I need help!

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So a few days ago I hadn't heard from my boyfriend and decided to break up with him but I went OFF! I found out he didn't ignore me his phone had water damage the next day he took his phone out the water and he was FURIOUS when he saw my texts. He's been distant ever since although he did call me? Should I also become distant as he starts to hit me up? He didn't break up with me. He did tell me I was "fucking up," though. I still love him and want to be with him.
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So a few days ago I hadn't heard from my boyfriend and decided to break up with him but I went OFF! I found out he didn't ignore me his phone had water damage the next day he took his phone out the water and he was FURIOUS when he saw my texts. He's been distant ever since although he did call me? Should I also become distant as he starts to hit me up? He didn't break up with me. He did tell me I was "fucking up," though. I still love him and want to be with him.
But I'm like... a little confused?

Like, did you get mad at him because you hadn't heard from him? Or is this a repetitive behaviour on his part where he disappears for days and doesn't talk to you?
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Is he distant and hitting you up or just distant? That part confused me.

You messed it up and you wanna become distant! Smh

What's your sign?


I'm a Taurus

If you are Ands and trolling the Gemini board, I'm finding you and will hide all your clothes! 😡



Have you heard of make up sex/angry sex/or role plays? Or dish out some great pillow talk :-P

We love all of these stuff!



Try make up sex? You think it will help? ? I'll have to get him over here tonight ?

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treasureocean
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In my opinion, you were wrong for breaking up with him in the first place before actually knowing what you were breaking up with him for. I would probably be distant too.. What'd you even say? Was it seriously fucked up? Because if so, you shouldn't be distancing yourself.. You should be apologizing and actually talking to him about how you feel.
I did apologize and I meant fucking up sorry Siri doesn't always like me lol
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Is he distant and hitting you up or just distant? That part confused me.

You messed it up and you wanna become distant! Smh

What's your sign?


Also he just hasn't hit me up anymore although he did call me back yesterday it was brief and he promised to call me back again but that's his usual self. But he would've at least text me by now.

Did you try to make it up after that phone call? See, we are very forgiving and easy going but there is a limit to what we would put up with.

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I have apologized over & over and asked him what can I do to make it right.
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So a few days ago I hadn't heard from my boyfriend and decided to break up with him but I went OFF! I found out he didn't ignore me his phone had water damage the next day he took his phone out the water and he was FURIOUS when he saw my texts. He's been distant ever since although he did call me? Should I also become distant as he starts to hit me up? He didn't break up with me. He did tell me I was "fucking up," though. I still love him and want to be with him.
But I'm like... a little confused?

Like, did you get mad at him because you hadn't heard from him? Or is this a repetitive behaviour on his part where he disappears for days and doesn't talk to you?
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I was mad cause I was stalking him and his sc numbers had gone up but he was on his cousins iPad why was he snapchatting someone else and not me telling me what happened to his phone that's what triggered me into being angry.
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Is he distant and hitting you up or just distant? That part confused me.

You messed it up and you wanna become distant! Smh

What's your sign?


Also he just hasn't hit me up anymore although he did call me back yesterday it was brief and he promised to call me back again but that's his usual self. But he would've at least text me by now.

But you broke up with him. You have hurt him....a person loses their appeal when we realise we aren't all that important to them. Try to meet him and have a heart to heart talk. Put some effort!
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I am trying to put in effort but I don't wanna do too much.....I would like to meet with him though asap because I miss him and my daughter does too. They're really close.
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Why were you acting like a complete and total psycho whenever his phone was simply and legitimately broken?

I don't think the ball is in your court here. I don't think you get to make the demands after you were shitty.

Gemini men like crazy, but you sound the psycho/unattractive/creepy/clingy/gross crazy. If he really likes you, he will forgive you.

But if I were him, I'd break up with you and never take another look back, sorry. It is YOU who should be crawling back like a slug on the floor.

