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Posted by anna1Posted by cancerdreamer9
Don't listen to TrueCap. she is a stalker and follows people around she randomly decides to hate on. She is the only person i've ever even blocked on here besides someone else who was bothering me at the same time as her so i blocked by association. I would be interested to help you,OP,if you would like. You will get through this and i believe that he really did like you a lot,love you and feel the way you know he felt. It is possible for you to get him back. Right now,I encourage you to let it all out,process it,and feel how you really actually feel.
Truecap is the one of the most experienced Capricorn out there we all are learning from her logical and honest advices. All her advices are always to the point no crap. Read all her posts and you will learn something valuable from each.click to expand
Thank you so much! I'm glad I've been able to help.
Posted by tripleCapPosted by IamaLibra
So I'm going to ask this, and I may regret it, but here goes.... I had been using his Netflix all along. Even after we brokeup I continued using it but it was for my daughter. You could look at account activity and see it was all children's shows. Yesterday he changed his password. We can no longer use it obviously. Is this simply him changing his password so his ex isn't using the account? Or is this a jab trying to get a reaction from me? [reaction being me to contact him]
I'm not a total nutjob . I "get it" he doesn't need to let me , his EX, use his Netflix. It is probably just a logical thing to do after breaking up....or is it?
WTF? What makes you think you have the right to use HIS account after you broke up?
DUH, he changed his password because he doesn't want you using his account;
and your actions are loud and clear.
Posted by IamaLibra
He has told me before that he is insecure saying that if we were ever married he would always wonder if I'm with him for money and not bc I truly love HIM.click to expand
They way you SHOW him you're not after the money is even though you got the go ahead, you shouldn't have used his account. By logging into it, it showed him that you were using him and confirmed his suspicions.
Sorry. That's just how caps think.
Posted by GobshitePosted by SpiceNSugarPosted by e11e
never get serious with a capricorn in the first six months.
if you make it past the six month mark, you stand a slight chance.
Best Cap advice ever... except add another 2-3 months on for good measure.
But still have sex with us. We need to sample the goods.click to expand
Absolutely.
If not, you'll never sniff 6 months down the road.
Posted by e11e
I don't understand why everyone is so up in arms about using his netflix account. do you realise this happens all the time and there was even a huge ado about it in the media awhile back where they are trying to stop this?
hell, I even have my ex's netflix account information and we've been ex's for a few years now. he always ecouraged me to use it at my leisure (which I never have because I don't like netflix)
it really isn't a big deal and hardly a highlight on her issues.
She wondered why he thought she was after the money and wanted to know how to prove she wasn't. It's just an example that she offered where we could demonstrate how she could show him.
Difference is, as I understand it, you were encouraged to use your ex's Netfix even after the breakup. She wasn't. He dumped her and then vanished - you are still in contact with your ex. Imo, when they broke up and he left, they had no contact and were not friends anymore. So yes, I think her using his Netfix was pretty bad. What disturbs me the most is the self entitlement - she should not take his generosity for granted.
And also, as previously mentioned, there was already an issue between the both of them about him thinking that she might be using him. This, I think, should make her veeery careful not to keep giving him that idea.
And just because something "happens all the time" doesn't make it right.
And also, as previously mentioned, there was already an issue between the both of them about him thinking that she might be using him. This, I think, should make her veeery careful not to keep giving him that idea.
And just because something "happens all the time" doesn't make it right.
Posted by truecapPosted by IamaLibra
3 1/2 weeks? He's done. He ghosted. He's moved on. He expects you to get the hint.click to expand
TrueCap, I thank you for your replies. I actually don't have a problem with anything said. Most has been very helpful because I tend to be naive and am probably holding on to false hope.
I did send him an email on Saturday. I told him It was a short to the point maybe 7 line email. I said Im sorry and want to meet and make him supper to talk. He usually likes to take a week to ponder and think about his reply, he reads and re-reads and proof reads his replies, THIS IS, if he is actually going to reply :/ If he IS "ghosting' or has a new gf [😭 ] I think he will just ignore my email. I'm hoping, HOPING he will remember the good things about me and consider my invite.
