Want The Number But She's A Total Stranger

she used to invite me out to her events in town but stopped after i didnt go twice. (I had school.)

I have been lingering on her Twitter account but we have never met in person. i didnt want to scare her away but she is very, very attractive and has many men after her! i'm 34 (Pisces) and she is 28 (Gemini).

i asked her when she would be in town next and she said later this month. i told her i'd be there and she Liked it. i have apologized for not meeting her 1-3 years ago when she had invited me out. i told her i'd defintely be at her event and she said that was awesome. she doesn'y ask me questions so i'm not sure if she is interested anymore? I said i was looking forward to meeting her.

I would assume she knows the game better than most girls since she has travelled the world and been with DJ-ish boyfriends before. Other people say she is very friendly. We have never formally met but I can't tell if she is eager to meet me or not? She doesn't ask me questions which bothers me but yet she knows almost nothing beyond that I exist.

I don't have her number yet. After replying to her posts on social media, I moved away to asking her about the tickets directly over Facebook. But the conversation just stopped after I said I would be there. Usually I try to build rapport first so it feels weird going for the number without her knowing I'm not some crazy fan.

For some reason, I find it weird asking for her number when I haven't built any rapport with her in-person. I view online dating sites differently than Facebook cold turkey.

She hasn't openly tried to talk to me which I guess is what is bothering me the most... Unless she is playing it cool.

Not sure how to ask for the number without having met her.

So you're a paying customer to events she organises? Basically you're a nobody...

You don't know her, you've never met, you don't talk to her (nothing substantial anyway),... So what's going on between the two of you that makes you think you should get her personal contact information?

Let me put it this way: if you went to some celebrity's shows (as a paying customer) and you like their Facebook page or you have access to their actual Facebook profile or you follow them on Twitter and you might've been able to exchange a few words... Would you ask that person for his/her telephone number?

She might not be a celebrity and thus seem more approachable, but that doesn't make your relationship with her any different.

Short answer: don't.

Thanks for the replies.

She doesn't really organize the event. She is a performer and invited me out on two separate occasions from her personal account. She was on my Facebook account and I received the invites from her a few months after she originally accepted my add-request.

I thought it was odd to get an invite out of nowhere. Guess I will find out tomorrow. I really have nothing to lose by asking since I saw her at a party once 3 (?) years ago and due to the organizer being a jerk, I refused to pay to get inside and introduce myself. I'll either get the number or she will turn me down but I'll know either way.

When I asked about the tickets, she responded within a minute.

I don't know why, but all of the relationships I ever enjoyed the most were with Geminis. I had a fling with a Gemini lady and my ex-wife was a Gemini, where we dated for 6 years before tying the knot.

My brother is a Cancer and I have met Cancer women and Scorpio women and I feel they just aren't as interesting to hangout with. Pisces and Pisces never seems to work for me as I feel everything is amplified and it makes me self-conscious of what weird quirks I have when I am around another Pisces of the opposite sex.

If I don't get the chance at the event and she doesn't care to meet me one-on-one or too briefly, I will ask regardless. I will keep an eye on how she acts around me.

Thanks again! I will let you guys know for sure. I feel like my flirting is probably making it too obvious..

Found out she will be doing free tarot readings after the show. That lets me meet her at least!

There might be a long line up however. I don't really need to be anywhere the next day, fortunately!

Posted by piscesman707
Found out she will be doing free tarot readings after the show. That lets me meet her at least!

There might be a long line up however. I don't really need to be anywhere the next day, fortunately!

Yeah just meet her first. No one's stopping you from walking over to her to say hello.

But if you guys never got to meet face to face and never really talked don't ask her number.

Well, let me read the Tarot cards and tell you her answer 🙂



Btw, I'm a Pisces, and Gemini women are my favourite females of the species. They captivate me, no matter if it's with their beauty, brains, behaviour, life style , confidence, gift of the gab. Despite me being straight!

Not good. She was giving great eye contact, lots of smiles, ... think she even touched my hand when she was doing my tarot reading.

She broke the conversation and said she wanted to watch the show. I didn't have any change so I got out $ 20 and donated $ 10 after giving a separate bouncer a handful of quarters... a few dollars probably.

Gave her the $ 10 and she was blown away. She really appreciated it.

She asked if I was leaving.. I said yes...but that I'd wanted to stay in touch. Do you have a phone number?'

I don't give out my number. -> I understand. It was nice meeting you regardless. (Gave me a hug) If you change your mind then you know how to reach me. (Smiles)

Rejected! A wee. .

Posted by piscesman707
think she even touched my hand when she was doing my tarot reading.

