spacegal1
@spacegal1
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Confusion Abound
Tread lightly...
Yeah I definitely have to be cautious.. not ready to ruin a career for some lust 😢
Sigh, I'm not sure what his intentions are at all. During one of our talks, he goes "we were cut from the same cloth." *cue dramatic/romantic music*
Thanks for your responses guys-- I'll keep y'all updated!
Spacegal out!
Sigh, I'm not sure what his intentions are at all. During one of our talks, he goes "we were cut from the same cloth." *cue dramatic/romantic music*
Thanks for your responses guys-- I'll keep y'all updated!
Spacegal out!
We do; we have had hours of conversation at work regarding books/sports/careers/travel/family/hobbies etc.
Uncannily similar 🙂
If nothing romantically works out, we will definitely have an awesome friendship.
Uncannily similar 🙂
If nothing romantically works out, we will definitely have an awesome friendship.
So, nothing has progressed. He texted me on Saturday asking about if our company gave gym discounts... then we chatted about how to find this info... he asked what my plans were Saturday evening- I was going out with friends. He was going to a house warming party.
Then our convo basically wrapped up.
Geez- why does he do that? If I'm just a business contact then why doesn't he just wait until Monday? He texts me on my personal phone with his personal number 😢
Then our convo basically wrapped up.
Geez- why does he do that? If I'm just a business contact then why doesn't he just wait until Monday? He texts me on my personal phone with his personal number 😢
he's new to everything -
he's a Cap Sun and Venus and a Taurus Moon - so he's just getting to know you, about you, etc. ... Caps can be slow and cautious movers ... and a lot of them play for life - he's feeling you out but your Venus in Aries is rushing things - can you just cool yer jets - roll with the tide and go with the flow ...
get to know him and push the rush aside ... keep yourself busy and build a relationship if that's the way it's going ...
he's a Cap Sun and Venus and a Taurus Moon - so he's just getting to know you, about you, etc. ... Caps can be slow and cautious movers ... and a lot of them play for life - he's feeling you out but your Venus in Aries is rushing things - can you just cool yer jets - roll with the tide and go with the flow ...
get to know him and push the rush aside ... keep yourself busy and build a relationship if that's the way it's going ...
How are you an HR rep?
Posted by AndalusiaYes
How are you an HR rep?
Oh wow.. okay then.
Posted by ParisianCappyUgh. fine.Posted by Andalusiasay what you think virgo ass
Oh wow.. okay then.click to expand
Posted by ParisianCappyGo for it guys- that's why I'm on this forum- to hear your thoughtsPosted by Andalusia!!!!Posted by ParisianCappyUgh. fine.Posted by Andalusiasay what you think virgo ass
Oh wow.. okay then.click to expand
What I mean is:
You are his HR rep.
You started sweatin' this guy on his second day.
You used your privilege as said HR rep to go into his personnel file and obtain his personal contact info - which you then used to text him about non work related stuff - all because he told you he was 'single' 3 times whilst filling out his new hire paperwork... Paperwork which likely included his W2, insurance designation, etc. In short - all paperwork that required the employee to mark 'single' or not.
I'm betting that's how you found out his birthday too.
You are now looking for advice from strangers about whether this guy likes you.. asking why does he text you on his personal phone about non work related stuff if he doesn't?
How did you guys even come to exchange personal contact info in the first place? Oh yes... see above.
He's been there two weeks. Two. Weeks. Not two months, or two years. Two weeks. This all sounds grossly inappropriate, imo.
You are his HR rep.
You started sweatin' this guy on his second day.
You used your privilege as said HR rep to go into his personnel file and obtain his personal contact info - which you then used to text him about non work related stuff - all because he told you he was 'single' 3 times whilst filling out his new hire paperwork... Paperwork which likely included his W2, insurance designation, etc. In short - all paperwork that required the employee to mark 'single' or not.
I'm betting that's how you found out his birthday too.
You are now looking for advice from strangers about whether this guy likes you.. asking why does he text you on his personal phone about non work related stuff if he doesn't?
How did you guys even come to exchange personal contact info in the first place? Oh yes... see above.
He's been there two weeks. Two. Weeks. Not two months, or two years. Two weeks. This all sounds grossly inappropriate, imo.
Posted by Andalusia
What I mean is:
You are his HR rep.
You started sweatin' this guy on his second day.
You used your privilege as said HR rep to go into his personnel file and obtain his personal contact info - which you then used to text him about non work related stuff - all because he told you he was 'single' 3 times whilst filling out his new hire paperwork... Paperwork which likely included his W2, insurance designation, etc. In short - all paperwork that required the employee to mark 'single' or not.
I'm betting that's how you found out his birthday too.
You are now looking for advice from strangers about whether this guy likes you.. asking why does he text you on his personal phone about non work related stuff if he doesn't?
How did you guys even come to exchange personal contact info in the first place? Oh yes... see above.
He's been there two weeks. Two. Weeks. Not two months, or two years. Two weeks. This all sounds grossly inappropriate, imo.
Completely understand where you're coming from- but I guess I need to clarify:
He told me he was single ONCE during his paperwork- and twice in the course of a conversation, upon which he asked if I was single.
His cell phone number was stored publically in IT outlook- not his personnel file, I called him because I was running late to our happy hour with the rest of a group.
I did not initiate texting from that first call- he did.
I found out his bday bc I commented to him when I took a scan of his ID that his bday was coming up on 1/14.
The flirting was initiated by him- but I willingly continued it.
Regardless- that's why I've been so hesistant to DO anything- I'm in HR- and I've been in HR for 9 years, but I've always maintained a strict boundary. I guess he just intrigued me BC he flirted hard--- something I thought was flattering/foward for a NEW employee to do! As you said- TWO WEEKS.
Yeah- strangers bc who the hell else can I talk to about this?
Posted by ParisianCappyPosted by spacegal1honestly i think you two arent gonna do something because you both are too profesionnal. do you think that you are in the Profesionnalzone ?Posted by ParisianCappyGo for it guys- that's why I'm on this forum- to hear your thoughtsPosted by Andalusia!!!!Posted by ParisianCappyUgh. fine.Posted by Andalusiasay what you think virgo ass
Oh wow.. okay then.
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You're probably right. Sigh. Well.. glad I may be moving companies soon.
I've decided.
Im giving this up. There's no point any longer.
It'll never manifest into anything
Thanks for the reality check- strangers.
Im giving this up. There's no point any longer.
It'll never manifest into anything
Thanks for the reality check- strangers.
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