Virgiene
@Virgiene
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Posted by Capri-sunPosted by daron76Posted by Virgiene
The thing is in her situation (Virgiene I hope you don't mind me sharing) she ended things because he wouldn't verbally give her what she wanted (meaning define exactly what they are). The next day, he's on her doorstep.
Imo he wouldn't have done that unless he was serious. He would've just let things end at that point. If I remember correctly, he has 2 teenage kids.
So I think he is showing her the best way he knows how, and there is a disconnect in him thinking his actions speak for themselves and her understanding the way he is communicating/ emoting.
It can be difficult integrating people in your life when you have children because you want to make sure they'll be there for the long haul rather than someone who will be in & out of your child's life.
Do the children attend church with you on Sunday @Virgiene? If so then maybe he is comfortable like Daron said. If not, then I stand by what I initially posted.
I'm just not texting/ calling someone everyday for the heck of it. That's draining to me.click to expand
Posted by Capri-sunMuch appreciated Capri-sun?☺️.. you know my story very well and I don't know why until now i can't find the answers to my questions... maybe until the day he will tell me right on my face or not?..Posted by daron76Posted by VirgieneBest case scenario- he feels you are important but is still working through his feelings. He may also have other stuff he is focused on. Or he could think you are good with the way things are. Hard to say really.
My cappy guy calls every night , text me several times in a day , ccoks for me, we see each other once or twice a week but we go to church every Sunday. It is been like this for more than a year already but he doesn't say anything about the future, did not meet his friends and family yet . My question is , IN YOUR OPINION... what am I to him?
Worst case- You are comfortable. I have been guilty of staying with someone just because the situation was comfortable and reliable. Don't get me wrong, comfort and reliability are very important. But there needs to be that spark. Without that spark, I'm just wasting your time and mine.
The thing is in her situation (Virgiene I hope you don't mind me sharing) she ended things because he wouldn't verbally give her what she wanted (meaning define exactly what they are). The next day, he's on her doorstep.
Imo he wouldn't have done that unless he was serious. He would've just let things end at that point. If I remember correctly, he has 2 teenage kids.
So I think he is showing her the best way he knows how, and there is a disconnect in him thinking his actions speak for themselves and her understanding the way he is communicating/ emoting.
It can be difficult integrating people in your life when you have children because you want to make sure they'll be there for the long haul rather than someone who will be in & out of your child's life.
Do the children attend church with you on Sunday @Virgiene? If so then maybe he is comfortable like Daron said. If not, then I stand by what I initially posted.
I'm just not texting/ calling someone everyday for the heck of it. That's draining to me.click to expand

Posted by Capri-sundo you like or dislike women to chase?
Sorry if I'm asking too many questions, I'm just trying to cover what seems to get asked the most.
Posted by daron76Yasssss!Posted by Capri-sunI actually don't have one. I just trough on my old school mix with El Debarge, Jodeci, Toni, Tony Tone etc.
What are the top 3-5 songs on your sex playlist?click to expand

Posted by daron76
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo. 🙂


Posted by Capri-sunHe also doesn't like walls, floor, home, ceiling...he is lazy period!Posted by GemitatiNo offense. He doesn't love you. Imo he checked out a long time ago. Far from lazy in bed when truly interested.
Why are so lazy! Bed included...click to expand

Posted by CAPRILICIOUSDo you guys only go for pretty girls? How important are looks to you?Posted by daron76Do you guys only go for pretty girls? How important are looks to you?
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo. 🙂
If the girl is more educated and knowledgeable than you...would that be intimidating?click to expand
Posted by GemitatiI think gem is trolling. lolPosted by Capri-sunHe also doesn't like walls, floor, home, ceiling...he is lazy period!Posted by GemitatiNo offense. He doesn't love you. Imo he checked out a long time ago. Far from lazy in bed when truly interested.
Why are so lazy! Bed included...
He loves TV but I don't see him having sex with it...click to expand

