I am a Scorpio women and have been with my cancer man for 2 yrs. I love him to death and he loves me to death. I am 27 and he is 24. We talk about marriage all the time and a family. We have "broken up" many times, nothing serious. We always run back to each other. He broke up with me again on Saturday march 21st and told me mean things. Btw which is normal but I was more hurt than usual. Then he said I'm glad I got that off my chest I feel a lot better... You need to drastically change. Hen he asked me do you want to go play disc golf?? I was like $ ! $ &&@@@@ wtf. I was balling my eyes out. I said, I can't even think about playing disc golf I'm so upset. He left the truck and went to play leaving me balling. I was shaking I had to run or something. I went to the creek. He called and called and blew up my phone. I didn't answer I was too upset. The. I heard his truck a hour later lookin all over for me. CAlled and called I again. I was still too upset so I had my mom come and pick me up. He kept calling then a text saying where are you in leaving. He didn't mention anything about the breakup. I didn't repsond. He kept calling until 8:16. Then t stopped. At 8:32 he took our relationship off of fb but made it blank so he had a blank relationship status. Took off out picture. Made his picture of ones I took of him. Oh and of coarse kept me as a friend. 2 days go by an nothing from him. No apology no explanation. His stuff is still at my house. Like a million things. I don't want a breakup. I want to marry him and have a family. So I texted him. I bought him a new keyboard so I sent a pic of that keyboard as a hint... He reads it no response. I have texted me 2 more times and no repsponse. Any cancer men out there who have any advice?! And also about why he would leave all his stuff at my house? Desperate devoted loving Scorpio waiting...
My cancer man broke up & left all stuff at my hous

Oh Gosh Pema...Why are you on this Bipolar rollercoaster with this guy? Love yourself and Save yourself

Did you just write "desperate"lol.
At least you're being honest.
At least you're being honest.

A 24 year old cancer is not in love for marriage, he is in love for sex. Believe it or not, it's the darn truth.
I dated a cancer guy for 4 years.we were thinking about marriage too. do you really love him ?
he will be back, I agree with cluelesscancer.
he will be back, I agree with cluelesscancer.

Cancers act out, disappear and reappear when they either calm down, when they start to miss you and when you go no contact on them.
Just look and act happy like you dont give a fuck that he us gone and see how fast he will be back.
Just look and act happy like you dont give a fuck that he us gone and see how fast he will be back.

*is gone not us

I p*ssed myself laughing reading this because it mirrors what I've been going through with a Scorpio girl.
You two need a separation from each other from what I've experienced Cancer and Scorpio is a very emotional relationship, feelings get hurt things get said, fights happen things turn ugly.
Cancer's get angry we say s*** we don't mean when we get angry I'm able to get emotional jabs in that cut the Scorpio I know to the core it turns into real mud slinging the Scorpio ends up getting hurt the most.
Will he be back? Yes but he needs time, Scorpio and Cancer relationships are a roller coaster, Scorpios like drama, Cancer's are not a big fan of drama I know I'm not.
Cancer and Scorpio a good relationship pairing? I'm still unsure, to emotional and sensitive people together as I read some where else water + water = deluge its true.
You two need a separation from each other from what I've experienced Cancer and Scorpio is a very emotional relationship, feelings get hurt things get said, fights happen things turn ugly.
Cancer's get angry we say s*** we don't mean when we get angry I'm able to get emotional jabs in that cut the Scorpio I know to the core it turns into real mud slinging the Scorpio ends up getting hurt the most.
Will he be back? Yes but he needs time, Scorpio and Cancer relationships are a roller coaster, Scorpios like drama, Cancer's are not a big fan of drama I know I'm not.
Cancer and Scorpio a good relationship pairing? I'm still unsure, to emotional and sensitive people together as I read some where else water + water = deluge its true.

