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Told her how I felt
Understanding How Sending a Confession Affects Romantic Relationships
Sharing your feelings can deepen connections but may also cause uncertainty if not reciprocated immediately. It's normal to feel anxious after expressing your emotions, especially when waiting for a response. Patience and clear communication are key to understanding her feelings and progressing your relationship.
Well, the way I see it, you can only express how you feel. At least now you will know. If she doesn't get back to you, or she responds negatively, then you will be free to look elsewhere. you can't control her response, but now it's out and you will know one way or the other.
Good luck.
As a Cap woman, I always appreciate it when someone is direct with me. Sometimes it seems like I should know how someone feels but sometimes you gotta just spell it out for us.
Posted by Impulsv
Sorry 😢 that's why If it's first time expressing feeling u do so in person or 2nd best phone call. Best In person because u can see body language expression...
Now ull have to be tortured if n until she responds😢
yea i realized this... sigh. Waiting sucks.. 😢
Posted by capgirl69
As a Cap woman, I always appreciate it when someone is direct with me. Sometimes it seems like I should know how someone feels but sometimes you gotta just spell it out for us.
she has mentioned this before and I know she is a VERY DIRECT person. She's given me so many tell signs... unless she is playing me or i'm reading her completely wrong... sigh. Dammit over thinking as usual.
should I send a follow up text to her tomorrow to check in with her.. or do i just keep waiting..lol or call her? I don't want to seem like i'm bugging, she hates that shit.
Posted by JenLove
I agree you should have definitely told her in person instead because you'll just torture yourself waiting for her to respond. You never know if she's busy, if her phone is off or she didn't receive the message. It's always better to do that face to face but, what's done is done.She should have responded by now if she did get it and she's not busy and if she hasn't she is either not interested or she just doesn't know what to say so she needs some time to find the right words. Finding the right thing to say is very important to us. All you can do is wait now so keep yourself busy in the meantime. 5 months hanging out "hardcore" like you say should be enough time for her to have already let you know that she's not/is interested.
Thank you for that. She had a blood test today and we were out late last night so her being busy and not wanting to think about this, I understand. I'm hoping she responds by tomorrow at least though. And if not... do I just keep waiting... or do I follow up to check on how she is feeling/doing etc.
Posted by ryu8
Thank you for that. She had a blood test today and we were out late last night so her being busy and not wanting to think about this, I understand. I'm hoping she responds by tomorrow at least though. And if not... do I just keep waiting... or do I follow up to check on how she is feeling/doing etc.You're very welcome. The hanging out late last night could be why she hasn't responded, maybe she's resting and she just wants some time alone. I can relate to that.
I think by tomorrow if she still hasn't responded you could check in, maybe you shouldn't right off the bat just jump to that conversation. You can say "Hey you never responded to my text yesterday, I hope you're feeling okay" and just leave it at that. If she never responds then it is what it is, who wants a person who can't even be honest with you about the way they feel anyway? The best thing to do is to just be patient.
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that is reasonable. Thank you JenLove
So, have you heard anything yet?
Posted by Eula
So, have you heard anything yet?
yea she texted me and was like "its better to talk in person" so we going to meet up soon.
Aw, ok! Good luck!
*fingers crossed it goes well*
UPDATE! so.... basically she was "irritated" i texted her, understandable I guess. (she gets irritated VERY easily also)
she also said that she feels very "close" and "comfortable" around me a lot more than her other friends.
never mentioned anything about having developed more feelings towards me than friends... although it seems as though she has...?
I guess I can just keep doing what I am doing, but at least I know where we stand now in terms of our friendship.
her chart: sun capricorn, moon cancer, rising capricorn, mars/mercury capricorn, venus aqua, pluto scorpio - lol not sure if that will help determine anything.