Posted by Capri-sunPosted by GemitatiNo offense. He doesn't love you. Imo he checked out a long time ago. Far from lazy in bed when truly interested.
Why are so lazy! Bed included...click to expand


Posted by Capri-sunIt's been a while...I don't remember!Posted by GemitatiPosted by Capri-sunHe also doesn't like walls, floor, home, ceiling...he is lazy period!Posted by GemitatiNo offense. He doesn't love you. Imo he checked out a long time ago. Far from lazy in bed when truly interested.
Why are so lazy! Bed included...
He loves TV but I don't see him having sex with it...
Why'd you marry a lazy man if you don't like lazy?
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Posted by lisabethur8I didn't know if I did...Posted by GemitatiI think gem is trolling. lolPosted by Capri-sunHe also doesn't like walls, floor, home, ceiling...he is lazy period!Posted by GemitatiNo offense. He doesn't love you. Imo he checked out a long time ago. Far from lazy in bed when truly interested.
Why are so lazy! Bed included...
He loves TV but I don't see him having sex with it...click to expand

Posted by SamCancerGirlHelp him, if you know how. If not, just be supportive and try to keep him engaged in something fun. Don't harp on about him being in a bad mood. You only need to tell us something once.
If a cap guy is feeling pessimistic about the future and want to change jobs what can the other person do cheer you up?

Posted by Capri-sunYes, thank you @capr-sunPosted by SamCancerGirl
What's the best way to get your attention after a disagreement?
If your mind is made up - what can someone do to seduce you into changing it?
I think daron touched on this one from his perspective, get physically close, touching, kissing, etc.
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Posted by KryssieshanelleJust conversing-- see the comment where he tells you that YOU aren't ready for a relationship. That's called projecting. Cause honestly, he doesn't known what the hell you are or are not ready for. Don't fall for that BS. Why do I say that? I did that more than once in my younger days. I now know that is manipulative and an all around asshat thing to do to someone.
What if u started off as a FWB with a cap and now ur talking about the future. Conversations about whether or not y'all would be a good match for each other. What they find attractive about u. Expectations when in a relationship. I'm asking him questions and he's answering and engaging with no hesitation. He also flat out said he thinks we would be good together but thinks that because I'm very opinionated that it may be a problem. He also "TOLD me I'm not ready for a relationship because I have too much going on. What does all this mean? Is he interested or just conversating?

Posted by KryssieshanelleDo you really want to date someone who can't handle the fact that you have your own opinions? Think about that...Posted by daron76Posted by Kryssieshanelle
He also flat out said he thinks we would be good together but thinks that because I'm very opinionated that it may be a problem.
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Posted by Capri-sunIdeal timeline for sex?
Ideal timeline for sex? Does sex too soon remove a woman from serious romantic potential?
Are cap men loyal (faithful) when in a committed relationship?


Posted by pinkbird03Sorry about that!!!
Have you ever been mildly depressed? How did you overcome this?

Posted by daron76No problem and thank you!! Can anyone help you overcome it? How can they help?Posted by pinkbird03Sorry about that!!!
Have you ever been mildly depressed? How did you overcome this?
Have you ever been mildly depressed? How did you overcome this?
Yes, I have. What pulls me out of it is to make a plan to solve what ever problem is causing my depression. Then I cut out all distractions a focus on it until I have accomplished some measure of success. This does two things, keeps my mind of why I am depressed (and all those nasty thoughts) and gets me moving forward.click to expand

Posted by pinkbird03Can anyone help you overcome it? How can they help?Posted by daron76No problem and thank you!! Can anyone help you overcome it? How can they help?Posted by pinkbird03
Also an unrelated question. Do you ever lie? What would make you lie? Or do you only say things that you mean? Are you generally honest?click to expand

