Geminiwonders
@Whathaveidone
7 Years
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Capricorn guy just said he's too busy to keep dating me
Send it to him. How old is young guy?
Everything that comes after basically the topic title is pointless. He is doing you a favour and he is telling the truth. He does not have enough time for you (and he is not going to try making it, 'cause he doesn't feel like it). Accept it and appreciate it and try to let go (easier said than done!! I know!)
Textbook capricorn who isn't committed. He choose something else -- His job, or His time, or ANYthing He can control -- over You. I would have went emo on him for leading me on. Why spare him your passionate anger, did you spare your passion with him when you laughed, loved, shared a delicious meal with him or in any other way? No. You enjoyed him with passion. If you ever do get in touch with this playa again, and you are still feeling angry, let him HAVE IT (those excuses -- cry me a river!). Get it out of your system so it doesn't manipulate you for any longer than suffering a loss should. And keep the 'loss' in the right perspective -- don't let it counteract your positive vibe!
PLEASE don't give up on men and dating! If you meet another cap, watch him like he watches you and don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
PLEASE don't give up on men and dating! If you meet another cap, watch him like he watches you and don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
Posted by Koni
I didn’t read it all the way to the end, but it seems to me that he has found someone else. That’s only thing they could explain some thing so abrupt. No one is too busy to date, that is just a weak excuse
I really don't think so. I think he's being very honest about where he is in his life. She didn't get played. She just got tried on and didn't fit his life atm. I think that's what dating is all about.
Posted by MissKrabs
for some people, work is a priority when young and the rest will come after they feel accomplished. it sucks for you, i know, but it would suck for him if he didn't made the decision. so it's bad timing.
send what you promised but leave it at that.
I totally get that. I said that to him. Like I would never want to get in the way of him being the best he can be cos I know he can be the best at what he does. He's intelligent and ambitious. I'm more just wondering like should I talk to him still every now and again? Like it's his birthday soon.. should I send him a wish?
Posted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
Posted by starlord
Everything that comes after basically the topic title is pointless. He is doing you a favour and he is telling the truth. He does not have enough time for you (and he is not going to try making it, 'cause he doesn't feel like it). Accept it and appreciate it and try to let go (easier said than done!! I know!)
Might be pointless to you but to me it isn't so I don't think that's a very nice thing to say. If you had a problem I wouldn't just decide it was pointless.
Posted by pathfinder
Textbook capricorn who isn't committed. He choose something else -- His job, or His time, or ANYthing He can control -- over You. I would have went emo on him for leading me on. Why spare him your passionate anger, did you spare your passion with him when you laughed, loved, shared a delicious meal with him or in any other way? No. You enjoyed him with passion. If you ever do get in touch with this playa again, and you are still feeling angry, let him HAVE IT (those excuses -- cry me a river!). Get it out of your system so it doesn't manipulate you for any longer than suffering a loss should. And keep the 'loss' in the right perspective -- don't let it counteract your positive vibe!
PLEASE don't give up on men and dating! If you meet another cap, watch him like he watches you and don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
Thing is I didn't wear my heart on my sleeve. I've learnt so much from my ex and I was determined to play it cool. Every single date apart from 2 were planned by him. He was perusing me. He used to laugh at how close I played my cards to my chest.
I did get angry with him lol. He always said to me I wouldn't want to see you angry so I pre warned him. And then I left before I said something totally horrible
Posted by Gemitati
Send it to him. How old is young guy?
He's 26. He's a really nice guy. His mum isn't well atm so I'm thinking maybe that plays a part.
Posted by Jade_AlexanderPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
Because he’s mature enough to face you. Ghosting is a cowardice.
He’s mature and honest. Bottom line, he’s not changing his mind.click to expand
Should I send him what I promised though? It's something that would've helped him in his job
Posted by Jade_AlexanderPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_AlexanderPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
Because he’s mature enough to face you. Ghosting is a cowardice.
He’s mature and honest. Bottom line, he’s not changing his mind.
Should I send him what I promised though? It's something that would've helped him in his job
If you’re on friendly terms, sure.
Just don’t do it in expectation it will change anything.click to expand
Yeah I understand. I don't have any expectations of him to reply. If he does it's a bonus. But I promised him something and obviously if he's behind with work then maybe this could help?
I don't know if we are on friendly terms. We've not spoke since. I mean the last conversation we had was friendly and he was very complimentary of me
Posted by Arielle83
Aww I feel bad for him.
I do... that's why I'm trying to figure out what to do. The guy is lovely. If he was a knob fair enough I'd leave it. I've learned to do that. But he genuinely is really lovely
Posted by WhathaveidonePosted by starlord
Everything that comes after basically the topic title is pointless. He is doing you a favour and he is telling the truth. He does not have enough time for you (and he is not going to try making it, 'cause he doesn't feel like it). Accept it and appreciate it and try to let go (easier said than done!! I know!)
