I recently found out that I'm the side chick...

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I met this Leo man back in Nov 2020 & we hit it off pretty fast. I don't tend to like anyone - especially so fast (I'm nit-picky) but with him it's so easy. Our chemistry is insane. Its almost scary. I haven't dated anyone seriously in 4.5 years but I started to see myself with this man. He's 8 years older, has a great career and an amazing father to his son. Our dates are always so thoughtful and romantic. He pays attention to me and listens to my likes and dislikes. When we kiss I get butterflies like I'm in high school all over again. When we're apart we miss each other like crazy. We text throughout the day, he has sent me my favorite food & flowers to my job on a few occasions. We recently spent a weekend together out of town and had an amazing weekend. I started to question myself "If I was falling for him." This past weekend he had too much to drink and told me he loved me (which is the second time he has told me)...

The twist...

I started to notice he never invited me to his place. We spend a lot of our time out on dates or my place. I brought this to his attention he played it off but then told me he had something to tell me & will tell me in due time. With me being the over-thinker that I am - I went through his social media page and found his child's mother page. On her page was a picture of their son holding a sign reading "big brother coming soon April 2021." My heart sank to my stomach. I remember not sleeping that night. The next morning I screen shot the picture and sent it to him asking his involvement. He text me this long paragraph telling me that he is the father and that they live together. He also told me that they broke up last year and he was in the process of moving out but they found out she was pregnant and he decided to stay. He promised me that he would move out by May/June this year because their situation is becoming worse. He explains that it's the reason he never home (which he isn't - he spends so much time with me that I didn't see this coming).

I know I should run and cut him off - which I did for a couple of weeks but he has been promising me he's leaving and I somewhat believe him but then again I don't. I've never saw myself in this situation and I don't know what to do. Apart of me wants to stay to see if he will really leave and pursue something me. But the other part of me is screaming WTF are you doing - if he's creeping around on his pregnant gf - or whatever she is to him - he will do the same to me eventually.

I'm so stuck & I know this is crazy but I need some advice 😢

Him:

Sun - Leo

Moon - Gemini

Mecr - Leo

Venus - Cancer

Me:

Sun - Virgo

Moon - Cancer

Mecr - Virgo

Venus - Virgo
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Leo men really do be putting us Virgo women THRU it. And honestly we deserve better.

You deserve better. I know how the feelings feel so I’m not going to tell you what to do. You’ve already stated how you know this is crazy and Virgo, you KNOW what this is. In the back of your mind, you know this isn’t a good situation for you. Realistically.

You know you deserve better and I know you do too. Do with that what you will.
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You offering him a place to stay? Cause if he wants to be moved out, he could do it like yesterday, since that's what his mouth is saying.

You should walk away if not and once he actually moves out, re establish the relationship.


No I haven't offered & probably won't. He has to move out from his sake not mines. I believe walking away until he does so is the best option at this point.
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Leo men really do be putting us Virgo women THRU it. And honestly we deserve better.

You deserve better. I know how the feelings feel so I’m not going to tell you what to do. You’ve already stated how you know this is crazy and Virgo, you KNOW what this is. In the back of your mind, you know this isn’t a good situation for you. Realistically.

You know you deserve better and I know you do too. Do with that what you will.


You are absolutely correct. I see my feelings getting hurt badly if I continue you this. At the same it's getting harder to detach from him. He makes it so easy to trust him and believe him and I am scared of that.
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You are... now... choosing to sell yourself short. He has 3 strikes already. First he lied by omission. Then he established major attachments outside a relationship with a woman who is currently pregnant. Last, he is simply what he does. If he's willing to step out on the woman with his children, you're no match for his children. Virguy advice to you Virgal.

Don't do this to yourself. He has been offering you empty words, and there's no convenience in the world that would make a man stay where he doesn't want to be. Would you want to trade places with his pregnant baby momma— I'm asking because that's the karma you're building remaining in this situation fully aware of it. Just saying...
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You offering him a place to stay? Cause if he wants to be moved out, he could do it like yesterday, since that's what his mouth is saying.

You should walk away if not and once he actually moves out, re establish the relationship.

No I haven't offered & probably won't. He has to move out from his sake not mines. I believe walking away until he does so is the best option at this point.
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I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

Why is that?

coz they are loved by virgals lol

I do have a thing for fire sign men and unfortunately leo is one of my fav

Yasss you're a true Virgal with great taste in men!
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Are you really in California? I don't know why I thought you were overseas.
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I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

Why is that?

coz they are loved by virgals lol

I do have a thing for fire sign men and unfortunately leo is one of my fav

Yasss you're a true Virgal with great taste in men!

Are you really in California? I don't know why I thought you were overseas.

Ask dazed lol
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I know where Dazed lives. Are you in the online games too? I was just looking at those online.
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You are... now... choosing to sell yourself short. He has 3 strikes already. First he lied by omission. Then he established major attachments outside a relationship with a woman who is currently pregnant. Last, he is simply what he does. If he's willing to step out on the woman with his children, you're no match for his children. Virguy advice to you Virgal.

Don't do this to yourself. He has been offering you empty words, and there's no convenience in the world that would make a man stay where he doesn't want to be. Would you want to trade places with his pregnant baby momma— I'm asking because that's the karma you're building remaining in this situation fully aware of it. Just saying...


there's no convenience in the world that would make a man stay where he doesn't want to be.