Posted by daron76lol I have too many questions every day! I feel like my relationship is constantly changing and slowly growing one way or another.Posted by pinkbird03Can anyone help you overcome it? How can they help?Posted by daron76No problem and thank you!! Can anyone help you overcome it? How can they help?Posted by pinkbird03
Also an unrelated question. Do you ever lie? What would make you lie? Or do you only say things that you mean? Are you generally honest?
Yes, if I'm luck enough to have a supportive and understanding GF, then she could immensely helpful. Just be there, your presence is enough to keep my spirits up.
Also an unrelated question. Do you ever lie? What would make you lie? Or do you only say things that you mean? Are you generally honest?
Lol, Loaded question eh? Yes of course I have, still do occasionally. Don't we all?!?! I guess you mean lie to my GF? Ummm I try not to. I guess the times it happens most is when I am trying to avoid an argument that I have no interest in having.click to expand

Posted by Capri-sunHow do cap men feel about cap women?
How do cap men feel about cap women? Is it a sisterly connection? Do you feel you understand and can relate and read them easily? Is it like talking to yourself?

Posted by HarukkaSure they would. Some of us are horrible people. I don't thing there is anything in our personality type that makes us prone to it, if that is what you mean.
Would a cap steal money from someone for any reason ?


Posted by pinkbird03lol I honestly don't know. I have had only 1 lady (that I know of ) actually go crazy over me... and that's because she was already pretty crazy to begin with. I guess its cause there are great rewards for those willing to put in the work (and, lets be honest-- the wait) to get it?!?!? I dunno. The ladies should answer this one 🙂
Here's a great question!! Why do girls go crazy over cap men?

Posted by daron76Definitely the wait and the chase. The desire becomes stronger and stronger.Posted by pinkbird03lol I honestly don't know. I have had only 1 lady (that I know of ) actually go crazy over me... and that's because she was already pretty crazy to begin with. I guess its cause there are great rewards for those willing to put in the work (and, lets be honest-- the wait) to get it?!?!? I dunno. The ladies should answer this one 🙂
Here's a great question!! Why do girls go crazy over cap men?click to expand

Posted by CAPRILICIOUSFrom my experience I find that there's a connection between cap me and a cap girl instantly but I never feel like it's anything more than a friendship. For whatever reason I see them as a big sister even when they are younger. I used to know two chicks one was older than I was and the other younger, they were cousins, and it was an instant connection with both. I would hang out with each one individually and we would talk for hours but once again I never felt it was romantic between us or even lust. There's this high respect for one another. I guess you can look at it like a brother sister relationship. Maybe that's just me but most if not all the cap girls I've met have been just friends. As far as is it like talking to myself no never, people differ greatly in what they like and don't like.Posted by Capri-sunLol. I'm waiting to hear about this one.
How do cap men feel about cap women? Is it a sisterly connection? Do you feel you understand and can relate and read them easily? Is it like talking to yourself?click to expand
Posted by daron76Do Capricorn moons ever lie?
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo. 🙂

Posted by Capri-sunI feel addicted now. Without the loyalty, commitment, and stability.Posted by pinkbird03Not sure. My best guess... loyalty, commitment, stability, we're unique in general.
Here's a great question!! Why do girls go crazy over cap men?click to expand

Posted by CAPRILICIOUSHaha that's awesome. We are huge flirts, I think caps live in extremes we either go all in or are sluggish as hell. It seems your dude is the all in type, I'm surprised you don't feel he came on strong.Posted by DeceNixieThanks Dixie! I'm my experience cap men usually come on too strong...the third decan caps. I recently decided to give one cap a chance. I must say he's very creative with words. Lol.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSFrom my experience I find that there's a connection between cap me and a cap girl instantly but I never feel like it's anything more than a friendship. For whatever reason I see them as a big sister even when they are younger. I used to know two chicks one was older than I was and the other younger, they were cousins, and it was an instant connection with both. I would hang out with each one individually and we would talk for hours but once again I never felt it was romantic between us or even lust. There's this high respect for one another. I guess you can look at it like a brother sister relationship. Maybe that's just me but most if not all the cap girls I've met have been just friends. As far as is it like talking to myself no never, people differ greatly in what they like and don't like.Posted by Capri-sunLol. I'm waiting to hear about this one.
How do cap men feel about cap women? Is it a sisterly connection? Do you feel you understand and can relate and read them easily? Is it like talking to yourself?
He's called me beautiful, pretty lady, future wife, princess...all in just a few weeks of knowing me. I thought he was just a flirt until a mutual friend told me how obsessed he is with me.
I'm definitely enjoying the attention. He's refined, good looking, successful, mature. Our interests are similar too. I think you can tell I'm happy. Lol.click to expand