Might be pointless to you but to me it isn't so I don't think that's a very nice thing to say. If you had a problem I wouldn't just decide it was pointless.click to expand
Okay you took my comment the wrong way. What I mean is it is pointless as far as trying to "figure out" any type of answer to your question. The guy already gave you the answer. The thing about not having time for you IS the point. Nothing else really matters.
Posted by Jade_AlexanderPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_AlexanderPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_AlexanderPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
Because he’s mature enough to face you. Ghosting is a cowardice.
He’s mature and honest. Bottom line, he’s not changing his mind.
Should I send him what I promised though? It's something that would've helped him in his job
If you’re on friendly terms, sure.
Just don’t do it in expectation it will change anything.
Yeah I understand. I don't have any expectations of him to reply. If he does it's a bonus. But I promised him something and obviously if he's behind with work then maybe this could help?
I don't know if we are on friendly terms. We've not spoke since. I mean the last conversation we had was friendly and he was very complimentary of me
It’s your call.
But I would consider the relationship over.click to expand
Thanks for your help🙂
Posted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?click to expand
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
It’s not you, it’s him.
No, really.
He has poor time management skills and is trying to say its indirectly your fault. I call bs.
He’s not ready for you, don’t wait for him.
No, really.
He has poor time management skills and is trying to say its indirectly your fault. I call bs.
He’s not ready for you, don’t wait for him.
Idk much about caps but I feel him and I think he's being honest. When I decided to start dating....I started slacking at work...not a lot but enough that it really started to bother me because I'm a workaholic. It was hard to try and balance both. I had to compromise....leave early on certain days etc. It's not healthy to work so much and especially if it's something stressful but that's something he will have to realize on his own.
If he received a warning at work...he had to choose...make money to survive or cont dating and potentially lose everything. I would have choose work too but I understand how much this sucks. It sucked for me so I can imagine how he feels.
If he received a warning at work...he had to choose...make money to survive or cont dating and potentially lose everything. I would have choose work too but I understand how much this sucks. It sucked for me so I can imagine how he feels.
Posted by LostinmyMind11
Idk much about caps but I feel him and I think he's being honest. When I decided to start dating....I started slacking at work...not a lot but enough that it really started to bother me because I'm a workaholic. It was hard to try and balance both. I had to compromise....leave early on certain days etc. It's not healthy to work so much and especially if it's something stressful but that's something he will have to realize on his own.
If he received a warning at work...he had to choose...make money to survive or cont dating and potentially lose everything. I would have choose work too but I understand how much this sucks. It sucked for me so I can imagine how he feels too.
Posted by TodaysRap
Tl;dr
Quit being a thirsty bitch. You endlessly litter the site with your bullshit, then you delete and come back to pick up where you left off, while mocking others who have a problem of their own. Pull your head in or piss off.
Give him what he wants. Not to see you again. Clean break is the best break.
Posted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.click to expand
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?
Posted by LostinmyMind11
Idk much about caps but I feel him and I think he's being honest. When I decided to start dating....I started slacking at work...not a lot but enough that it really started to bother me because I'm a workaholic. It was hard to try and balance both. I had to compromise....leave early on certain days etc. It's not healthy to work so much and especially if it's something stressful but that's something he will have to realize on his own.
If he received a warning at work...he had to choose...make money to survive or cont dating and potentially lose everything. I would have choose work too but I understand how much this sucks. It sucked for me so I can imagine how he feels.
I think he's being honest. After my ex I have learned to accept bad feelings. For so long I tried to prove to eve people on here my ex said what he said and meant it even though deep down I knew he didn't. So I went into this new dating with a clean slate and that if I got a bad feeling I would end it. I'm the first person he's seriously dated in 3 years. I've not had one single bad feeling. He's the first person to meet the family and my mum who I trust with my life said she had such a good vibe from him... And the animals liked him which is always good haha.
I just think if he was lying then he wouldn't have the balls to want to say all this face to face. And it was him insisting to see me to do just that
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowPosted by TodaysRap
Tl;dr
Quit being a thirsty bitch. You endlessly litter the site with your bullshit, then you delete and come back to pick up where you left off, while mocking others who have a problem of their own. Pull your head in or piss off.click to expand
Me? What??
Posted by Arielle83
Caps hold themselves to high standards.
He wouldn’t be good in a relationship right now because he has a lot going on, so he’s letting you know.
Most women are full on in relationships and expect a lot of contact and attention, so he can’t live up to that.
He’s avoiding the future resentment he’ll face if he gets stuck committing to someone.
