Mature Gemini Man Being Distant?

Hey! I'm new with this site but need some relationship advice. I've been seeing this guy he's 30 years old, has a stable job, and his sign is Gemini. I'm 20, fresh graduate, and my sign is Taurus. I met him when i was interning at his company. We talked, he asked me out on dinner twice and we made out after. He said he likes me and wants to get to know me better, he always initiates the conversation first but later disappeared and then would text me back after couple of days. He always flirts with me and even talk about wating for me for another year until I come back to my home country. But, I'm just confused with his action right now. Does he like me? Should I talk to him first? Does gemini man like to be chase? Help! And he was in a serious relationship before he met me, broke up couple of months ago.

Ummm why are you dating a man 10 years older then you? What do you guys have in common?

first if he wasnt interested he wouldnt keep in touch,the hot and cold is maybe because hes not too sure about you,as a gemini mental stimulation is essentiel to keep the relationship going

but since when do u know him?

@moonbutter: When we communicate with each other we just click. Sometimes, we argued when we talked but I don't know I feel comfortable around him

@lilyofthevalley987: Known him since last month, he texted me first and he did admit he was flirting with me. I actually texted him yesterday to ask how he was doing and he said he's super busy with work lately. I do know that he can be super busy and stay up late in his office. Sometimes, when he's not busy, he send me a message to see what I'm up to. So, I guess that's a good sign right? Is it okay to text a guy first?

Posted by taurus0105
@moonbutter: When we communicate with each other we just click. Sometimes, we argued when we talked but I don't know I feel comfortable around him

Ok... but just keep you heart guarded. You guys are in different phases of life so keep your eyes open.

Posted by taurus0105
@lilyofthevalley987: Known him since last month, he texted me first and he did admit he was flirting with me. I actually texted him yesterday to ask how he was doing and he said he's super busy with work lately. I do know that he can be super busy and stay up late in his office. Sometimes, when he's not busy, he send me a message to see what I'm up to. So, I guess that's a good sign right? Is it okay to text a guy first?

A month... eh takes about 3 to really know where u stand. Super busy is what they all say. Does he ask you what you are up to? Talk future? Yes it's ok to text first... keep it balanced though.

@moonbutter: he did ask me that! Last friday, I was in his home and he did sort of mention about maybe moving to the city where I'm currently in and maybe waiting for me for another year. I don't want to be aggressive by texting him first, so I think after yesterday I'm done texting him first. I mean if the guy have interest in me, he should be the one to pursue me, right?

Posted by taurus0105
@moonbutter: he did ask me that! Last friday, I was in his home and he did sort of mention about maybe moving to the city where I'm currently in and maybe waiting for me for another year. I don't want to be aggressive by texting him first, so I think after yesterday I'm done texting him first. I mean if the guy have interest in me, he should be the one to pursue me, right?

Wow... it's too early for anyone to really know if they want a future especially he just got out of a relationship. Just take what he says with a grain of salt for now. Have you guys slept together?

@moonbutter: I know that's why I didn't take it seriously. No, we made out but that's as far as I can go and he understood. He said to me that he didn't want to do things that I'm not comfortable. But, is it how gemini like disappeared without any explanation than come back? I've never dated any gem so this whole experience is new to me

Posted by taurus0105
@moonbutter: I know that's why I didn't take it seriously. No, we made out but that's as far as I can go and he understood. He said to me that he didn't want to do things that I'm not comfortable. But, is it how gemini like disappeared without any explanation than come back? I've never dated any gem so this whole experience is new to me

Ok that's good. Did he disappear?

@moonbutter: sometimes. He does text me when he can or when he's not distracted by something else. I guess being close to gem is like riding a rollercoaster. I'll get tired of waiting sometimes.

If he initiates first then its time u start to. I would do the the same tbh. just wait till u conact me fist a couple times without me contacting u...is that whats hes doin?

@yung_wisegem: I honestly don't know what he's doing because I can't seem to figured him out. I mean I heard that gem can be easily distracted by something else. Maybe he got distracted and forget to text me? I don't know. I honestly just want to stop fighting for this guy

Posted by taurus0105
@yung_wisegem: I honestly don't know what he's doing because I can't seem to figured him out. I mean I heard that gem can be easily distracted by something else. Maybe he got distracted and forget to text me? I don't know. I honestly just want to stop fighting for this guy

Honestly you probably should... too much difference. He has entered another stage of life that you have no understanding yet. Your eyes will open more when you hit about 25. That's when the bubble pops ?

@moonbutter: you're right. But, it's hard and hurts a little when I think about the memories we had even though it's not much. I don't know how to keep myself from checking my phone waiting for him to text/call.

Posted by taurus0105
@moonbutter: you're right. But, it's hard and hurts a little when I think about the memories we had even though it's not much. I don't know how to keep myself from checking my phone waiting for him to text/call.

Well the good news is you don't have a lot of memories so the feeling should fade rather quickly. Best to move on though.