Perhaps this will be a lesson for you to keep your emotions in check.

Good luck

Did you not see that I said he was on sc? I didn't break up with him for no reason. Even if it's his friends iPad why didn't he think to message me? ?
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Why were you acting like a complete and total psycho whenever his phone was simply and legitimately broken?

I don't think the ball is in your court here. I don't think you get to make the demands after you were shitty.

Gemini men like crazy, but you sound the psycho/unattractive/creepy/clingy/gross crazy. If he really likes you, he will forgive you.

But if I were him, I'd break up with you and never take another look back, sorry. It is YOU who should be crawling back like a slug on the floor.

Perhaps this will be a lesson for you to keep your emotions in check.

Good luck

Did you not see that I said he was on sc? I didn't break up with him for no reason. Even if it's his friends iPad why didn't he think to message me? ?


Find out who he was snapping and why, before freaking out.

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Possibly his sister but I doubt it.
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treasureocean
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In my opinion, you were wrong for breaking up with him in the first place before actually knowing what you were breaking up with him for. I would probably be distant too.. What'd you even say? Was it seriously fucked up? Because if so, you shouldn't be distancing yourself.. You should be apologizing and actually talking to him about how you feel.
Distancing would be playing games when you want to resolves misunderstandings
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So should I wait on him to call me like he said he would?
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In my opinion, you were wrong for breaking up with him in the first place before actually knowing what you were breaking up with him for. I would probably be distant too.. What'd you even say? Was it seriously fucked up? Because if so, you shouldn't be distancing yourself.. You should be apologizing and actually talking to him about how you feel.
Distancing would be playing games when you want to resolves misunderstandings
After someone goes off on you and breaks up with you, distancing is playing games..? That's an nteresting first. I mean, he was practically single. He could've done what he wanted to. ?
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We're not broken up. I will call him now.
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So a few days ago I hadn't heard from my boyfriend and decided to break up with him but I went OFF! I found out he didn't ignore me his phone had water damage the next day he took his phone out the water and he was FURIOUS when he saw my texts. He's been distant ever since although he did call me? Should I also become distant as he starts to hit me up? He didn't break up with me. He did tell me I was "fucking up," though. I still love him and want to be with him.
But I'm like... a little confused?

Like, did you get mad at him because you hadn't heard from him? Or is this a repetitive behaviour on his part where he disappears for days and doesn't talk to you?

I was mad cause I was stalking him and his sc numbers had gone up but he was on his cousins iPad why was he snapchatting someone else and not me telling me what happened to his phone that's what triggered me into being angry.

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But...... okay, I will just point out something here. You said "stalk". I will go ahead and make an assumption that you are not above the age of 25. The thing is, if his phone broke and he was on his cousin's iPad, that's not really a reason to get angry. I know, perhaps if your phone broke you would have Snapchatted him and told him about it. But hey, he's not you. People are different. And that is one of the reasons why you are with him - for who he is.

Maybe he's really emotionally secure in this relationship to trust you enough that you understand when things like this happen which are beyond his control. He put that faith in you. Return that faith. If things get sorted between you both, then I would really advise you to trust him and not let this kind of thing happen again.

If I were in his shoes, I'd be very very very mad and would want tons of space to cool off. Give him time. Don't make rash decisions. The purpose of being in a relationship is not to control or constantly monitor each other's moves. It is to make memories and enjoy yourselves. This situation has not left either of you happy, has it? So take a deep breath and give him some space. And if you're saying sorry to him, mean it from the bottom of your heart.
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In my opinion, you were wrong for breaking up with him in the first place before actually knowing what you were breaking up with him for. I would probably be distant too.. What'd you even say? Was it seriously fucked up? Because if so, you shouldn't be distancing yourself.. You should be apologizing and actually talking to him about how you feel.
I did apologize and I meant fucking up sorry Siri doesn't always like me lol
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How did you fuck up? What did you do?