Well it seems like everything is good. The only problem I see is that u got under his skin about something. That's not too bad! Sounds like an easy fix 🙂
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Posted by CAPRILICIOUSIf he's playful i recommend teasing him, let him make his move but downplay it at times. nothing makes us work harder and keeps us on our toes than not knowing if we have you or not. Just be careful not to burn him out to much don't be too cruel haha.Posted by DeceNixieI did think he was coming on too strong. But, he does it in a very cute manner. So I let him go on. Lol.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSHaha that's awesome. We are huge flirts, I think caps live in extremes we either go all in or are sluggish as hell. It seems your dude is the all in type, I'm surprised you don't feel he came on strong.Posted by DeceNixieThanks Dixie! I'm my experience cap men usually come on too strong...the third decan caps. I recently decided to give one cap a chance. I must say he's very creative with words. Lol.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSFrom my experience I find that there's a connection between cap me and a cap girl instantly but I never feel like it's anything more than a friendship. For whatever reason I see them as a big sister even when they are younger. I used to know two chicks one was older than I was and the other younger, they were cousins, and it was an instant connection with both. I would hang out with each one individually and we would talk for hours but once again I never felt it was romantic between us or even lust. There's this high respect for one another. I guess you can look at it like a brother sister relationship. Maybe that's just me but most if not all the cap girls I've met have been just friends. As far as is it like talking to myself no never, people differ greatly in what they like and don't like.Posted by Capri-sunLol. I'm waiting to hear about this one.
How do cap men feel about cap women? Is it a sisterly connection? Do you feel you understand and can relate and read them easily? Is it like talking to yourself?
He's called me beautiful, pretty lady, future wife, princess...all in just a few weeks of knowing me. I thought he was just a flirt until a mutual friend told me how obsessed he is with me.
I'm definitely enjoying the attention. He's refined, good looking, successful, mature. Our interests are similar too. I think you can tell I'm happy. Lol.
In any case keep him on his toes that way you'll keep getting that attention you're likeing 😄.
He's a dreamboat! ?
Keeping him on his toes? Any suggestions? 😄
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What does it mean when you use affectionate names with friends? And why do you do it?
I have a male Cap I've been best friends with for 10+ years and since I've known him he's called me, love, dear, sweetie. But this has caused rifts for both of us when we were in relationships because my ex found it disrespectful while I thought nothing of it and his ex became very jealous and accusatory especially when the term 'love' was thrown around. Both situations understandable from our exes perspectives. I've asked him to not call me that out of respect for my ex, but once in awhile it would slip out.
I have a male Cap I've been best friends with for 10+ years and since I've known him he's called me, love, dear, sweetie. But this has caused rifts for both of us when we were in relationships because my ex found it disrespectful while I thought nothing of it and his ex became very jealous and accusatory especially when the term 'love' was thrown around. Both situations understandable from our exes perspectives. I've asked him to not call me that out of respect for my ex, but once in awhile it would slip out.
Posted by JumpingpancakeAre you patient? I think I have a lot of patience. I hardly experience any sort of dramatic outbursts unless I'm super drunk and emotional. I think the reason why is I take a lot of medicine for glaucoma. It was wonderful side affects- reduces anxiety, blocks adrenaline, lowers blood pressure. I think this is very helpful towards my relationships, especially my current one.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by JumpingpancakeWell it seems like everything is good. The only problem I see is that u got under his skin about something. That's not too bad! Sounds like an easy fix 🙂Posted by pinkbird03I think it's the connection we have, we have this insane chemistry. It's not infatuation or lust but an actual understanding of one another, we can finish each other sentences and just know what the other is trying to say without much effort. He's told me that I got under his skin, pretty bad and from what I understand that's a big no no. But I think it's mostly because his ex totally screwed him over psychologically, she was so manipulative with him. We're taking things slow but the sexual chemistry is also insane. TMI, I know. Lol.Posted by JumpingpancakePuzzle is a good way to describe them!! Seems positive! Do you know what he's afraid of?Posted by pinkbird03Oh what can I say about my cappy man. He's a great boyfriend but he's also a puzzle I can't solve. We have a bit of a history where he has hurt me but I've forgiven him for it. We're starting over and he keeps talking future plans with me which from what I understand, it means he wants to have a serious relationship with me. That's what I want too. I like him a lot and from what I can tell he does too. I just worry about him going cold on me again or pushing me away because he's scared of how he feels for me (his words). I definitely see a thriving future together. I'm crazy for that cappy. Lol.
@jumpingpancake how's your relationship?
Yes, so far so good. I hope things get better with your cappy man. You have to have a lot of patience to deal with these men but in the end it's worth it. 🙂
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How long have you been dating your man?
how do we cheer you up?
Is it true you put ideas into people's heads to see what they do with it?
Posted by Capri-sunNoPosted by bricklemark
Is it true you put ideas into people's heads to see what they do with it?
Will you give an example?
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Posted by Capri-sunLMFAO!!! Nice one Queen CapriPosted by bricklemarkPosted by Capri-sunNoPosted by bricklemark
Is it true you put ideas into people's heads to see what they do with it?
Will you give an example?
Then there's your answer
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Posted by KryssieshanelleHmmm may I ask why you think he doesn't want a relationship with you?Posted by Capri-sunLike how he sees his life in the future. Marriage, kids, job. Making statements like "u would be responsible for the indoor chores, I would handle the outdoor chores". I asked him if he likes dogs and I said if WE get a dog I promise I won't let it get in the bed with us, his reply was good because I'd hate to come home and get in OUR bed and have to move the dog out my way. But we talked about the roles we each would play if married, how finances and bills would be paid, out expectations from each other. We covered everything.Posted by Kryssieshanelle
Why would a cap man talk about the future with someone if they don't want a relationship with them?
