Would I get another chance with Cancer ex? Tips appreciated (Page 2)

I’m sorry, but cancer women don’t come back.

They will love you, and leave you.

What they value most in a relationship is respect, and once you slowly start chipping away at that, she will remember everything you’ve said or done to dismiss her or belittle her.

Capricorns have a snake like tongue on them. You bottle up your emotions and they come out like bullets.

She knows she didn’t deserve that, and she’s showing you you underestimated her.

Next time you meet a womsn, learn to self regulate your emotions, and think before you speak.

Cancer women are a lot stronger than they look.

Posted by pisceanloves

Oh boy.. You know the saying " you can't say a wrong thing to a right person"?? Yeah keep that on mind..

Besides and hear me out here, people fight all the time and say hurtful things to one another.. If she really loved you that much she would have overlooked and be forgiving, I can't get past what's been said is pure BS.. Conflicts strengthen relationship quality and overall bond..

My temper is more surface level and get over things super quickly, and I have a cancer moon lol

People really need to grow up and be less sensitive gee. Good luck with that cry baby, if she had a key she could have just gone to your place and collect her belongings, what was the point of you being present?? Just to tell you it was over?? She could have left a letter instead.

Provide her placements please.

I just can not deal with people having sky up ego, cut it already and be humble.. I bet she has a lot of leo in chart lol

Either that or she's majorly confused and doesn't know what she wants.

Aren’t you the psycho that demanded her bf to remove something from his room that his ex gave him?

You need to not be so sensitive.

I get the vibe that you’re just another controlling female that is the abuser.

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Continued from the previous post where my Cancer girlfriend (now ex girlfriend) wanted to move and stay together...

So turns out that after two days she texted me saying that she forgot things at my apartment and asked when I would be there, and when I asked why she said she wanted me to let her in and say hi (this was when she had keys to my apartment). I had a gut feeling something was up. When she came and I immediately felt something had changed that she turned cold and didn't say much except for hi, and I was helping her pack until I realized she was packing everything that was left that was hers. I didn't say anything until after an hour I had asked her what was going on with us when she finally sat next to me on the other side of the couch.

She told me that she had a change of heart and decided that she was too hurt and doesn't know if she can get over the things I've said that hurt her. She said that she tried but doesn't know and kept saying she can't even though she loved me. The whole time I felt like she was contradicting herself and asked her if she loved me why not give me another chance because I also love her. I tried to convince her that I could change and that I wanted to see a therapist and if she could wait to see that I will get better and not hurt her again. But she kept saying that she can't be there to get hurt again even though I said I won't hurt her and if I do again we could end things. Me being a stubborn Capricorn was still trying to convince her to stay we were hugging the whole time I asked if I could kiss her good bye and we kissed twice and the first time she said I don't think I can kiss I thought I was ready but I wasn't but she still did it again. What made me stubborn was when she said I love you back twice when I said it and she even ended up saying "I don't want to leave" at some point and then kept saying "I can't" and "I need to leave".

I think she's really hurt and confused and is retreating because she didn't know what to do and seeing me hurt also was hurting her (she told me that she couldn't stay at my apartment and see me being sad and trying to convince her to stay like this ). She told me that I'm the only one that's she's truly loved in all of her relationships so maybe there's a chance and I kept asking if we could just be on a break and if we could get back together. She kept saying she can't promise anything, but maybe. She just kept saying she was hurt the whole time and that she tried and I felt like I didn't even have a decision or a say on what would happen to us. I was so confused because she told me and a close friend of mine that helped her move that she really wants it to work and to keep trying. She posted on her ig story a quote about how over-thinking kills, I can't help wondering if she's trying to give me a sign.

I know that I crossed the line and really messed up, but I regret it so much I want to make it up to her and make her realize that I can change.. how do I go about this? I know that once Cancers are hurt and trust is broken they may never look back so I want to know how I can slowly build trust again and maybe get her back. I don't want to risk waiting too long and for her to have moved on already. We have close friends and I'm still keeping in touch with her twin sister would that help me convince her? At the end, the decision is up to her so I really want to make the right move and not mess it up again especially now when she has her guard up.

