Capricorn Woman and Cancer Man

"I'm a perfect cancer man"

You're perfect—!!!

Sorry. couldn't get past that. Let me go back and read.

I'm having a hard time understanding your story. I'm confused. First indication is you are coworkers and just that. Then you talk about she was angry. Then you're questioning whether she's fake or interested or just friends with benefits. I'm not sure what your relationship is with her. Could you please clarify?

What was the misunderstanding you had with her that made her not want to talk to you?

Posted by Piks
guess that she had the usual female men****** problem....and she was not talking to me,i was also pissed off....since she was not talking to me.so i didt start the conversation for 5 days(without knowing the fact) then i started speaking to her ..mentioning that it hurts me a lot,since she didt speak. then she indirectly hinting me that she was not well during those days and looks like she got angry on me from that day onwards. then the silence started.....slowly between us.now she started slowly avoiding me.....i also slowly avoided her....thinking that she will initiate the conversaton....But she never initiated...by seeing this ..i got pissed off more...why always i only need to start the conversation.and now looks like she is trying to avoid me.

Slow your roll there hunny, are you seriously going to lead with the old 'PMS issues' when dealing with a woman??

Strike 1.

Posted by truecap
"I'm a perfect cancer man"

You're perfect—!!!

Sorry. couldn't get past that. Let me go back and read.

LmAo I couldn't even read of his post... Just spent 5 minutes laughing at that "perfect _ ??" cancer guy lolol... Typical cancer guy hon not perfect
Misunderstanding are the classic cap crab tango. But your story is bit difficult to follow-honestly pms excuses, other men? Sounds very much NOT like a true cap woman... Either she is very immature, playing with you or you're misunderstanding something. But I think she's an immature player ?tre putting on airs for you. Either way way too drama this early on.. Imagine how it could be later? I'd leave it if I were you... Relationships should be fun not this tiring.

LOL what's a perfect cancer?

Posted by Secret
LOL what's a perfect cancer?

He meant to say "typical" not perfect. Lost in translation 🙂

That makes sense, but it was a very funny opening.

Yes, truly was a real eye opener 🙂))) :p

Posted by Piks
guess that she had the usual female men****** problem....and she was not talking to me,i was also pissed off....since she was not talking to me.so i didt start the conversation for 5 days(without knowing the fact) then i started speaking to her ..mentioning that it hurts me a lot,since she didt speak. then she indirectly hinting me that she was not well during those days and looks like she got angry on me from that day onwards. then the silence started.....slowly between us.now she started slowly avoiding me.....i also slowly avoided her....thinking that she will initiate the conversaton....But she never initiated...by seeing this ..i got pissed off more...why always i only need to start the conversation.and now looks like she is trying to avoid me.

So, you got pouty, typical cancer stuff. Got all butt hurt and started lashing out. You never considered it was something else and took it all personally. When you got pouty, that was a turn off to her. That's my main complaint about cancer men. I like them, can connect with them, can be comfortable with them, but the second they don't get attention, they get all pouty and instead of communicating, they blow things out of porportion. It makes me exhausted. As a Cap woman, I like strong, confident men. I expect men to man up and be a man. I don't want a whiny, pouty little boy. Broke it off with a cancer for that crap.

Not saying she's not guilty of miscommunication, too, because she is. Its just that your reaction by immediately taking it personally was a turn off, in my opinion.

Posted by Piks
Hi wagtail, do you mean..she is acting/cheating..as she is trying to avoid me?? by saying the PMS issues?

Cheating??!!!! How is she cheating when you're only coworkers and not in a relationship?

Something about what you're telling is missing.

And for the record, women do not respond well when a man tell them they have PMS. That means they aren't taking what they are saying seriously, just blowing it off to hormones. It really, really pisses off a woman.

What is going on here?? What are you saying Piks? If we don't understand, then she doesn't understand...

As truecap already mentioned women, no women like to be called out on PMS! WTH is this anyway?

1. do u want me to initiate the conversation as usual? will she like it or not?
--- You're the man. You should be doing much of the intitating. Women usually like and prefer this.

2. Dont initiate the conversation, lets wait for her.....?? which she probably or rarely do when ever she needs help.....but she wont chit chat....
--- As mentioned above, most women like the man to intitate ... basic Romance ABCs. Has this crossed your mind yet?

3. just leave the relation itself? as me and her not a perfect match and cant even be a good friends??
---- Cancer and Capricorn have the chance to be a good match if they can communicate effectively. --- which so far you're not doing. Even people including myself are having trouble understanding you. Be more clear, less emotional and moody. And the chances of you both being friends or more depends on the effect you BOTH make to communciate and understand each other.

4. or if Istill mantain the relationship, she is just utlizing me for her needs...nothing else.when ever there is a need , she comes and talks well and request for a help.finally i will be loose somthing and not even gettng a soft corner in her heart.
--- What needs? Sexual? Financial? friendship? What needs are you talking about? You'll have to see first if she's interested in you, once you know that, you can get to know each other and reach towards a relationship. Caps like Carbs don't usually go for casual. They're looking for something serious ... but both observe and try to figure out if the other is "The One" or not.

5. any other way to boost up the relation?
--- If you're already asking this question, then it's doomed. You as a Cancer should know real things take time. Sorry to say, but I suspect you're one of the immature ones.

6.i am typical cancer, so cant crack jokes just for her....better to avoid /forget her , and live as per wish?
--- Cancerians are known for their humour. What's wrong with yours? Why being so melodramatic? If you want to forget her, forget her. If you want her, be patient and ride it out.

7. typically she is cheating or acting as if attracted to me, so that i server her as maid for her needs!!??
--- How do you know she's cheating? And BTW unless you two are in some type of relationship or even in the courting stage and you both have talked about monogamy she's not cheating. But no, no reason to be her maid. Hav eyou even gotten to the point to talk about this?

8. just mutual friends with benefits?
--- Why not ask her?

9.just true friends without benefits?
--- Why not ask her?

10. Just a fellow coworker.....she wants to utlize me to the best for the officials needs?
--- Unless it's your job to be her assistant or you like doing things like that, NO you don't have to do that.

11. she isalso intesrested in me
--- I'm sure she's interested. You're writing all over the place and making no sense. I'll say it's a language barrier ... as to not hurt your feelings.

Piks, your story sounds very familiar. Have you been on here before under a different user name posting about a cap woman who was a coworker?

Thankyou Cappedoff, Truecap and evalani290 for your inputs, will keep you updated on the progress.

I think this was one of those imaginary relationships that never actually happened but in the OP's head it actually did. Nothing here adds up

Well. I for one, don't really like being made fun of.
And, if I am busy, on a deadline, trying to concentrate, when someone comes by with idle chit chat, it irritates me if I don't have time for it.

Honestly, I just don't think she's interested in you.

Yes what did you say to her? I like joking around but only with people I know well. Not ever teasing.