sorry not so sorry

Fuck the cancer men! I don't understand them. Persuing you then you don't give them sex and all of a sudden they aren't interested. Ugh !!! Just needed to vent

I know you're upset, but categorizing all Cancer men as pure scum is both unfair and untrue. You'd probably be better off avoiding them, considering you're a Gem, but there are plenty of signs compatible with us. In the future, I would advise you not to only take the advice you want to hear and ignore what you don't, especially when the advice you're taking is from people who only know part of your story. You came to me for a reason, and I gave you an honest answer. Now you know.
Give yourself time to heal, young Gem, and take this for what it is: a good opportunity to learn and grow. You'll be okay.

Posted by M00Nchild
I know you're upset, but categorizing all Cancer men as pure scum is both unfair and untrue. You'd probably be better off avoiding them, considering you're a Gem, but there are plenty of signs compatible with us. In the future, I would advise you not to only take the advice you want to hear and ignore what you don't, especially when the advice you're taking is from people who only know part of your story. You came to me for a reason, and I gave you an honest answer. Now you know.
Give yourself time to heal, young Gem, and take this for what it is: a good opportunity to learn and grow. You'll be okay.

I'm not pissed at you.
I'm dissapointed that this happened to me again!!!
I don't know if I will heal. What lesson can I learn from this? I didn't have sex with him. I'm crushed he doesn't like me as more than sex.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
You're confused about how this works! You need to read relationship books. Give you clarity

I am a virgin and never had a b/f. So yeah maybe I don't know some things but I'm crushed that they don't like me for me and the way they smooth talk you and in the end I didn't give him sex and now he's acting all cool like nothing happend ever. We were intimate. Ugh fuck

Cancer male here.

If it makes you feel better, I've had a lot of grief from gemini women, not a single one has treated me well. The men neither for that matter.

I never said you were. I just can't have people saying all Cancer men suck because of the player type.

All wounds heal. It just takes time. This is coming from someone who has been hurt by every single man she has ever cared about. I'm going through it now, in fact.

You've learned how a man treats a woman when he's only interested in play. You've learned the difference in dating and a casual fling. Hopefully you've also learned to take good advice, especially when it's from me. 😉

Give it time. You'll get through this.

Posted by rabidtalker
Cancer male here.

If it makes you feel better, I've had a lot of grief from gemini women, not a single one has treated me well. The men neither for that matter.

No it doesnt make me feel better. I love very much and I'm not thst kind of gemini dude

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You're confused about how this works! You need to read relationship books. Give you clarity

I am a virgin and never had a b/f. So yeah maybe I don't know some things but I'm crushed that they don't like me for me and the way they smooth talk you and in the end I didn't give him sex and now he's acting all cool like nothing happend ever. We were intimate. Ugh treetrunk

Get a grip! Control your sheet! It seems you have little experience with men.

But he won't be the last to do that. Build stronger boundaries

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Girl u don't know what I've been through so hell no I won't.

Posted by M00Nchild
I never said you were. I just can't have people saying all Cancer men suck because of the player type.

All wounds heal. It just takes time. This is coming from someone who has been hurt by every single man she has ever cared about. I'm going through it now, in fact.

You've learned how a man treats a woman when he's only interested in play. You've learned the difference in dating and a casual fling. Hopefully you've also learned to take good advice, especially when it's from me. 😉

Give it time. You'll get through this.

Hun the difference between you and me is I never had a b/f you had. In never wanted him BTW he came on strong and I fell for him that's why it hurts more. And especially when there was instant attraction. Our synastry chart is off the charts! We have Saturn trine sun placements and yet nothing. Suxs ass really. Makes me think something is wrong with me. Like a in don't deserve a great guy. Maybe hes not a player but lost interest in me? Then that hurts way more.