Just give her some space. Let her feel your complete absence for 3-4 days. Then slowly, try to do friendship with her, and let her speak up her issues, slowly try to assure her with the things she asks, ask her what she needs, and create an emotional connection with her first. Let her feel safe around you, and let her feel safe and confident that you will not hurt her again, trust building is a slow process, but a rewarding one. Trust breaking is an instant process, and an irreparable one! So, don't pressure things, but instead assure her slowly, following with creating her feel emotional safety with you, and then taking things forward. Don't act too needy, give her little, little space in between to think, and then let her also put some efforts, in this way relationship gets stronger, and you can get back her, after you created an understanding between you both, because cancer also craves to be understood, and to understand!

I haven't contacted her since 5 days ago and then this weekend we went to a mutual friend's live music event because the mutual friend invited me (she didn't know we broke up but I thought she did) and we ran into each other. One of my friends that she became close with ended up talking to her and he told her we didn't know that she would be there and she was saying that it was fine. We ignored each other and she was stressed pacing in and out of the venue while my friends and I were dancing and just enjoying the night. She left with her friends an hour after and texted one of my friends that were there if she could call them and that what I did was messed up. I think that she thought that I planned to run into her to make things worse and now she unfollowed me on all our socials and added the song "Fuck You" by Lily Allen to our old shared playlist. She says that she still eventually wants something platonic but doesn't think she can be romantic. She kept saying that I hurt her more than she thought again. She's been texting my friend every day of the week almost to pick up a couple of things from my place that she forgot and drop them off at hers.

I think that I should not contact her until she contacts me first, what do you think? It's still only been a week since we broke it off I feel like she's on the second stage of grief; anger and is trying to replace love with hate to get over me...

What she doing isn't justifying for you. As much as she cares about her emotions, she should also care for you. Or else you have one option, use the friend of yours who is using as mutual and to whom she is contacting about you, to tell her that she can work out with you again. Your friend should talk everything in favour of you and should support you while talking about you to her. He needs to make her feel you are the one who cares for her a lot. As yourself, just ask her what you can do for her so that she will start trusting you and be with you again. And then do all the things she says. Then only she have a chance of changing her mind. Instead of guessing what she wants from your relationship, ask her what she would like to get from your relationship to be with you. And try getting her emotionally connected to you. This is the only way for you to be on her top list. Cancer is driven by emotions. If you can provide her with emotional safety and undying trust she seeks, she will fall head over heels for you, and even more. You will become a king for her. It all depends on how carefully you handle her mood swings and respect her decisions and not push her too much, but make her understand how much caring and true you are! This is the way you can get her back and may even get an never ending relation.

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I think she wanted to call and meet up with my friend actually so might try to tell him that when he hangs out with her. He was going to update her that I was going to therapy, took a break from work, and didn't know that she was going to be there. He said that he won't get the stuff that she left from me but he wants us to return things ourselves. I was thinking that would be my chance to talk to her, and try to emotionally connect. I'm not even sure she wants to meet though it seems like she wants me out of her life which makes sense considering what I did to hurt her. What should I say if I do get the chance to meet? I want to empathize with her and convince her without coming across as demanding or annoying.

Posted by Moloko_vellocet

I’m sorry, but cancer women don’t come back.

They will love you, and leave you.

What they value most in a relationship is respect, and once you slowly start chipping away at that, she will remember everything you’ve said or done to dismiss her or belittle her.

Capricorns have a snake like tongue on them. You bottle up your emotions and they come out like bullets.

She knows she didn’t deserve that, and she’s showing you you underestimated her.

Next time you meet a womsn, learn to self regulate your emotions, and think before you speak.

Cancer women are a lot stronger than they look.

I know they are that's why I regret it so much and I really wished that it could work but I can only try to move on now. We're each other's first loves though do you think that changes things?

Posted by Moloko_vellocet

I’m sorry, but cancer women don’t come back.

They will love you, and leave you.

What they value most in a relationship is respect, and once you slowly start chipping away at that, she will remember everything you’ve said or done to dismiss her or belittle her.

Capricorns have a snake like tongue on them. You bottle up your emotions and they come out like bullets.

She knows she didn’t deserve that, and she’s showing you you underestimated her.

Next time you meet a womsn, learn to self regulate your emotions, and think before you speak.

Cancer women are a lot stronger than they look.

Spot on 👌

Posted by corny-capri

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Posted by corny-capri

Posted by smiley_smiles

Posted by corny-capri

Continued from the previous post where my Cancer girlfriend (now ex girlfriend) wanted to move and stay together...

