Am I overreacting (Page 2)

I think Virgo. September 10

Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by LillyPetal
I don't think it's a weird thought. I think that some women base their opinions off the opinions of the guys in an effort to appear "objective" or "open-minded."

I think his behavior is kind of grimy, though. But I have never been one to enjoy public, dirty jokes because I see them as tacky.

... in order to ingratiate themselves, and gain acceptance, etc.


Good eye, Lilly.



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The level of arrogance in people is a constant surprise here on this earth.
I think Lillys way of reacting is typicle for a person who's been kept outside for most of her life and of one who is a follower, as in follow the rules. So now she knows no other way than to insult them and think they are stupid, because she's not part of the game.
Typicle arrogance : you don't understand it, you don't like it and you're not a part of it, so that must mean that ecerybody who does it are wrong. Grow up woman! Please.

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"... because she's not part of the game"

"... because she's not part of the game"

"... because she's not part of the game"



Fuck the game.

Some people see through it, and elect not to engage.

The myth (and the deception) is that you're required to play.

And

I question the notion that going against the tide makes one a 'follower.'

Posted by libraqueen
Did you double text him?!

There was about 30-60 minutes between each text when it's usually 1-2 minutes

Wow. I read the original post and drop his ass like yesterday. What a selfish, petulant little boy. Lots of good advice here: the curb is the only place worth him.

I'm not a Gemini but will say if you didn't drop him and another situation happens then try a diff approach that will give you more power. Say you're getting weird vibes that are making you feel off. Once he asks what you mean, then he has engaged your grievance. Say "I feel" or "it feels" a lot to avoid a confrontational/accusatory tone. "I feel weird or uncomfortable about the idea of your face in another woman's boobs".. The wording would take the sense of rivalry between you and the friend out of the equation as well, so he won't feel stuck between you. Idk, just my 2 cents. I think you would get some surprising results that way. A little validation at the very least. My venus is in Gemini if that helps anything.

Posted by scorpx3

Posted by lovinglioness1115

Posted by sultrykitty
I wouldn't be having it. I actually would have a problem with both if them (not just him), simply because he excuses her behavior and she seems to think that talking about smothering with her boobs a man that isn't hers (or isn't he?) is perfectly OK.

I know it's just talk, but words can lead lead to actions and it's not like he's only loosely connected to her. He sleeps at her house. Uhm, no.

This. ^

If he really appreciated you, he wouldn't be sleeping over at some other person's house. If he really appreciated you, he wouldn't have excused that girl's behavior. I highly suggest that you move on. There are people out there who are so much better than this guy. He's no good.

Read this again and again. Thanks.

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That was a knee-jerk reaction based solely on the OP's description of events.

Reading the actual exchange changed my opinion in this particular case.

Sooooooooooooo

Recently in this group we are members of, if I post something or respond she reacts to me in the most snarky or rude way. I've completely ignored and avoided her. Today she makes a post about dildos and tags him.
I have no intention of confronting or conversing with her. He and I don't talk about her or the previous incident.

He should be donezo. He is dismissing your feelings? That's one of the worst feelings. What's the point of being together then? Foh!

Posted by littlegigabyte
As a gemini, and I think that other gemini's on this board will agree with me, I feel like you should have met up with him and spoke to him about it. Tell him that you are concerned with that specific exchange and then set your boundaries with him like the others said. You still can, it's not too late. Tell him that he hurt your feelings during your interaction and apologize to him too, for lashing out. He would have been a lot more receptive to you if you did that and he would have talked to you, and this is a lesson that really all women can learn about men and relationships, instead of accusing and throwing punches and just ending things. That dude will feel as if he dodged a bullet. No guy is going to put up with a woman for very long who talks AT him and not TO him.

I really do wonder how much of DXP is in/has been in serious relationships based on some replies that I see around this forum. There is no way a guy wants to be with some suffocating, boring, harassing, insecure, jealous, psycho woman. Especially a Gemini guy.