You're being punished.
smh
smh
So cancer men say things they don't mean when they are pissed? What about do things they don't mean?
Posted by Stihl46
I p*ssed myself laughing reading this because it mirrors what I've been going through with a Scorpio girl.
You two need a separation from each other from what I've experienced Cancer and Scorpio is a very emotional relationship, feelings get hurt things get said, fights happen things turn ugly.
Cancer's get angry we say s*** we don't mean when we get angry I'm able to get emotional jabs in that cut the Scorpio I know to the core it turns into real mud slinging the Scorpio ends up getting hurt the most.
Will he be back? Yes but he needs time, Scorpio and Cancer relationships are a roller coaster, Scorpios like drama, Cancer's are not a big fan of drama I know I'm not.
Cancer and Scorpio a good relationship pairing? I'm still unsure, to emotional and sensitive people together as I read some where else water + water = deluge its true.
So stihl46, cancer men say things they don't mean when they are pissed? What about do things they don't mean?
Lol I feel like I can finally see things. If what you say is real like that then I say you have nothing to be afraid of. He loves u back and feels the same way but both of you are doing the pull and push game. You can't complain bout him if he asked you to join him and you went missing on him and even went so far to catch a ride and ignore is calls when he was out there looking for you. He probably was afraid you got rapped or something. If a woman did that to be id drop her. Looks like he is confused about how to go at it with you and if he should---not if he is in love or not because he probably is. Looks like he's trying to let the relationship happen naturally and you both have different love languages. Either go all in or end it. You two are playing to much
Posted by Montgomery
You're being punished.
smh
Montgomery, that thought crossed my mind I do admit.
Posted by beggarsblanket
I dated a cancer guy for 4 years.we were thinking about marriage too. do you really love him ?
he will be back, I agree with cluelesscancer.
beggarsblanket, I love him with my whole being.
Posted by CluelessCancer
hahahahhahahahahhahahh don't text or call him, he'll be back.
Cluelesscancer, you seem so certain. what is knowledge of my crabs?
Posted by crabRiot
Did you just write "desperate"lol.
At least you're being honest.
crabriot, yes you are right I am very honest. What do you think about leaving all his belongings at my house and him having the house key? Maybe reasons to be back or to not leave?
Posted by StarChild63
Lol I feel like I can finally see things. If what you say is real like that then I say you have nothing to be afraid of. He loves u back and feels the same way but both of you are doing the pull and push game. You can't complain bout him if he asked you to join him and you went missing on him and even went so far to catch a ride and ignore is calls when he was out there looking for you. He probably was afraid you got rapped or something. If a woman did that to be id drop her. Looks like he is confused about how to go at it with you and if he should---not if he is in love or not because he probably is. Looks like he's trying to let the relationship happen naturally and you both have different love languages. Either go all in or end it. You two are playing to much
StarChild63, your right he probably was afraid I got raped. I was just so upset I needed space. He would said many cruel and untrue things.And your right about the game. He plays and I don't. I don't like the game. Wound you suggest if he is serious this time or not since all his stuff is still at my house?

Posted by tiki33
Oh Gosh Pema...Why are you on this Bipolar rollercoaster with this guy? Love yourself and Save yourself
+100% . And the fact you keep breaking up tells you this relationship isn't solid or good for you. You will only know peace when you're out of this mess. Been there. Done that. Never worked out riding THAT roller coaster.
Posted by PemaPosted by StarChild63
Lol I feel like I can finally see things. If what you say is real like that then I say you have nothing to be afraid of. He loves u back and feels the same way but both of you are doing the pull and push game. You can't complain bout him if he asked you to join him and you went missing on him and even went so far to catch a ride and ignore is calls when he was out there looking for you. He probably was afraid you got rapped or something. If a woman did that to be id drop her. Looks like he is confused about how to go at it with you and if he should---not if he is in love or not because he probably is. Looks like he's trying to let the relationship happen naturally and you both have different love languages. Either go all in or end it. You two are playing to much
StarChild63, your right he probably was afraid I got raped. I was just so upset I needed space. He would said many cruel and untrue things.And your right about the game. He plays and I don't. I don't like the game. Wound you suggest if he is serious this time or not since all his stuff is still at my house?click to expand
If you walk away from someone when they're looking for you and then catch a ride and leave then think that you can still talk to him then your definately on game time. You won't know he's serious for sure unless you ask him straight up. But if you got a key to his house and his stuff is with you id say he's serious. Youvtwo need to communicate
i've witnessed 2 cancer-scorpio relationships[one is a marriage]...drama, drama, drama and some more DRAMA.

Posted by mz
i've witnessed 2 cancer-scorpio relationships[one is a marriage]...drama, drama, drama and some more DRAMA.
Either this is how they like it or both are unevolved.

