Help with a leo man please

Hi

Wondered if anyone can help, particularly leo men. I need to know if he actually liked me or was it just fun and why he got back with his ex and if hes likely to come back to me.

A bit of background Ill try and keep it brief.

Was going out with a leo man for 3 months, saw him everyday, and when we werent seeing each other that night we would talk on the phone for over an hour. We messaged the longest messages too.

Everything was perfect in every area and he made an effort to come and see me and do things for me. He told me how much he liked me, that he'd never met anyone he got on so well with and had fun with etc. Now i thought this was all lines but he back it up with actions. He spoke about me to people all the time and Everyone said how good we were together and how into me he was. Then He cancelled on me one night last minute and i said it wasnt very nice but we ended the call on a good note. Then i never heard from him again. I tried to call and txt a couple of times but then left it as he wasnt responding. I think he may now be back with his ex. But he told me how unhappy she made him and that he used to ignore her right before they split. (Theyve split twice before). I really miss him what advice would you have to fix it?

Welcome Sealy 👋

...Eh really feel there is something missing here...

Anything you may have left out? - the more info the better ~*~

Hi Wagtail

I know its crazy isnt it. I cant think of anything Ive left out but that doesnt mean i havent forgot a vital detail. What sort if thing do you mean?

Hi batgirl.

I did wonder that but would that still be the case even though from what he said they were completely unsuited and she made him really unhappy? I guess he could have been lying. I know she contacted him to get back together, he showed me the message, but he told me he wasnt interested. That was 6 weeks before

@ Sealy

And its been how many days that you messaged and he didnt respond or when was the last time you both spoke ?

I tried to call and txt a couple of times but then left it as he wasnt responding

If i was you then i would take it seriously and be done with the guy. If some one doesnt talk to me or initiates a conversation then i wont hold anything against him but if some one doesnt answer my call or call back soon , doesnt reply to my msg then its not acceptable to me .

It doesnt matter if he is back with his ex or not . The point is that he chose to not even reply to you. That clearly shows he has no respect for you , forget about even being in love with you .

Posted by marshmallow
I tried to call and txt a couple of times but then left it as he wasnt responding

If i was you then i would take it seriously and be done with the guy. If some one doesn't talk to me or initiates a conversation then i wont hold anything against him but if some one doesn't answer my call or call back soon , doesnt reply to my msg then its not acceptable to me .

It doesnt matter if he is back with his ex or not . The point is that he chose to not even reply to you. That clearly shows he has no respect for you , forget about even being in love with you .

This^ and yes @wagtail is right, there does seem to be some part of the story missing. It's possible that only the Leo knows that part of the story though. Unfortunately we don't know enough to say definitively whether or not he went back to his ex. However, I can say that Leos do not ignore those we care about.

The question is, how long ago was his break up prior to your relationship? Are you sure you weren't a rebound? I actually dated an Aqua who had an ex she claimed to hate. Later I found out she was dating him the entire time and has a hard time letting go of him. It's very possible this Leo hasn't been completely honest with you. Another thing that troubles me is that he ghosted after 3 months. 3 months / 90 days is generally the amount of time it takes for two people to become comfortable with one another. That usually means the niceties are dropped and reality starts to emerge. If this is how he acts after 90 days, that's a a big red flag.

I also suggest backing away from this entirely. Something isn't right and I get the sense you're being led on at the moment. He may come back with some excuse, but seeing that he's not communicating with you, I'd be unwilling to believe anything he said.

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@ Sealy

And its been how many days that you messaged and he didnt respond or when was the last time you both spoke ?

Its now been 3 weeks ?. I know I should have just dropped him as soon as he ignored me but I just cant seem to let him go, hes really got into my heart. I wondered if its some sort of test and he expected me to go chasing him. He had previously asked what I would do if he ignored me and I told him I wouldnt chase him

Hi chuckem

I feel theres somthing missing from the story too. But your right it could be only he knows that bit.

Im 95% sure he is back with her due some things on fb (he blocked me tho to stop me seeing).

He told me 4 months initally but later found out it was 2. He told me he said longer in case i was worried he wasnt over her which apperently he was. I did / do worry i was a rebound. But he just seemed to into it and was making future plans with me.

The 90 days things worrys me massively too. But Id say we were completely comfortable with each other after about 6weeks.

Anything else you want to know to help just ask ?

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Hi chuckem

I feel theres somthing missing from the story too. But your right it could be only he knows that bit.

Im 95% sure he is back with her due some things on fb (he blocked me tho to stop me seeing).

He told me 4 months initally but later found out it was 2. He told me he said longer in case i was worried he wasnt over her which apperently he was. I did / do worry i was a rebound. But he just seemed to into it and was making future plans with me.

The 90 days things worrys me massively too. But Id say we were completely comfortable with each other after about 6weeks.

Anything else you want to know to help just ask ?

I think you have your answer really. If he's blocking you and hiding things, it at least lets you know he wasn't completely honest with you. Also him only being broken up with her for 2 months, but lying and saying it was 4 months, is a MASSIVE red flag. He wanted to cover the simple fact that he wasn't over his ex. Unless he only dated her for her a short period of time, 2 months is simply not enough time to get over a serious relationship.

Also know that the comfort you felt in those 6 weeks is a symptom of being in a rebound. He basically skipped the "getting to know you" phase and went straight into the "deep connection" phase so that he wouldn't have to experience the low of not being with his ex. He blocked you now because he knows what he did was wrong. My advice is to not look for answers from him and to move on to someone else who is emotionally stable and available.

Thanks chuckem. Its gutting cause ive never felt that way about anyone in my life and we did have the getting to know you stage throughout but it was a very intense 3 months and saw or spoke to each other constantly. He was with his ex 4 years so it was a serious relationship but they had broke up in that time. So do you think if he wasnt over her hes gone back cause she contacted him or he wondered if it could work with her this time? I dont understand why you would go back to someone if youve thought they werent right for you and made you unhappy.

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Posted by marshmallow
@ Sealy

And its been how many days that you messaged and he didnt respond or when was the last time you both spoke ?

Its now been 3 weeks ?. I know I should have just dropped him as soon as he ignored me but I just cant seem to let him go, hes really got into my heart. I wondered if its some sort of test and he expected me to go chasing him. He had previously asked what I would do if he ignored me and I told him I wouldnt chase him

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In that case i dont know what to say 🙂

As for you not being able to forget , i can speak from experience that it all passes away eventually and what would matter to you in the end is that your self respect was intact or not . Anyway experiencing and learning is also not so bad 🙂



Also am just curious to know your sign @ Sealy

Im a Picses. Yea fingers crossed thatll be soon cause it feels horrible. Didnt even feel this about my ex that Id been with 10 years.

It just makes me wonder though as he'd asked me before what I do if he ignored me was this supposed to be some sort of game / test. Was I supposed to be chasing him.

Leo's need so much attention that even if they broken they will latch onto anybody that feeds that attention. So the person that isn't a Leo gets confused because there coming with full force and make you think there really interested when really your the person that is there in the moment when inside there craving somebody else. But there trying to move on and get there ego stroked while there a it. If he blocked you or ignored you it's done. Don't feed the ego leos love that shit more then anything. That's why he asked.

Solo 87. Thanks.

The only other thing i forgot to say was he totally blocked and ignored his ex too. But i guess they had more history so maybe thats different?