So i guess.... my next question... if i wanted her to develop "deeper" feelings towards me... would I have to back off a bit... or continue doing what I do, which is just hanging with her, taking care of her, etc? Capricorn ladies - how do you know when you are starting to develop feelings towards someone more than just a friend?
Continue doing what you're doing. Whatever you do, don't kiss her ass!!! Dote just enough, but not too much. Cap women like independent, strong men who take a stand, are manly men and put us in our place when we need it.
The cap mercury (which I have) will be blunt, but honest. It might be harsh and misunderstood a lot. Call her on it. Say "well, THAT was rude" or whatever. She will respect it.
I have an aqua mars - I don't like to be pushed or pressured. Not sure what cap mars/aqua venus likes.
Iiii don't know.
I definitely don't think you should give her an ultimatum, but goodness...how do you know you are not wasting you time? She should have some kind of understanding of what she wants by now, or if she could see herself with you or not. It seems it's all still up in the air, and if you keep "doing what you are doing" with these feelings, how long can you continue before it turns into resentment that she's not reciprocating or showing interest?
Imho, some of us can be a weird frustrating and confusing bunch. I'd say keep your options open, but that can send signals to her that you are moving on, which doesn't gel too well...then you can just keep being her friend.
Don't let her "irritation" get to you. I honestly think you should consider talking again and asking if she could see herself with you...kind of get an even better understanding. There's a chance you can waste a lot of time.
Why was she irritated that you texted her?
I'd take that as a sign that she is not interested romantically.
I have Cap sun, Cap merc, Cap Venus, but my Cap venus is on the cusp(29.50).
I don't get irritated when someone I like texts me.
The only time it sometimes gets on my nerves is if I am in the middle of something, and someone texts and calls, and I tell them I'm in the middle of something and they keep talking or texting.
Sure, I may take a while to warm up to someone but if I've been hanging out with you for 5 months, I would have given you a sign by now.
Expecially if you are telling her you like her, she said she feels comfortable around you, that's good, but I would say she means this as a friend.
I would keep being friends though, if you can handle it. Caps are the best friends!
Posted by truecap
Continue doing what you're doing. Whatever you do, don't kiss her ass!!! Dote just enough, but not too much. Cap women like independent, strong men who take a stand, are manly men and put us in our place when we need it.The cap mercury (which I have) will be blunt, but honest. It might be harsh and misunderstood a lot. Call her on it. Say "well, THAT was rude" or whatever. She will respect it.
I have an aqua mars - I don't like to be pushed or pressured. Not sure what cap mars/aqua venus likes.
I made a mistake her Mars is actually in Scorpio lol, sorry.
And yea, she's a very "cold" girl, which i dig for some reason, but I do have to call her on shit a lot.
thank you!
Posted by lnana04
Iiii don't know.I definitely don't think you should give her an ultimatum, but goodness...how do you know you are not wasting you time? She should have some kind of understanding of what she wants by now, or if she could see herself with you or not. It seems it's all still up in the air, and if you keep "doing what you are doing" with these feelings, how long can you continue before it turns into resentment that she's not reciprocating or showing interest?
Imho, some of us can be a weird frustrating and confusing bunch. I'd say keep your options open, but that can send signals to her that you are moving on, which doesn't gel too well...then you can just keep being her friend.
Don't let her "irritation" get to you. I honestly think you should consider talking again and asking if she could see herself with you...kind of get an even better understanding. There's a chance you can waste a lot of time.
Yea i'm thinking about backing off a little bit, just for that very reason, so their is no mixed signals etc. It will be hard I admit... and I do want to be friends with her still.. damn idk now.. my venus in scorpio sucks that's all i gotta say. Such a shitty placement sometimes! If I back off a bit i'll get scared I might lose her completely, if i continue doing what I do, I feel as though I might fall harder.. w/ her still feeling the same.. dang.
Posted by capgirl69
Why was she irritated that you texted her?
I'd take that as a sign that she is not interested romantically.I have Cap sun, Cap merc, Cap Venus, but my Cap venus is on the cusp(29.50).