Define talking about the future please
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Sounds like you two have everything but titles...
Posted by VirgoreanUmm I wouldn't do that for the exact reason of avoiding what transpired between you two. This violates boundaries in a way I could not accept. My s/o is placed on high- all by herself. No one gets treatment even close to resembling how I treat her. Why? I want it to be clear to her that she comes before all others- I never want her to question where she stands with me.
What does it mean when you use affectionate names with friends? And why do you do it?
I have a male Cap I've been best friends with for 10+ years and since I've known him he's called me, love, dear, sweetie. But this has caused rifts for both of us when we were in relationships because my ex found it disrespectful while I thought nothing of it and his ex became very jealous and accusatory especially when the term 'love' was thrown around. Both situations understandable from our exes perspectives. I've asked him to not call me that out of respect for my ex, but once in awhile it would slip out.
So, I couldn't tell you what he is up to here. I can't relate to this one.
Posted by daron76It's easy to figure out what l meant, unless you don't know certain words, like idea, head, or people.Posted by Capri-sunLMFAO!!! Nice one Queen CapriPosted by bricklemarkPosted by Capri-sunNoPosted by bricklemark
Is it true you put ideas into people's heads to see what they do with it?
Will you give an example?
Then there's your answer
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Posted by bricklemarkFine. I'll be game. I only do it when there is an advantage to doing so-- i.e. the person I am dealing with only likes to approve of ideas they come up with. So I'll give them my idea in passing and then bring it up again later as "remember that great idea YOU had last time we spoke?"Posted by daron76It's easy to figure out what l meant, unless you don't know certain words, like idea, head, or people.Posted by Capri-sunLMFAO!!! Nice one Queen CapriPosted by bricklemarkPosted by Capri-sunNoPosted by bricklemark
Is it true you put ideas into people's heads to see what they do with it?
Will you give an example?
Then there's your answer
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Outside if that, no. I am not a Jedi and, sadly, therefore do not know any Jedi mind tricks.
@daron76
Oh so the issue was never "what are you talking about" it was in fact "stop pointing out how l'm a manipulative p.o.s. Wow it's worse than l thought ??
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Oh so the issue was never "what are you talking about" it was in fact "stop pointing out how l'm a manipulative p.o.s. Wow it's worse than l thought ??
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Posted by KryssieshanelleAhhh yes, the projector. First, the why is always difficult- people have never needed logic and reason to make a decision-- so applying it after the fact will not always make things add up. Second, having said that, either he was just engaging in a fantasy (we day dream too) or he was laying out something he has thought about. Both of which mean far less than any action or sacrifices he is making to do/plan/ accomplish things with you. Men are known to speak with their actions- according to astrology- Capricorn men even more so. So if you have words + no action, then you have= 0.Posted by daron76Because when we talked about relationships in general, he made the comment about me not being ready even tho I clearly told him I was. That's also when he made the comment about how me being very opinionated may be a problem but after further talking, he actually meant my stubbornness maybe a problem because he's also very stubborn.Posted by KryssieshanellePosted by Capri-sunPosted by Kryssieshanelle
Why would a cap man talk about the future with someone if they don't want a relationship with them?
Define talking about the future please
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Further, please understand there are likely two people contributing to your anxiety about this situation-- him (who's actions you cannot control) and you (who, hopefully, you have a great deal of control over). I would suggest, and yes- this is advice I myself am still trying to digest, that you stop over analyzing the situation and enjoy the moment. Because, despite all that is said and done, you are not promised one more moment with him (although I hope you have as many as your heart desires). Better, then, to immerse yourself in it and enjoy it. Stick to focusing on the things you can actually control. Accept the things you cannot. This may not give you a better understanding of his behavior, but it should allow you to be able to see what he is actually offering to you- and dealing with that accordingly. Rather than assuming what he may or may not also be trying to say.
I truly wish you two the best. 🙂
Posted by bricklemarkNo, the issue was that this question was clearly nonsensical. Another issue was that I was naïve enough to think that maybe there was some genuine intent behind your question and, if I have gave an honest answer, that maybe your query would be satisfied. Clearly I was mistaken.
@daron76
Oh so the issue was never "what are you talking about" it was in fact "stop pointing out how l'm a manipulative p.o.s. Wow it's worse than l thought ??
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So I ask you ever so kindly, Mr. Troll, please GTFOH.
Good day sir.
Posted by Capri-sunYeesh... more like the most embarrassing one I am willing to share lol! Waking up in a bath tub cause I got too drunk. Basically I passed out in the bathroom at a club. Security tossed me out on the curb. My GF at the time, had to pick me up and put me in cab to get me home. She then some how carried me up stairs, undressed me and put me in the bath tub.
Most embarrassing moment?
Posted by Capri-sun6 years... with an Aries. So thankful for that relationship, I learned and grew a lot.
Longest relationship?
Posted by Capri-sunWhat does "ldr" mean?
Cap men in ldr yes? No? Maybe?
Is race an issue in your relationships?
Also if you've only ever talked to someone over the internet, what are some signs that you're interested?
If you do ask someone to come hang out with you and your friends is that a "hey I want you to meet my friends" or more of a "me and my friends are already hanging out but I want you to come"
Why do you disappear and reappear?
How do you handle being ignored?
Why are you guys so sexy and well dressed? Omfg
Also if you've only ever talked to someone over the internet, what are some signs that you're interested?
If you do ask someone to come hang out with you and your friends is that a "hey I want you to meet my friends" or more of a "me and my friends are already hanging out but I want you to come"
Why do you disappear and reappear?
