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that's totally uncalled for krobe.

It's alright Krobe. You dnt have to explain yourself.

These are free public boards - you have the right as everyone else to type your thoughts/advice..etc

ScorpSting leave it alone, it will be a disagreement ALL day long and I believe we can posts anywhere on this thread under any topic at any time. If you don't feed shit, you want have flies sworming around you.

Back to the convo, yes, YOU are dead on right about giving up your heart so easily. I really think you have your Cancer man figured to the Tee. I love you advice by the way.

no need to sling racial slurs. you're old enough (way old enough) to know better.

that's totally uncalled for krobe.

Yeah, I know but it is uncalled for to be accused about talking about a subject and being "blamed" for the other person's unhappiness. I never even said anything about XF or any of her comments. The women on her should be able to talk too each other without being accused about talking about someone who really doesn't even matter.

no need to sling racial slurs. you're old enough (way old enough) to know better.

I will delete the posts. You are right I am not trying to draw unwanted attention.

Krobe just retaliated because angelfish attacked her without reason.

It was just a reaction on Krobes part.

And yes - I have been 'studying' the Cancer male in my life for quite a while now.

I understand him so well that we talk every day and he now talks to me about everything.

Krobe just retaliated because angelfish attacked her without reason.

It was just a reaction on Krobes part. Anytime you get on these posts you have to retaliate against someone who has low self esteem but I have to not holla any names. They will be swarmping around soon enough.

And yes - I have been 'studying' the Cancer male in my life for quite a while now.

I understand him so well that we talk every day and he now talks to me about everything.

I am really proud to know that you have him so intrigued. You must be one of those intriguing Scorps who leaves him guessing huh? LOL! I like it.

I vote to have a thread called "RED and KROBE's CANCER CORNER". I've learned a lot from this board so I just wanted to say thank you to everyone...it really does help. Sometimes I need to hear or in this case have something to read when I need reassurance and this forum is my Dr. Phil...LOL!

I vote to have a thread called "RED and KROBE's CANCER CORNER". I've learned a lot from this board so I just wanted to say thank you to everyone...it really does help. Sometimes I need to hear or in this case have something to read when I need reassurance and this forum is my Dr. Phil...LOL!

I agree wholeheartedly. Whenever I need help with my cancer bf this is the first place I come to. Cancer men can drive you insane so it's nice to come somewhere where to vent. It's like a support group here, we should have a separate thread called "Cancer Men Anonymous". LOL! The topic of every thread should start with "Hi my name is ( fil in the blank) and my bf is a Cancer 🙂

>Cancer men like confident women, if you appear needy, you will not get what you want. You need to get >your mojo back girl! He will come out to play again if all is well. If he doesn't, his loss!

Balls, if I'm any testament of a cancer man then it's just a matter of me making my mind up about a girl (based of course on factors that she largely controls) I will be there for her whether she is down and depressed or happy and confident. I expect the same when I'm having my so called "cancer" period. 😄

Right. You don't have to be some mysterious TV Show-Cutout Superwoman. She could have a personality thats offbeat or a tomboy, Its cool as long as shes cofortable with herself.

lol Angel, I think you know what to do Goddess. If showing emotion is a weakness than surely Cancer men are the lowest of the weaklings...good thing we both know this is neither true or guaranteed. D has shown me more emotion than I have shown him and I can count more problems my being cold and poker faced has caused than these emotions have. Showing emotion and being emotional isnt a weakness. Pretending that you are always happy or that things dont affect you is a weakness. When you have an inability to be comfortable and work with your feelings then you are far worse off than the person that can confront their feelings deal with them and grow stronger through acknowledging them and moving forward through the experience. I feel your pain...and he most likely feels it too. I guarantee he cares about you. I get so pissed with D, frustrated, and hurt...and it always seems to do the most good when I stop being a tyrannical- trying to get my way cookiemonster and just go to him and tell him how Im feeling all walls down. Krobe and Scorp Sting might have issues with showing their feelings and the men they deal with most likely have a problem with them showing emotions because they dont want to deal with their emotions. But the man that I am emotional about would rather see me show any emotion besides indifference, loss of patience and anger.