I don't get irritated when someone I like texts me.The only time it sometimes gets on my nerves is if I am in the middle of something, and someone texts and calls, and I tell them I'm in the middle of something and they keep talking or texting.
Sure, I may take a while to warm up to someone but if I've been hanging out with you for 5 months, I would have given you a sign by now.
Expecially if you are telling her you like her, she said she feels comfortable around you, that's good, but I would say she means this as a friend.I would keep being friends though, if you can handle it. Caps are the best friends!
She was irritated not by the text, but that I texted her that type of information rather than talking about it in person w/ her or over the phone, sorry for the confusion.
she has made it quite clear to me already the type of shit she likes/dislikes about people what her pet peeves are etc and thus are the things that irritate her.. and might I add it is quite a long list - lol. She did mention that she likes me because i don't "smother" her and give her space when she needs it.
In regards to warming up to someone. She said she tells me personal things that she would never tell other people.. maybe that is the "comfortable" she is referring too.. although she does stay over at my house often as well..from research and with what I've gathered from her and what her friends have said.. I believe she has not been in a "true" relationship before.. or at least in a while. Maybe she "truly" does not know how to express her feelings or may even be confused?
As of right now... i'm leaning towards friends though, I do love hanging out w/ her. I just don't know if this is possible because a lot of the time it's either all or nothing for me, it's hard for in between shit, ugh..
Posted by truecap
Continue doing what you're doing. Whatever you do, don't kiss her ass!!! Dote just enough, but not too much. Cap women like independent, strong men who take a stand, are manly men and put us in our place when we need it.The cap mercury (which I have) will be blunt, but honest. It might be harsh and misunderstood a lot. Call her on it. Say "well, THAT was rude" or whatever. She will respect it.
I have an aqua mars - I don't like to be pushed or pressured. Not sure what cap mars/aqua venus likes.
I made a mistake her Mars is actually in Scorpio lol, sorry.
And yea, she's a very "cold" girl, which i dig for some reason, but I do have to call her on shit a lot.
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You Scorp guys are gluttons for punishment. lol.
Posted by CluelessCancer
She sounds highly retarded, emotionally inept, and really boring.I hope she's really hot!
lol that is exactly what my cousin who is also a Cancer said as well.
she's different and interesting - which is what I dig. I like figuring her out.
Wouldn't say hot, but she's cute.
Posted by truecap
Continue doing what you're doing. Whatever you do, don't kiss her ass!!! Dote just enough, but not too much. Cap women like independent, strong men who take a stand, are manly men and put us in our place when we need it.The cap mercury (which I have) will be blunt, but honest. It might be harsh and misunderstood a lot. Call her on it. Say "well, THAT was rude" or whatever. She will respect it.
I have an aqua mars - I don't like to be pushed or pressured. Not sure what cap mars/aqua venus likes.
I made a mistake her Mars is actually in Scorpio lol, sorry.
And yea, she's a very "cold" girl, which i dig for some reason, but I do have to call her on shit a lot.
thank you!You Scorp guys are gluttons for punishment. lol.
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yea it turns me on in a way, jk kinda lol
But foreal... she has a sweet side too, just takes the right guy to bring it out - but when you do it's the cutest thing ever.
I'd give her a little time to process it and in a month or two have the conversation again like Inana suggested.
Posted by truecap
I'd give her a little time to process it and in a month or two have the conversation again like Inana suggested.
So basically continue acting the same around her, but give it another 1-2 months and then have the conversation w/ her again?
Or do I need to toughen up a bit and show some tough love towards her, i'll admit, I am generally pretty soft when I care about someone genuinely. Could eventually be my down fall. I basically tend to all their needs sacrificing my own to some extent, it kind of sucks to be honest.
I hate to say it, but shes not interested in being anything more than just friends. Whether you texted or told her in person how you felt she would of told you if her feelings were mutual and she didn't.
