpA, are you two officially in a relationship? In my opinion I think he's just busy. Work is work, unless emergency comes up, or it's a family affair I can't not answer to. And if his work schedule is really like that before you met him, can you deal with it? If this guy is hurting your feelings, tell him. Take control of your own life, stay happy, you have a choice. What's it gonna be?
@ScorpA, are you two officially in a relationship? In my opinion I think he's just busy. Work is work, unless emergency comes up, or it's a family affair I can't not answer to. And if his work schedule is really like that before you met him, can you deal with it? If this guy is hurting your feelings, tell him. Take control of your own life, stay happy, you have a choice. What's it gonna be?
Posted by CappedoffYeah he tells Me that's all the time that his family say it's a phase etc. I'm also catholic with a religious family but I guess I got lucky because everyone is so accepting of me, even my grandma (yeah there's some who don't but it's like 3 of them) but I am very understanding and he's worth the time and patience. Like I'm not typical guys who needs their guy to be out, I told him to take his time. As for the job I'm fine with him being demanding I'm at the age where I don't need to see him everyday as much as I would love to see him. I I can be mature enough to handle his job is demanding. You're right I don't wanna push him or pressure him, and he can take his time, I am in no rush... I think what scares me is I like him so much and I'm willing to put the effort into the relationship and I just don't wanna waste my time :/ but he is worth it and no one can tell how someone feels but themselves but I'm just making sure his indecisiveness and hot and cold is just a trait cancers do even when they will like you a lot
IMHO you have the following things going on here aside from the cancer personality issues... One he has a demanding job, two he's a homosexual man in a religion /environment which isn't friendly to homosexuality... So I would ask has he come out? So. IMHO just these two can make having a relationship quite tough, but as his typical cancer personality traits in yes no wonder it's frustrating.
Eight dates in two months doesn't seem to me as not interested as he does have a demanding job plus he is communicating with you. He seems like he's confused within himself and does want to be with you but I'm thinking Catholic guilt getting to him. I understand this lol as I'm Catholic too. I agree don't rush into the relationship.. Just let it ride out. Time is in your side here. Time tells all. It's only two months take your time to get to know each other more. I wish you the best... Keep us updated
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Given that he's not really out or least his family just thinks it's a phase ... I'd really be cautious. Even if he loves you deep down, a Cancer man's family is first. Plus again the demanding job. It's good that you can handle not seeing him on daily basis. Obviously none of us are you so don't know the whole situation but if I were you, I'd definitely be cautious with my heart with this. Not saying he's playing you or not serious ... but saying the situation is that feelings may be hurt (if they aren't already) Take step back as I mentioned before, s l o w l y get to know each other. I make the mistake myself with my Cancer guy to fall to hard too fast. I've learned much. If he did hurt, as Oxygenada said let him know ... but with Cancer HOW YOU SAY is crucial. Don't say anything that'll hurt his feelings or sounds like you're judging, criticing etc. Don't say things like ... "Why do you do x x x to me?" or "Don't do this x thing to me" or even "You should or shouldn't do X X X thing to me" but instead word it along the lines of passing more passive and use emotion words like "It's hurts my feelings when you do X X X things to me." How you speak to them seems to make a world of difference. He needs to feel empathetic to you ... not pressured, rushed, controlled or forced. From what I experienced wtith 2 Cancer men, yes they do come back (question is when they do willing you still willing to have relationship LOL?!) But later when he comes around, you could simply without pressure why what his future plans are ... to get kinda of feel if his plans include you or not. You can keep getting to know him, to see if he is worth your time. And don't look at it as "wasting time" look at as an investment -- into a future together oooooooor investment -- to know what you DON'T want in the future. But yes, this hot and cold is definitely a Cancer trait. Again wishing you the best!