Dude couldn't even make a joke with his friend of over a decade, who happens to be female, without the crazy cat ladies of DXP crawling out of the woodwork like "HE'S SLEEPING WITH SOME STRANGE WOMAN, AT HER HOUSE HE'S CHEATING, HE'S OUT, I'M DONE BYE"


First and foremost, please remember that this guy is a Gemini. We are playful. We love to joke around. We don't really believe in taboos, and have a hard time remembering, No... actually just caring sometimes with what others may perceive as "inappropriate". If you say something in a certain tone to us, we will dish it right back and that is what he did. Yes, he is your boyfriend. But you may be a bit too serious and not fun enough to understand a Gemini's energy 😢

Wow. You sound like a misogynist. All in the name of defending your male signs counterparts. Just because she isn't ok with her man sleeping over at other women's homes And making jokes about her boobs, she is crazy? A cat lady? Boring? You don't know shit about this woman to make such statements. I think you need to reevaluate and apologize. You're so wrong.

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And who gives a shit if you're a Gemini? That blasphemous statement ain't got shit to do with your sign.
You made so many assumptions and blanket statements. You don't represent every gem and definitely not male
Gems. Stick to what you know.'

Posted by 000sillylion000
Wow. I read the original post and drop his ass like yesterday. What a selfish, petulant little boy. Lots of good advice here: the curb is the only place worth him.

Yup!!

He ignored the post but I feel she's doing this to get a rise out of me. He barely interacts with her. I just don't get her motivation

Posted by livictori
Sooooooooooooo

Recently in this group we are members of, if I post something or respond she reacts to me in the most snarky or rude way. I've completely ignored and avoided her. Today she makes a post about dildos and tags him.
I have no intention of confronting or conversing with her. He and I don't talk about her or the previous incident.

He sounds like he lacks class, to be honest. I don't see any self-respecting man behaving in this way. This all strike me as "frat boy" behavior.

But different people are willing to tolerate different things, and if you and him have found a solution in silence, then good for you.

Posted by littlegigabyte

Posted by bkbella86
^^^*

And who gives a shit if you're a Gemini? That blasphemous statement ain't got shit to do with your sign.
You made so many assumptions and blanket statements. You don't represent every gem and definitely not male
Gems. Stick to what you know.'

This post is in the Gemini forum, which means that she is asking Geminis, this can be deduced from basic common sense. She was receiving what I felt to be very poor advice from every sign besides Gemini on the Gemini forum, so myself being one is actually quite relevant.

If your reading comprehension skills were a tad better and you weren't blindly throwing punches back without using your brain, then you could see that I never called the OP those things, but rather a few of the women within the thread who went ape shit.

The OP was asking for advice and perspective. I get that. Sometimes it is necessary to stand back and re evaluate the situation, and that is what she is doing. I merely just said that it things were probably not what it seemed to be, and they were just friends. I still believe that. I also wanted to reiterate that he is a Gemini, so some of these behaviors are woven into his nature as, the playfulness, the dismissiveness, etc. The good and the bad.

I may not speak for all Geminis, but I have been on here long enough to know that many would agree with me. And I have been in two LTR with Gemini men, including right now. So I am qualified to answer the question, more so than a lot of the women in here who repeatedly tear down and talk shit about my sign across this forum in various threads.

I don't have to apologize to the OP, because I offended you. Lol. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard in my life.

And have you been reading my diary— Misogynist is a word that I strongly identify with. You have me so figured out on every level, it's not even funny 😢

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I read and comprehended correctly. I stand by all of my statements. You're wrong. But I'm not here to force you to see that. Carry on.

Posted by everlynn

Posted by bkbella86
^^^*

And who gives a shit if you're a Gemini? That blasphemous statement ain't got shit to do with your sign.
You made so many assumptions and blanket statements. You don't represent every gem and definitely not male
Gems. Stick to what you know.'

bkbella what's up girl?

You having a shitty day or something? It seems like it.

Well you can talk to me. Let's not attack the innocent gems here.

Since Alicia is no longer here 😢, I need someone to swing it with.

Since you and I go way back.

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My day isn't shitty at all. Why'd you ask?

Posted by everlynn

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by everlynn

Posted by bkbella86
^^^*

And who gives a shit if you're a Gemini? That blasphemous statement ain't got shit to do with your sign.
You made so many assumptions and blanket statements. You don't represent every gem and definitely not male
Gems. Stick to what you know.'

bkbella what's up girl?

You having a shitty day or something? It seems like it.

Well you can talk to me. Let's not attack the innocent gems here.

Since Alicia is no longer here 😢, I need someone to swing it with.

Since you and I go way back.

My day isn't shitty at all. Why'd you ask?

Just thought maybe you need a little chill to soothe you. That's all.

You sound like you were on fire and was ready to fight for a minute there.

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Oh my buddy cuteboy...didn't realized you changed your name. Can't keep up with ya!