That being said I am sure she feels close to you and really does enjoy your company. Really at this point you can only go with the flow because there really is no perfect time frame. If she likes you, you will know and if not well, you will know that too.
Posted by Eula
I hate to say it, but shes not interested in being anything more than just friends. Whether you texted or told her in person how you felt she would of told you if her feelings were mutual and she didn't.That being said I am sure she feels close to you and really does enjoy your company. Really at this point you can only go with the flow because there really is no perfect time frame. If she likes you, you will know and if not well, you will know that too.
Well, then again, she might need some time to reconsider. Perhaps she hadn't put it all together yet in how she feels about him.
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Posted by ryu8
UPDATE! Capricorn ladies - how do you know when you are starting to develop feelings towards someone more than just a friend?
When I can't stop thinking about them.
Posted by truecap
I'd give her a little time to process it and in a month or two have the conversation again like Inana suggested.So basically continue acting the same around her, but give it another 1-2 months and then have the conversation w/ her again?
Or do I need to toughen up a bit and show some tough love towards her, i'll admit, I am generally pretty soft when I care about someone genuinely. Could eventually be my down fall. I basically tend to all their needs sacrificing my own to some extent, it kind of sucks to be honest.
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You know her better than we do. Do you think she might come around? If so, then give some time.
I'm kind of iffy on the tough love issue. Caps like someone they have to work for (don't want it to come easy - then it seems too good to be true), so on that side I say maybe. I hate this, but I like aloof guys. They drive me crazy, but it keeps me interested, although I get frustrated and irrated - I like it, but I don't at the same time. On the other hand, the tough love, well, be true to yourself and if it's an act, she might see right through it and then you'll ring false.
Just a little mom advice, don't lose yourself while taking care of other people, i.e. sacrificing your own needs. I've been there and after a while you begin to resent them because they aren't putting out the same efforts. Not saying all people are like that, but more than often that becomes the case.
Basically be true to yourself and be who you are. If you have to change for someone, then they're not the right one for you.
Posted by ryu8
UPDATE! Capricorn ladies - how do you know when you are starting to develop feelings towards someone more than just a friend?When I can't stop thinking about them.
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Posted by Eula
I hate to say it, but shes not interested in being anything more than just friends. Whether you texted or told her in person how you felt she would of told you if her feelings were mutual and she didn't.That being said I am sure she feels close to you and really does enjoy your company. Really at this point you can only go with the flow because there really is no perfect time frame. If she likes you, you will know and if not well, you will know that too.
Well, then again, she might need some time to reconsider. Perhaps she hadn't put it all together yet in how she feels about him.
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I agree we may be a little slow paced, but what is there for her to evaluate?
thank you TrueCap and Eula for that info.
Now I am officially torn on what to do - I do want to be friends with her and possibly see WHAT it can develop into I suppose down the line. I'm pretty patient in general.. so i'm hoping possibly something might spark down the line in say a month or so. On the other hand.. I don't want to make myself vulnerable to her and develop deeper feelings if she is just going to be feeling the same exact way she does right now..it will put me in a shittier position than I already am.. and it's pretty shitty when I can't stop thinking about her and I KNOW as of right now the feelings are not mutually shared. This kind of sucks.
I think we confused you even more. Didn't mean to, but it's just hard to say.
Honestly, though, I wouldn't wait more than a month or two. She may not have thought of you that way before, BUT now that the idea is planted in her head, she may begin to look at you differently. That's happened to me before. It was like "hmmm...I never looked at him like that, but now that you mention it....yeah!I think I DO like him".
You should be able to tell by her actions whether she's running or considering. If she starts acting weird or avoiding you, I'd beware.
Posted by truecap
I think we confused you even more. Didn't mean to, but it's just hard to say.Honestly, though, I wouldn't wait more than a month or two. She may not have thought of you that way before, BUT now that the idea is planted in her head, she may begin to look at you differently. That's happened to me before. It was like "hmmm...I never looked at him like that, but now that you mention it....yeah!I think I DO like him".