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Posted by SensitiveBlues
You're confused about how this works! You need to read relationship books. Give you clarity

I am a virgin and never had a b/f. So yeah maybe I don't know some things but I'm crushed that they don't like me for me and the way they smooth talk you and in the end I didn't give him sex and now he's acting all cool like nothing happend ever. We were intimate. Ugh fuck

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Astrology aside...

You're a virgin, and these days that's really rare. I know you're probably focused on the negative side of the situation now, but if he left cause you didnt give him sex - then you may have dodged a bullet!

I dont know how you value yourself in that way, but I would think you'd want to experience that and lose your V card with someone you care about and that definitely cared about you - even if it's not the "end all be all" relationship. If nothing else, that fond type of memory would still be there. You dont want a "pump and dump" memory of losing your virginity do you?

Just breathe easy and realize you're worth and deserve more! 🙂

(my 2 cents)

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Posted by M00Nchild
I never said you were. I just can't have people saying all Cancer men suck because of the player type.

All wounds heal. It just takes time. This is coming from someone who has been hurt by every single man she has ever cared about. I'm going through it now, in fact.

You've learned how a man treats a woman when he's only interested in play. You've learned the difference in dating and a casual fling. Hopefully you've also learned to take good advice, especially when it's from me. 😉

Give it time. You'll get through this.

Hun the difference between you and me is I never had a b/f you had. In never wanted him BTW he came on strong and I fell for him that's why it hurts more. And especially when there was instant attraction. Our synastry chart is off the charts! We have Saturn trine sun placements and yet nothing. Suxs ass really. Makes me think something is wrong with me. Like a in don't deserve a great guy. Maybe hes not a player but lost interest in me? Then that hurts way more.

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Why don't you reframe the way you are looking at this: you met a guy and had an amazing attraction. So you know it can happen. Now chalk it up to his loss. You're really angry at him and that's fine. Now block his butt and move on. Be done with him instead of being upset that you think he's done with you.

Being intimate meant far more to you than it did to him because he's in his thirties, and not a virgin. There is a big difference between the two of you. That doesn't mean there won't be a big difference between you and the man you end up with. It hurts to think he just saw this as a casual hookup and wanted nothing more, but some day down the line you'll hook up with a guy and not be that interested in him, and he'll wonder why it didn't work out.

Posted by YellowSubmarine
Did the guy literally say to you, “I’m not interested anymore because you won’t have sex with me right now”?

Or did you tell him you’re a virgin and then he slowly faded away?

Well no. He never said anything. Only told me he might visit me yet he never did. Just he doesn't text me as much and only is active on my social media from time to time so I feel like that attraction that was there isn't anymore. He's 36 too.

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Posted by SensitiveBlues
You're confused about how this works! You need to read relationship books. Give you clarity

I am a virgin and never had a b/f. So yeah maybe I don't know some things but I'm crushed that they don't like me for me and the way they smooth talk you and in the end I didn't give him sex and now he's acting all cool like nothing happend ever. We were intimate. Ugh fuck

are you joking you're definitely a Virgin honey cancer man are th
e most easy men to get they only need safety and security just be sweet and act like the perfect housewife and be strong and you have them for me never again they are softies be happy you don't have one moon in Cancer is better then sun my Sagittarius has his moon in Cancer and he is rude but at the same time soft perfect combo maybe a cancer with moon in Aquarius better for you or Taurus ascendant

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Why would I joke I'm a virgin? Hmm that maybe true but why did he loose interest in me? And plus he was different with me before we were intimate and I said no to sex. He doesn't text me as much, didn't wish me mery Christmas either. He's only active on my social media from time to time. So you're suppose to be patient with them? But how long can I wait? Crushed

Did u notice by the threads on the site....cancer men are weird....They dissappear alot....It doesn't mean much for them not to realise they didn't talk to u for a few weeks.

Just leave him....move along merrily....and if he cared at all....He will be back.