Dude, stop toturing youself... :p I'm not saying the both of you couldn't be an item, but for now there's nothing there, so don't read in to stuff, don't expect stuff, don't do anything expect talk to her (in person preferably). AND not silly card reading shit, no, actual stuff about life and your interests and stuff.

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She broke the conversation and said she wanted to watch the show. I didn't have any change so I got out $ 20 and donated $ 10 after giving a separate bouncer a handful of quarters... a few dollars probably.

Gave her the $ 10 and she was blown away. She really appreciated it.

She asked if I was leaving.. I said yes...but that I'd wanted to stay in touch. Do you have a phone number?'

I don't give out my number. -> I understand. It was nice meeting you regardless. (Gave me a hug) If you change your mind then you know how to reach me. (Smiles)

Rejected! A wee. .

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So she doesn't care about you, yet. Like I said: get to know her. What do you expect? That she'll drop down on her knees and suck your dick on the sight of meeting you? Of course not (I hope)!

Fuck this star sign shit, this is just basic human interaction. Get to know the girl, get her to know you and if your personalities match (and I don't care where you believe those come from) you'll be a great pair, but until then keep it contained. 😉

Posted by piscesman707
Found out she will be doing free tarot readings after the show. That lets me meet her at least!

There might be a long line up however. I don't really need to be anywhere the next day, fortunately!

She's promoting a show. She used her personal FB page because people probably take it more seriously (like you did). It's not personal, it's just her musical career.

I get the feeling that she will be single for a long time because no one seems good enough for her. That is the attitude that my buddy has had and he hasn't been in a relationship in 7-8 years (his words that I find hard to believe). (My ex-wife had the same attitude towards me at first, although she at least gave me a chance and realized how much fun a Pisces-Gemini relationship can be.)

She hides her relationship status but her anti-guy attitude ("kill a man!" is a direct quote off from her Twitter account) can't be helping her relationship longevity.

I would rather ask her out and get on her mind than to be some distant dude that she has never met that keeps breaking his promises to meet her. She didn't remove me from Facebook and I didn't remove her either. Maybe I would have years ago but I see no reason to burn bridges when she is a cool girl that has had some rough experiences in life -- as far as I know, she was sexually assaulted previously. I thought our conversation was quite genuine and we had great chemistry!

Hopefully she can find someone for her. I don't normally tell a girl that she can reach-out if she changes her mind but I really felt she is making a mistake not even giving me a chance.

I was forward.. I asked for her number so we could 'catch up later'.

She is currently on my Facebook but might have turn off my notifications. I respond to some of her threads but don't contact her lately and she was still Liking some of my posts.

I didn't meant to creep her out. I just figured I wouldn't see her for another bazillion months so at least give it a shot...

An invite to her party next month would be nice but I got a really polarizing response about her giving me the hug. I have never had a hug from a girl after asking for their number before so I found it really odd! She lives in Montreal and barely knows me. I might now be the awkward weird guy that she doesn't want around now from her behaviour.

Some are optimistic and say it is her 'feeling me' and that she liked me. I don't believe this because a girl who likes you would find your behaviours interesting. Others say that she was probably turned off and felt like I was a 'teddy bear' to her. She never spoke to me first on Facebook so I am assuming the former.

I will try and move on without being awkward. I'm hoping I have more luck once summer is here in finding someone new and better than my ex!

@Piscesman707. Of course you will 🙂! Good luck to you.

Don't get beaten by a first refusal. Have some friendly interaction with the subject of your interest and ask her again in a few months time.

Firstly, I would invite her for coffee or drinks ..find out more about each other, before you ask her number. Trying to put myself into her shoes.....last week I was dancing salsa when a handsome guy asked me if I could practice the steps with him outside of the classes and asked for my phone number. I said I cannot give him my number, but we could become FB friends so he could message me. After we became FB friends, it turned out he was 12 years my junior, lol.

As we say in Salsa....take smaller steps please 😉

Her friends on her wall seem to like me and my comments but she seems to be purposely avoiding liking any posts of mine at all.

Is she angry at me or just trying to make sure I don't ask her out again??

(on facebook) Well, she rejected my advance for the # and has since stopped liking my posts. So I haven't tried talking to her since because I think it was a shock for me to ask for her #.

Go for it. Just keep in mind she has every right to reject it.

But if you handle it well,

why not take a chance.

And if even she says no, why not take the experience that you did it anyway.

😉

Well, one female friend told me to accept her as a friend and discuss it out, which sounds like horrible advice so I told her I don't want to do that.

She has started liking my comments on her wall again, so obviously she isn't worried about whatever was bothering her before. She hasn't been liking my posts on my wall so I will just start looking for someone else.

I'm still commenting on her wall because it would be weirder to just stop talking to her. She is allowed to reject my advances so I'm chalking it up to 'at least I tried and now know it's not-to-be'.