Posted by HappyCapper
Difference is, as I understand it, you were encouraged to use your ex's Netfix even after the breakup. She wasn't. He dumped her and then vanished - you are still in contact with your ex. Imo, when they broke up and he left, they had no contact and were not friends anymore. So yes, I think her using his Netfix was pretty bad. What disturbs me the most is the self entitlement - she should not take his generosity for granted.
And also, as previously mentioned, there was already an issue between the both of them about him thinking that she might be using him. This, I think, should make her veeery careful not to keep giving him that idea.
And just because something "happens all the time" doesn't make it right.
I agree HappyCap, NOW, but I didn't look at it that way at the time, honestly. I was thinking in my confused head " He must still love me and maybe he is showing me that by not changing his password :/ " He likes to be the provider and I made a mistake thinking the Netflix was an unspoken message from him to NOT move on just yet. I'm seriously just holding on to anything right now. I'm scared to move on b/c what if he DOES come back and then finds out I was dating someone else and THAT then proves another thing he accused me of, that I don't actually love him WHEN I DO, and I am willing to wait if space is what he needs. He also has some clothing here. I asked over and over what do I do with the clothes. He's never answered my question. Is that a way of leaving something here at my place so eventually he can contact me and say "hey I need to pickup my stuff". I know, I know, I'm probably just making stuff up in my head to feel better. I just wish I was right :/
I'm pretty sure you didn't see it as a way of using him; you had no evil intentions. We are just different. Tbh, I don't think you even saw it as an issue. You just kept on using it, not considering where it came from. (I'm just guessing, ofc🙂) What I'm wondering is if he may have gotten the idea of you using him from other situations where he though you were taking his generosity for granted and you didn't see it that way? Just speculating.
Another question: Let's say you had broken up with him and then just vanished, not contacting him at all. If you then later on changed your mind and wanted back, would you judge him for having moved on? You were a couple until you broke up. After that you are single. As e11e says: cut ties and do you.
Imo🙂
Another question: Let's say you had broken up with him and then just vanished, not contacting him at all. If you then later on changed your mind and wanted back, would you judge him for having moved on? You were a couple until you broke up. After that you are single. As e11e says: cut ties and do you.
Imo🙂
You're overthinking. Reading something out of nothing. And NOTHING is what he's giving you. I feel like I'm being so mean, I don't mean to be. I just don't want you to hold onto something that isn't there.
And if you date someone and he does come back, well, so what? That's his fault. That's on him because he disappeared on you. He can step up or step aside. Really, think about it this way - Who wants a man that takes a week, three weeks to respond? Holding onto someone that's not putting in 100% (or even 80% )is a waste of time while there are other people out there who will give you 110% . Focusing so much on him is keeping you from finding that person who IS right for you and won't make you feel this way.
It's all about perspective and knowing you're worth better than this. You can do it! You can let go! I have faith in you! Know your worth baybay!!
And if you date someone and he does come back, well, so what? That's his fault. That's on him because he disappeared on you. He can step up or step aside. Really, think about it this way - Who wants a man that takes a week, three weeks to respond? Holding onto someone that's not putting in 100% (or even 80% )is a waste of time while there are other people out there who will give you 110% . Focusing so much on him is keeping you from finding that person who IS right for you and won't make you feel this way.
It's all about perspective and knowing you're worth better than this. You can do it! You can let go! I have faith in you! Know your worth baybay!!
Posted by HappyCapper
I'm pretty sure you didn't see it as a way of using him; you had no evil intentions. We are just different. Tbh, I don't think you even saw it as an issue. You just kept on using it, not considering where it came from. (I'm just guessing, ofc🙂) What I'm wondering is if he may have gotten the idea of you using him from other situations where he though you were taking his generosity for granted and you didn't see it that way? Just speculating.
Another question: Let's say you had broken up with him and then just vanished, not contacting him at all. If you then later on changed your mind and wanted back, would you judge him for having moved on? You were a couple until you broke up. After that you are single. As e11e says: cut ties and do you.
Imo🙂
You are right, I had no evil intentions. I really didn't.
You are right again, if I broke up with him, he would be free to do as he pleases but I don't think he would see it that way if this is all a test to see if I'd "Wait" for him.