You know I told him something like this & he responded that he was staying because of his son. He didn't want his child's mother to take his son from him. I think there is a lot more to the story then what he telling me. He's a lawyer and he knows the law will prevent that from happening if he's doing the right thing - which makes me believe there's more. But that's not for me to even worry about. You are right about karma - there's no way I would ever want to be in that situation & as a woman I put myself in her shoes and I can't even imagine what she must be going through with him.
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You are... now... choosing to sell yourself short. He has 3 strikes already. First he lied by omission. Then he established major attachments outside a relationship with a woman who is currently pregnant. Last, he is simply what he does. If he's willing to step out on the woman with his children, you're no match for his children. Virguy advice to you Virgal.

Don't do this to yourself. He has been offering you empty words, and there's no convenience in the world that would make a man stay where he doesn't want to be. Would you want to trade places with his pregnant baby momma— I'm asking because that's the karma you're building remaining in this situation fully aware of it. Just saying...

there's no convenience in the world that would make a man stay where he doesn't want to be.

You know I told him something like this & he responded that he was staying because of his son. He didn't want his child's mother to take his son from him. I think there is a lot more to the story then what he telling me. He's a lawyer and he knows the law will prevent that from happening if he's doing the right thing - which makes me believe there's more. But that's not for me to even worry about. You are right about karma - there's no way I would ever want to be in that situation & as a woman I put myself in her shoes and I can't even imagine what she must be going through with him.
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There you go... "He doesn't want his child's mother to take his son from him." That is the bottom line. Run!!! Just trust when I say that my Dad was a Leo and the omissions is what you will have to worry about if you stay. Forget it. You don't need the stress and definitely can do better. You're a Virgo dammit!!! Now hold yourself in the integrity you have and don't allow someone else's established situation to weasel into your life. That statement means he's not going anywhere. Nothing to say but goodbye until he cleans up the mess he made of his life.
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I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

They the best. I'm almost taking it personal that a Leo would do something like this. So damn sad.

@virgal_perfectionist - That is a really tough spot for you. So sorry you're going through that 😢

You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and are making the right decision to keep your distance until his actions match his words.

Omaga they are loved by gemini gal too? Well, i will consider it as a bonus then.

I don't think anyone loves Leos more than me 😆

Do you not see me raving about them non stop here? hahaha

Lion is the ONLY man for me!

You do? Well, maybe because i don't care who gemini women loves 😭😭 lol

Be a different story if I was a Pisces eh? Hahaha

Well, i know for sure they loves Capricorns :p

I'm all for that! Means I got less competition for the Lions 😆

Oh you are so sure u can beat Virgals eh?

Are u willing to serve the Lion and treat them like kings like what Virgals do? Lmao

Honey, Virgals ain't got shit on my Cancer Mars & Venus. Lmao

I'm all about flattering their ego, they eat dat shit UP!

This the first time i see someone bragging their Cancer mars/venus lmaooo 😭😭😭 jk
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She's gonna murder you, if you aren't careful! 😆 😛

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I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

They the best. I'm almost taking it personal that a Leo would do something like this. So damn sad.

@virgal_perfectionist - That is a really tough spot for you. So sorry you're going through that 😢

You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and are making the right decision to keep your distance until his actions match his words.

Omaga they are loved by gemini gal too? Well, i will consider it as a bonus then.

I don't think anyone loves Leos more than me 😆

Do you not see me raving about them non stop here? hahaha

Lion is the ONLY man for me!

You do? Well, maybe because i don't care who gemini women loves 😭😭 lol

Be a different story if I was a Pisces eh? Hahaha

Well, i know for sure they loves Capricorns :p

I'm all for that! Means I got less competition for the Lions 😆

Oh you are so sure u can beat Virgals eh?

Are u willing to serve the Lion and treat them like kings like what Virgals do? Lmao

Honey, Virgals ain't got shit on my Cancer Mars & Venus. Lmao

I'm all about flattering their ego, they eat dat shit UP!

This the first time i see someone bragging their Cancer mars/venus lmaooo 😭😭😭 jk

LMAOOOO. They generally aren't placements I'd brag about, they my least favourite in my chart.. they make me feel weak af. But they are nurturing placements and make me strive hard to keep my man happy.
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This is sweet. I would love a caring and nurturing guy, but I don't attract Cancer Mars at all.
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I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

They the best. I'm almost taking it personal that a Leo would do something like this. So damn sad.

@virgal_perfectionist - That is a really tough spot for you. So sorry you're going through that 😢

You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and are making the right decision to keep your distance until his actions match his words.

Omaga they are loved by gemini gal too? Well, i will consider it as a bonus then.

I don't think anyone loves Leos more than me 😆

Do you not see me raving about them non stop here? hahaha

Lion is the ONLY man for me!

You do? Well, maybe because i don't care who gemini women loves 😭😭 lol

Be a different story if I was a Pisces eh? Hahaha

Well, i know for sure they loves Capricorns :p

I'm all for that! Means I got less competition for the Lions 😆

Oh you are so sure u can beat Virgals eh?