Dont let these know it all Cancer experts to get to you. Both of these women swear to be Cancer experts with the boys falling at their feet, but have you noticed that neither have anything to show for it? Nuff said. Hello, to all my haters.

*tossing lovies* Love ya goddess twin.

and very well said Red. lol I should have read your post before I posted and just ditto'ed.

I think the level of neediness and lack of emotion the Cancer guys need might be a bit dependent on their moons and venus too. Seems like my Cancer guy needs to see that Im emotionally into him although he cant deal with it unless he has cleared the priority list. And its odd, but neither his emotions nor mine are on his priority list: it consists of work, family, and damage control. Its like as long as my feelings for him are secure (im not threatening to leave him) he backs up from the clingy stuff, then when he's less secure on where we stand he's right up under me again. I agree that it takes a long step back and a close look to determine if you can deal with it.

"And yes - I have been 'studying' the Cancer male in my life for quite a while now.

I understand him so well that we talk every day and he now talks to me about everything"

sting good luck with your statement but as much as you think and understand a cancer man, as a cancer man myself i will be the first to say you don't. but go ahead and think you do cause that is how we like it. making you think you are in control..lol

"Not everything is about you angelfish."

Im sorry but it is also not EVERYTHING about u who claimed to KNOW every little details about CANCER MEN...just point out my 2.7 cents here...

"sting good luck with your statement but as much as you think and understand a cancer man, as a cancer man myself i will be the first to say you don't. but go ahead and think you do cause that is how we like it. making you think you are in control..lol"

Well said cansir 🙂

Im not against any of both of you Krobe and Sting...but please...don't put more salts on the wound...we should encourage Angel to get her feet back and be happy and content with herself...not by putting out that both of u seemingly KNOW everything about what cancer men want and whatnot...even it's helps for others but not on this topic...

Wow, such a heated debate about cancers! my gosh...

well, i'm going to give my 2 cents on this since I AM a cancer and I feel compelled to contribute.

i'm going to just generalize and not get into specifics because everyone is different just like every cancer is different. we cancers are SO misunderstood.

first of all, we don't even understand ourselves, how can all of you understand us? in the end, the highly evolved cancers, really just want to find someone who can truly understand them.

which brings me to the point -- cancerian evolution. the highly evolved cancers are QUITE DIFFERENT than your typical cancer guy/girl. the evolved cancer male/female are the MOST PLEASANT people to be around. they're FUN, they can ALWAYS make people laugh, and they're not egotistical or annoying or super-moody. the evolved cancer is mature enough not to let his/her emotions get out of control to the point that it affects others. the evolved cancers KNOWS if he's hurting someone and is highly considerate of other's feelings and has a high sense of moral and ethics.

the un-evolved cancer will create drama, the evolved cancers DREAD it. there IS a huge difference between the two.

so how do cancers evolve?

cancers evolve through experience. through some unexplainable miracles, a cancer will eventually realize that they are causing their own problems. once they start realizing the repercussions of their own actions, they start evolving and become better people. this is the hardest lesson for any cancer to learn because we cancers have a tough time taking advice from others. others may see the mistakes we're making but until we see it ourselves, we can't improve or evolve. we cancers absorb a lot from our surroundings and those who are surrounded by supporting family, friends, and good people in general...will likely evolve the fastest.

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and why do evolved cancers DREAD drama? because we know that drama creates emotionally stressful situations that are our achilles heels. we understand that we don't make the best or most sensible judgments in emotionally stressful situations. so we try to avoid it at all costs. stressful emotions turn us into "temporarily insane" mental patients...and we really dread it.

the highly evolved cancers know this and try their best to avoid it. the less evolved cancers follow their instinctive moodiness and add fuel to the fire and will turn a small annoyance into a huge dramatic mess...

Cansir: ''sting good luck with your statement but as much as you think and understand a cancer man, as a cancer man myself i will be the first to say you don't. but go ahead and think you do cause that is how we like it. making you think you are in control..lol''

I AM in control - that is how I have kept the Cancer man in my life for so long. Why is he contacting me every single day? I back off for a couple of days and he pulls me back asking me where Ive been. I do this to test him 😉 and he runs to me. I have a life of my own and he knows that. We both respect eachother and we have trust between us. He wants to be close to me. Our friendship has already been established. Now you might say 'just friends', but I place a very High value on friendships and so does he.