Posted by IamaLibraPosted by HappyCapper
I'm pretty sure you didn't see it as a way of using him; you had no evil intentions. We are just different. Tbh, I don't think you even saw it as an issue. You just kept on using it, not considering where it came from. (I'm just guessing, ofc🙂) What I'm wondering is if he may have gotten the idea of you using him from other situations where he though you were taking his generosity for granted and you didn't see it that way? Just speculating.
Another question: Let's say you had broken up with him and then just vanished, not contacting him at all. If you then later on changed your mind and wanted back, would you judge him for having moved on? You were a couple until you broke up. After that you are single. As e11e says: cut ties and do you.
Imo🙂
You are right, I had no evil intentions. I really didn't.
You are right again, if I broke up with him, he would be free to do as he pleases but I don't think he would see it that way if this is all a test to see if I'd "Wait" for him.click to expand
Again, you're reading too much into it. Not a test. We don't test like that. That's an air sign thing.
We observe and determine whether your actions/character fit into our world.
Posted by truecapPosted by IamaLibraPosted by HappyCapper
I'm pretty sure you didn't see it as a way of using him; you had no evil intentions. We are just different. Tbh, I don't think you even saw it as an issue. You just kept on using it, not considering where it came from. (I'm just guessing, ofc🙂) What I'm wondering is if he may have gotten the idea of you using him from other situations where he though you were taking his generosity for granted and you didn't see it that way? Just speculating.
Another question: Let's say you had broken up with him and then just vanished, not contacting him at all. If you then later on changed your mind and wanted back, would you judge him for having moved on? You were a couple until you broke up. After that you are single. As e11e says: cut ties and do you.
Imo🙂
You are right, I had no evil intentions. I really didn't.
You are right again, if I broke up with him, he would be free to do as he pleases but I don't think he would see it that way if this is all a test to see if I'd "Wait" for him.
Again, you're reading too much into it. Not a test. We don't test like that. That's an air sign thing.
We observe and determine whether your actions/character fit into our world.
click to expand
He is fire and earth strong. Water and Air weak. Does that make a difference ? You're right though I most likely and grasping at nothing.
Scores: Fire 11; Earth 9; Air 1; Water 2
Posted by champrangerPosted by IamaLibraPosted by truecapPosted by IamaLibraPosted by HappyCapper
I'm pretty sure you didn't see it as a way of using him; you had no evil intentions. We are just different. Tbh, I don't think you even saw it as an issue. You just kept on using it, not considering where it came from. (I'm just guessing, ofc🙂) What I'm wondering is if he may have gotten the idea of you using him from other situations where he though you were taking his generosity for granted and you didn't see it that way? Just speculating.
Another question: Let's say you had broken up with him and then just vanished, not contacting him at all. If you then later on changed your mind and wanted back, would you judge him for having moved on? You were a couple until you broke up. After that you are single. As e11e says: cut ties and do you.
Imo🙂
You are right, I had no evil intentions. I really didn't.
You are right again, if I broke up with him, he would be free to do as he pleases but I don't think he would see it that way if this is all a test to see if I'd "Wait" for him.
Again, you're reading too much into it. Not a test. We don't test like that. That's an air sign thing.
We observe and determine whether your actions/character fit into our world.
He is fire and earth strong. Water and Air weak. Does that make a difference ? You're right though I most likely and grasping at nothing.
Scores: Fire 11; Earth 9; Air 1; Water 2
Both fire and earth can walk over others if the others let them, and won't have respect for those that they tread over.
Also, years ago, I had the same notion of Caps wanting someone who was always there with him. The truth is, if a Cap wanted you, they WILL NOT wait to ask you out. If they didn't want you romantically and you wait for them, then it is likely that you will end up to be their close friend, at best.click to expand
Can you tell me anything about me. Mine is >>>>>> Scores: Fire 5; Earth 6; Air 4; Water 8
Posted by truecap
You're overthinking. Reading something out of nothing. And NOTHING is what he's giving you. I feel like I'm being so mean, I don't mean to be. I just don't want you to hold onto something that isn't there.
And if you date someone and he does come back, well, so what? That's his fault. That's on him because he disappeared on you. He can step up or step aside. Really, think about it this way - Who wants a man that takes a week, three weeks to respond? Holding onto someone that's not putting in 100% (or even 80% )is a waste of time while there are other people out there who will give you 110% . Focusing so much on him is keeping you from finding that person who IS right for you and won't make you feel this way.