Are u willing to serve the Lion and treat them like kings like what Virgals do? Lmao

Honey, Virgals ain't got shit on my Cancer Mars & Venus. Lmao

I'm all about flattering their ego, they eat dat shit UP!

This the first time i see someone bragging their Cancer mars/venus lmaooo 😭😭😭 jk

LMAOOOO. They generally aren't placements I'd brag about, they my least favourite in my chart.. they make me feel weak af. But they are nurturing placements and make me strive hard to keep my man happy.

This is sweet. I would love a caring and nurturing guy, but I don't attract Cancer Mars at all.

It sounds sweet until we smother tf outta you. hahahaha. We are probably kinda annoying to be honest.. Lol

Considering it's "Murder Mars" the smothering may be literal in some cases... 😆
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Actually I would love a clingy guy. I was talking to a Leo with a Cancer Mars and he just runs instead of smothering. It's like he runs and then comes back when he doesn't hear from me. I'd prefer it if he stayed and clung. He's so sweet, but he's damaged from being hurt too much in love, at least that's what he says. Who knows if it's true or not. So it doesn't work. He doesn't trust anyone unfortunately, but he won't leave me alone either, so we are just friends.
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I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

They the best. I'm almost taking it personal that a Leo would do something like this. So damn sad.

@virgal_perfectionist - That is a really tough spot for you. So sorry you're going through that 😢

You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and are making the right decision to keep your distance until his actions match his words.

Omaga they are loved by gemini gal too? Well, i will consider it as a bonus then.

I don't think anyone loves Leos more than me 😆

Do you not see me raving about them non stop here? hahaha

Lion is the ONLY man for me!

You do? Well, maybe because i don't care who gemini women loves 😭😭 lol

Be a different story if I was a Pisces eh? Hahaha

Well, i know for sure they loves Capricorns :p

I'm all for that! Means I got less competition for the Lions 😆

Oh you are so sure u can beat Virgals eh?

Are u willing to serve the Lion and treat them like kings like what Virgals do? Lmao

Honey, Virgals ain't got shit on my Cancer Mars & Venus. Lmao

I'm all about flattering their ego, they eat dat shit UP!

This the first time i see someone bragging their Cancer mars/venus lmaooo 😭😭😭 jk

LMAOOOO. They generally aren't placements I'd brag about, they my least favourite in my chart.. they make me feel weak af. But they are nurturing placements and make me strive hard to keep my man happy.

This is sweet. I would love a caring and nurturing guy, but I don't attract Cancer Mars at all.

It sounds sweet until we smother tf outta you. hahahaha. We are probably kinda annoying to be honest.. Lol

Considering it's "Murder Mars" the smothering may be literal in some cases... 😆

Actually I would love a clingy guy. I was talking to a Leo with a Cancer Mars and he just runs instead of smothering. It's like he runs and then comes back when he doesn't hear from me. I'd prefer it if he stayed and clung. He's so sweet, but he's damaged from being hurt too much in love, at least that's what he says. Who knows if it's true or not. So it doesn't work. He doesn't trust anyone unfortunately, but he won't leave me alone either, so we are just friends.

Leo with Cancer Mars sounds dreamy as hell. I'm gonna go ahead and keep my fingers crossed for you on this one. We are very clingy, that tends to be the annoying part for most people, but due to our deep emotions we do tend to be afraid that we will love and give more to the other person then we will ever get in return. So if it seems like someone is even a little wishy washy, we may retreat in fear of being hurt. So I know where he is coming from, especially if he was hurt in the past. I also struggle with trusting people, so I know what it's like. But if you stick by his side (even as a friend) and show you're true blue, a trustworthy, stable person in his life, you just may gain enough trust for him to consider making a relationship of it. 😉
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He is just a friend because being wish-washy doesn't work for me. What's funny is that he's told me before that girls he's liked end up getting boyfriends, and I can see why because of how he is.

He left for a couple of months and I met another Leo that doesn't go anywhere- He has a Gemini Venus and Mars, so I've been good with him for the last few months. things are going like they are supposed to.

If he's so worried about being hurt in a relationship, he doesn't want me, since I was ready for one, so I moved on instead.
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let this one go. if nothing else you are setting yourself up for years of dealing with him, his ex, his kids.

you've got all the romance at this stage and no doubt, it's amazing. what you don't have is the reality of truly being with this person. when you have to deal with the real him, not the him of 5 months old, that shine is going to fade very fast.

put it down to a nice experience and let it reinvigorate your hope that love for you in it's glorious forms exists. be grateful that he has got you out there on the market again for something wonderful to come into your life. but he, and his wife, and his kids, and his lies and his promises are not it.
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Here’s the thing, him telling you they are broken up could very well be and most certainly is a lie. He tells her he is working late at the office to make more $ $ $ for their babies future. That’s how he explains away the time he gives to you.

Also look at the timing. He met you and started dating you in November 2020. Their baby is coming in April. Takes 9months to grow a baby meaning they were fucking in August of last year just months before he met and pursued a relationship with you. So when exactly did he break up with her?

Because most women don’t realize they are pregnant until 1.5months after conception. Putting her realization that she’s pregnant by mid to late September of 2020.

He said he decided to stay and work things out once she discovered she was pregnant, right?