I instinctively pick up on things he does and says. He actually said I am one of the few that understands him. Not all Cancer men are the same (depends on other aspects).

Showing your emotions to the one you care about is not a weakness in itself - but showing the whole world? Thats crying out for attention.

Cansir - youve probably noticed that I do not reveal my true emotions on here and that is why you said that I dont understand Cancerians. Im a Scorpio - my feelings are hidden and will remain hidden. You underestimate me. (Youre probably trying to side step me and throw me off by your statement 😉

I only reveal emotions with people I trust and love. I have revealed a few of my feelings with my Cancer friend which you know nothing about. That stays between us.

Hmm...all I've seen on this thread are things that push a Cancer's buttons. I'm not disputing that almost everything that's been said about pushing a Cancer's buttons is TRUE. Cancers DO want what they can't have...playing cat-and-mouse will definitely keep your Cancer's attention, Cancers ARE suckers for attention, and Cancers DO like confident people...

But after all the games are said and done, and you have your Cancer man...do you still want to keep him? The Cancer man that's "chasing" you, is very different than the Cancer man that's in love with you...there's a HUGE difference. After you've got him, are you sure you still want him?

Ellidyr - ''we cancers absorb a lot from our surroundings and those who are surrounded by supporting family, friends, and good people in general...will likely evolve the fastest.''

You have hit the nail on the head here. Once a cancerian has a good network of honest, loyal, trustworthy close friends and family...he will 'evolve' rapidly. He has the SECURITY and LOVE he needs.

The one last bit of unsolicited advice I'd like to give about cancers is this:

We Cancers already struggle with our emotions. We don't make our best judgment in emotionally tense/stressful situations. If you truly want what's best for us, don't push our buttons or create situations or drama. That will just bring out the worst in us and force us to depend on our emotions rather than use our better judgment. When we're not all emotionally riled up...we actually have a pretty good and objective sense of judgment.

Nurture us by keeping us steady, emotionally and spiritually. Try not to push our buttons too much or play too many mind games with us -- it'll just bring out a side of us you really don't want to experience. Keep us focus on the positives and looking at the big picture...we will realize our full potential much faster that way and you will have yourself a much better Cancer, a much better person by your side.

''But after all the games are said and done, and you have your Cancer man...do you still want to keep him? The Cancer man that's "chasing" you, is very different than the Cancer man that's in love with you...there's a HUGE difference. After you've got him, are you sure you still want him?''

We are close friends. This is how I want it right now hence why I havent pushed anything forward with this man. I have a very busy life style right now - work, part time degree course on top..etc. I really dont have time for a full committed relationship with anyone.

But like I said - I place a very high value on close friends (I dont have many friends but Lots of aquaintances). To find a good, loyal friend who I can trust and confide in are extremely rare.

To be honest - I dont know if I want this Cancer man as a partner. I dont feel ready for a close committed relationship with anyone. I do have intense feelings for him - but to take it any further.... hmm I am just not sure.

I cant just drop my feelings on him and then back off - that will hurt him. So Im not going to play the 'love game'.

Oh and just for the record - I have known him for 5 years...but I started having intense feelings for him since July. He just doesnt know it 😐

We have grown much closer since then.

"Oh and just for the record - I have known him for 5 years...but I started having intense feelings for him since July. He just doesnt know it 😐"

OMG woman... sorry... cut the crap...no need to tell ellidyr for that record that you've been with your cancer men for 5 years! Arent you the one who wrote somewhere on this board that you've met him like 3 YEARS ago?

Please..come on.. im not going to give you any advice or opinion...but get a grip..
You can say whatever that you want and keep on posting and point out your story about you relationship. You are a woman and you need to understand that here we have one broken hearted woman and do respect her feelings.... im not her clique...but i care about other woman that being HURT.

Lostsoul - I have known hom for 5 years, youre obviously blind.

Who said Ive 'been with him'? Youre twisting it. I said I have KNOWN HIM for 5 years. Learn to read.

Angelfish has you wrapped around her little finger. Youre a naive fool.