Posted by Capri-sunPosted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunI feel addicted now. Without the loyalty, commitment, and stability.Posted by pinkbird03Not sure. My best guess... loyalty, commitment, stability, we're unique in general.
Here's a great question!! Why do girls go crazy over cap men?
1. Because he's your opposite
2. Because we're different
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Posted by Capri-sunThat will make me addicted? This feeling is getting stronger. Doesn't matter if I distance myself or not.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunPosted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunI feel addicted now. Without the loyalty, commitment, and stability.Posted by pinkbird03Not sure. My best guess... loyalty, commitment, stability, we're unique in general.
Here's a great question!! Why do girls go crazy over cap men?
1. Because he's your opposite
2. Because we're different
Opposite?
Cancer - Capricorn axis. Opposite zodiac signs
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Posted by JumpingpancakeYes. Very much so. Its cute for like 5 minutes lol
Is it a turn off if your significant other acts needy?
Posted by Capri-sunCaps are addicted to cancer ladies.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunI feel addicted now. Without the loyalty, commitment, and stability.Posted by pinkbird03Not sure. My best guess... loyalty, commitment, stability, we're unique in general.
Here's a great question!! Why do girls go crazy over cap men?
1. Because he's your opposite
2. Because we're different
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Posted by Capri-sunHopefully! Do you think he knows what he's doing to me?Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunThat will make me addicted? This feeling is getting stronger. Doesn't matter if I distance myself or not.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunPosted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunI feel addicted now. Without the loyalty, commitment, and stability.Posted by pinkbird03Not sure. My best guess... loyalty, commitment, stability, we're unique in general.
Here's a great question!! Why do girls go crazy over cap men?
1. Because he's your opposite
2. Because we're different
Opposite?
Cancer - Capricorn axis. Opposite zodiac signs
I have no idea...I tease my sexual partners with that..."you'll get addicted" 😆 😛
Hopefully he'll come around for you and it will be a good addiction for you both 🙂
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Posted by Capri-sunAquarius. We've gotten closer. Better communication. Talked about doing a variety of things together sometime soon, but haven't done any of it yet.
@pinkbird03 where'd you say his venus is again?

Posted by Capri-sunMaybe. I sense mixed signals. I don't want to get my hopes high. All I know is i need to find a way to control myself. Control my addiction and control this feeling that's inside me lately.Posted by pinkbird03I hear they like their lovers to develop from friendship so I think you're on the right track.Posted by Capri-sunAquarius. We've gotten closer. Better communication. Talked about doing a variety of things together sometime soon, but haven't done any of it yet.
@pinkbird03 where'd you say his venus is again?click to expand


Posted by JumpingpancakePuzzle is a good way to describe them!! Seems positive! Do you know what he's afraid of?Posted by pinkbird03Oh what can I say about my cappy man. He's a great boyfriend but he's also a puzzle I can't solve. We have a bit of a history where he has hurt me but I've forgiven him for it. We're starting over and he keeps talking future plans with me which from what I understand, it means he wants to have a serious relationship with me. That's what I want too. I like him a lot and from what I can tell he does too. I just worry about him going cold on me again or pushing me away because he's scared of how he feels for me (his words). I definitely see a thriving future together. I'm crazy for that cappy. Lol.
@jumpingpancake how's your relationship?click to expand

Posted by Jumpingpancake1) having to repeat myself/ asking me questions I just answered (in the hopes that I will change my answer)
Yes! Capricorn pet peeves, please?
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