So if that’s the truth why did less than 2 months later after learning she’s pregnant and “getting back together” did he pursue a romantic relationship with another woman (you).

You also say that he is a good father and that’s one of his qualities you find attractive. Do you really think being a good father means stepping out on the mother of your children? You think the example he is setting in his mistreatment of his children’s mother makes him a good father?

Look I get it. We’ve all been there, being made the side chick without our knowledge. Those that claim they haven’t just never found out about it.

Thing is, up to this point you were an unknowing victim. The ability to make a choice was taken from you since he made the conscious choice to lie to you and withhold this information.

But now that you know the truth, your actions from this point on are yours solely to own. If you choose to continue to be with him you are choosing to be the side chick. You are choosing to be the other woman.

If you truly can’t let him go then set your boundaries and let him prove that his stories are based in truths and not lies.

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

His excuse that he fears his son being taken from him is just that, an excuse. As a lawyer he knows full well and better than most... the legal avenues available to exert his rights as a parent.
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Here’s the thing, him telling you they are broken up could very well be and most certainly is a lie. He tells her he is working late at the office to make more $ $ $ for their babies future. That’s how he explains away the time he gives to you.

Also look at the timing. He met you and started dating you in November 2020. Their baby is coming in April. Takes 9months to grow a baby meaning they were fucking in August of last year just months before he met and pursued a relationship with you. So when exactly did he break up with her?

Because most women don’t realize they are pregnant until 1.5months after conception. Putting her realization that she’s pregnant by mid to late September of 2020.

He said he decided to stay and work things out once she discovered she was pregnant, right?

So if that’s the truth why did less than 2 months later after learning she’s pregnant and “getting back together” did he pursue a romantic relationship with another woman (you).

You also say that he is a good father and that’s one of his qualities you find attractive. Do you really think being a good father means stepping out on the mother of your children? You think the example he is setting in his mistreatment of his children’s mother makes him a good father?

Look I get it. We’ve all been there, being made the side chick without our knowledge. Those that claim they haven’t just never found out about it.

Thing is, up to this point you were an unknowing victim. The ability to make a choice was taken from you since he made the conscious choice to lie to you and withhold this information.

But now that you know the truth, your actions from this point on are yours solely to own. If you choose to continue to be with him you are choosing to be the side chick. You are choosing to be the other woman.

If you truly can’t let him go then set your boundaries and let him prove that his stories are based in truths and not lies.

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

His excuse that he fears his son being taken from him is just that, an excuse. As a lawyer he knows full well and better than most... the legal avenues available to exert his rights as a parent.


Pisces women and their investigation techniques are above no others!! 🤣🤣🤣

BRAVO 👏👏👏👏👏👏

You made some solid ass points!!
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Here’s the thing, him telling you they are broken up could very well be and most certainly is a lie. He tells her he is working late at the office to make more $ $ $ for their babies future. That’s how he explains away the time he gives to you.

Also look at the timing. He met you and started dating you in November 2020. Their baby is coming in April. Takes 9months to grow a baby meaning they were fucking in August of last year just months before he met and pursued a relationship with you. So when exactly did he break up with her?

Because most women don’t realize they are pregnant until 1.5months after conception. Putting her realization that she’s pregnant by mid to late September of 2020.

He said he decided to stay and work things out once she discovered she was pregnant, right?

So if that’s the truth why did less than 2 months later after learning she’s pregnant and “getting back together” did he pursue a romantic relationship with another woman (you).

You also say that he is a good father and that’s one of his qualities you find attractive. Do you really think being a good father means stepping out on the mother of your children? You think the example he is setting in his mistreatment of his children’s mother makes him a good father?

Look I get it. We’ve all been there, being made the side chick without our knowledge. Those that claim they haven’t just never found out about it.

Thing is, up to this point you were an unknowing victim. The ability to make a choice was taken from you since he made the conscious choice to lie to you and withhold this information.

But now that you know the truth, your actions from this point on are yours solely to own. If you choose to continue to be with him you are choosing to be the side chick. You are choosing to be the other woman.

If you truly can’t let him go then set your boundaries and let him prove that his stories are based in truths and not lies.

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

His excuse that he fears his son being taken from him is just that, an excuse. As a lawyer he knows full well and better than most... the legal avenues available to exert his rights as a parent.

Pisces women and their investigation techniques are above no others!! 🤣🤣🤣

BRAVO 👏👏👏👏👏👏

You made some solid ass points!!
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It’s not even investigation techniques it’s just basic math. Turns out that useless trig course in college wasn’t so useless after all 😆
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Here’s the thing, him telling you they are broken up could very well be and most certainly is a lie. He tells her he is working late at the office to make more $ $ $ for their babies future. That’s how he explains away the time he gives to you.

Also look at the timing. He met you and started dating you in November 2020. Their baby is coming in April. Takes 9months to grow a baby meaning they were fucking in August of last year just months before he met and pursued a relationship with you. So when exactly did he break up with her?

Because most women don’t realize they are pregnant until 1.5months after conception. Putting her realization that she’s pregnant by mid to late September of 2020.

He said he decided to stay and work things out once she discovered she was pregnant, right?

So if that’s the truth why did less than 2 months later after learning she’s pregnant and “getting back together” did he pursue a romantic relationship with another woman (you).