Seems pretty genuine
Yeah he did say pretty similar! He said though like you don't ask for much from me but even so I couldn't be at home working whilst neglecting a person who I want to see
Posted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?click to expand
I understand that you need to established your career and I have your back so I am sending you promised materials.
Thinking of you and times we had together. Hope to have it back. Hugs.
Me.
Posted by starlordPosted by Koni
I didn’t read it all the way to the end, but it seems to me that he has found someone else. That’s only thing they could explain some thing so abrupt. No one is too busy to date, that is just a weak excuse
I really don't think so. I think he's being very honest about where he is in his life. She didn't get played. She just got tried on and didn't fit his life atm. I think that's what dating is all about.click to expand
Yeah I get that. He said "I made a misjudgement not of you but of my time management" and that's when I got slightly angry I was just like " a misjudgement is when you buy a car that turns out to be rubbish" I then apologised and said I understand haha
Posted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?
I understand that you need to established your career and I have your back so I am sending you promised materials.
Thinking of you and times we had together. Hope to have it back. Hugs.
Me.click to expand
THANK YOU
Posted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?
I understand that you need to established your career and I have your back so I am sending you promised materials.
Thinking of you and times we had together. Hope to have it back. Hugs.
Me.
THANK YOUclick to expand
And while you are waiting...keep him innyoir heart and talk to other people.
Don’t sit on your ass and moan...trust me. Please.
Posted by tiziani
I agree with LadyNeptune.
It boils down to he can help himself, manage time better. Not blame his relationship with you.
Other than that one flaw, seems like you both bring out the best in each other
I know. He said it's all to do with his time management. He's so set on the idea of things are not gonna work. I even said like look lets have a few weeks off from seeing each other and then we will see each other just before Christmas to give gifts. And he was like I can't do that. It will frustrate me more knowing you are compromising
Posted by LadyLuna19
It's like a mini novel, anyway. Despite his sign, any person who doesnt prioritizes time with you isnt worth it. Move on and just enjoy your own time and give it to someone who can at least meet you halfway
Not talking about only your post but apparently most people here had not ever dealt with people who are making serious work decisions and when they are having deep feelings to someone - it affects their performance to the point when they can lose their job and often as a result lose their loved ones because realization that they haven’t made it get them depressed and no fun!
Try to date and love someone on your only salary! Rare but happens.
Because it’s rare - not many will understand...
Posted by LadyLuna19Posted by GemitatiPosted by LadyLuna19
It's like a mini novel, anyway. Despite his sign, any person who doesnt prioritizes time with you isnt worth it. Move on and just enjoy your own time and give it to someone who can at least meet you halfway
Not talking about only your post but apparently most people here had not ever dealt with people who are making serious work decisions and when they are having deep feelings to someone - it affects their performance to the point when they can lose their job and often as a result lose their loved ones because realization that they haven’t made it get them depressed and no fun!
Try to date and love someone on your only salary! Rare but happens.
Because it’s rare - not many will understand...
I understand keeping business and pleasure separated, it just seems that OP should move on. He has decided on staying focus on his job and theres no shame to that. But in the the end it'll be OP's choice to move on or to wait around for him, I just feel if I were in OP's situation I would move on. But I have trust issuesclick to expand
That’s what I said. Wait for him but not just sit on your ass and mope...meet other people!
It friggin works!
Posted by LadyLuna19Posted by GemitatiPosted by LadyLuna19
It's like a mini novel, anyway. Despite his sign, any person who doesnt prioritizes time with you isnt worth it. Move on and just enjoy your own time and give it to someone who can at least meet you halfway
Not talking about only your post but apparently most people here had not ever dealt with people who are making serious work decisions and when they are having deep feelings to someone - it affects their performance to the point when they can lose their job and often as a result lose their loved ones because realization that they haven’t made it get them depressed and no fun!
Try to date and love someone on your only salary! Rare but happens.
Because it’s rare - not many will understand...
I understand keeping business and pleasure separated, it just seems that OP should move on. He has decided on staying focus on his job and theres no shame to that. But in the the end it'll be OP's choice to move on or to wait around for him, I just feel if I were in OP's situation I would move on. But I have trust issuesclick to expand
I completely understand what you are saying. I think I'm going to send the info I have for him and his job to him and then give it until my holiday later on in December. I'm not going go mention anything to do with us or whatever in this message it's just going to be something along the lines of "hello. Just thought I'd keep up on the promise and send you that information for your website. I hope this helps and I hope you are well" cos I don't think that is any pressure or stress to him??
I would him do what another guy did to me once and ghost me and having me totally messed in the head. He left so nicely. He just asked me to stop thinking of reasons not to like him because he doesn't have any reason not to like me. He's a really lovely person but I know his job has done slot for him over the past 2 years so I feel like maybe he thinks he owes them a lot!
