I would like some feedback about my Gemini Female

Im a Sagg male...12/19... So I am a Sagg/Cap Cusp
She is a 3rd Decan Gemini 6/15

We met each other at a really odd point in both of our lives. She had just got out of a short but a very negative relationship. My GF had passed away within a week of her break up.

We started talking online "FB" for about a month and we agreed to hang out one evening. To say the least we ended up talking until sunrise. It was an immediate connection at least mentally. We began hanging out a lot. Everyday actually. I ended up staying at her home and never left, lol. The first week we stayed up talking and laughing almost non-stop and until sunrise...

We were together all the time for the next six months. Well, that's when my dumb ass actually fell in love with her. We started out as friends with benefits, and I was cool with that until my feelings got involved. I could tell that she had feelings for me as well, but once she felt she was getting too close the Gemini fickle behavior and boundaries/wall would go up in an instant.

I played it cool and took it slow since I knew a BF/GF relationship was not really going to happen because of her trepidations of getting involved with someone immediately following both of our past tragedy.

Well, my emotions really took over and I was head over heels in love with her. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen and I adore her attitude and intelligence. We have everything in common and it seemed perfect. I pressed for the BF title and actually she started to get upset because I would keep saying how much we needed to dive in and go for it. So, I actually pushed her away to an extent.

Now, with that saying: when you have two smart asses with quick witts arguments are bound to happen. We got into two pretty major arguments and separated for a few days here, and then a few weeks. We always managed to get drawn back to each other like a magnet.

Now her is the dilemma... I told her my feelings are too strong to remain "just friends". I told her it was impossible for me to watch her get hit on by other dudes or them checking her out. She wanted to be "just friends" for now because again she was not ready for a committed relationship.

I told her that I cannot be just friends with her because it was too painful for me. Since then, she has ripped me apart via text msg being mean and cruel. lol. She has been insulting and now has put me in the silent mode. However, she will still make comment

message was cut off.

on Facebook or whatever regarding pictures or events. She will like my posts and pics vice versa. She will not speak to me via text, or voice as I get the silent treatment.

The last major arguments we had, she deleted me from all the social media. I waited two weeks and finally have been sending her messages each day. She has not responded at all.

So, once I started to send her messages again, she began to kind of communicate with me vaguely on Facebook, but not directly. A lot of her posts were related to my messages but with the quotes ect.

What would be the best way to proceed. I really am in love with her and am having a really tough time getting over the fact I had to let her go and see if she comes around. I imagine if she didn't want anything to do with me she would delete me from everything and I would become a memory.

She always had a hard time opening up with deep communication, so I don't know if she is just hiding out to get her thoughts in order or.....

Do nothing. Go ghost. If she likes you, shell be back.

1) guys are going to look at her and she cant control that any more than you can. So that you need to get over.

2) why is 6 months not enough time to be over your previous situation if you've been with them every day during that time? This seems contradictory... You've spent every waking moment with them, seemingly bf/gf...but the simple act of giving it a label is what seems like moving too fast? I think you already crossed that bridge.

She sounds like a typical Gemini in a FWB situation, from my experience. She wants her cake, and to eat it too. She had the benefits from you without the accountability of a relationship, and she's potentially gotten bored BC she has you and wants a new adventure. That said, if you back off and stop being on top of her abt the relationship thing, she will come to you... If that's what she wants.

Personallh, Gemini women are cray cray, get out while you can lol.

No, we're not crazy. It's just that relationships with us require a stronger person than most. Sorry you don't have the originality and fortitude to keep up.

TallSag, your lady shares my birthday. I'm going to think about your post and get back to you when I have a good answer.

^^Truth^^

Thanks Whimsy... She also has a Pisces moon. I'm really curious what your opinion is...

Posted by xy
Yes gemini women aren't relationship material. 100% polyester

Please tell that to my husband, a Scorpio, who shares a very strong and fulfilling marriage with this Gemini.

I also have a good friend, a Gem, who has been happily married to her husband for 37 years, and know a former teacher of mine whose been married
to his Gem for over 40 years.

Sorry to burst your bubble xy.

tallsagittarius70

To be honest with you, as a Gemini woman, I would have been freaked out by you and your overly zealous devotion and eagerness to express your love so early on.

Gemini's are fairly independent thinkers and don't like to be pushed into a direction that makes them feel stressed out. Let's just put it this way. Had my husband been as clingy and overtly confessing his love for me before it was a serious relationship and I too felt that love for him, I would have pulled back.

I get your passion. I'm a very passionate individual as well. However, sometimes you have to temper your passion because the reality is you're projection your passions on to someone else, the object of your affection, without allowing them to fully understand how they might feel about you. Not everyone is capable of the same level of depth when it comes to emotions nor the same time table.