Not sure if all Cancers guys are the same but when I get angry I do say hurtful things I shouldn't then I regret saying it.
As I have said before Cancer and Scorpios are two emotional beings fights are emotional they end up being who can hurt each other emotionally. I've never had such emotional fights with any other girl until I met the Scorpio. We fight we go away we come back things go okay for a little while she gets un-happy in her life she picks a fight with me because she is close to me.
Her and I have had our biggest fight yet if she tries to come back I haven't decided but I may end up walking away, I will deal with the aftermath if any happens.
As I have said before Cancer and Scorpios are two emotional beings fights are emotional they end up being who can hurt each other emotionally. I've never had such emotional fights with any other girl until I met the Scorpio. We fight we go away we come back things go okay for a little while she gets un-happy in her life she picks a fight with me because she is close to me.
Her and I have had our biggest fight yet if she tries to come back I haven't decided but I may end up walking away, I will deal with the aftermath if any happens.
Posted by Stihl46
Not sure if all Cancers guys are the same but when I get angry I do say hurtful things I shouldn't then I regret saying it.
As I have said before Cancer and Scorpios are two emotional beings fights are emotional they end up being who can hurt each other emotionally. I've never had such emotional fights with any other girl until I met the Scorpio. We fight we go away we come back things go okay for a little while she gets un-happy in her life she picks a fight with me because she is close to me.
Her and I have had our biggest fight yet if she tries to come back I haven't decided but I may end up walking away, I will deal with the aftermath if any happens.
Stihl46,
He has said in the past every time we have fought he says terrible things he doesn't mean. Sometimes it is really hard for be to believe that bc I would never say mean things like that. I just recoil and become silent. I am not a typical Scorpio women. I am a golden eagle. I don't usually start fights but if he thinks I do I always sympathesize and try to see it in his perspective. And I suppose that's what I am trying to do now even though I feel he was mean for no reason as he had been picking on me for a few days now BC he hates when I'm quiet. Sometimes I am just quiet. I get over it. As far as when you and your gf fight and go away is it you who leaves or her or both? And who is the one to usually come back first?
Posted by aquavita8
U didn't reply when he blew your phone looking for. U only went after him when " facebook" blah blah. He was honest with u. u are playing a game that u didn't finish he is finishing it. If u wanted to marry him yet u felt so hurt that u didn't respond to him u should jot have either paid attention to facebook events etx. so he is figuring our that by rejecting u he makes u respond. This an onset for an unhealthy relationship if continued at all. As far as his stuff he most likely does not care right now about his " stuff". So it means nothing it is still in your house.
Aquavita8,
I am curious what is your sun sign?
Posted by StarChild63Posted by PemaPosted by StarChild63
Lol I feel like I can finally see things. If what you say is real like that then I say you have nothing to be afraid of. He loves u back and feels the same way but both of you are doing the pull and push game. You can't complain bout him if he asked you to join him and you went missing on him and even went so far to catch a ride and ignore is calls when he was out there looking for you. He probably was afraid you got rapped or something. If a woman did that to be id drop her. Looks like he is confused about how to go at it with you and if he should---not if he is in love or not because he probably is. Looks like he's trying to let the relationship happen naturally and you both have different love languages. Either go all in or end it. You two are playing to much
StarChild63, your right he probably was afraid I got raped. I was just so upset I needed space. He would said many cruel and untrue things.And your right about the game. He plays and I don't. I don't like the game. Wound you suggest if he is serious this time or not since all his stuff is still at my house?
If you walk away from someone when they're looking for you and then catch a ride and leave then think that you can still talk to him then your definately on game time. You won't know he's serious for sure unless you ask him straight up. But if you got a key to his house and his stuff is with you id say he's serious. Youvtwo need to communicateclick to expand
Starchild63, you would say he is serious about what?

Why did you two fight and what made him upset?
I don't think the pattern of how you both handle the ups and downs is very mature or healthy. Communication is key! If one has hurt feelings they need to express it without it leading to war, and both sides need to be able to talk in a way that allows the problem to be unraveled so that any misunderstanding or hurt is taken care of to the satisfaction of both. If you both patch this up for the time being, and you're still serious about marriage, I HIGHLY suggest both going to a relationship counselor and figuring out where and how the breakdown in communication is happening. This isn't about who's right or wrong, it's about understanding yourself and the other enough to work through problems, and it seems that's an issue for you both.
I don't think the pattern of how you both handle the ups and downs is very mature or healthy. Communication is key! If one has hurt feelings they need to express it without it leading to war, and both sides need to be able to talk in a way that allows the problem to be unraveled so that any misunderstanding or hurt is taken care of to the satisfaction of both. If you both patch this up for the time being, and you're still serious about marriage, I HIGHLY suggest both going to a relationship counselor and figuring out where and how the breakdown in communication is happening. This isn't about who's right or wrong, it's about understanding yourself and the other enough to work through problems, and it seems that's an issue for you both.

Posted by Stihl46
Not sure if all Cancers guys are the same but when I get angry I do say hurtful things I shouldn't then I regret saying it.
As I have said before Cancer and Scorpios are two emotional beings fights are emotional they end up being who can hurt each other emotionally. I've never had such emotional fights with any other girl until I met the Scorpio. We fight we go away we come back things go okay for a little while she gets un-happy in her life she picks a fight with me because she is close to me.
Her and I have had our biggest fight yet if she tries to come back I haven't decided but I may end up walking away, I will deal with the aftermath if any happens.
why do you guys say hurtful things that you dont mean?

Posted by DMVPosted by Stihl46
Not sure if all Cancers guys are the same but when I get angry I do say hurtful things I shouldn't then I regret saying it.
As I have said before Cancer and Scorpios are two emotional beings fights are emotional they end up being who can hurt each other emotionally. I've never had such emotional fights with any other girl until I met the Scorpio. We fight we go away we come back things go okay for a little while she gets un-happy in her life she picks a fight with me because she is close to me.
Her and I have had our biggest fight yet if she tries to come back I haven't decided but I may end up walking away, I will deal with the aftermath if any happens.
why do you guys say hurtful things that you dont mean?click to expand
I don't know it just happens I've been told by my female friends that hurts and they are shocked I said it. I don't have an answer why we say hurtful things it just happens sometimes we don't think before we speak especially when anger takes over.