Good God woman...
but thanks for pointing that out..im blinded on one eye 🙂
And do forgive my ENGLISH...im not twisting...i know you have been FRIEND with him for that long...🙂

But since you've already said that angel has put me under her spell.. here you go....as i said...i dont want to give u any opinion or whatsoever...just being nice..play nice woman..

"But he NEVER talks about her. All hes said to me is that he has been with her years and years. I also asked him jokingly (when we first met - 3 years ago) if he ever gets bored of his sex life (heh)..and he replied 'not really."

Well maybe im the one who being misunderstood here...🙂

and thank you for saying the im a NAIVE FOOL. 🙂

and thank you for saying that im a NAIVE FOOL. 🙂

No need to thank me (I sense youre being patronizing anyway).

Your moon is in Scorpio...

also for the record dear Sting... im not angel's clique or whatsoever...
im just one blinded eye woman who seek truth and i dont like when people keep on saying that they know better than us CANCER ourselves...just happened that i was saying things that involved her...so that im her ally? lol...whatever woman..

we're different for every cancers and it applies to other signs as well..the environment and the way we were raised all have affects on us...

I really thought that your are smart...but you are not..you let those emotions blinded your perception...NUff said...

"Your moon is in Scorpio..."

is there a problem with you Sting?

Im not patronizing you...lol....i was simply said the truth..
and i sense that you are being DEFENSIVE..

''just happened that i was saying things that involved her...so that im her ally? lol...whatever woman..''

When did I say you were her ally? I just said that you were being naive and foolish.

We dont KNOW eachother. Only what we display on here. That goes for all of us.

*is there a problem with you Sting?

Was it going to be a problem...

You attack me - I get defensive. That's logical isnt it?

I dont take kindly to strangers.

lol....im not attacking you...
and im not trying to be KIND to you either 🙂

I am not expecting anything from you. Youre making your own assumptions. Youre a wind up merchant.

keep pointing that out and you're making yourself looking like a FOOL..

i know what im trying to say here...and not making any ASSumptions like you are 🙂

Oh Virgo is back. What a surprise.

The cancer man in my life DOES have time for me. That is why he contacts me every single day and if I dont answer my calls - he will always leave a message. He enjoys spending time with me otherwise he wouldnt bother contacting me. I rarely contact him first.

Youre another fool that has fallen into Angel's trap. She is a wolf in sheeps clothing, only you do not see it.

"Angelfish has you wrapped around her little finger. Youre a naive fool."
Does this mean that im not her ally??

And stop insulting other ppl.. for GOD sake.. you're just keep on making yourself looking like a FOOL...

Hello Virgo...🙂

and Sting...if you are being defensive and by logically it's acceptable...
We CANCERS being defensive when people like you keep on getting on our nerve.

it that a logic way kind of thinking or is it not?

''"Angelfish has you wrapped around her little finger. Youre a naive fool."
Does this mean that im not her ally??''

This means that she is manipulating you and you are a fool for ALLOWING her to.

Not once has angelfish thanked any of you for your support. She is selfish to the bone. Im glad that the Cancer man in her life saw her for what she is. A Narcissist.

"Not once has angelfish thanked any of you for your support. She is selfish to the bone. Im glad that the Cancer man in her life saw her for what she is. A Narcissist."

Hush there Sting...keep on pushing the button...(just like ellidyr said)
Watch what you are saying or wishing...

"This means that she is manipulating you and you are a fool for ALLOWING her to."

HOw can she manipulating me by making me looking like a FOOL as you are...
Never judge us with those kind of words Sting...you better behaving yourself and get a grip FAST!

Keep on insulting...keep it UP Sting...🙂

"it just amazes me that she could be over here giving angel a pile of crap when in fact she knows nothing of the situation - or of the cancer she thinks she knows about for that matter! 😉"

Pretty amazed myself...lol!

I'm not insulting - Im just saying it how it is.

The brutal truth.

You both seem very short sighted and superficial.

Angel is all 'me me me'. She deserves everything that comes her way. She started this thread for attention and sympathy. She got the sympathy from some of you - but not once was she grateful or thankful.

She is the most selfish person I have seen on here.

"I'm not insulting - Im just saying it how it is.

The brutal truth."

Owhh the Scorpio has wind up her shield to protect herself now....lol!

you dont even know her whole story woman...
you really PUSHING the button...keep it UP!