How do you handle being ignored?
Why are you guys so sexy and well dressed? Omfg
Posted by Capri-sunLolol just trying to cover the questions me and my gfs have ever wondered ?Posted by yyynm
Is race an issue in your relationships?
Also if you've only ever talked to someone over the internet, what are some signs that you're interested?
If you do ask someone to come hang out with you and your friends is that a "hey I want you to meet my friends" or more of a "me and my friends are already hanging out but I want you to come"
Why do you disappear and reappear?
How do you handle being ignored?
Why are you guys so sexy and well dressed? Omfg
Breathe...lol j/k 🙂
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Posted by Capri-sunUmm if its going to be brief... say roughly a year or less (and we are already in love) then it should be fine. Other than that, no. But what if she has to move away for work?- Then we will have to figure that shit out but long distance is not the answer lol.Posted by daron76Posted by Capri-sunWhat does "ldr" mean?
Cap men in ldr yes? No? Maybe?
Long distance relationship
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Capricorn man with libra moon and Venus in Scorpio personality and how they view partners?
Posted by yyynmIs race an issue in your relationships?
Regardless of race, I have to be attracted to you. If I am attracted to you, then your race won't matter to me.
Also if you've only ever talked to someone over the internet, what are some signs that you're interested?
No, I haven't. If we aren't going to ever meet in person then I don't see the point. Can't make love to a pen-pal ya know.
If you do ask someone to come hang out with you and your friends is that a "hey I want you to meet my friends" or more of a "me and my friends are already hanging out but I want you to come"
Distinction without a difference, think about it.
Why do you disappear and reappear?
Asked and answered. But quickly- disappear usually results from either a personal issue or something you did. Reappearance is usually either due to nostalgia, curiosity or love (or some combination thereof)
How do you handle being ignored?
LOL see the question in re disappearance
Why are you guys so sexy and well dressed? Omfg
I dunno. But I did take to heart a lesson my grandfather said to me "Every time you leave the house look your best. You never know who you're going to meet."
I've heard that Capricorns are so ambitious and hard working but the men I've met have missed the memo. I'm a Taurus and I keep hearing that cap is my perfect mate. How do I weed out a good one? Personally I was with one for 3 years before I realized he was a little boy in search of someone to take care of him. He lost his dream job because "his boss didn't like him" and lost three jobs after that for similar reasons. Made decent money (way more than me) but wanted to split our expenses evenly or 100% me (i.e. Splitting was the compromise). Liked to be "little spooned" too often (not a turn on for me) and generally just depended on me too much for direction. Is he the "other cap" or are the men so much diff than the woman? (I'm not dating by signs but I want a little direction)
Posted by Capri-sunWell, I want to be completely honest here, so here it goes. I thought I wanted to marry her. I thought if we could get past our issues, we would be together forever. Yet, in focusing on fixing the obvious, I never stopped to think about whether I was really ready for that and whether she was the right person. My mind and my heart said yes. My gut said no.Posted by daron76Posted by Capri-sun6 years... with an Aries. So thankful for that relationship, I learned and grew a lot.
Longest relationship?
Okay so serious question because I've always wondered this...how do you date someone that long without say...getting married? I've heard people doing 10, 13, plus years...any insight?
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The ease and comfort that comes from being together makes it hard to get to the bottom of things like that. And then, when you finally do, you are forced with the reality that you are literally going to have to give up a part of yourself (this relationship- which has been your existence for years) to go forward. It's a scary thought. I balked at it and stayed a few times, as did she.
But, eventually, there comes a point where you can no longer hide from what is to come.
Some people can exist this way for decades, some only a few months. I couldn't begin to tell you why.
Posted by DiddybopAs you pointed out, you dated a boy. Only thing I can suggest is that you do try to stay away from the children lol.
I've heard that Capricorns are so ambitious and hard working but the men I've met have missed the memo. I'm a Taurus and I keep hearing that cap is my perfect mate. How do I weed out a good one? Personally I was with one for 3 years before I realized he was a little boy in search of someone to take care of him. He lost his dream job because "his boss didn't like him" and lost three jobs after that for similar reasons. Made decent money (way more than me) but wanted to split our expenses evenly or 100% me (i.e. Splitting was the compromise). Liked to be "little spooned" too often (not a turn on for me) and generally just depended on me too much for direction. Is he the "other cap" or are the men so much diff than the woman? (I'm not dating by signs but I want a little direction)
In all seriousness though, typically we get better with age (IF we have worked on our personal issues). So shoot for Cappy's that are a little older than you. Also, I'm not convinced Cap and Taurus is actually a good match imho.
Posted by daron76Well he's 34 and I'm 29 so he was a little older and shlda been ready. Sometimes I think it was the fear of success but most times I think he was just soooo lazy. But I'm not convinced of the cap Taurus combo either. All the guys I meet seem a little too weak for me; I'm strong but prefer a dominant man (Scorpio, sag and Virgo men seem pretty dominating but not an easy going relationship like a cap). Any advice?Posted by DiddybopAs you pointed out, you dated a boy. Only thing I can suggest is that you do try to stay away from the children lol.