You should be able to tell by her actions whether she's running or considering. If she starts acting weird or avoiding you, I'd beware.
I am not saying TrueCap is wrong by the way. We just have different perspectives on your situation. I am different in that if I like you, I like you today, not two months from now.
No it's all good, I get mixed up with things easily and over think sometimes.
I'll just continue acting normal talking to her and doing the same things I been doing. You're right i'll look at her more precisely as well. I should be able to tell if she starts acting weird or differently. I guess that'll be my sign to back off/ let go. Sigh
You should be able to tell by her actions whether she's running or considering. If she starts acting weird or avoiding you, I'd beware.
This is very true! No confusion there!
Posted by truecap
I think we confused you even more. Didn't mean to, but it's just hard to say.Honestly, though, I wouldn't wait more than a month or two. She may not have thought of you that way before, BUT now that the idea is planted in her head, she may begin to look at you differently. That's happened to me before. It was like "hmmm...I never looked at him like that, but now that you mention it....yeah!I think I DO like him".
You should be able to tell by her actions whether she's running or considering. If she starts acting weird or avoiding you, I'd beware.
I am not saying TrueCap is wrong by the way. We just have different perspectives on your situation. I am different in that if I like you, I like you today, not two months from now.
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Yeah, this is true, too. It's good he's getting different perspectives.
today I feel troubled/confused/a little pissed/sad/and angry. I miss her.
She seems to be acting a little differently.
She wanted to get dinner and a drink last night - but I had prior plans with my cousin and said that I couldn't, he got a new car and only has 2 seats so he wanted to take me out in it.
Today I asked her to get dinner, but apparently she has prior plans for tonight and usually she'll invite me, but she didn't. (maybe she'll ask me tonight though hm.)
anyway, i'm just curious, will caps try and make you feel bad in some way or another. Example the situation above. Because I did not invite her/ or hang w. her yesterday, will they feel the need to "return the favor" of doing the same thing.
Sounds kind of ridiculous to me, but I am always skeptical of everything and sometimes my mind gets the best of me. It's actually a pretty ridiculous thought I must say. But i'm still curious if you guys act this way subconsciously. She is a very cold girl as i've mentioned... but I think that is seriously what attracts me to her, gawdamnn.
Maybe i'm just over thinking as usual. This sucks ugh
Well, I wouldn't try to make you feel bad on purpose. But, if you diss me, I'll diss you. If I feel hurt, I'll withdraw. I don't think you not hanging out with her would cause me to react that way, but if you organized a group outing and left me out, I would. Hope that makes sense.
Oh, and prior plans and alone time with your cousin, I would understand. I would also expect you to understand if I had already made plans with someone and wanted it to be just me and them (like me and my BFF).
So you are attracted to her coldness? A little left, but what will happen when she decides to warm up?
I dont have much to add, but that I have a scorpio venus too. Dont let it get the best of you because IT WILL! Before my mind and emotions get going I'll ask myself..."Do I think this is the last I will hear from him?" If the answer is no, I try to cool down and let the fact that knwing its not the end keep things in perspective. Just try to relax. You will definitely hang out with her again, and soon.
Posted by lnana04
So you are attracted to her coldness? A little left, but what will happen when she decides to warm up?I dont have much to add, but that I have a scorpio venus too. Dont let it get the best of you because IT WILL! Before my mind and emotions get going I'll ask myself..."Do I think this is the last I will hear from him?" If the answer is no, I try to cool down and let the fact that knwing its not the end keep things in perspective. Just try to relax. You will definitely hang out with her again, and soon.
My scorpio venus gets the best of me too. I like the placement but its hard to keep it all in check.