Also when I was younger I told the guy before hand.... I'm not sleeping with u. So don't waste ur time. If he wants u as a person.... He will still be sniffing around u after u tell him...I'm not gonna have sex with u

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Did u notice by the threads on the site....cancer men are weird....They dissappear alot....It doesn't mean much for them not to realise they didn't talk to u for a few weeks.

Just leave him....move along merrily....and if he cared at all....He will be back.


Also when I was younger I told the guy before hand.... I'm not sleeping with u. So don't waste ur time. If he wants u as a person.... He will still be sniffing around u after u tell him...I'm not gonna have sex with u

I did leave him..I don't text him. I only wrote happy new year on Facebook to him and he replied. Hence why a cancer man are just fucking odd.

They just are odd.... sweet and lovely but so odd and weird and strange. And the moment u let go and move on... They come to find u. Like their radar says she's loosing interest let's remind her

Relax there, lil one. Nothing is loss when nothing was gained in the first place. You're lucky that you didn't get used. If a guy disappears on you because you didn't give him sex, what does that tell you about him and or what he had for you?

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They just are odd.... sweet and lovely but so odd and weird and strange. And the moment u let go and move on... They come to find u. Like their radar says she's loosing interest let's remind her

Most likely what will happen here.

So you're throwing a tantrum like a lil child because he didn't reciprocate your feelings? Obviously you can't handle rejection well. It's not personal but you're making it personal. Let's get something straight. This has nothing to do with your virginity because a man who likes you for you will stick around. This has everything to do with him changing his mind for whatever reason. There can be many possibilities why he had a change of heart. I'll give you some scenarios:

a) it was drought season for him and he wanted an easy lay.

b) just came out of a relationship and you were the next woman in line. Then, ex came back.

c) he already has someone and was only entertaining you because their SO wasn't around.

So many possibilities but you shouldn't be hung up over him as if he's the only guy in the world and don't make this about you being a virgin.

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Posted by SensitiveBlues
You're confused about how this works! You need to read relationship books. Give you clarity

I am a virgin and never had a b/f. So yeah maybe I don't know some things but I'm crushed that they don't like me for me and the way they smooth talk you and in the end I didn't give him sex and now he's acting all cool like nothing happend ever. We were intimate. Ugh fuck

are you joking you're definitely a Virgin honey cancer man are th
e most easy men to get they only need safety and security just be sweet and act like the perfect housewife and be strong and you have them for me never again they are softies be happy you don't have one moon in Cancer is better then sun my Sagittarius has his moon in Cancer and he is rude but at the same time soft perfect combo maybe a cancer with moon in Aquarius better for you or Taurus ascendant

Why would I joke I'm a virgin? Hmm that maybe true
but why did he loose interest in me? And plus he was different with me before we were intimate and I said no to sex. He doesn't text me as much, didn't wish me mery Christmas either. He's only active on my social media from time to time. So you're suppose to be patient with them? But how long can I wait? Crushed

normally cancer men are the one who accept you for who you are they are just afraid to get hurt and they're not
the type to go for sex they want to have feelings before they have sex sometimes they don't but that's unusual they are insecure deep inside they are emotional inside and don't want you to see that most of the time they are in there shell when you make them feel comfortable they will get out of that shell sometimes they will even test you

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He's the one who inniated the intimacy. So he was testing me? But if I passed the test he is acting really too cool right now I think.
In don't want to use him or hurt him.

Posted by aquarius09
So you're throwing a tantrum like a lil child because he didn't reciprocate your feelings? Obviously you can't handle rejection well. It's not personal but you're making it personal. Let's get something straight. This has nothing to do with your virginity because a man who likes you for you will stick around. This has everything to do with him changing his mind for whatever reason. There can be many possibilities why he had a change of heart. I'll give you some scenarios:

a) it was drought season for him and he wanted an easy lay.

b) just came out of a relationship and you wer
e
the next woman in line. Then, ex came back.

c) he already has someone and was only entertaining you because their SO wasn't around.