You also say that he is a good father and that’s one of his qualities you find attractive. Do you really think being a good father means stepping out on the mother of your children? You think the example he is setting in his mistreatment of his children’s mother makes him a good father?

Look I get it. We’ve all been there, being made the side chick without our knowledge. Those that claim they haven’t just never found out about it.

Thing is, up to this point you were an unknowing victim. The ability to make a choice was taken from you since he made the conscious choice to lie to you and withhold this information.

But now that you know the truth, your actions from this point on are yours solely to own. If you choose to continue to be with him you are choosing to be the side chick. You are choosing to be the other woman.

If you truly can’t let him go then set your boundaries and let him prove that his stories are based in truths and not lies.

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

His excuse that he fears his son being taken from him is just that, an excuse. As a lawyer he knows full well and better than most... the legal avenues available to exert his rights as a parent.

Pisces women and their investigation techniques are above no others!! 🤣🤣🤣

BRAVO 👏👏👏👏👏👏

You made some solid ass points!!

It’s not even investigation techniques it’s just basic math. Turns out that useless trig course in college wasn’t so useless after all 😆
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If I’m you op I am doing the following ASAP:

1. Getting a full std/hiv testing done (presuming your relationship was physical). He was fucking his live in gf raw, hence pregnant, and probably has continued to fuck her raw cause shit, she’s already pregnant.

2. Doing a deep dive on her sm to find more information on the status of their relationship. Yes sm is performative, however there should be a reduction in pics/posts of them together during the time he “broke up with her”, no?

If her sm is private make an alternate account, add some of her friends over the next few days, then add her. Chances are she’ll see you have friends in common and add you as well.

3. Ask him to give you some proof of their supposed break up. If things are as bad between them as he claims surely there is texts between them that back this up. Get the receipts.

Even better, ask him to call her on speaker and talk with her about the breakup. See if she will confirm it.

Ok I lied. I’d only do #1. Then I’d go cold on his ass. It’s what I do best. Your dead to me if you lied and hid another relationship from the jump. Our entire ‘relationship’ has been built on deception. There isn’t anything there to salvage.

Plenty of other dic k in the sea
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Sorry that you are in this situation, but you said it yourself " if he's creeping around on his pregnant gf - or whatever she is to him - he will do the same to me eventually." Also, he is staying now because his gf is pregnant, then why won't he stay after the chid is born? Or rather why does he want to leave then? Does he not care about his child? Overall he seems too casual about this. He is enjoying with you now and later may continue while staying with his gf saying he is just helping with his son, which honestly he should. His kids should be his priority.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

I wish my ex’s girlfriend would call me to confirm some shit he is telling her. Lol. I’d cuss both their asses out.

If she can’t trust him, she shouldn’t be with him, period.
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She doesn’t realise that everything felt magical and romantic because she was the escape from his day to day. It will be different if she lives with him and he’s away with his kids on weekends, plus the next mistress he has lined up.
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I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

I were a genie I would make you me so you choked on that statement.

Why so? I don't think there is a downfall of being a leo.
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All I can say is I'm highly recommended in my career and people love my skill. I constantly get compliments and people that love my end results. I'm always so polite and quiet while working. Also fast at getting done. My prices are fair also. I'm always respectful and putting myself last and the customer first. The nicest guy you'd ever meet. If only you could see the horror and torture I put my body and mind though behind the scenes you'd think differently though. Pretending to be happy is the easy part. Not succumbing to the internal turmoil is another.

Leo men are just dramatic. It means nothing. Just let them vent for a bit and it will be fine. It truly means nothing.
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by LadyNeptune

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

I wish my ex’s girlfriend would call me to confirm some shit he is telling her. Lol. I’d cuss both their asses out.

If she can’t trust him, she shouldn’t be with him, period.

She doesn’t realise that everything felt magical and romantic because she was the escape from his day to day. It will be different if she lives with him and he’s away with his kids on weekends, plus the next mistress he has lined up.
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by Hamsthetics
Posted by Soul
Posted by Hamsthetics

I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

I were a genie I would make you me so you choked on that statement.

Why so? I don't think there is a downfall of being a leo.

You think he’s gonna admit to his flaws lol

Yeah right. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I actually expecting them to admit their love for Pisces women 😂
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I don’t think that’s a common pairing, is it? I think they like the illusion of Pisces women, but not the reality, if they ever get the chance with one.
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Posted by Hamsthetics
Posted by Soul
Posted by Hamsthetics
Posted by Soul
Posted by Hamsthetics

I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

I were a genie I would make you me so you choked on that statement.

Why so? I don't think there is a downfall of being a leo.

All I can say is I'm highly recommended in my career and people love my skill. I constantly get compliments and people that love my end results. I'm always so polite and quiet while working. Also fast at getting done. My prices are fair also. I'm always respectful and putting myself last and the customer first. The nicest guy you'd ever meet. If only you could see the horror and torture I put my body and mind though behind the scenes you'd think differently though. Pretending to be happy is the easy part. Not succumbing to the internal turmoil is another.

Leo men are just dramatic. It means nothing. Just let them vent for a bit and it will be fine. It truly means nothing.