I've heard that Capricorns are so ambitious and hard working but the men I've met have missed the memo. I'm a Taurus and I keep hearing that cap is my perfect mate. How do I weed out a good one? Personally I was with one for 3 years before I realized he was a little boy in search of someone to take care of him. He lost his dream job because "his boss didn't like him" and lost three jobs after that for similar reasons. Made decent money (way more than me) but wanted to split our expenses evenly or 100% me (i.e. Splitting was the compromise). Liked to be "little spooned" too often (not a turn on for me) and generally just depended on me too much for direction. Is he the "other cap" or are the men so much diff than the woman? (I'm not dating by signs but I want a little direction)
In all seriousness though, typically we get better with age (IF we have worked on our personal issues). So shoot for Cappy's that are a little older than you. Also, I'm not convinced Cap and Taurus is actually a good match imho.click to expand
Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Well he's 34 and I'm 29 so he was a little older and shlda been ready. Sometimes I think it was the fear of success but most times I think he was just soooo lazy. But I'm not convinced of the cap Taurus combo either. All the guys I meet seem a little too weak for me; I'm strong but prefer a dominant man (Scorpio, sag and Virgo men seem pretty dominating but not an easy going relationship like a cap). Any advice?Posted by DiddybopAs you pointed out, you dated a boy. Only thing I can suggest is that you do try to stay away from the children lol.
I've heard that Capricorns are so ambitious and hard working but the men I've met have missed the memo. I'm a Taurus and I keep hearing that cap is my perfect mate. How do I weed out a good one? Personally I was with one for 3 years before I realized he was a little boy in search of someone to take care of him. He lost his dream job because "his boss didn't like him" and lost three jobs after that for similar reasons. Made decent money (way more than me) but wanted to split our expenses evenly or 100% me (i.e. Splitting was the compromise). Liked to be "little spooned" too often (not a turn on for me) and generally just depended on me too much for direction. Is he the "other cap" or are the men so much diff than the woman? (I'm not dating by signs but I want a little direction)
In all seriousness though, typically we get better with age (IF we have worked on our personal issues). So shoot for Cappy's that are a little older than you. Also, I'm not convinced Cap and Taurus is actually a good match imho.
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Not really, I have never been referred to as "weak" lol. Also, I'm not sure what you are looking for a guy to do.. do you want to get bossed around? put in your place? choked during sex? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't like the first two-- at least not for long.
Posted by daron76Lol no nothing like that... I like a man who knows how to make a plan and execute it and doesn't need lots of prodding or motivation. Being ambitious and good with his hands is also a turn on. With the Capricorns I know, they only know how to get what they want but not really how to be effective in a large scale. I always had to plan the details and I didn't know if he was just lazy or if he didn't think of them.Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Well he's 34 and I'm 29 so he was a little older and shlda been ready. Sometimes I think it was the fear of success but most times I think he was just soooo lazy. But I'm not convinced of the cap Taurus combo either. All the guys I meet seem a little too weak for me; I'm strong but prefer a dominant man (Scorpio, sag and Virgo men seem pretty dominating but not an easy going relationship like a cap). Any advice?Posted by DiddybopAs you pointed out, you dated a boy. Only thing I can suggest is that you do try to stay away from the children lol.
I've heard that Capricorns are so ambitious and hard working but the men I've met have missed the memo. I'm a Taurus and I keep hearing that cap is my perfect mate. How do I weed out a good one? Personally I was with one for 3 years before I realized he was a little boy in search of someone to take care of him. He lost his dream job because "his boss didn't like him" and lost three jobs after that for similar reasons. Made decent money (way more than me) but wanted to split our expenses evenly or 100% me (i.e. Splitting was the compromise). Liked to be "little spooned" too often (not a turn on for me) and generally just depended on me too much for direction. Is he the "other cap" or are the men so much diff than the woman? (I'm not dating by signs but I want a little direction)
In all seriousness though, typically we get better with age (IF we have worked on our personal issues). So shoot for Cappy's that are a little older than you. Also, I'm not convinced Cap and Taurus is actually a good match imho.
Not really, I have never been referred to as "weak" lol. Also, I'm not sure what you are looking for a guy to do.. do you want to get bossed around? put in your place? choked during sex? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't like the first two-- at least not for long.click to expand
Posted by DiddybopYou want a guy to make a plan and execute--but then follow that by criticizing him for "only getting what he wants". Not sure what you thought his plan was supposed to accomplish... someone else's' goals? And what larger scale is there than accomplishing the objective you intended? The extra birds you kill with that stone are a bonus. Maybe you mean he just didn't dream big enough for you? Careful with setting your standards so high, they can easily wind up so far away that you don't really know what they are.Posted by daron76Lol no nothing like that... I like a man who knows how to make a plan and execute it and doesn't need lots of prodding or motivation. Being ambitious and good with his hands is also a turn on. With the Capricorns I know, they only know how to get what they want but not really how to be effective in a large scale. I always had to plan the details and I didn't know if he was just lazy or if he didn't think of them.Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Posted by Diddybop
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As far as being good with his hands and lacking ambition. Sorry if you found a dud. I wouldn't write off a whole sign cause you had bad luck. Remember that, while your sample size is all you know, it is also very small. 🙂
Posted by JumpingpancakeThat's sweet!! Sometimes I miss having a relationship like that. Where you both fall in love quickly and have that wonderful honeymoon phase. That's all I ever had until now. I must admit though, I like the slowness of my current relationship. It's growing at a speed that gives me time to appreciate the little things.Posted by pinkbird03Yes, I'm very patient! If you've ever heard of the patient and loyal to a fault bull that's me. I'm a patient and calm person anyway, I don't see myself ever having a knock down drag out fight with him because that's not either of us. We aren't heavily emotional people, I guess that's a good thing. Lol.Posted by JumpingpancakeAre you patient? I think I have a lot of patience. I hardly experience any sort of dramatic outbursts unless I'm super drunk and emotional. I think the reason why is I take a lot of medicine for glaucoma. It was wonderful side affects- reduces anxiety, blocks adrenaline, lowers blood pressure. I think this is very helpful towards my relationships, especially my current one.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by JumpingpancakeWell it seems like everything is good. The only problem I see is that u got under his skin about something. That's not too bad! Sounds like an easy fix 🙂Posted by pinkbird03I think it's the connection we have, we have this insane chemistry. It's not infatuation or lust but an actual understanding of one another, we can finish each other sentences and just know what the other is trying to say without much effort. He's told me that I got under his skin, pretty bad and from what I understand that's a big no no. But I think it's mostly because his ex totally screwed him over psychologically, she was so manipulative with him. We're taking things slow but the sexual chemistry is also insane. TMI, I know. Lol.Posted by JumpingpancakePuzzle is a good way to describe them!! Seems positive! Do you know what he's afraid of?Posted by pinkbird03Oh what can I say about my cappy man. He's a great boyfriend but he's also a puzzle I can't solve. We have a bit of a history where he has hurt me but I've forgiven him for it. We're starting over and he keeps talking future plans with me which from what I understand, it means he wants to have a serious relationship with me. That's what I want too. I like him a lot and from what I can tell he does too. I just worry about him going cold on me again or pushing me away because he's scared of how he feels for me (his words). I definitely see a thriving future together. I'm crazy for that cappy. Lol.