Posted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?
I understand that you need to established your career and I have your back so I am sending you promised materials.
Thinking of you and times we had together. Hope to have it back. Hugs.
Me.click to expand
I sent a message and the things earlier. He responded that he misses me a lot, his friends have told him he's handled it all wrong, even though he's not known me for long he feels like a part of him has gone... we are meeting for a chat tonight
Posted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?
I understand that you need to established your career and I have your back so I am sending you promised materials.
Thinking of you and times we had together. Hope to have it back. Hugs.
Me.
I sent a message and the things earlier. He responded that he misses me a lot, his friends have told him he's handled it all wrong, even though he's not known me for long he feels like a part of him has gone... we are meeting for a chat tonightclick to expand
I am a genius! Lmao
So glad you guys will reconcile possibly...I said people here have 0 experience in rs but they all for ‘dump him’...though I wouldn’t understand it ether I’d i didn’t lived that.
Just be calm and contained and loving...❤️
Posted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?
I understand that you need to established your career and I have your back so I am sending you promised materials.
Thinking of you and times we had together. Hope to have it back. Hugs.
Me.
I sent a message and the things earlier. He responded that he misses me a lot, his friends have told him he's handled it all wrong, even though he's not known me for long he feels like a part of him has gone... we are meeting for a chat tonight
I am a genius! Lmao
So glad you guys will reconcile possibly...I said people here have 0 experience in rs but they all for ‘dump him’...though I wouldn’t understand it ether I’d i didn’t lived that.
Just be calm and contained and loving...❤️click to expand
He's explained everything to me and said like my boss said I'm putting too much pressure on myself and I should make you my focus and he said I spoke with my dad and I've figured I'm seriously in love with you 😁
Posted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?
I understand that you need to established your career and I have your back so I am sending you promised materials.
Thinking of you and times we had together. Hope to have it back. Hugs.
Me.
I sent a message and the things earlier. He responded that he misses me a lot, his friends have told him he's handled it all wrong, even though he's not known me for long he feels like a part of him has gone... we are meeting for a chat tonight
I am a genius! Lmao
So glad you guys will reconcile possibly...I said people here have 0 experience in rs but they all for ‘dump him’...though I wouldn’t understand it ether I’d i didn’t lived that.
Just be calm and contained and loving...❤️
He's explained everything to me and said like my boss said I'm putting too much pressure on myself and I should make you my focus and he said I spoke with my dad and I've figured I'm seriously in love with you 😁click to expand
👍see? He is young and all this rs sruff is new and confusing heck out of him! He did a right thing by consulting his elders. Good luck. ❤️
Posted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by GemitatiPosted by WhathaveidonePosted by Jade_Alexander
He’s not that interested in pursuing you.
Men often act then feel.
He chased, and now that he’s got you he’s grown bored.
It’s not something to take personal, it didnt click for him.
He still hasn't got me though... we are supposed to be going away next week. We both decided on secret dates and he's doing his first. I feel like if maybe he was done with me like got bored why would he be so nice to tell me face to face?
I can seriously say that I believe in men who can’t dunction at work if in love...he can’t conventraye on his work because he doesn’t want to want to work. He wants to be with you!
He got warning and decided you and his feelings in the way for his career...
Let him work. Send what you promise. Wish happy birthday. And stay cool. He need to chill...work hard...and learn how to juggle love and work.
If you have time to waste. But in a mean time start looking...you never know.
Yeah this is what he said "I love spending time with you but the problem is I love it so much I am neglecting work"
He's probably the nicest guy I've dated. Like he wants to try things I like and gets excited when I try things he likes. He wants to know about me. If I stayed at his. He would literally lay next to me and ask me my goals, fears and realities.
I want to send him the things, just not sure how to go about doing it. Like how to start the message you know?
I understand that you need to established your career and I have your back so I am sending you promised materials.
Thinking of you and times we had together. Hope to have it back. Hugs.
Me.
I sent a message and the things earlier. He responded that he misses me a lot, his friends have told him he's handled it all wrong, even though he's not known me for long he feels like a part of him has gone... we are meeting for a chat tonight
I am a genius! Lmao
So glad you guys will reconcile possibly...I said people here have 0 experience in rs but they all for ‘dump him’...though I wouldn’t understand it ether I’d i didn’t lived that.
Just be calm and contained and loving...❤️
He's explained everything to me and said like my boss said I'm putting too much pressure on myself and I should make you my focus and he said I spoke with my dad and I've figured I'm seriously in love with you 😁
👍see? He is young and all this rs sruff is new and confusing heck out of him! He did a right thing by consulting his elders. Good luck. ❤️click to expand
Thank you 💋
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