Maybe because it's not natural for a king like a leo to serve others? 😉

Every man has role in this world i believe, if a leo role is to be a bully jocks who steals Virgals from her boring Capricorn boyfriend, then let it be. Embrace it.
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All Leo men have stole women from other men. It's in our nature to get what we want. It has to be consensual and mutual though, just speaking for myself. They have to be 100% down with that type of life changing event.

There is still longterm karma for those type of actions though. Well deserved too as a Scorpio would say.
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Posted by Hamsthetics
Posted by Soul
Posted by Hamsthetics
Posted by Soul
Posted by Hamsthetics

I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

I were a genie I would make you me so you choked on that statement.

Why so? I don't think there is a downfall of being a leo.

All I can say is I'm highly recommended in my career and people love my skill. I constantly get compliments and people that love my end results. I'm always so polite and quiet while working. Also fast at getting done. My prices are fair also. I'm always respectful and putting myself last and the customer first. The nicest guy you'd ever meet. If only you could see the horror and torture I put my body and mind though behind the scenes you'd think differently though. Pretending to be happy is the easy part. Not succumbing to the internal turmoil is another.

Leo men are just dramatic. It means nothing. Just let them vent for a bit and it will be fine. It truly means nothing.



Maybe because it's not natural for a king like a leo to serve others? 😉

Every man has role in this world i believe, if a leo role is to be a bully jocks who steals Virgals from her boring Capricorn boyfriend, then let it be. Embrace it.
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OMG!!! I’m stealing this!! 🤣🤣🤣
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Posted by Hamsthetics
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by Hamsthetics
Posted by Soul
Posted by Hamsthetics
Posted by Soul
Posted by Hamsthetics

I want to be a leo man so bad ughhh 😔

I were a genie I would make you me so you choked on that statement.

Why so? I don't think there is a downfall of being a leo.

All I can say is I'm highly recommended in my career and people love my skill. I constantly get compliments and people that love my end results. I'm always so polite and quiet while working. Also fast at getting done. My prices are fair also. I'm always respectful and putting myself last and the customer first. The nicest guy you'd ever meet. If only you could see the horror and torture I put my body and mind though behind the scenes you'd think differently though. Pretending to be happy is the easy part. Not succumbing to the internal turmoil is another.

Leo men are just dramatic. It means nothing. Just let them vent for a bit and it will be fine. It truly means nothing.

Maybe because it's not natural for a king like a leo to serve others? 😉

Every man has role in this world i believe, if a leo role is to be a bully jocks who steals Virgals from her boring Capricorn boyfriend, then let it be. Embrace it.

OMG!!! I’m stealing this!! 🤣🤣🤣

For your Leo ex/crush?
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Yup! I need to brush up on my flattery. 😝
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Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

I wish my ex’s girlfriend would call me to confirm some shit he is telling her. Lol. I’d cuss both their asses out.

If she can’t trust him, she shouldn’t be with him, period.
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Right? I'm guessing it's more to see how he would respond when you say you want to talk to her to confirm this bs vs actually wanting to call this woman. At least that's how I'm reading it (or how my Scorp radar works lol). If he make a bag full of excuses as to why you can't speak to this woman then you just take your cue from there.

Although the cue should have already been taken from the moment he said "he's the father and they live together". I wouldn't be entertaining anything else he has to say beyond that.
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by LadyNeptune

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

I wish my ex’s girlfriend would call me to confirm some shit he is telling her. Lol. I’d cuss both their asses out.

If she can’t trust him, she shouldn’t be with him, period.

*like*

Right? I'm guessing it's more to see how he would respond when you say you want to talk to her to confirm this bs vs actually wanting to call this woman. At least that's how I'm reading it (or how my Scorp radar works lol). If he make a bag full of excuses as to why you can't speak to this woman then you just take your cue from there.

Although the cue should have already been taken from the moment he said "he's the father and they live together". I wouldn't be entertaining anything else he has to say beyond that.
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Even if he’s lying, it just comes off as extremely insecure on her end and like she doesn’t trust him.

It’s just not anything anyone should do unless they have already met the ex a different way and have some sort of previous establishment base relationship.

My ex has called me on three way with his girlfriend and I cussed both of them out while he was texting me privately to be nice and tell her what she wanted to know.

I don’t have time to make someone else feel secure, especially when it’s none of my business anymore.

And you’re right, what can she say to her to sooth any fears or insecurities, when he lives with them. When she’s having his baby and they already share a child.

If she’s pregnant, there was definitely no roommate type of situation lol. They’ve been fucking. He has in home pussy.
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Posted by saggurl88
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by LadyNeptune

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

I wish my ex’s girlfriend would call me to confirm some shit he is telling her. Lol. I’d cuss both their asses out.

If she can’t trust him, she shouldn’t be with him, period.

*like*

Right? I'm guessing it's more to see how he would respond when you say you want to talk to her to confirm this bs vs actually wanting to call this woman. At least that's how I'm reading it (or how my Scorp radar works lol). If he make a bag full of excuses as to why you can't speak to this woman then you just take your cue from there.

Although the cue should have already been taken from the moment he said "he's the father and they live together". I wouldn't be entertaining anything else he has to say beyond that.

Even if he’s lying, it just comes off as extremely insecure on her end and like she doesn’t trust him.

It’s just not anything anyone should do unless they have already met the ex a different way and have some sort of previous establishment base relationship.