It's all about perspective and knowing you're worth better than this. You can do it! You can let go! I have faith in you! Know your worth baybay!!
+110000yeahh
Posted by champrangerPosted by IamaLibra
Can you tell me anything about me. Mine is >>>>>> Scores: Fire 5; Earth 6; Air 4; Water 8
I think you are very intuitive, but also relies on intuition a lot. I see you have Mercury and Saturn in Virgo. So I think you are good at analyzing details. But it might be that when feelings are involved, you may lose sight of the big picture and see only the individual details.click to expand
I have dreams and/or flashes of information or a "feeling". Just lastweek I went on a blind coffee date, just before I walked in to meet him I had the worst feeling that I should turn away and not meet him but I ignored it. Turns out he somehow hacked into my email then into my cellphone [was reading my texts] and on top of it ended up following me home![ i took a path which threw him off. he was driving. thank goodness or he would know where I live right now :/] I'll dream about an event and then days later it will happen. My problem is I can't differentiate between "just a dream" , a warning/ a sign or me just being paranoid. This is also why I feel so confused about this Capricorn I don't know if the feeling is to stay away or to pursue :/ How can I learn more about understanding this?
That's weird about the feelings, in a cool sort of weird. I suppose you need to listen to your gut more often.
thats wat they do when they dont like you. they cut you out so u cant come crawling back. Move ON
Posted by champranger
Also, what does his chart look like?
*** CHART REPORT **
CHART ANGLES
Ascendant 02??Sg39'55'' Midheaven 21??Vi19'57''
Co-Asc. 01??Sg28'24'' Polar Asc. 14??Cn35'20''
HOUSE CUSPS (Placidus)
1 02??Sg39'55'' 4 21??Pi19'57'' 7 02??Ge39'55'' 10 21??Vi19'57''
2 05??Cp07'46'' 5 20??Ar58'08'' 8 05??Cn07'46'' 11 20??Li58'08''
3 13??Aq58'13'' 6 13??Ta46'38'' 9 13??Le58'13'' 12 13??Sc46'38''
CHART POINTS
Point Longitude Travel Latitude Rt.Asc. Decl. Azi(0??N) Alti.
Mon 20??Le19'42'' +12??10' -03??51' 141??29' +11??03' 227??57' +47??47'
Sun 07??Cp35'26'' +01??01' -00??00' 278??15' -23??13' 096??46' -27??18'
Mer 21??Sg38'42'' R -24'46'' +03??06' 261??06' -20??04' 105??19' -13??09'
Ven 01??Cp53'33'' +01??15' -00??11' 272??03' -23??37' 101??06' -23??09'
Mar 09??Le40'37'' R -13'34'' +03??45' 133??11' +21??27' 247??33' +50??50'
Jup 00??Cn12'29'' R -08'00'' -00??14' 090??13' +23??12' 281??55' +21??35'
Sat 00??Vi15'07'' R -01'57'' +01??24' 152??50' +12??42' 213??37' +54??35'
Ura 15??Sc11'56'' +02'38'' +00??23' 222??51' -16??01' 129??47' +14??09'
Nep 16??Sg39'02'' +02'08'' +01??25' 255??39' -21??21' 109??50' -10??17'
Plu 16??Li34'09'' +00'44'' +16??59' 201??47' +09??11' 134??28' +46??37'
Chi 01??Ta11'14'' R -00'44'' -00??36' 029??15' +11??18' 319??03' -25??08'
Nod 10??Li41'30'' R -03'10'' +00??00' 189??49' -04??13' 156??52' +39??08'
Asc 02??Sg39'55'' +281??57' +00??00' 240??36' -20??41' 119??27' -00??00'
MC 21??Vi19'57'' +392??02' +00??00' 172??02' +03??26' 180??00' +49??23'
LUNAR PHASE
Angle: +222??44' Phase: Full Moon (5th of 8, and 18th of 28)
SIGN MODALITIES
Cardinal Sun Ven Jup Plu Nod
Total Points: 5 Weighted Score: 7
Fixed Mon Mar Ura Chi
Total Points: 4 Weighted Score: 6
Mutable Mer Sat Nep Asc MC
Total Points: 5 Weighted Score: 10
SIGN ELEMENTS
Fire Mon Mer Mar Nep Asc
Total Points: 5 Weighted Score: 11
Earth Sun Ven Sat Chi MC
Total Points: 5 Weighted Score: 9
Air Plu Nod
Total Points: 2 Weighted Score: 1
Water Jup Ura
Total Points: 2 Weighted Score: 2
HOUSE MODALITIES
Angular Mer Ven Jup Nep Plu Nod
Total Points: 6 Weighted Score: 7
Succedent Sun Mar Chi
Total Points: 3 Weighted Score: 5
Cadent Mon Sat Ura
Posted by champrangerPosted by IamaLibraPosted by champrangerPosted by IamaLibra
Can you tell me anything about me. Mine is >>>>>> Scores: Fire 5; Earth 6; Air 4; Water 8
I think you are very intuitive, but also relies on intuition a lot. I see you have Mercury and Saturn in Virgo. So I think you are good at analyzing details. But it might be that when feelings are involved, you may lose sight of the big picture and see only the individual details.