So many possibilities but you shouldn't be hung up over him as if he's the only guy in the world and don't make this about you being a virgin.

Ho ho ho....excuse me you're saying In was an easy lay? I didn't give him sex. Not even oral sex. Sp maybe he thought that but nothing happened except kissing and foreplay. No his ex is dating someone else and she doesn't want him I know this because his friend told me.
I'm sad because ai thought he wanted something more with me. He persued me hard and now he's playing it cool. Its not just about him bit about every man I meet. So don't say I'm a child! I'm very sensitive. If I was a child i would be venting to him but I'm NOT crazy and this is a forum to talk. Sooooooooo there

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Posted by aquarius09
So you're throwing a tantrum like a lil child because he didn't reciprocate your feelings? Obviously you can't handle rejection well. It's not personal but you're making it personal. Let's get something straight. This has nothing to do with your virginity because a man who likes you for you will stick around. This has everything to do with him changing his mind for whatever reason. There can be many possibilities why he had a change of heart. I'll give you some scenarios:

a) it was drought season for him and he wanted an easy lay.

b) just came out of a relationship and you wer
e
the next woman in line. Then, ex came back.

c) he already has someone and was only entertaining you because their SO wasn't around.

So many possibilities but you shouldn't be hung up over him as if he's the only guy in the world and don't make this about you being a virgin.

Ho ho ho....excuse me you're saying In was an easy lay? I didn't give him sex. Not even oral sex. Sp maybe he thought that but nothing happened except kissing and foreplay. No his ex is dating someone else and she doesn't want him I know this because his friend told me.
I'm sad because ai thought he wanted something more with me. He persued me hard and now he's playing it cool. Its not just about him bit about every man I meet. So don't say I'm a child! I'm very sensitive. If I was a child i would be venting to him but I'm NOT crazy and this is a forum to talk. Sooooooooo there

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That's not what I meant when I said easy lay. That meant that he wanted an easy lay and when he found out he wasn't going to get it easy, he left.

And now that you mention that you're very sensitive, perhaps that's the problem. I have very sensitive friends who have bad luck with men/love and I find that the issue is their sensitivity. They get offended easily and end up scaring the guy with their dramatics/flying off the handle when they take something the wrong way.

I really hope that this is just your online persona because if you're anything like what you've showcased on the cancer board, then I can see why you scare men away. Men don't like drama or dramatic and oversensitive women.

Posted by aquarius09
And now that you mention that you're very sensitive, perhaps that's the problem. I have very sensitive friends who have bad luck with men/love and I find that the issue is their sensitivity. They get offended easily and end up scaring the guy with their dramatics/flying off the handle when they take something the wrong way.

I really hope that this is just your online persona because if you're anything like what you've showcased on the cancer board, then I can see why you scare men away. Men don't like drama or dramatic and oversensitive women.

I just told you I'm venting on here.I don't drama them in person if I did he wouldn't want to see me the second time. Why would I go crazy ass on him when we are not together together? I'm just bummed that men want ONLY sex from me. I never had a boyfriend that's why I'm a virgin. I don't sleep around I don't want casual.

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Posted by M00Nchild
I know you're upset, but categorizing all Cancer men as pure scum is both unfair and untrue. You'd probably be better off avoiding them, considering you're a Gem, but there are plenty of signs compatible with us. In the future, I would advise you not to only take the advice you want to hear and ignore what you don't, especially when the advice you're taking is from people who only know part of your story. You came to me for a reason, and I gave you an honest answer. Now you know.
Give yourself time to heal, young Gem, and take this for what it is: a good opportunity to learn and grow. You'll be okay.

I'm not pissed at you.
I'm dissapointed that this happened to me again!!!
I don't know if I will heal. What lesson can I learn from this? I didn't have sex with him. I'm crushed he doesn't like me as more than sex.

