I told him the truth but he did not believe me aft

is giving oral pleasure something you forget after many years? I didn't forget.

can a men know if a woman had sex yesterday, or a year of 15 years ago? i have to admit - i give myself pleasure but not always. it has been a couple of months since i used a tool for male organ substitute

we were both very satisfied - but he did not believe me that i had not had sex with a man for over 10 years. he is a cancer male and believes i violated his trust.

i am telling the truth - but he would not believe me. what do i do?

damn, no sex for ten years but still has a healthy sex drive. sounds like a woman ready to explode, i think that will be his loss.

It's rough! But if there isn't any love attached to it, then it is just mechanics! Keep using your toy and keep reassuring him! What is wrong with him??

i am 47 years old - i don't think mine will be the same as 18 years ago.

He told me that i did not feel like someone who has not had sex for over 10 years and i gave him the best ever oral sex he had ever had.

he based all that as my violating his trust. but i am telling him the truth. to me oral sex is like eating your favorite ice cream and popsicle that is about to melt. and everything else follows. i never forgot that.

i don't know if he even wants to see me again.

so basically, he believes that someone who can give oral sex like you did cant possibly have gone ten years without sex? and he thinks your lying to him? just want to make sure i understand the situation.

yes. that is basically it. and that he said it did not feel like nothing has entered me for many years.

how long has it been since he has had sex or is it just you who has to live like a nun.

Maybe she doesn't want to! And it sounds like she is having some, but with a tool and not the real thing. I haven't gone 10 years but getting there fast and I don't even do that!! It's really not that big a deal! Maybe I should take up boxing?!!HAHAHAHAHA.
Have a great day and be safe out there
or in there!
Love!

it was just me who chose to live like a nun. i just did not have time for dating - but now that my son is in college - i have more time in my hands.

he did not specify how long it has been since he had sex but he was more active during the past ten or so years than i was.

He doesn't sound like he'd be worth the time or effort! What a crazy thing to have a debate over? Is he all there mentally? Cuz he sure doesn't sound like it to me!

Okay well this guy obviously is making problems on himself ~_~ i mean geawwwddd, she just told him something and he just makes it into a big issue when they can talk and share something more special than argue over that.LuZ

Yeah I agree--

And also, you should explain to this dim-witted one that whether it's an in-the-flesh-male-member or a store bought imitation, it will have the same impact on a female's body. Duh! What a dork this guy is...sorry but he sounds very naive...

-phoenix

P.S. You've also had a kid, so that's going to have an impact on your body as well. Jeex how young/stupid IS this dude?

-phoenix

Jeez, not Jeex

-phoenix : )

I would have told him, that after that long without sex and being close to him and getting intimate made you very aroused. When aroused you create mositure or and lubrication. Of course you are not going to be tight and dry if you are ready and willing! Tell him to read a book or there is plenty of info. he can read up on if he doesn't believe you.

he is a well-read very educated man. i challenged him to prove that i was lying because i did not have anything to hide. i also asked him what he based his belief in - if that is a solid proof that i lied.

i kept our communication open.

he had a change of mind.

thank you all for your opinion. it encouraged me to challenge him.

Sounds like your relationship will hold many promising challenges if what you posted here is a prime example. He's definitely a member of the "winners circle". I'd definitely never let go of this one. What a lucky catch for you!

Is that sarcasm 12? hehehe

Well, I would pick up my "toys" and tell him i wouldn't be "playing" at his house again and just let his "popsicle" melt the next time!

my son advised me to stay away from him, so i am going to do just that.

the man seem to look for something to accuse me of - he would not even tell me what i did - he'll just clam up and not say a word. he'll say there is nothing to say. are male cancers this way?

i'm going back to the nunnery - i care for him very much and i made a mistake of giving part of myself to him - and all he does is want to accuse me. i believe someone or something happened in his past and i am getting his revenge to whoever or whatever. i deserve better treatment. i am better off in my old hole - at least i don't have to deal with men and their mind games. i finally go out in the world to meet a man - who i learned to care for - and i get accused of doing things i have not done - without basing it on facts - just simple accusations.

do all male cancer cling to their past -just would not let go - and treat the woman who happens to come by like trash just because of what happened in their past? i do not understand. my son teased me that i had a date because i have not had a date for so long - even his friends teased me. it was a big deal for them that i had a date. and then this?

can somebody please clear this up for me? when i ask this man to provide a basis for his accusation - nothing. i asked him to meet my family and friends to find out for himself the truth about me once and for all - he refuses. so what am i suppose to do?

he is a lawyer!

you tell your son all your personal problems?

Tell him to 'go to hell'... I would NEVER let a bloody stupid male get away with something like that. Who the hell gave him the right to question you in the first place?? Does he expect to find a virgin at the age of 47 (or whatever). It was not necessary for you to have explained anything to him in the first place.. He has probably skrewed half the universe himself and has a very quilty concience. Listen Girl, do yourself a favour and tell the scumbag to hit the long and dusty. A gentleman does NOT ask a woman of your age about her prevous sex life.. It's got stuff-all to do with him.. He should love you for who you are from the day HE met you PERIOD!!!

Geeez.. am I angry or what....

Also, on second thought.. He's ego is severly bruised by your sexual ability to please... Perhaps HE is also not too well endowed and is blaming you!! WHAT AN ARSEHOLE!!!! Find someone with a little more self confidence girl... Once a loser always a loser...

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i do not tell my son my personal problems. he asked me about the guy who i was going out with. he was teasing me and telling all his friends that i have a 'boyfriend' - that i have a date. it was a big deal for him and his friends that i was out on a date because i had not gone out for so many years. since he asked, i told him.

i have always been honest with my son and to anybody. he and i have a very close relationship and we communicate. in this day in time - not being able to communicate to your teen-ager is much too common. i am blessed that i am able to talk with my teen age boy.

good for you! i wouldn't involve my kid in my personal affairs! i think that is laying too much on them and they don't need to be in my personal business! mpov