@jumpingpancake how's your relationship?
Yes, so far so good. I hope things get better with your cappy man. You have to have a lot of patience to deal with these men but in the end it's worth it. 🙂
How long have you been dating your man?
I've only been dating him for about 3 months. So, it's still new but I feel like I've known him forever.
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Posted by daron76Well I think a good plan should benefit everyone involved not just one person - that's what I admire in a leader and what I like in a man. I guess accomplishing your goal is what I'm looking for but I think the goal should be a bit broader than my capricorn's was. To give you an example in our romantic life - he once really wanted to stay at the penthouse of a really nice hotel and for Valentine's Day he booked us a weekend in this room. It cost him everything he had for the room which meant he had no money to cover meals, drinks, or even a gift for me. I was a student with barely anything which meant we had a weekend of dominos pizza and a couple beers which is all I could afford (plus his gift). It'd make more sense if we were in a LDR or something but we were about an hour from our home smh. Maybe someone might have enjoyed "the thought" but all I kept thinking was that he was either 1) incredibly stupid or 2) incredibly selfish (he wanted sex with that view in the PH). A few years with him and I learned that he was very intelligent but also very selfish. He wasn't a bad guy but I eventually I felt like his mom always reminding him to see the big picture. I guess thats why I associate him with being weak cuz I def don't enjoy that mom role with a man. Weak might not be the right word... I gotta think about it... 🙂Posted by DiddybopYou want a guy to make a plan and execute--but then follow that by criticizing him for "only getting what he wants". Not sure what you thought his plan was supposed to accomplish... someone else's' goals? And what larger scale is there than accomplishing the objective you intended? The extra birds you kill with that stone are a bonus. Maybe you mean he just didn't dream big enough for you? Careful with setting your standards so high, they can easily wind up so far away that you don't really know what they are.Posted by daron76Lol no nothing like that... I like a man who knows how to make a plan and execute it and doesn't need lots of prodding or motivation. Being ambitious and good with his hands is also a turn on. With the Capricorns I know, they only know how to get what they want but not really how to be effective in a large scale. I always had to plan the details and I didn't know if he was just lazy or if he didn't think of them.Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Posted by Diddybop
As far as being good with his hands and lacking ambition. Sorry if you found a dud. I wouldn't write off a whole sign cause you had bad luck. Remember that, while your sample size is all you know, it is also very small. 🙂
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Posted by DiddybopSo spending time with him in a nice hotel provided you with no benefit? Interesting. There is a lot to un-pack from your comment.Posted by daron76Well I think a good plan should benefit everyone involved not just one person - that's what I admire in a leader and what I like in a man. I guess accomplishing your goal is what I'm looking for but I think the goal should be a bit broader than my capricorn's was. To give you an example in our romantic life - he once really wanted to stay at the penthouse of a really nice hotel and for Valentine's Day he booked us a weekend in this room. It cost him everything he had for the room which meant he had no money to cover meals, drinks, or even a gift for me. I was a student with barely anything which meant we had a weekend of dominos pizza and a couple beers which is all I could afford (plus his gift). It'd make more sense if we were in a LDR or something but we were about an hour from our home smh. Maybe someone might have enjoyed "the thought" but all I kept thinking was that he was either 1) incredibly stupid or 2) incredibly selfish (he wanted sex with that view in the PH). A few years with him and I learned that he was very intelligent but also very selfish. He wasn't a bad guy but I eventually I felt like his mom always reminding him to see the big picture. I guess thats why I associate him with being weak cuz I def don't enjoy that mom role with a man. Weak might not be the right word... I gotta think about it... 🙂Posted by DiddybopYou want a guy to make a plan and execute--but then follow that by criticizing him for "only getting what he wants". Not sure what you thought his plan was supposed to accomplish... someone else's' goals? And what larger scale is there than accomplishing the objective you intended? The extra birds you kill with that stone are a bonus. Maybe you mean he just didn't dream big enough for you? Careful with setting your standards so high, they can easily wind up so far away that you don't really know what they are.Posted by daron76Lol no nothing like that... I like a man who knows how to make a plan and execute it and doesn't need lots of prodding or motivation. Being ambitious and good with his hands is also a turn on. With the Capricorns I know, they only know how to get what they want but not really how to be effective in a large scale. I always had to plan the details and I didn't know if he was just lazy or if he didn't think of them.Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Posted by Diddybop
As far as being good with his hands and lacking ambition. Sorry if you found a dud. I wouldn't write off a whole sign cause you had bad luck. Remember that, while your sample size is all you know, it is also very small. 🙂
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Posted by Capri-sunI love virgos... I'm actually just getting over one which has me thinking about past relationships. Honestly I enjoyed the compatibility of my capricorn much more and the open dialogue and friendship in comparison to the virgo. But being with the virgo felt much... better. Like an exhale. They are such active thinkers I can trust them and not over think myself. But virgos have dark sides they like to keep hidden so the relationship is not as open or as fun.... I'm going to stay open minded thanks for the response 🙂Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Lol no nothing like that... I like a man who knows how to make a plan and execute it and doesn't need lots of prodding or motivation. Being ambitious and good with his hands is also a turn on. With the Capricorns I know, they only know how to get what they want but not really how to be effective in a large scale. I always had to plan the details and I didn't know if he was just lazy or if he didn't think of them.Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Well he's 34 and I'm 29 so he was a little older and shlda been ready. Sometimes I think it was the fear of success but most times I think he was just soooo lazy. But I'm not convinced of the cap Taurus combo either. All the guys I meet seem a little too weak for me; I'm strong but prefer a dominant man (Scorpio, sag and Virgo men seem pretty dominating but not an easy going relationship like a cap). Any advice?Posted by DiddybopAs you pointed out, you dated a boy. Only thing I can suggest is that you do try to stay away from the children lol.