I have dreams and/or flashes of information or a "feeling". Just lastweek I went on a blind coffee date, just before I walked in to meet him I had the worst feeling that I should turn away and not meet him but I ignored it. Turns out he somehow hacked into my email then into my cellphone [was reading my texts] and on top of it ended up following me home![ i took a path which threw him off. he was driving. thank goodness or he would know where I live right now :/] I'll dream about an event and then days later it will happen. My problem is I can't differentiate between "just a dream" , a warning/ a sign or me just being paranoid. This is also why I feel so confused about this Capricorn I don't know if the feeling is to stay away or to pursue :/ How can I learn more about understanding this?
What does your initial gut feeling about this? That he's testing you to see if you'd wait for him?click to expand
I don't know...I have to really think about it...
Posted by cowpuncherPosted by truecap
By the way, as a cap woman, I don't believe in love at first sight. Infatuation, yes. Love, no.
Same.
Pretty sure Saturn doesn't let us do "love at first sight" - He does however make one helluva exception for "lust at first sight" though.click to expand
Cowpuncher!!!!!!!
We've missed your logical insight around here!
Posted by champranger
Mon 20??Leo 19'42''
Sun 07??Cap 35'26''
Mer 21??Sag 38'42'' R
Ven 01??Cap 53'33''
Mar 09??Leo 40'37'' R
Jup 00??Can 12'29'' R
Sat 00??Vir 15'07'' R
Ura 15??Scorp 11'56''
Nep 16??Sag 39'02''
Plu 16??Lib 34'09''
Chi 01??Tau 11'14'' R
Nod 10??Lib 41'30'' R
Asc 02??Sag 39'55''
MC 21??Vir 19'57''
Is this chart correct OP?
Yes it is correct. He has many in retrograde. I know this is rare so any additional information about him will help me. I've been researching it alot for him because he did ask me to when we first brokeup. So even though we were broken up, we communicated through emailing and he asked me to help him with this retrograde thing. He said he has always felt that he thinks backwards. He never understood why. He also brokeup with me during Mercury retrograde and sent me an email explaining retrograde from a website he found. At the very end of that email it said " ...many couples who breakup during retrograde get back together..." Why included that? Just to mess with my head I guess. So I can sit around and cry over him I guess... Which I am tonight....
He messaged and said he is dating someone new. ...I'm dying
Don't be so dramatic! You're not dying. You'll be just fine. Give yourself some time to grieve and dust yourself off.
I am sorry for your heartbreak, though.
I am sorry for your heartbreak, though.
Posted by truecap
Don't be so dramatic! You're not dying. You'll be just fine. Give yourself some time to grieve and dust yourself off.
I am sorry for your heartbreak, though.
I feel very sad is what I mean. Like it physically hurts. My stomach cramps and I lose my energy when I think about it. I am dramatic you are right lol AND you have also been right since the beginning of my thread where you first said it sounds like he's got someone new, it happens and to move on. I like every single post you have posted 🙂 Thank you for every word you have given me. I respect your advice alot.
You are welcome. Thank you for saying all that.
You are going to be fine, though. It hurts, but each day will get easier. One day at a time, sweetie.
You are going to be fine, though. It hurts, but each day will get easier. One day at a time, sweetie.
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