My ex has called me on three way with his girlfriend and I cussed both of them out while he was texting me privately to be nice and tell her what she wanted to know.

I don’t have time to make someone else feel secure, especially when it’s none of my business anymore.

And you’re right, what can she say to her to sooth any fears or insecurities, when he lives with them. When she’s having his baby and they already share a child.

If she’s pregnant, there was definitely no roommate type of situation lol. They’ve been fucking. He has in home pussy.
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I think she’s more sinister than that.

I think she wants the pregnant wife to know she exists so she can either miscarry or go into postpartum depression.

Virgo women aren’t this unassuming meek saint. They want what they want.
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by LadyNeptune

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

I wish my ex’s girlfriend would call me to confirm some shit he is telling her. Lol. I’d cuss both their asses out.

If she can’t trust him, she shouldn’t be with him, period.

*like*

Right? I'm guessing it's more to see how he would respond when you say you want to talk to her to confirm this bs vs actually wanting to call this woman. At least that's how I'm reading it (or how my Scorp radar works lol). If he make a bag full of excuses as to why you can't speak to this woman then you just take your cue from there.

Although the cue should have already been taken from the moment he said "he's the father and they live together". I wouldn't be entertaining anything else he has to say beyond that.

Even if he’s lying, it just comes off as extremely insecure on her end and like she doesn’t trust him.

It’s just not anything anyone should do unless they have already met the ex a different way and have some sort of previous establishment base relationship.

My ex has called me on three way with his girlfriend and I cussed both of them out while he was texting me privately to be nice and tell her what she wanted to know.

I don’t have time to make someone else feel secure, especially when it’s none of my business anymore.

And you’re right, what can she say to her to sooth any fears or insecurities, when he lives with them. When she’s having his baby and they already share a child.

If she’s pregnant, there was definitely no roommate type of situation lol. They’ve been fucking. He has in home pussy.

I think she’s more sinister than that.

I think she wants the pregnant wife to know she exists so she can either miscarry or go into postpartum depression.

Virgo women aren’t this unassuming meek saint. They want what they want.
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Hurt people hurt people.

This women is having his baby and would be crazy to kick him out right now. She’s gonna need all the help she can get with a newborn. This most likely isn’t the first time he’s cheated.

Why side pieces put themselves through all this is crazy to me. Men hardly ever leave their wives or women they have kids with when they are living with them to get their own place.

A man will move house to house and move in with another chick though.
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I met this Leo man back in Nov 2020 & we hit it off pretty fast. I don't tend to like anyone - especially so fast (I'm nit-picky) but with him it's so easy. Our chemistry is insane. Its almost scary. I haven't dated anyone seriously in 4.5 years but I started to see myself with this man. He's 8 years older, has a great career and an amazing father to his son. Our dates are always so thoughtful and romantic. He pays attention to me and listens to my likes and dislikes. When we kiss I get butterflies like I'm in high school all over again. When we're apart we miss each other like crazy. We text throughout the day, he has sent me my favorite food & flowers to my job on a few occasions. We recently spent a weekend together out of town and had an amazing weekend. I started to question myself "If I was falling for him." This past weekend he had too much to drink and told me he loved me (which is the second time he has told me)...

The twist...

I started to notice he never invited me to his place. We spend a lot of our time out on dates or my place. I brought this to his attention he played it off but then told me he had something to tell me & will tell me in due time. With me being the over-thinker that I am - I went through his social media page and found his child's mother page. On her page was a picture of their son holding a sign reading "big brother coming soon April 2021." My heart sank to my stomach. I remember not sleeping that night. The next morning I screen shot the picture and sent it to him asking his involvement. He text me this long paragraph telling me that he is the father and that they live together. He also told me that they broke up last year and he was in the process of moving out but they found out she was pregnant and he decided to stay. He promised me that he would move out by May/June this year because their situation is becoming worse. He explains that it's the reason he never home (which he isn't - he spends so much time with me that I didn't see this coming).

I know I should run and cut him off - which I did for a couple of weeks but he has been promising me he's leaving and I somewhat believe him but then again I don't. I've never saw myself in this situation and I don't know what to do. Apart of me wants to stay to see if he will really leave and pursue something me. But the other part of me is screaming WTF are you doing - if he's creeping around on his pregnant gf - or whatever she is to him - he will do the same to me eventually.

I'm so stuck & I know this is crazy but I need some advice 😢

Him:

Sun - Leo

Moon - Gemini

Mecr - Leo

Venus - Cancer

Me:

Sun - Virgo

Moon - Cancer

Mecr - Virgo

Venus - Virgo


Give the full birthdates; years also.
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I met this Leo man back in Nov 2020 & we hit it off pretty fast. I don't tend to like anyone - especially so fast (I'm nit-picky) but with him it's so easy. Our chemistry is insane. Its almost scary. I haven't dated anyone seriously in 4.5 years but I started to see myself with this man. He's 8 years older, has a great career and an amazing father to his son. Our dates are always so thoughtful and romantic. He pays attention to me and listens to my likes and dislikes. When we kiss I get butterflies like I'm in high school all over again. When we're apart we miss each other like crazy. We text throughout the day, he has sent me my favorite food & flowers to my job on a few occasions. We recently spent a weekend together out of town and had an amazing weekend. I started to question myself "If I was falling for him." This past weekend he had too much to drink and told me he loved me (which is the second time he has told me)...