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Perhaps the lesson is he doesn't want to be with you outside of sex, or he doesn't feel he should work on whatever relationship you have outside of just having sex. Atleast now you should know, and what are you going to do about it, grow from this experience right.

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Posted by M00Nchild
I know you're upset, but categorizing all Cancer men as pure scum is both unfair and untrue. You'd probably be better off avoiding them, considering you're a Gem, but there are plenty of signs compatible with us. In the future, I would advise you not to only take the advice you want to hear and ignore what you don't, especially when the advice you're taking is from people
who only know part of your story. You came to me for a
reason, and I gave you an honest answer. Now you know.
Give yourself time to heal, young Gem, and take this for what it is: a good opportunity to learn and grow. You'll be okay.

I'm not pissed at you.
I'm dissapointed that this happened to me again!!!
I don't know if I will heal. What lesson can I learn from this? I didn't have sex with him. I'm crushed he doesn't like me as more than sex.

Perhaps the lesson is he doesn't want to be with you outside of sex, or he doesn't feel he should work on whatever relationship you have outside of just having sex. Atleast now you should know, and what are you going to do about it, grow from this experience right.

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What? That's not a lesson. Its like I'm the guilty here. If he doesn't want anything besides sex I don't see that as a lesson, but just that he doesn't want a relationship with me. I lesson. For me would if ai actually would of gave the cookie and he would curb my ass.

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Posted by M00Nchild
I know you're upset, but categorizing all Cancer men as pure scum is both unfair and untrue. You'd probably be better off avoiding them, considering you're a Gem, but there are plenty of signs compatible with us. In the future, I would advise you not to only take the advice you want to hear and ignore what you don't, especially when the advice you're taking is from people
who only know part of your story. You came to me for a
reason, and I gave you an honest answer. Now you know.
Give yourself time to heal, young Gem, and take this for what it is: a good opportunity to learn and grow. You'll be okay.

I'm not pissed at you.
I'm dissapointed that this happened to me again!!!
I don't know if I will heal. What lesson can I learn from this? I didn't have sex with him. I'm crushed he doesn't like me as more than sex.

Perhaps the lesson is he doesn't want to be with you outside of sex, or he doesn't feel he should work on whatever relationship you have outside of just having sex. Atleast now you should know, and what are you going to do about it, grow from this experience right.

What? That's not a lesson. Its like I'm the guilty here. If he doesn't want anything besides sex I don't see that as a lesson, but just that he doesn't want a relationship with me. I lesson. For me would if ai actually would of gave the cookie and he would curb my ass.

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I don't know your whole relationship with this guy, but from what I read, the lesson is you know.what all this guy wants from you....unless he proves otherwise and communication is established. If it were me, I realize where I stand in this relationship and where his head is at with me and not contact him.

Posted by britneybabe26
Its not just about him bit about every man I meet.

If that's the case, I think it might be the vibe you are giving to these men.
Of course it's mostly about sex that men are after for, but they are also after the connection. The ideal woman for them is to have both.
Try to build a friendship before jumping to a relationship. Relax and take it slow.

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Posted by aquarius09
And now that you mention that you're very sensitive, perhaps that's the problem. I have very sensitive friends who have bad luck with men/love and I find that the issue is their sensitivity. They get offended easily and end up scaring the guy with their dramatics/flying off the handle when they take something the wrong way.

I really hope that this is just your online persona because if you're anything like what you've showcased on the cancer board, then I can see why you scare men away. Men don't like drama or dramatic and oversensitive women.

I just told you I'm venting on here.I don't drama them in person if I did he wouldn't want to see me the second time. Why would I go crazy ass on him when we are not together together? I'm just bummed that men want ONLY sex from me. I never had a boyfriend that's why I'm a virgin. I don't sleep around I don't want casual.