Sometimes I have to duct that venus bitches mouth and shove her in the closet. 😛
Posted by truecap
Well, I wouldn't try to make you feel bad on purpose. But, if you diss me, I'll diss you. If I feel hurt, I'll withdraw. I don't think you not hanging out with her would cause me to react that way, but if you organized a group outing and left me out, I would. Hope that makes sense.
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yes that makes perfect sense and I understand that.
Posted by truecap
Oh, and prior plans and alone time with your cousin, I would understand. I would also expect you to understand if I had already made plans with someone and wanted it to be just me and them (like me and my BFF).
thank you for the perspective and it makes sense as well.
Posted by lnana04
So you are attracted to her coldness? A little left, but what will happen when she decides to warm up?I dont have much to add, but that I have a scorpio venus too. Dont let it get the best of you because IT WILL! Before my mind and emotions get going I'll ask myself..."Do I think this is the last I will hear from him?" If the answer is no, I try to cool down and let the fact that knwing its not the end keep things in perspective. Just try to relax. You will definitely hang out with her again, and soon.
I am attracted to way she is/acts. she's different. she's cold, etc. Never been with someone like this..which makes me more interested in learning more about them. If and if she ever does warm up that's great.. hopefully sooner than later. I can deal w. all types of people, it's just in my nature and all my friends wonder how i do it, I just do though.
It's been getting the best of me recently and it sucks. I am at the point where I almost want to start kicking it with this one girl i met a few weeks ago just to get my mind off of her. But I already know where this might lead and it wouldn't be fair to both of the girls. Funny actually I met this girl while I was with the capricorn and some function.. and got her number some how when i was drunk...we texted a little bit.. and she has been trying to see me for a while and arrange something. She's a libra.
venus in aqua people can be confusing + all that cap
Dude, honestly..move on. The moment you start having fun and getting back to your own independent fun vibe, thats when she would genuinely want to be around you again. When you distance yourself from the whole situation, thats when you will start seeing the truth of things. You're putting your emotional state in her hands, you're acting desperate and needy. You're giving her way too much power over you. Expand your choices, your friends circle, meet new people, new girls. Things will start to happen for you once you put this situation in the right perspective.
Wow, so many answers catering to your ego. Cap women truly are way too nice for this world.
Fact is, you claim you know her, you even state she is a direct person, yet you start professing feelings over a message. She tells you she's not into you like that, yet you keep searching a different meaning for what she says.
And then you ask if she can actually develop feelings through this friendship, which sounds like manipulation on your part. You're either way too deep in this, to the point you cannot see things clearly anymore or you're playing a game.
If it's the former...BoomShakalakaBoom gave you good advice about how to handle this.
Posted by Sag89
venus in aqua people can be confusing + all that cap
yes i've noticed this
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Dude, honestly..move on. The moment you start having fun and getting back to your own independent fun vibe, thats when she would genuinely want to be around you again. When you distance yourself from the whole situation, thats when you will start seeing the truth of things. You're putting your emotional state in her hands, you're acting desperate and needy. You're giving her way too much power over you. Expand your choices, your friends circle, meet new people, new girls. Things will start to happen for you once you put this situation in the right perspective.
I understand and appreciate this. It's hard though with a certain placement that I possess -_-. I get too attached easily and then my mind goes crazy, it sucks. Will try and do this though. Thank you
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So.. after kicking it with this girl for a while, I sent her a text this morning telling her how I felt and that I am developing feeling for her more than a friend.
This was say... 4 hours ago. No response yet. I hate expressing myself verbally, i'm the type to show someone I care about them physically and emotionally.
She has given me a lot of tell signs that she is interested. Her and my friends always ask what is up with us. I always respond with a vague ass answer and blank stupid look on my face. I need to know now though.
so the question is... did I do the right thing..? Should i have waited longer (we been kicking hardcore for like 5 months). And when the hell will she respond back... ugh.. I hate waiting.
so many damn questions/scenarios going through my head -_-