Male Cancer's attitude

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by jl_fiona on Saturday, April 16, 2005 and has 5 replies.

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@jl_fiona
21 Years

Hi guys! Do Cancer people especially male sometimes deliberately try to get you mad? I've been friends with this Cancer male for quite some time now and sometimes I feel like he's trying to get me angry at him. We were suppose to hangout and he tells me to call him but he never picks up the phone or returns my calls to see what's up, this happened twice already and the next time I see him he asks about how it went or what I did the day that we were suppose to hangout. He wasn't like that when we first hungout. He told me before too to stop being too nice & sweet. I don't get this attitude? Can somebody explain if this is a typical male Cancer behavior? Why is he doing this to me? I really need some advice on how I should deal with him and what should I tell him in regards to his actions that irritates me. Please help.

Thanks guys!!!

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@jl_fiona
21 Years

I also want to add that we both admitted being attracted to each other sometime ago. I know that he likes me and he knows that I like him but why is he doing that stuff? I think it's so inconsiderate and when I'm not expecting anything it's either he sends a txt or calls out of the blue. What's up with that?

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@cancergirl
21 Years

Although Cancer guys/girls are a little different, we do have of alot of the same personality traits.
First of all, sometimes I will try and get someone mad at me that i like. Because anger is an emotion, emotions mean they care.
By him saying your too nice and sweet, you need to get a little attitude.
When i meet someone that is too nice, it scares me. I have a commitment problem anyway, but someone too nice would scare me even more. I would feel like i would hurt them, or once i started a relationship with them, i wouldnt be able to get rid of them.
It's funny because Cancer people are supposed to be clingy all the time (well i guess once we've made our mind up on someone, we can be).
But in the beginning there are very high walls. I look for someone that is understanding of my moods. Because i am moody. They cant completely ignore me, but just listen. In a couple days or hours, I will be fine again. I look for someone outgoing. Because i am not. Someone with very high confidence that also makes me feel special. I look for a guy thats not a player.
I would give him a little attitude, be flirty and witty. I really like it when a guy can give me crap and take it as well.
Hope it helps 🙂

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@jl_fiona
21 Years

Thank you for the advice Cancergirl! I appreciate it 🙂 I am a very outgoing person, funny and witty. I'm a Gemini 🙂 I make friends easily and have no trouble starting a conversation with people no matter where I am, but even though I am very friendly I am extremely picky with who to hangout with. I might be outgoing but there are only few people in my life who I consider true friends or special in my life. The Cancer man I'm falling for doesn't believe me when I said to him that I don't have many friends who I can hangout with. All my friends have families now and they do family stuff and I only get to hangout with them every couple of months or so. Are Cancer people especially the guys worried being with someone who's outgoing and approachable? If they are, why?

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@cancerlady
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Yeah, we are supposed to be the most clingy...But from the posts I have read we also seem to be the hardest to get to. We screen people with a FINE tooth comb because our vunerabilities are so obvious. Good Luck with him!

Cancerlady

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@Daemon
21 Years

HMMMMM .... Yes we are clingy and to answer the question why he does that?It's call getting the person attracted to u,if he calls again , or on time , He would seem too predictable. We CANCERS are very unpredictable at times. And yes we have walls we put up cause when we put our heart on our sleeve s and get hurt believe u me WE HURT AND WE REMEMBER. So jus give him some time,we cancers need breathing space too.