I've heard that Capricorns are so ambitious and hard working but the men I've met have missed the memo. I'm a Taurus and I keep hearing that cap is my perfect mate. How do I weed out a good one? Personally I was with one for 3 years before I realized he was a little boy in search of someone to take care of him. He lost his dream job because "his boss didn't like him" and lost three jobs after that for similar reasons. Made decent money (way more than me) but wanted to split our expenses evenly or 100% me (i.e. Splitting was the compromise). Liked to be "little spooned" too often (not a turn on for me) and generally just depended on me too much for direction. Is he the "other cap" or are the men so much diff than the woman? (I'm not dating by signs but I want a little direction)
In all seriousness though, typically we get better with age (IF we have worked on our personal issues). So shoot for Cappy's that are a little older than you. Also, I'm not convinced Cap and Taurus is actually a good match imho.
Not really, I have never been referred to as "weak" lol. Also, I'm not sure what you are looking for a guy to do.. do you want to get bossed around? put in your place? choked during sex? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't like the first two-- at least not for long.
I would chalk it up to you got a dud. Remain open minded if you meet another one in the future. Honestly it sounds like you need a virgo in your life, just my opinion
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Posted by daron76I mean no...not really, lol. We lived together in the same apartment and in the same city as the hotel (albeit a lot more uptown) so I didn't really see the point in spending so much for a hotel when we pay rent and live together. Plus, there we were w/ an entire weekend with no plans, very little money, and too much invested (literally) to just hop on the subway home (oh no gift and i love gifts even small ones)... But your response reminded me of his; he'd take it the way you took it and I'd feel like he was just playing victim but I think we just have different perspectives...Posted by DiddybopSo spending time with him in a nice hotel provided you with no benefit? Interesting. There is a lot to un-pack from your comment.Posted by daron76Well I think a good plan should benefit everyone involved not just one person - that's what I admire in a leader and what I like in a man. I guess accomplishing your goal is what I'm looking for but I think the goal should be a bit broader than my capricorn's was. To give you an example in our romantic life - he once really wanted to stay at the penthouse of a really nice hotel and for Valentine's Day he booked us a weekend in this room. It cost him everything he had for the room which meant he had no money to cover meals, drinks, or even a gift for me. I was a student with barely anything which meant we had a weekend of dominos pizza and a couple beers which is all I could afford (plus his gift). It'd make more sense if we were in a LDR or something but we were about an hour from our home smh. Maybe someone might have enjoyed "the thought" but all I kept thinking was that he was either 1) incredibly stupid or 2) incredibly selfish (he wanted sex with that view in the PH). A few years with him and I learned that he was very intelligent but also very selfish. He wasn't a bad guy but I eventually I felt like his mom always reminding him to see the big picture. I guess thats why I associate him with being weak cuz I def don't enjoy that mom role with a man. Weak might not be the right word... I gotta think about it... 🙂Posted by DiddybopYou want a guy to make a plan and execute--but then follow that by criticizing him for "only getting what he wants". Not sure what you thought his plan was supposed to accomplish... someone else's' goals? And what larger scale is there than accomplishing the objective you intended? The extra birds you kill with that stone are a bonus. Maybe you mean he just didn't dream big enough for you? Careful with setting your standards so high, they can easily wind up so far away that you don't really know what they are.Posted by daron76Lol no nothing like that... I like a man who knows how to make a plan and execute it and doesn't need lots of prodding or motivation. Being ambitious and good with his hands is also a turn on. With the Capricorns I know, they only know how to get what they want but not really how to be effective in a large scale. I always had to plan the details and I didn't know if he was just lazy or if he didn't think of them.Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Posted by Diddybop
As far as being good with his hands and lacking ambition. Sorry if you found a dud. I wouldn't write off a whole sign cause you had bad luck. Remember that, while your sample size is all you know, it is also very small. 🙂
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Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76I mean no...not really, lol. We lived together in the same apartment and in the same city as the hotel (albeit a lot more uptown) so I didn't really see the point in spending so much for a hotel when we pay rent and live together. Plus, there we were w/ an entire weekend with no plans, very little money, and too much invested (literally) to just hop on the subway home (oh no gift and i love gifts even small ones)... But your response reminded me of his; he'd take it the way you took it and I'd feel like he was just playing victim but I think we just have different perspectives...Posted by DiddybopSo spending time with him in a nice hotel provided you with no benefit? Interesting. There is a lot to un-pack from your comment.Posted by daron76Well I think a good plan should benefit everyone involved not just one person - that's what I admire in a leader and what I like in a man. I guess accomplishing your goal is what I'm looking for but I think the goal should be a bit broader than my capricorn's was. To give you an example in our romantic life - he once really wanted to stay at the penthouse of a really nice hotel and for Valentine's Day he booked us a weekend in this room. It cost him everything he had for the room which meant he had no money to cover meals, drinks, or even a gift for me. I was a student with barely anything which meant we had a weekend of dominos pizza and a couple beers which is all I could afford (plus his gift). It'd make more sense if we were in a LDR or something but we were about an hour from our home smh. Maybe someone might have enjoyed "the thought" but all I kept thinking was that he was either 1) incredibly stupid or 2) incredibly selfish (he wanted sex with that view in the PH). A few years with him and I learned that he was very intelligent but also very selfish. He wasn't a bad guy but I eventually I felt like his mom always reminding him to see the big picture. I guess thats why I associate him with being weak cuz I def don't enjoy that mom role with a man. Weak might not be the right word... I gotta think about it... 