So turns out that after two days she texted me saying that she forgot things at my apartment and asked when I would be there, and when I asked why she said she wanted me to let her in and say hi (this was when she had keys to my apartment). I had a gut feeling something was up. When she came and I immediately felt something had changed that she turned cold and didn't say much except for hi, and I was helping her pack until I realized she was packing everything that was left that was hers. I didn't say anything until after an hour I had asked her what was going on with us when she finally sat next to me on the other side of the couch.

She told me that she had a change of heart and decided that she was too hurt and doesn't know if she can get over the things I've said that hurt her. She said that she tried but doesn't know and kept saying she can't even though she loved me. The whole time I felt like she was contradicting herself and asked her if she loved me why not give me another chance because I also love her. I tried to convince her that I could change and that I wanted to see a therapist and if she could wait to see that I will get better and not hurt her again. But she kept saying that she can't be there to get hurt again even though I said I won't hurt her and if I do again we could end things. Me being a stubborn Capricorn was still trying to convince her to stay we were hugging the whole time I asked if I could kiss her good bye and we kissed twice and the first time she said I don't think I can kiss I thought I was ready but I wasn't but she still did it again. What made me stubborn was when she said I love you back twice when I said it and she even ended up saying "I don't want to leave" at some point and then kept saying "I can't" and "I need to leave".

I think she's really hurt and confused and is retreating because she didn't know what to do and seeing me hurt also was hurting her (she told me that she couldn't stay at my apartment and see me being sad and trying to convince her to stay like this ). She told me that I'm the only one that's she's truly loved in all of her relationships so maybe there's a chance and I kept asking if we could just be on a break and if we could get back together. She kept saying she can't promise anything, but maybe. She just kept saying she was hurt the whole time and that she tried and I felt like I didn't even have a decision or a say on what would happen to us. I was so confused because she told me and a close friend of mine that helped her move that she really wants it to work and to keep trying. She posted on her ig story a quote about how over-thinking kills, I can't help wondering if she's trying to give me a sign.

I know that I crossed the line and really messed up, but I regret it so much I want to make it up to her and make her realize that I can change.. how do I go about this? I know that once Cancers are hurt and trust is broken they may never look back so I want to know how I can slowly build trust again and maybe get her back. I don't want to risk waiting too long and for her to have moved on already. We have close friends and I'm still keeping in touch with her twin sister would that help me convince her? At the end, the decision is up to her so I really want to make the right move and not mess it up again especially now when she has her guard up.

Just give her some space. Let her feel your complete absence for 3-4 days. Then slowly, try to do friendship with her, and let her speak up her issues, slowly try to assure her with the things she asks, ask her what she needs, and create an emotional connection with her first. Let her feel safe around you, and let her feel safe and confident that you will not hurt her again, trust building is a slow process, but a rewarding one. Trust breaking is an instant process, and an irreparable one! So, don't pressure things, but instead assure her slowly, following with creating her feel emotional safety with you, and then taking things forward. Don't act too needy, give her little, little space in between to think, and then let her also put some efforts, in this way relationship gets stronger, and you can get back her, after you created an understanding between you both, because cancer also craves to be understood, and to understand!

I haven't contacted her since 5 days ago and then this weekend we went to a mutual friend's live music event because the mutual friend invited me (she didn't know we broke up but I thought she did) and we ran into each other. One of my friends that she became close with ended up talking to her and he told her we didn't know that she would be there and she was saying that it was fine. We ignored each other and she was stressed pacing in and out of the venue while my friends and I were dancing and just enjoying the night. She left with her friends an hour after and texted one of my friends that were there if she could call them and that what I did was messed up. I think that she thought that I planned to run into her to make things worse and now she unfollowed me on all our socials and added the song "Fuck You" by Lily Allen to our old shared playlist. She says that she still eventually wants something platonic but doesn't think she can be romantic. She kept saying that I hurt her more than she thought again. She's been texting my friend every day of the week almost to pick up a couple of things from my place that she forgot and drop them off at hers.

I think that I should not contact her until she contacts me first, what do you think? It's still only been a week since we broke it off I feel like she's on the second stage of grief; anger and is trying to replace love with hate to get over me...