If you really love this girl as you say you do, then give her space. Pull back and let her live her life. Keep the communication lines open, but be subtle, not so over the top. If you keep up the pace you've been pushing, she will cut you off for good.

I also have a Pisces moon. Do you know her rising? I promise I'm going to respond. I've been so busy that a couple of sentences is all I've had time to write at work.

Whimsy, her rising is Taurus and mine is sSagittarius

Posted by xy

Posted by gemini64

Posted by xy
Yes gemini women aren't relationship material. 100% polyester

Please tell that to my husband, a Scorpio, who shares a very strong and fulfilling marriage with this Gemini.

I also have a good friend, a Gem, who has been happily married to her husband for 37 years, and know a former teacher of mine whose been married
to his Gem for over 40 years.

Sorry to burst your bubble xy.

You didn't burst my bubble, you made it bigger. Thanks!

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I just undermined your generalization comment that gemini women aren't relationship material with real people who have had long lasting relationships with gemini women, including me.

That hardly makes your bubble larger. Just the opposite. It simply makes you look like someone who doesn't have a clue what he is talking about. And that's a nice way of putting it.

Gemini64 wrote just the right thing, and I'm pretty much repeating what she said. Unfortunately for would-be suitors, it's imperative that the Gemini woman to be in a position of wanting you BEFORE you express your feelings. She has to make up her mind first, and is fine with chasing you a bit.

It can get confusing for a guy when there's so much chemistry and connection, but just because she's willing to share her time and her body with you doesn't mean she sees you as anything more than a great friend. I'd say she's pissed because you violated the friendship by getting emotional on her, and now sees it as your responsibility to fix things. She also might be making herself scarce to give you a cooling-off period.

The way to proceed is to pull back your emotions (at least externally). She needs to see that you have your own life that can go on just fine with or without her in it. She needs to see that you are independent. That will give her the confidence to feel that she isn't responsible for your feelings and will give her space to breath and decide if maybe it's you that she wants after all.

Remember that she's looking for an ideal in a partner. There's no way for you to guess what that ideal is, and no way to transform yourself into it. She herself might not even be able to articulate what it is. It doesn't mean you suck or that you're not important to her. Give her space. She'll never feel her own emotions for you if she feels overwhelmed by yours...she'll just want to escape.

I am a Gemini female, and I am definitely relationship material. When I fall in love, I usually take a step back for a second but cautiously then proceed. If she deleted you from social sites and doesn't talk to you, she's probably not that into you. Maybe you were a good lover sexually, and she was needy at that time. She pulled back because you're not her type. Gemini have friends from all different backgrounds, and needs it because they get lonely and they get into all different moods and needs versatility, esp when they are bored or sad. Gems are also nice because they don't turn anybody down who wants to be their friend. However, it sometimes gets too intense and if the gem doesn't like u back- you will know because she say she isn't ready or this isn't a good time, but quite frankly she just doesn't want to be with you. You're not her type, you annoy her, you're too needy, you're too moody- probably nice and then get needy. You need to let this gem go- it won't go anywhere.

As a gem, yes I do pull back for a minute when Im madly in love, but I always still proceed cautiously with the relationship. There will be moments when I proclaim my love and then get scared and pull back. But if Im not feeling it for someone, i will either make some excuse or be frank and say im not interested. Trust me, this chick may like friends with benefits or even just friends who emotionally support each other--- but from how ur describing things, you're not her type for a relationship.

I agree with RainDancer88. I go after what I want. If she isn't with you, she doesn't want to be. You annoy her.

Posted by RainDancer88
Gemini women go after what they want. From what I've witnessed.

Yeah. I never make the first move, but if the object of my affection shows me that he's interested, I pounce. If I'm holding back, then I'm not interested.

Posted by DMV
Do nothing. Go ghost. If she likes you, shell be back.

THIS

You need to re-gain control of yourself and your emotions, you need time away from it all to be able to put things in the right perspective.

tallsagittarius70

I agree with everything that have been said so far.
We gemini women like to chase a bit.
Get out of her radar!
Our minds like the puzzles, so if you give it all abruptly, we will back off.
For me i can tell you, as soon as i have a guy head over heels for me within few months together i get scare, bored and is a big turn off.
Yet, if you have me guessing all the time,my mind and heart will be always yours.

If she comes back, which she might do, don't tell her what you feel... have her guessing. Although i have to say that at this point you wont be able to pull that card back easily.
Stop any kind of contact with her, again, have her guessing, show her that you have a life and that you will live it happily without her.