🙂Posted by DiddybopYou want a guy to make a plan and execute--but then follow that by criticizing him for "only getting what he wants". Not sure what you thought his plan was supposed to accomplish... someone else's' goals? And what larger scale is there than accomplishing the objective you intended? The extra birds you kill with that stone are a bonus. Maybe you mean he just didn't dream big enough for you? Careful with setting your standards so high, they can easily wind up so far away that you don't really know what they are.Posted by daron76Lol no nothing like that... I like a man who knows how to make a plan and execute it and doesn't need lots of prodding or motivation. Being ambitious and good with his hands is also a turn on. With the Capricorns I know, they only know how to get what they want but not really how to be effective in a large scale. I always had to plan the details and I didn't know if he was just lazy or if he didn't think of them.Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Posted by Diddybop
As far as being good with his hands and lacking ambition. Sorry if you found a dud. I wouldn't write off a whole sign cause you had bad luck. Remember that, while your sample size is all you know, it is also very small. 🙂
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The penthouse was your gift. I'm sure he thought you'd love it and that's why he spent so much money on it. I find that extremely sweet!! But also very disappointed that you didn't appreciate the kind gesture. Good luck finding another guy that would go above and beyond his own means like that for you again.
I can also relate to feeling like a "mom". As girls, we think we need to do whatever we can to help them. And boy do we try so hard to take care of them! But they don't actually need us at all. They just get into moods where they need to sulk for awhile and process whatever is bothering them. Then after they come to their own conclusions, they are back to their old self.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76I mean no...not really, lol. We lived together in the same apartment and in the same city as the hotel (albeit a lot more uptown) so I didn't really see the point in spending so much for a hotel when we pay rent and live together. Plus, there we were w/ an entire weekend with no plans, very little money, and too much invested (literally) to just hop on the subway home (oh no gift and i love gifts even small ones)... But your response reminded me of his; he'd take it the way you took it and I'd feel like he was just playing victim but I think we just have different perspectives...Posted by DiddybopSo spending time with him in a nice hotel provided you with no benefit? Interesting. There is a lot to un-pack from your comment.Posted by daron76Well I think a good plan should benefit everyone involved not just one person - that's what I admire in a leader and what I like in a man. I guess accomplishing your goal is what I'm looking for but I think the goal should be a bit broader than my capricorn's was. To give you an example in our romantic life - he once really wanted to stay at the penthouse of a really nice hotel and for Valentine's Day he booked us a weekend in this room. It cost him everything he had for the room which meant he had no money to cover meals, drinks, or even a gift for me. I was a student with barely anything which meant we had a weekend of dominos pizza and a couple beers which is all I could afford (plus his gift). It'd make more sense if we were in a LDR or something but we were about an hour from our home smh. Maybe someone might have enjoyed "the thought" but all I kept thinking was that he was either 1) incredibly stupid or 2) incredibly selfish (he wanted sex with that view in the PH). A few years with him and I learned that he was very intelligent but also very selfish. He wasn't a bad guy but I eventually I felt like his mom always reminding him to see the big picture. I guess thats why I associate him with being weak cuz I def don't enjoy that mom role with a man. Weak might not be the right word... I gotta think about it... 🙂Posted by DiddybopYou want a guy to make a plan and execute--but then follow that by criticizing him for "only getting what he wants". Not sure what you thought his plan was supposed to accomplish... someone else's' goals? And what larger scale is there than accomplishing the objective you intended? The extra birds you kill with that stone are a bonus. Maybe you mean he just didn't dream big enough for you? Careful with setting your standards so high, they can easily wind up so far away that you don't really know what they are.Posted by daron76Lol no nothing like that... I like a man who knows how to make a plan and execute it and doesn't need lots of prodding or motivation. Being ambitious and good with his hands is also a turn on. With the Capricorns I know, they only know how to get what they want but not really how to be effective in a large scale. I always had to plan the details and I didn't know if he was just lazy or if he didn't think of them.Posted by DiddybopPosted by daron76Posted by Diddybop
As far as being good with his hands and lacking ambition. Sorry if you found a dud. I wouldn't write off a whole sign cause you had bad luck. Remember that, while your sample size is all you know, it is also very small. 🙂
The penthouse was your gift. I'm sure he thought you'd love it and that's why he spent so much money on it. I find that extremely sweet!! But also very disappointed that you didn't appreciate the kind gesture. Good luck finding another guy that would go above and beyond his own means like that for you again.
