aquapiscescusp
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Yes. He's for real. They're weird like that.
Posted by AndalusiaHe just told me he saw the message now only!
Yes. He's for real. They're weird like that.
Posted by leowww
Mhm.
Bienvenue dans le club du mindfuck.... Lol.
6 years? You win hands down.
C'est n'importe quoi.
I had forgotten about him tbh, but wow, I am still in shock. I don't even know what to say to him. LOL
Posted by Capri-sunI actually believe him.. he wasn't the bullshitting type. Still....Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by AndalusiaHe just told me he saw the message now only!
Yes. He's for real. They're weird like that.
Mysterious things like that happen in our life. No lie.click to expand
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Years ago I had a thing with a cap guy, my first cap, actually, and he was pretty awesome -- serious, but awesome.
Thing is, he didn't want a "relationship" and I understood that, even though I was crushed but never told him.
I eventually moved on and started seeing someone else for quite a few years. This cap fellow stopped talking to me immediately, wouldn't even look at me (we all hung out at the same place). I guess he never thought I would move on?
Forward to today... he just answered a message I sent him 6 years ago!!!! I almost fell off my chair when I saw his name.
Is he for real?
lol. was that over email? and what was the message about?
Posted by aquapiscescuspWhen they say Caps are busy and hard working and slow in relationships, this is exactly what they mean, lol.Posted by AndalusiaHe just told me he saw the message now only!
Yes. He's for real. They're weird like that.
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Posted by puhleezemessenger... and just hi, how are youPosted by aquapiscescusp
Years ago I had a thing with a cap guy, my first cap, actually, and he was pretty awesome -- serious, but awesome.
Thing is, he didn't want a "relationship" and I understood that, even though I was crushed but never told him.
I eventually moved on and started seeing someone else for quite a few years. This cap fellow stopped talking to me immediately, wouldn't even look at me (we all hung out at the same place). I guess he never thought I would move on?
Forward to today... he just answered a message I sent him 6 years ago!!!! I almost fell off my chair when I saw his name.
Is he for real?
lol. was that over email? and what was the message about?
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Posted by leowwwPosted by aquapiscescuspI know exactly what you mean. It's when you no longer think about them that they creep back in lol.... or try.Posted by leowww
Mhm.
Bienvenue dans le club du mindfuck.... Lol.
6 years? You win hands down.
C'est n'importe quoi.
I had forgotten about him tbh, but wow, I am still in shock. I don't even know what to say to him. LOL
As for what to say....depends..do you even want to?
Essaie un ton nonchalant... Lol
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he is informing me of a mutual friend that is dying 😢
Posted by leowwwc'est vrai...Posted by aquapiscescuspOoh non........ 😢Posted by leowwwPosted by aquapiscescuspI know exactly what you mean. It's when you no longer think about them that they creep back in lol.... or try.Posted by leowww
Mhm.
Bienvenue dans le club du mindfuck.... Lol.
6 years? You win hands down.
C'est n'importe quoi.
I had forgotten about him tbh, but wow, I am still in shock. I don't even know what to say to him. LOL
As for what to say....depends..do you even want to?
Essaie un ton nonchalant... Lol
he is informing me of a mutual friend that is dying 😢
C'est moins drôle que je pensais.
Sad news sometimes bring people closer /together. ?click to expand
shit, so many memories with this guy, liked him so much!!!!
Posted by aquapiscescuspHe saw the message 6 years ago, but didn't want to reply.Posted by AndalusiaHe just told me he saw the message now only!
Yes. He's for real. They're weird like that.
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It happened the same thing to me with a cap woman, but not 6 years. She replied to my email 1 year after!
I said: "Do radio signals take longer to reach your planet?", and she said: "sometimes I just don't want to talk...".
Cap sun and moon.
But then she eventually told me why she was on hiatus.
So yes, I think that's normal. They disappear for a while, but they are still "there", and so as you.
Hhahaahaha 6 years really!!!!!
I am happy you didnot wait around or try to change him.... you would have been messed up.
I am happy you didnot wait around or try to change him.... you would have been messed up.
Posted by netpowerit is the strangest thing ever. We chatted quite a bit and he is saying things that you would have wanted him to say back when. Hes pouring his feelings out....