What she doing isn't justifying for you. As much as she cares about her emotions, she should also care for you. Or else you have one option, use the friend of yours who is using as mutual and to whom she is contacting about you, to tell her that she can work out with you again. Your friend should talk everything in favour of you and should support you while talking about you to her. He needs to make her feel you are the one who cares for her a lot. As yourself, just ask her what you can do for her so that she will start trusting you and be with you again. And then do all the things she says. Then only she have a chance of changing her mind. Instead of guessing what she wants from your relationship, ask her what she would like to get from your relationship to be with you. And try getting her emotionally connected to you. This is the only way for you to be on her top list. Cancer is driven by emotions. If you can provide her with emotional safety and undying trust she seeks, she will fall head over heels for you, and even more. You will become a king for her. It all depends on how carefully you handle her mood swings and respect her decisions and not push her too much, but make her understand how much caring and true you are! This is the way you can get her back and may even get an never ending relation.

I think she wanted to call and meet up with my friend actually so might try to tell him that when he hangs out with her. He was going to update her that I was going to therapy, took a break from work, and didn't know that she was going to be there. He said that he won't get the stuff that she left from me but he wants us to return things ourselves. I was thinking that would be my chance to talk to her, and try to emotionally connect. I'm not even sure she wants to meet though it seems like she wants me out of her life which makes sense considering what I did to hurt her. What should I say if I do get the chance to meet? I want to empathize with her and convince her without coming across as demanding or annoying.

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Just make her feel how much you are regretting hurting her, and give her assurance and ask her if she can give you one more chance and tell her you won't ever repeat. Tell all these in a sweet way so that she can emotionally connect. If you come demanding, she won't connect emotionally but sees that as a pressure thing from you. So, say sweet, in a caring and regretful manner. If possible just cry, or tell in a crying tone. I'm pretty sure I'm a cancer girl, who falls more for cryboys but they should have trueness in that which reflects it, and she will definitely think over it, but don't overly cry. Just say everything in a regretful manner that you are feeling her pain too so u never want to repeat. Just ask how she's doing and she have to feel your trueness, understanding nature, willingness to do anything for her kind of nature, then only she can fall for you again. Persistence is also a key for a cancer's heart. So you can say a same thing which she needs to hear multiple times so that her heart melts..

If all else fails, try making her a little jealous by acting you like some other girl. But don't overdo it. Just a very little to a point she gets jealous. And don't involve with the girl physically with whom you are acting with, or else it will make things worse, so better let this acting girl know too before only that you are just acting so that she also won't cross limits and keep it to just acting levels. Just act as if you give other girl a lot of attention before her unexpectedly then she may come back

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Posted by Moloko_vellocet

I’m sorry, but cancer women don’t come back.

They will love you, and leave you.

What they value most in a relationship is respect, and once you slowly start chipping away at that, she will remember everything you’ve said or done to dismiss her or belittle her.

Capricorns have a snake like tongue on them. You bottle up your emotions and they come out like bullets.

She knows she didn’t deserve that, and she’s showing you you underestimated her.

Next time you meet a womsn, learn to self regulate your emotions, and think before you speak.

Cancer women are a lot stronger than they look.

I know they are that's why I regret it so much and I really wished that it could work but I can only try to move on now. We're each other's first loves though do you think that changes things?

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No. She’ll remember you.

You need to move on.

@Moloko_vellocet Completely irrelevant..

If I'm dating someone I won't tolerate sentimental reminders from the past.

My boundaries are mine which has absolutely nothing to do with you. Get a life

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Re-read what you wrote here.

Cause instead of respecting her decision you are scrambling for a way to 'convince her' otherwise.

You say you don't want to hurt her...

But your also not accepting her decision to end things. That is hurtful.

I realized this after and immediately texted her when she left that "I didn't mean to hold her back and that now I respect her need for space and her decision and that I just got emotional". She left it on read, do you think that she would come back around eventually once she sees that I'm trying to change. I talked to her twin sister today and asked if we could be friends and she was asking if I was okay I mentioned that I'm looking for a therapist and that I'm trying to work on myself I hope that she would relay the conversation to my ex.

Translation: let me pretend to respect her wishes for no communication and I'll just manipulate her sister into relaying what I want to communicate instead.

God that sounds so much worse when you point out the elephant lol

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