Given that he's not really out or least his family just thinks it's a phase ... I'd really be cautious. Even if he loves you deep down, a Cancer man's family is first. Plus again the demanding job. It's good that you can handle not seeing him on daily basis. Obviously none of us are you so don't know the whole situation but if I were you, I'd definitely be cautious with my heart with this. Not saying he's playing you or not serious ... but saying the situation is that feelings may be hurt (if they aren't already) Take step back as I mentioned before, s l o w l y get to know each other. I make the mistake myself with my Cancer guy to fall to hard too fast. I've learned much. If he did hurt, as Oxygenada said let him know ... but with Cancer HOW YOU SAY is crucial. Don't say anything that'll hurt his feelings or sounds like you're judging, criticing etc. Don't say things like ... "Why do you do x x x to me?" or "Don't do this x thing to me" or even "You should or shouldn't do X X X thing to me" but instead word it along the lines of passing more passive and use emotion words like "It's hurts my feelings when you do X X X things to me." How you speak to them seems to make a world of difference. He needs to feel empathetic to you ... not pressured, rushed, controlled or forced. From what I experienced wtith 2 Cancer men, yes they do come back (question is when they do willing you still willing to have relationship LOL?!) But later when he comes around, you could simply without pressure why what his future plans are ... to get kinda of feel if his plans include you or not. You can keep getting to know him, to see if he is worth your time. And don't look at it as "wasting time" look at as an investment -- into a future together oooooooor investment -- to know what you DON'T want in the future. But yes, this hot and cold is definitely a Cancer trait. Again wishing you the best!
Posted by Cappedoff
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Given that he's not really out or least his family just thinks it's a phase ... I'd really be cautious. Even if he loves you deep down, a Cancer man's family is first. Plus again the demanding job. It's good that you can handle not seeing him on daily basis. Obviously none of us are you so don't know the whole situation but if I were you, I'd definitely be cautious with my heart with this. Not saying he's playing you or not serious ... but saying the situation is that feelings may be hurt (if they aren't already) Take step back as I mentioned before, s l o w l y get to know each other. I make the mistake myself with my Cancer guy to fall to hard too fast. I've learned much. If he did hurt, as Oxygenada said let him know ... but with Cancer HOW YOU SAY is crucial. Don't say anything that'll hurt his feelings or sounds like you're judging, criticing etc. Don't say things like ... "Why do you do x x x to me?" or "Don't do this x thing to me" or even "You should or shouldn't do X X X thing to me" but instead word it along the lines of passing more passive and use emotion words like "It's hurts my feelings when you do X X X things to me." How you speak to them seems to make a world of difference. He needs to feel empathetic to you ... not pressured, rushed, controlled or forced. From what I experienced wtith 2 Cancer men, yes they do come back (question is when they do willing you still willing to have relationship LOL?!) But later when he comes around, you could simply without pressure why what his future plans are ... to get kinda of feel if his plans include you or not. You can keep getting to know him, to see if he is worth your time. And don't look at it as "wasting time" look at as an investment -- into a future together oooooooor investment -- to know what you DON'T want in the future. But yes, this hot and cold is definitely a Cancer trait. Again wishing you the best!
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Wth my post didn't work grr^^^^ great advice..hope his love is real. Let us know what happens..
Posted by LillyBlossomOnce a week for a busy professional seems fine to me... Especially if you include communication all during the week . If he was calling once a week ok then I'd be suspicious. Still at the getting to know you stage. If it's real it'll evolve and blossom no need to push or force. Just keep letting him know you care with subtle no pressure gestures and ride through the moods . I know my mistake with my cancer guy was over analysis and trying to get answers from him. Dating and romance is fun... Enjoy it hon!Posted by LemonLimeOnce a week is a lot in my book, so that's very subjective. I'm just sayin'...
he's known him for 2 months and hardly sees him (maybe like once a week)....and is wondering why the guy is hot and cold. If someone is into you, they make time to see you no matter how busy they are. It's not a zodiac thing either. If this guy was REALLY into the OP, he would see him more than once a week.
OR, the situation is super casual and OP is just way more into the guy than he is. Thus, OP should be cautious and not read so much into a 2 month casual dating situation.click to expand
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