Hhahaahaha 6 years really!!!!!
I am happy you didnot wait around or try to change him.... you would have been messed up.
I'm so confused lol
Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by netpowerit is the strangest thing ever. We chatted quite a bit and he is saying things that you would have wanted him to say back when. Hes pouring his feelings out....
Hhahaahaha 6 years really!!!!!
I am happy you didnot wait around or try to change him.... you would have been messed up.
I'm so confused lolclick to expand
He could be trying to come back into your life. I would be careful because it could be mind games he is trying to play.
If you are single, you could consider him but know what you want and if he cannot offer that, have the dignity to walk away!!!!
If you arenot single, focus on your relationship and let him know you are in a committed relationship and you wont offer him one.
Posted by Capri-sunPosted by aquapiscescuspWhat's there to be confused about?Posted by netpowerit is the strangest thing ever. We chatted quite a bit and he is saying things that you would have wanted him to say back when. Hes pouring his feelings out....
Hhahaahaha 6 years really!!!!!
I am happy you didnot wait around or try to change him.... you would have been messed up.
I'm so confused lol
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How he's saying things I have never heard, the compliments, the memories, the what ifs? Very flattering but why now? I suppose it's better late than never.
Yes foreal! Mind fuck innit? Be careful 😉 Caps can have a thing for looking back fondly on what was, doesnt necessarily mean he wants to or can go back there. He may be in a new relationship even btw, or you know hes not?
Posted by netpowerHe was never one to play mind games but it's possible... But it's too late for anything now. Too much time passed, he knows that.Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by netpowerit is the strangest thing ever. We chatted quite a bit and he is saying things that you would have wanted him to say back when. Hes pouring his feelings out....
Hhahaahaha 6 years really!!!!!
I am happy you didnot wait around or try to change him.... you would have been messed up.
I'm so confused lol
He could be trying to come back into your life. I would be careful because it could be mind games he is trying to play.
If you are single, you could consider him but know what you want and if he cannot offer that, have the dignity to walk away!!!!
If you arenot single, focus on your relationship and let him know you are in a committed relationship and you wont offer him one.click to expand
We had amazing chemistry and I was head over heels for him. He told me he couldn't believe I went out with him? Insecure, unsure?
Posted by LibraLovesHimReal mind fuck!!!! And that's exactly what he's doing, looking back veryyyy fondly on what was. Remembering details I don't even remember. He's not living with anyone if that's what you mean... Lol but as far as relationships, he could have some here and there. The kind of guy who was..is afraid of a full on relationship!
Yes foreal! Mind fuck innit? Be careful 😉 Caps can have a thing for looking back fondly on what was, doesnt necessarily mean he wants to or can go back there. He may be in a new relationship even btw, or you know hes not?
Posted by ParisianCappyNo no, I chose him years ago but he told me then he didn't want a full on relationship! C'est lui qui est mêler🙂Posted by aquapiscescuspif it's too late or no, he's the only one who choose this statement, he's saying that you didnt choose him six years ago, and now he's asking himself that is it possible to trust you.Posted by netpowerHe was never one to play mind games but it's possible... But it's too late for anything now. Too much time passed, he knows that.Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by netpowerit is the strangest thing ever. We chatted quite a bit and he is saying things that you would have wanted him to say back when. Hes pouring his feelings out....
Hhahaahaha 6 years really!!!!!
I am happy you didnot wait around or try to change him.... you would have been messed up.
I'm so confused lol
He could be trying to come back into your life. I would be careful because it could be mind games he is trying to play.
If you are single, you could consider him but know what you want and if he cannot offer that, have the dignity to walk away!!!!
If you arenot single, focus on your relationship and let him know you are in a committed relationship and you wont offer him one.
We had amazing chemistry and I was head over heels for him. He told me he couldn't believe I went out with him? Insecure, unsure?
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And I decide if it's too late haha -- he drive me crazy long ago, not going there.
and yes, possible trust issues!!!!