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Welcome to modern dating. It's pretty shit and you're up against women offering it up easily so you're bound to feel upset. I'm a virgin as well and let me tell you that this doesn't have to do with vieginity. This has to do with the type of guys you're coming across. I come across assholes who are solely about sex and guys that want something meaningful. You just have to come across the right ones and those are very few in number.

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Posted by britneybabe26
Its not just about him bit about every man I meet.

If that's the case, I think it might be the vibe you are giving to these men.
Of course it's mostly about sex that men are after for, but they are also after the connection. The ideal woman for them is to have both.
Try to build a friendship before jumping to a relationship. Relax and take it slow.

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This!!! I think you're not hooking them on your personality.

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Posted by britneybabe26
Its not just about him bit about every man I meet.

If that's the case, I think it might be the vibe you are giving to these men.
Of course it's mostly about sex that men are after for, but they are also after the connection. The ideal woman for them is to have both.
Try to build a friendship before jumping to a relationship. Relax and take it slow.

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You know you're right... That's my problem. I am missing the friend part. Thanks

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And now that you mention that you're very sensitive, perhaps that's the problem. I have very sensitive friends who have bad luck with men/love and I find that the issue is their sensitivity. They get offended easily and end up scaring the guy with their dramatics/flying off the handle when they take something the wrong way.

I really hope that this is just your online persona because if you're anything like what you've showcased on the cancer board, then I can see why you scare men away. Men don't
like drama or dramatic and oversensitive women.

I just told you I'm venting on here.I don't drama them in person if I did he wouldn't want to see me the second time. Why would I go crazy ass on him when we are not together together? I'm just bummed that men want ONLY sex from me. I never had a boyfriend that's why I'm a virgin. I don't sleep around I don't want casual.

Welcome to modern
dating. It's pretty shit and you're up against women offering it up easily so you're bound to feel upset. I'm a virgin as well and let me tell you that this doesn't have to do with vieginity. This has to do with the type of guys you're coming across. I come across assholes who are solely about sex and guys that want something meaningful. You just have to come across the right ones and those are very few in number.

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Wow OK thank you. Sorry if I might of got angry with your reply earlier.
Yes you're right indeed.

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Posted by YellowSubmarine
Did the guy literally say to you, “I’m not interested anymore because you won’t have sex with me right now”?

Or did you tell him you’re a virgin and then he slowly faded away?

Well no. He never said anything. Only told me he might visit me yet he never did. Just he doesn't text me as much and only is active on my
social media from time to time so I feel like that attraction that was there isn't anymore. He's 36 too.

I don’t think it has anything to do with attraction. He obv finds you attractive because he was interested in you in the first place, so don’t beat yourself up about that.

When you do eventually have sex, it’s going to be mean something to you – everybody remembers their first. And ideally, you would
want to be with someone for whom it would mean something as well; a memory you look back on in a good light, basically. This guy knows he can’t do that for you, so he pulled away. It doesn’t mean the attraction is gone; he’s just smart enough to walk away from it. He said HNY because it’s the polite thing to do in response.

The overall point though is the obligatory notion that you will meet the right person when the time is right
and that the wait will be worth it. It happens for everyone, don't worry about it so much.. easier said than done, I know.

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Thank you very much for this.

You will get over this in time. Sorry you went through that. Its alot great men out here though. This is how i look at relationship and people. Dont be sad or mad, life happens. Ask urself this do u plan on marrying him or being with him for a lifetime? If no dont trip because that lucky someone is STILL out there. So right now ur dealing with your own ego and venting. Let it go and move on forget him take it as a lesson learned. We all been hurt plenty of times thats life. Stay positive

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You will get over this in time. Sorry you went through that. Its alot great men out here though. This is how i look at relationship and people. Dont be sad or mad, life happens. Ask urself this do u plan on marrying him or being with him for a lifetime? If no dont trip because that lucky someone is STILL out there. So right now ur dealing with your own ego and venting. Let it go and move on forget him take it as a lesson learned. We all been hurt plenty of times thats life. Stay positive

Thank you