Posted by PemaPosted by Stihl46
Not sure if all Cancers guys are the same but when I get angry I do say hurtful things I shouldn't then I regret saying it.
As I have said before Cancer and Scorpios are two emotional beings fights are emotional they end up being who can hurt each other emotionally. I've never had such emotional fights with any other girl until I met the Scorpio. We fight we go away we come back things go okay for a little while she gets un-happy in her life she picks a fight with me because she is close to me.
Her and I have had our biggest fight yet if she tries to come back I haven't decided but I may end up walking away, I will deal with the aftermath if any happens.
Stihl46,
He has said in the past every time we have fought he says terrible things he doesn't mean. Sometimes it is really hard for be to believe that bc I would never say mean things like that. I just recoil and become silent. I am not a typical Scorpio women. I am a golden eagle. I don't usually start fights but if he thinks I do I always sympathesize and try to see it in his perspective. And I suppose that's what I am trying to do now even though I feel he was mean for no reason as he had been picking on me for a few days now BC he hates when I'm quiet. Sometimes I am just quiet. I get over it. As far as when you and your gf fight and go away is it you who leaves or her or both? And who is the one to usually come back first?click to expand
She isn't my girlfriend I think she wanted us to be a couple long story short she started dating this other guy but she's not happy in the relationship. Her and I stayed friends our fights are like we are a couple. Usually when we come back to each other it is equal, she is usually the one that leaves first when we fight. She is un happy in her life she takes it out on me, she can't let go of this other guy even thou its an unhealthy relationship. She's scared of her feelings for me I guess she is scared she may get hurt not sure.
Posted by PemaPosted by StarChild63Posted by PemaPosted by StarChild63
Lol I feel like I can finally see things. If what you say is real like that then I say you have nothing to be afraid of. He loves u back and feels the same way but both of you are doing the pull and push game. You can't complain bout him if he asked you to join him and you went missing on him and even went so far to catch a ride and ignore is calls when he was out there looking for you. He probably was afraid you got rapped or something. If a woman did that to be id drop her. Looks like he is confused about how to go at it with you and if he should---not if he is in love or not because he probably is. Looks like he's trying to let the relationship happen naturally and you both have different love languages. Either go all in or end it. You two are playing to much
StarChild63, your right he probably was afraid I got raped. I was just so upset I needed space. He would said many cruel and untrue things.And your right about the game. He plays and I don't. I don't like the game. Wound you suggest if he is serious this time or not since all his stuff is still at my house?
If you walk away from someone when they're looking for you and then catch a ride and leave then think that you can still talk to him then your definately on game time. You won't know he's serious for sure unless you ask him straight up. But if you got a key to his house and his stuff is with you id say he's serious. Youvtwo need to communicate
Starchild63, you would say he is serious about what?click to expand
You. A relationship with you. He's going about it the wrong way. You are too
Posted by StarChild63Posted by PemaPosted by StarChild63Posted by PemaPosted by StarChild63
Lol I feel like I can finally see things. If what you say is real like that then I say you have nothing to be afraid of. He loves u back and feels the same way but both of you are doing the pull and push game. You can't complain bout him if he asked you to join him and you went missing on him and even went so far to catch a ride and ignore is calls when he was out there looking for you. He probably was afraid you got rapped or something. If a woman did that to be id drop her. Looks like he is confused about how to go at it with you and if he should---not if he is in love or not because he probably is. Looks like he's trying to let the relationship happen naturally and you both have different love languages. Either go all in or end it. You two are playing to much
StarChild63, your right he probably was afraid I got raped. I was just so upset I needed space. He would said many cruel and untrue things.And your right about the game. He plays and I don't. I don't like the game. Wound you suggest if he is serious this time or not since all his stuff is still at my house?
If you walk away from someone when they're looking for you and then catch a ride and leave then think that you can still talk to him then your definately on game time. You won't know he's serious for sure unless you ask him straight up. But if you got a key to his house and his stuff is with you id say he's serious. Youvtwo need to communicate
Starchild63, you would say he is serious about what?
You. A relationship with you. He's going about it the wrong way. You are tooclick to expand
StarChild63, how do I let him know I am commited?

make up sex


Not responding to his calls was a serious treetrunk up.
I've left material objects behind regardless of the cost because I wanted nothing that reminded me of them. Like the stuff was tainted!
I've left material objects behind regardless of the cost because I wanted nothing that reminded me of them. Like the stuff was tainted!
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