@nightcap2 he drove me crazy,you misread that lol
And yeah he's regretting it now
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And yeah he's regretting it now
🙂
Posted by Capri-sunI sent him a text 6 years ago to see how he was doing... he just answered me. Of course I am going to answer. He was a great guy and never did anything wrong, it just wasn't meant to be. I am curious and strangely enough I keep in touch with most people that have touched my life somehow. That was the reason for my initial message to him... He has been talking about our times together and I am happy he is bringing it up as many things were unclear then.
Ok here's the thing, if it's too late, why does the motivation behind it matter? What difference does it make?
Why are you engaging in conversation with him? What do you hope to take away from this? Friendship? An understanding? What exactly?
Sometimes it takes people time to "grow up", heal, figure themselves out, figure out what they want, and so on and so forth.
If a cap has ever been involved with a person or felt something towards them, typically they will forever be a part of that individual, in one way or another.
The simple, short, surface answer is maybe he is at a point in his life now where he is ready for a relationship, and he chose to reach out to touch base with you just to see where you're at in life and how you've been.
No mind fuck, no games, no hidden motive.
The are many other possible deeper answers that only he could provide. He probably liked you back then, just didn't want to be vulnerable to the possibility of being hurt. Making him decide he wasn't ready for a relationship. Time has probably changed that aspect of his life, and he might be looking for a relationship now.
Sure sounds like has grown up!
I actually think he thought he had a shot after all this time...
Posted by aquapiscescuspWhy whats the update?
I actually think he thought he had a shot after all this time...
They come, they go. It's on their time, on their terms.
I hope you show him all that he missed out on, then leave him to regret his bad decision.
My 2 cents...
I hope you show him all that he missed out on, then leave him to regret his bad decision.
My 2 cents...
Posted by LibraLovesHimI'm a great woman, I would make an excellent wife, he was so in love with me, I broke his heart...Posted by aquapiscescuspWhy whats the update?
I actually think he thought he had a shot after all this time...click to expand
I don't know where I was when all that was going on.
Posted by Capri-sunHe had his chance, I was crazy about him, he put the brakes on... Not me. He broke my heart!Posted by aquapiscescuspWhy wouldn't he have a chance if he was a great guy who didn't do anything wrong?
I actually think he thought he had a shot after all this time...click to expand
Why would I even consider that again.
Posted by SpiceNSugarhow do you suggest I show him?
They come, they go. It's on their time, on their terms.
I hope you show him all that he missed out on, then leave him to regret his bad decision.
My 2 cents...
Posted by aquanib😄Posted by aquapiscescusp....right....
He just told me he saw the message now only!
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That's exactly what I thought.
Posted by aquapiscescuspSix years———— Girl, where were you? In an island, found a bottle, paper, pen, and wrote him a message? I can just see you waiting for six years for the bottle to drift back to your island. WoW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤗 cyber hugs!
Years ago I had a thing with a cap guy, my first cap, actually, and he was pretty awesome -- serious, but awesome.
Thing is, he didn't want a "relationship" and I understood that, even though I was crushed but never told him.
I eventually moved on and started seeing someone else for quite a few years. This cap fellow stopped talking to me immediately, wouldn't even look at me (we all hung out at the same place). I guess he never thought I would move on?
Forward to today... he just answered a message I sent him 6 years ago!!!! I almost fell off my chair when I saw his name.
Is he for real?
Love,
Eva
PS: Yeah, I'm a little sarcastic here (where warranted), but YOU DON'T need him! If a man doesn't show me interest, and believe you me, I had two dates (Leo & Libra) I BOUNCE! (or swim away!). Hey, I'm Piscean!
Posted by aquapiscescuspFor example, casually mention the different things you've accomplished over the years. I know you have plenty.Posted by SpiceNSugarhow do you suggest I show him?
They come, they go. It's on their time, on their terms.
I hope you show him all that he missed out on, then leave him to regret his bad decision.
My 2 cents...click to expand
Photos can also be helpful. I have no doubt that you have aged beautifully and gracefully.
Just tossing ideas out there. Only you can know what's best and what you feel comfortable saying/doing.
Posted by EvatheDivaPosted by aquapiscescuspSix years———— Girl, where were you? In an island, found a bottle, paper, pen, and wrote him a message? I can just see you waiting for six years for the bottle to drift back to your island. WoW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤗 cyber hugs!
