Why is he toruting me—

Cancerian boy claimed his cell phone went off in his pocket and randomly dialed my telephone number. I spoke about another boy, and he asked me if I wanted to be with him, to which I said yes. He then said he doesn't care about what I do, so I got mad, and confessed, I was attempting to make him jealous. Of course, he replied, since I desire someone else, what should his reaction have been?

He pushed hard for me to come spend the night into the morning with him. I declined. We spoke on the phone instead for two hours.

You know how sometimes those fantasy conversations inside your head with someone who has your heart just can't be helped? Cancerian boy called again, a few nights later, to say goodnight. Anyhow, before we hung-up, he told me he thinks about me before he goes to sleep. As you could have guessed, I've had this conversation with myself many, many times. And somehow got the courage to say: I think about you too, so I guess now we are even.

Fast forward three months without a word...

He came to find me in order to get romantic during the afternoon, after first and foremost, asking about my "boyfriend"... I said no and went about my business.

I have yet to hear from him again!!!

Kindly provide insight—

A bit of time has passed, since the above occurences, and I have seen my crush twice - he makes sure I know he is ignoring me!!! The last time we saw one another, he actually hid from me, so all I could hear was his voice - I am certain he saw me.

I am so hurt...

And cannot get him out of my mind.

If he likes me so much, why is he not willing to be nice?

This stupid post was sent too soon!!!

The question is: Why is he torturing me—

Let It Be:

I wish I were young(er).

This is my defense mechanism - hurt or be hurt first.

Moon Eyes:

He complains about my games, but will not stop w his...

Da Bull:

Is he ever going to come around? Maybe he does not like me enough?

Here is where you made a mistake. Cancers test the ones they may want to pursue as a love interest. Because we are so fragile with our feelings an we hide or emotions so we wont get hurt. Its just us. When you try to make us jealous in the beginning, chances are we will run,hide and possably ignore you forever. Dont play games,be honest and blunt and a little dominant! He should come around!!!!!!!!

Cancerian Goddess:

Well, when I attempt to be honest, he is very sweet - but not syrupy. I know he has been genuine, at times, but ater all is said and done, he has a pattern of showing emotion and then hiding... And for my part, if anything has been conveyed it is my intense trust issues.

And I love the fact that he is the one to talk about feelings, ask me about them, et cetera, and then, go back to the same old ish.

I could use some Hypnotic right about now!!! 🙂

Posted by Hypnotic—
"If he likes me so much, why is he not willing to be nice?"

because he isn't your bitch..
because he has the upper hand, knows this and will enjoy it..

you can't play games and expect people to have mercy..
or soften up because your feelings are hurt..

Exactly...

I ain't mad at cha, Hypnotiq. 🙂

Let It Be:

I have no retort. 😢

What I wonder a lot, though, is, at what point is this sort of behavior, on his part, attributable to just being a player— In other words, maybe, he plays, just for the hell of it, not because I really make him angry?

Step up, speak up, or lose him. If you want a cancer, you have to grow some balls. Not to be mean, but we dont make the firs move in fear of rejection,... so step up!!!!!!! trust me if he has already given you the signs he is ready.. if your not the dominant type, it may not work. I am a cancer with an aries, a submissive with a dominant type, im a girly girl with a macho man, it works!!!! good luck sweety!!!

Thank you, Goddess. 🙂

Testing is still in full effect, for certain!!!

i dunno, i don't understand disappearing for months at a time, by then my feelings would have already dissipated. if there was any interest in seeing what was up with the person it would be out of sheer curiosity. game playing is a huge turn off and i'd disappear just to punish/spite the person. also, i don't think you should let anyone have that much power over your emotions. it's only torturing you because you let it. focus your attention on something else that matters instead of some guy who's not really around.

Cancergem:

The fact that we have both played games, and then disappeared, only to find one another, time and again, what does that say?

Absolutely, I need to CEASE fixating on him. And I would, if I could, but his kiss, oh God!!!

Meg:

Yes, I suppose, I got the ball rolling, but when I sometimes feel like being serious, he does not.