I can also relate to feeling like a "mom". As girls, we think we need to do whatever we can to help them. And boy do we try so hard to take care of them! But they don't actually need us at all. They just get into moods where they need to sulk for awhile and process whatever is bothering them. Then after they come to their own conclusions, they are back to their old self.
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lol I got that the penthouse was my gift. But it was something he really wanted not me so not much of a gift for me. And it wasn't well planned so no, I guess I didn't really appreciate it though I did act appreciative because I didn't want to ruin our weekend. For that example the mom in me would have said "do u think you should really spend all your money on something this frivolous and then not have money to eat? Or maybe just one night?" It made me question his sense. Maybe I'm just too practical. But I didn't see the mom connection until I spent time with them together. She gives him very detailed explanations on everything he needs to do even for himself. I didn't want that responsibility. Maybe it won't be that bad now that I'm older but it was a big turnoff when we were dating.
@Diddybop .. Sorry to but in .. I get what you're saying 100% . I love penthouses but the fact he took u to a hotel in the same city but didn't give u a gift & had no money for food makes zero sense. I'd rather go to a restaurant we both been wanting to try & get a surprise gift at the restaurant. That would have been Much better with the situation u & your ex were working with. I get that he wanted to take u some place nice but at the end of the day it's in the details , he didn't do any of the details lol
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@Diddybop .. Sorry to but in .. I get what you're saying 100% . I love penthouses but the fact he took u to a hotel in the same city but didn't give u a gift & had no money for food makes zero sense. I'd rather go to a restaurant we both been wanting to try & get a surprise gift at the restaurant. That would have been Much better with the situation u & your ex were working with. I get that he wanted to take u some place nice but at the end of the day it's in the details , he didn't do any of the details lol
Thanks. I feel like he and some other people made me like I wasn't being grateful... but that's not it. The lack of attention to details just makes me feel like I have to supervise everything and that doesn't come naturally to me... Well it does but not for my man. Now I'm thinking that maybe they do need that kind of direction if I want to feel satisfied because they're probably satisfied with however they do things. I dk how I cld have helped with that situation bc it was a surprise lol but just to keep in mind if I date another cap.
Why do Caps complain... All the time.... about everything?
Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesGood question lol
Why do Caps complain... All the time.... about everything?
Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesThe same reasons anyone else complains... all the time... about everything; they aren't happy with they way something is.
Why do Caps complain... All the time.... about everything?
Posted by daron76Yes. Also, caps think logically about everything!!Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesThe same reasons anyone else complains... all the time... about everything; they aren't happy with they way something is.
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@Diddybop .. Sorry to but in .. I get what you're saying 100% . I love penthouses but the fact he took u to a hotel in the same city but didn't give u a gift & had no money for food makes zero sense. I'd rather go to a restaurant we both been wanting to try & get a surprise gift at the restaurant. That would have been Much better with the situation u & your ex were working with. I get that he wanted to take u some place nice but at the end of the day it's in the details , he didn't do any of the details lol
Thanks. I feel like he and some other people made me like I wasn't being grateful... but that's not it. The lack of attention to details just makes me feel like I have to supervise everything and that doesn't come naturally to me... Well it does but not for my man. Now I'm thinking that maybe they do need that kind of direction if I want to feel satisfied because they're probably satisfied with however they do things. I dk how I cld have helped with that situation bc it was a surprise lol but just to keep in mind if I date another cap.
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I love when my significant other takes care of details. I mean, Im a very detail oriented person with a lot of things but when my man takes over in that area it's a breath of fresh air lol you were def not being ungrateful
Posted by SofiaV87Exactly. It's such a fresh breath . I love it too.Posted by DiddybopPosted by SofiaV87
@Diddybop .. Sorry to but in .. I get what you're saying 100% . I love penthouses but the fact he took u to a hotel in the same city but didn't give u a gift & had no money for food makes zero sense. I'd rather go to a restaurant we both been wanting to try & get a surprise gift at the restaurant. That would have been Much better with the situation u & your ex were working with. I get that he wanted to take u some place nice but at the end of the day it's in the details , he didn't do any of the details lol
Thanks. I feel like he and some other people made me like I wasn't being grateful... but that's not it. The lack of attention to details just makes me feel like I have to supervise everything and that doesn't come naturally to me... Well it does but not for my man. Now I'm thinking that maybe they do need that kind of direction if I want to feel satisfied because they're probably satisfied with however they do things. I dk how I cld have helped with that situation bc it was a surprise lol but just to keep in mind if I date another cap.
I love when my significant other takes care of details. I mean, Im a very detail oriented person with a lot of things but when my man takes over in that area it's a breath of fresh air lol you were def not being ungrateful
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Glad you got the validation you were looking for. best of luck out there.
Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesIt's either that or we turn to the booze or crime.
Why do Caps complain... All the time.... about everything?
Have you ever seek dad attention for someone and then disappeared right afterwards just to make sure you knew where you stand with that person ?
Hi caps! In another thread someone mentioned the phases of a relationship. What are they to you?
Posted by daron76Posted by sakuraflowersWell for me, that used to happen when I was busy or needed to work on some personal issues. Now that I am older, I know better than to just up and disappear- I'll let my partner know what I need to work and the space I'll need to do it.Posted by daron76Woohoo. I'll go with the most common one. 😛
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo. 🙂
Why do Cap male go silent or disappear?
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I lost his respect, friendship and trust after I said some very hurtful things after an argument. How do i win his respect back if he ignores my texts? Refuses to give me another chance? And says he is with someone now.., help. Please!
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