Years ago I had a thing with a cap guy, my first cap, actually, and he was pretty awesome -- serious, but awesome.
Thing is, he didn't want a "relationship" and I understood that, even though I was crushed but never told him.
I eventually moved on and started seeing someone else for quite a few years. This cap fellow stopped talking to me immediately, wouldn't even look at me (we all hung out at the same place). I guess he never thought I would move on?
Forward to today... he just answered a message I sent him 6 years ago!!!! I almost fell off my chair when I saw his name.
Is he for real?
Love,
Eva
PS: Yeah, I'm a little sarcastic here (where warranted), but YOU DON'T need him! If a man doesn't show me interest, and believe you me, I had two dates (Leo & Libra) I BOUNCE! (or swim away!). Hey, I'm Piscean!
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Definitely, I wasn't waiting... this is a blast from the past!! Of course I'm curious as to why now... But I'm sure I will never know the answer to that. Well maybe, in 10 years from now lol. Thanks for the cyber hugs! x
Posted by CaploveWhat does that mean?
Omg, and during the retrograde too! He's on schedule, I suppose. 🙂
Did you ask him if he's gone through a breakup recently. That's usually when people start reaching out to missed opportunities
Posted by SpiceNSugarHe wants photos... But I changed the subject. 🙂 thanks beautiful xPosted by aquapiscescuspFor example, casually mention the different things you've accomplished over the years. I know you have plenty.Posted by SpiceNSugarhow do you suggest I show him?
They come, they go. It's on their time, on their terms.
I hope you show him all that he missed out on, then leave him to regret his bad decision.
My 2 cents...
Photos can also be helpful. I have no doubt that you have aged beautifully and gracefully.
Just tossing ideas out there. Only you can know what's best and what you feel comfortable saying/doing.
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Posted by Arisaturn2He said he hasn't been lucky in finding someone... Earlier on he wasn't interested in settling down, he loved the single life, he wanted to enjoy his freedom, go out with friends etc
Did you ask him if he's gone through a breakup recently. That's usually when people start reaching out to missed opportunities
Who knows what his motivation is. Possibly checking to see how my life is...
Could be a recent break up... True
Posted by aquapiscescuspYeah, honestly could be anything. I'm kind of leery of anyone who is that forward right away though. That's just me.Posted by Arisaturn2He said he hasn't been lucky in finding someone... Earlier on he wasn't interested in settling down, he loved the single life, he wanted to enjoy his freedom, go out with friends etc
Did you ask him if he's gone through a breakup recently. That's usually when people start reaching out to missed opportunities
Who knows what his motivation is. Possibly checking to see how my life is...click to expand
...but!... my aunt lived next to a cap that never made a move on her (she's Aqua) and then she moved away and they found each other on a dating site and he spilled his feelings and they were official on the first date. Lol.
You just never really know. Are you not interested at all? I'm an Aries so I just want to throw caution to the wind and see what happens ? No other way to live for fire signs
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Could be a recent break up... True
Eek don't let me out doubt in your head. Can you be as open as possible to him until you learn the real motivations and intentions? Or are you just not open to him anymore?
Posted by Arisaturn2The opening up like we never missed a beat is strange but he was never one to beat around the bush. Now, I am not interested at all in him romantically. I sent him that text 6 years ago to catch up with him, I am the type to keep in touch with exes even if it's once a year.Posted by aquapiscescuspYeah, honestly could be anything. I'm kind of leery of anyone who is that forward right away though. That's just me.Posted by Arisaturn2He said he hasn't been lucky in finding someone... Earlier on he wasn't interested in settling down, he loved the single life, he wanted to enjoy his freedom, go out with friends etc
Did you ask him if he's gone through a breakup recently. That's usually when people start reaching out to missed opportunities
Who knows what his motivation is. Possibly checking to see how my life is...
...but!... my aunt lived next to a cap that never made a move on her (she's Aqua) and then she moved away and they found each other on a dating site and he spilled his feelings and they were official on the first date. Lol.