The twist...

I started to notice he never invited me to his place. We spend a lot of our time out on dates or my place. I brought this to his attention he played it off but then told me he had something to tell me & will tell me in due time. With me being the over-thinker that I am - I went through his social media page and found his child's mother page. On her page was a picture of their son holding a sign reading "big brother coming soon April 2021." My heart sank to my stomach. I remember not sleeping that night. The next morning I screen shot the picture and sent it to him asking his involvement. He text me this long paragraph telling me that he is the father and that they live together. He also told me that they broke up last year and he was in the process of moving out but they found out she was pregnant and he decided to stay. He promised me that he would move out by May/June this year because their situation is becoming worse. He explains that it's the reason he never home (which he isn't - he spends so much time with me that I didn't see this coming).

I know I should run and cut him off - which I did for a couple of weeks but he has been promising me he's leaving and I somewhat believe him but then again I don't. I've never saw myself in this situation and I don't know what to do. Apart of me wants to stay to see if he will really leave and pursue something me. But the other part of me is screaming WTF are you doing - if he's creeping around on his pregnant gf - or whatever she is to him - he will do the same to me eventually.

I'm so stuck & I know this is crazy but I need some advice 😢

Him:

Sun - Leo

Moon - Gemini

Mecr - Leo

Venus - Cancer

Me:

Sun - Virgo

Moon - Cancer

Mecr - Virgo

Venus - Virgo


Give the full birthdates; years also.
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by Moloko_vellocet
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by LadyNeptune

Stop seeing him until he no longer lives with her. Ask to talk with her to confirm his story that they are broken up.

I wish my ex’s girlfriend would call me to confirm some shit he is telling her. Lol. I’d cuss both their asses out.

If she can’t trust him, she shouldn’t be with him, period.

*like*

Right? I'm guessing it's more to see how he would respond when you say you want to talk to her to confirm this bs vs actually wanting to call this woman. At least that's how I'm reading it (or how my Scorp radar works lol). If he make a bag full of excuses as to why you can't speak to this woman then you just take your cue from there.

Although the cue should have already been taken from the moment he said "he's the father and they live together". I wouldn't be entertaining anything else he has to say beyond that.

Even if he’s lying, it just comes off as extremely insecure on her end and like she doesn’t trust him.

It’s just not anything anyone should do unless they have already met the ex a different way and have some sort of previous establishment base relationship.

My ex has called me on three way with his girlfriend and I cussed both of them out while he was texting me privately to be nice and tell her what she wanted to know.

I don’t have time to make someone else feel secure, especially when it’s none of my business anymore.

And you’re right, what can she say to her to sooth any fears or insecurities, when he lives with them. When she’s having his baby and they already share a child.

If she’s pregnant, there was definitely no roommate type of situation lol. They’ve been fucking. He has in home pussy.

I think she’s more sinister than that.

I think she wants the pregnant wife to know she exists so she can either miscarry or go into postpartum depression.

Virgo women aren’t this unassuming meek saint. They want what they want.

Hurt people hurt people.

This women is having his baby and would be crazy to kick him out right now. She’s gonna need all the help she can get with a newborn. This most likely isn’t the first time he’s cheated.

Why side pieces put themselves through all this is crazy to me. Men hardly ever leave their wives or women they have kids with when they are living with them to get their own place.

A man will move house to house and move in with another chick though.
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Exactly 💯

Her statement of wanting to see “if he leaves” is her sticking around until the end to see if he pays her the dues he owes her from all his fake promises.

She thinks she’s invested her all and “really fell for him”.

The effort and devotion the wife and kid have given to him, doesn’t matter.

How dare he make her feel like she was falling in love.

Virgos are very proud.
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Posted by GemCurioThe1

You are... now... choosing to sell yourself short. He has 3 strikes already. First he lied by omission. Then he established major attachments outside a relationship with a woman who is currently pregnant. Last, he is simply what he does. If he's willing to step out on the woman with his children, you're no match for his children. Virguy advice to you Virgal.

Don't do this to yourself. He has been offering you empty words, and there's no convenience in the world that would make a man stay where he doesn't want to be. Would you want to trade places with his pregnant baby momma— I'm asking because that's the karma you're building remaining in this situation fully aware of it. Just saying...

there's no convenience in the world that would make a man stay where he doesn't want to be.

You know I told him something like this & he responded that he was staying because of his son. He didn't want his child's mother to take his son from him. I think there is a lot more to the story then what he telling me. He's a lawyer and he knows the law will prevent that from happening if he's doing the right thing - which makes me believe there's more. But that's not for me to even worry about. You are right about karma - there's no way I would ever want to be in that situation & as a woman I put myself in her shoes and I can't even imagine what she must be going through with him.
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As much as it pains you, you did nothing wrong... unless you continue after you’ve learned the truth.

It’ll be hard to walk away but in time you’ll realise you escaped a lifetime of more hurt. I’m not sure you even believe any man would be worth that. Be strong and walk away and block all contact from him. It takes 30 days to break a habit (the need for his contact) it’ll take longer to move on but take those 30 days as your first step.
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