You just never really know. Are you not interested at all? I'm an Aries so I just want to throw caution to the wind and see what happens ? No other way to live for fire signs
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Oh I love your aunt story. That is such a cap way though... some serious uncertainties when it comes to feelings for someone. How are they doing?
Let me ask you this, would you take the chance to get involved with someone after so many years?
Posted by Arisaturn2regardless of his motivations and intentions, it's not going to change my mind about him...Posted by aquapiscescusp
Could be a recent break up... True
Eek don't let me out doubt in your head. Can you be as open as possible to him until you learn the real motivations and intentions? Or are you just not open to him anymore?click to expand
It might doe.
Posted by aquapiscescuspThey're doing great now. They just bought a house.Posted by Arisaturn2The opening up like we never missed a beat is strange but he was never one to beat around the bush. Now, I am not interested at all in him romantically. I sent him that text 6 years ago to catch up with him, I am the type to keep in touch with exes even if it's once a year.Posted by aquapiscescuspYeah, honestly could be anything. I'm kind of leery of anyone who is that forward right away though. That's just me.Posted by Arisaturn2He said he hasn't been lucky in finding someone... Earlier on he wasn't interested in settling down, he loved the single life, he wanted to enjoy his freedom, go out with friends etc
Did you ask him if he's gone through a breakup recently. That's usually when people start reaching out to missed opportunities
Who knows what his motivation is. Possibly checking to see how my life is...
...but!... my aunt lived next to a cap that never made a move on her (she's Aqua) and then she moved away and they found each other on a dating site and he spilled his feelings and they were official on the first date. Lol.
You just never really know. Are you not interested at all? I'm an Aries so I just want to throw caution to the wind and see what happens ? No other way to live for fire signs
Oh I love your aunt story. That is such a cap way though... some serious uncertainties when it comes to feelings for someone. How are they doing?
Let me ask you this, would you take the chance to get involved with someone after so many years?click to expand
I have and I would again even though it didn't turn out well. Because, as the saying goes-it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. The curiosity of always wondering "what if" is stronger than my need for self preservation.
Posted by Arisaturn2Cap and Aqua, great combo -- even better when they are older.Posted by aquapiscescuspThey're doing great now. They just bought a house.Posted by Arisaturn2The opening up like we never missed a beat is strange but he was never one to beat around the bush. Now, I am not interested at all in him romantically. I sent him that text 6 years ago to catch up with him, I am the type to keep in touch with exes even if it's once a year.Posted by aquapiscescuspYeah, honestly could be anything. I'm kind of leery of anyone who is that forward right away though. That's just me.Posted by Arisaturn2He said he hasn't been lucky in finding someone... Earlier on he wasn't interested in settling down, he loved the single life, he wanted to enjoy his freedom, go out with friends etc
Did you ask him if he's gone through a breakup recently. That's usually when people start reaching out to missed opportunities
Who knows what his motivation is. Possibly checking to see how my life is...
...but!... my aunt lived next to a cap that never made a move on her (she's Aqua) and then she moved away and they found each other on a dating site and he spilled his feelings and they were official on the first date. Lol.
You just never really know. Are you not interested at all? I'm an Aries so I just want to throw caution to the wind and see what happens ? No other way to live for fire signs
Oh I love your aunt story. That is such a cap way though... some serious uncertainties when it comes to feelings for someone. How are they doing?
Let me ask you this, would you take the chance to get involved with someone after so many years?
I have and I would again even though it didn't turn out well. Because, as the saying goes-it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. The curiosity of always wondering "what if" is stronger than my need for self preservation.
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Which signs do you attract? Yes, it's true -- better to have loved and lost... but find someone knew to love instead of losing with the same person?? lol
and so many caps too!!! they all have the same problem though 😉
Posted by Caplovethank you for respondingPosted by aquapiscescuspI thought the retrograde was when people, that were in once in relationships that didn't work out for whatever reason, come back into your life to either hash things out/ clear the air or it's a chance to re-kindle the relationship. This doesn't apply to new relationships though. I read those are not good to start during retrograde.Posted by CaploveWhat does that mean?
Omg, and during the retrograde too! He's on schedule, I suppose. 🙂click to expand
this would make sense as we had a relationship years ago...
well I thought I was in a relationship but apparently I wasn't
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